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On December 15 2014 08:18 SixStrings wrote:
Let me guess: you got your Abitur, which by the way 45% of students get nowadays, went to an awful to mediocre university (something in Rheinland Pfalz maybe? NRW?), got your 2.0 BA and now you think yourself intellectually superior to her and people with her CV. Pathetic.
you really need to work on your university complex dude, :D did you get rejected by a university in that region in the past? or what awesome university is graced with your presence?
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On December 15 2014 08:18 SixStrings wrote:Show nested quote +On December 15 2014 05:59 waffelz wrote:
TLDR: A wonderfull women met me, startet to chase me, succeeded, turned out to be almost perfect, but the "almost" had to be something that really matters (if not the thing that really matters). GG life, you won again. At least I can treat my bitterness with the fact I made a normally shy but gorgeous women get out of her shell and chase me. Sounds like she really dodged a bullet here. Let me guess: you got your Abitur, which by the way 45% of students get nowadays, went to an awful to mediocre university (something in Rheinland Pfalz maybe? NRW?), got your 2.0 BA and now you think yourself intellectually superior to her and people with her CV. Pathetic. Guess what, that shit doesn't matter. At all. You're not smarter than her, you're just more educated in a very specialised field that has no bearing on most of your and most of her life. I'm dating 95% uni students / graduates, because those are the people I'm most exposed to, and I haven't got the impression that they are more or less smart than the remaining 5%. Even at my (supposedly 'elite') school, there are a lot of pretty dim people. What a drama queen... Show nested quote +On December 15 2014 06:15 Zooper31 wrote:
How old are you actually, you say 21 and 16 as an example and that would be horrible if you were actually that age.
Think you need to date people your age or older since intellect is such a determining factor for you and anyone younger than you isn't likely to be as "smart". 'Horrible'? Really? I had a 17 year old girlfriend when I was 26, and believe you me, that wasn't horrible at all. It's more about maturity than actual age.
As far as I can tell it isn't about age or about the univesity at all. Or about education. It is simply that their way of thinking is vastly different (most likely due to a different upbringing), so one of them is bound to end up unhappy rather often. And it is waffelz who is gonna end up being lonely even while being with her. Not because he thinks he is superior or better educated, but because he knows he is not understood by her. And for someone who isn't looking to bang himself through countless tinder "dates" but rather searches for a friend first and a relationship second (and sex third) this is important.
Also note that there doesn't necessarily have to be such a huge discrepancy in thinking or really anything, simply the fact that she chased him hard should tell you that there is an obvious inequality in the perception of each other, which creates an imbalance in the relationship that leads to the person less fanatic about the other one feeling lonely.
So to sum it up, he got sucked into a relationship with a great girl because she wanted to, but the way he arrived at the relationship and her behaviour keep him from enjoying it. There are two solutions:
- change the point of view. Admire the things she is great at. Try to get her to treat him as an equal person if possible (I don't know if she can manage this, for some people it is REALLY hard to get out of their idealized point of view, and if the girl was stalking this hard it is pretty much impossible). Try to level the playing field.
- break her heart. No matter how gentle you are, you will break the heart of someone who admires you above all else. Which is what he (in my eyes rightfully so) opted for while trying to minimize damage. Maybe take down her idealized view of you in increments. But I haven't found a permanent solution to the problem yet either  And in this Mr. waffelz is absolutely correct, it feels like the girl has not yet grown into a woman, she clings to daydreams to make life easier (well, most people do that, but not as much).
Now you probably never had these kinds of problems, to which I say I'm glad for you, but please try to respect other people and their issues even if you can't understand them or relate.
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On December 15 2014 22:02 Fi0na wrote:As far as I can tell it isn't about age or about the univesity at all. Or about education. It is simply that their way of thinking is vastly different (most likely due to a different upbringing), so one of them is bound to end up unhappy rather often. And it is waffelz who is gonna end up being lonely even while being with her. Not because he thinks he is superior or better educated, but because he knows he is not understood by her. And for someone who isn't looking to bang himself through countless tinder "dates" but rather searches for a friend first and a relationship second (and sex third) this is important. Also note that there doesn't necessarily have to be such a huge discrepancy in thinking or really anything, simply the fact that she chased him hard should tell you that there is an obvious inequality in the perception of each other, which creates an imbalance in the relationship that leads to the person less fanatic about the other one feeling lonely. So to sum it up, he got sucked into a relationship with a great girl because she wanted to, but the way he arrived at the relationship and her behaviour keep him from enjoying it. There are two solutions: - change the point of view. Admire the things she is great at. Try to get her to treat him as an equal person if possible (I don't know if she can manage this, for some people it is REALLY hard to get out of their idealized point of view, and if the girl was stalking this hard it is pretty much impossible). Try to level the playing field. - break her heart. No matter how gentle you are, you will break the heart of someone who admires you above all else. Which is what he (in my eyes rightfully so) opted for while trying to minimize damage. Maybe take down her idealized view of you in increments. But I haven't found a permanent solution to the problem yet either And in this Mr. waffelz is absolutely correct, it feels like the girl has not yet grown into a woman, she clings to daydreams to make life easier (well, most people do that, but not as much).
Wow, that post almost perfectly sums up my situation, I finally get what exactly is putting me of. She admires me in a way that makes me really uncomfortable and makes me fell like I am one of those 20+ creeps that date schoolgirls while (even if it might unconscious) efectively advantage of their young minds. Not meaning to brag, I know that im quite a character and I got some very decent attitudes, morals and believes (at least in my opinion, thats why I got them) as well as some (for me) pretty huge sucecceses may they personal of academical/job-related. It is ok to respect that, but she admires it and not only that, but she makes herself smaler because of it. She starts to push herself down in her admiration for me, so even if it wouldnt bother me that me admires like this/that I she cant really cope with my problems, but I am sure she harms herself in the process. There is no real reason for her putting herself down like that, having spiken to her sister she usually is a confident person (she definitely was when we met) and got more than enough to be proud of. One example that really shows how fucked up this situation is: She plays cello and is pretty good at that. Not that I am able to judge that, but she gave lessons and played in the theater of her city/other occacions multiple times and earned money doing so, so she has to be at a high level. Not only that, but also I admire this instrument, I believe its the goddess of instruments and I more than respect anyone whos able to play it well. I listened to her practicing on multiple occacions and told her how honestly I am stunned by her play. Whenever I brought up stuff like that though, she managed to repell my compliment and not in a modest way. Its not like shes that in general, we already did a few things together where I saw her interacting with other people and there it was perfectly fine, just to me she acts like that which really confuses me. She is also definetly not fishing for compliments, shes just admiring me in a way that I cant understand.
In the long run, this would ultimately results in the relationship being unhealthy for her and since I feel for her/ I am not a prick in general, its just not an option for me, even if the thing in itself wont bother me.
I often have the problem that people who get to know me a little bit start to either weirdly try to impress me, subordinate themself or get offensive like we where in a competition. It is very rare that I meet someone without having this problem, at least in the beginning, however males tend to be more prone to it. It led to me being very restrained and diplomatic when meeting new people, I dont like it but I figured it is the best solution to avoid stupid situations/feeling confused.
It is also true that there where an imbalance in our relationship since she where way more invested in it than me, even though that problem should have revised itself with more time. From my understandings/believes, you cant really love someone that fast. You get an idea of your love for them, and the more you learn about them, the bigger your love gets(assuming you picked the right one). At least for me that proved to be true, not saying the love in the begining isnt a real one, but it is just no match for the love I felt after a (few) year(s) later. I am unable to understand "love at first sight" and therefor I was a little bit sceptical when she confessed to me how fast she got interested. I have to confess however that I was more flattered than sceptical. I am more used to females telling me about the crush they had on me, when they are over it.
Thanks Fi0na, your post made me understand the situation a whole lot better. I will have to talk to her again this weekend and my improved understanding of the problem will help a lot. I also understand now what my general problem with dating/the attitude towards dating that gets represented by some people in this threat is, thanks again. Still have to break her heart though, but its the best I can make out of the situation .
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I've not really had that with women wafflez, but males who admired me or whatever and I could never feel comfortable being friends with them if they were too effusive with their praise. It feels like there's an imbalance in things rather than some kind of mutual respect
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I think waffelz is trying to explain some pretty complicated feelings in a non native language so he comes across as a bit blunt.
I think what he's saying is understandable. However I think that it's important to actually give her a chance before you label the relationship as not having enough common intellectual ground. She might not read Shakespeare but she can still be amazingly smart in otherways. So if you did go about it with an open mind and still felt this way then well that's just too bad for both of you, and it's a sad bit of life to get over.
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On December 11 2014 22:40 JoeCool wrote:
After the first cup of tea we moved to my sofa, there we sat for quite some time and, like I mentioned before, she talked & laughed a lot so in my opinion it seems like she enjoyed my company.
Most of the time she was sitting on the other side of the sofa (it is a small one for three persons, so there was not much space between us) with her arms around her knees, facing my direction. While we were talking I moved closer to her and placed my hand on her knee/shank.You know, to have some physical contact. Then I showed her a short trailer for a funny movie she was interested in, I took my laptop placed it on my lap and sat right next to her. After the trailer was over (like 3 mins), she immediately said that it is already 11 p.m. and asked when the next train was leaving. We went to the trainstation where she hugged me and said, like mentioned before, "Thank you for the nice evening".
Now the thing why I did not kiss her, is that this whole time I had the feeling, that she was not feeling very comfortable with physical contact. Maybe I was wrong, don't know about that though. On the other hand she immidiately agreed when I asked her out and she was looking forward to see me. And like I said we had a very nice evening.
Nevertheless, at the end of the day it probably won't matter, because I guess that you guys are right and I missed the chance. Better luck next time...
Okay, I thought I was done but two days later (last friday) she texted me twice.
1.) In the first message she wished me good luck for my presentation on that day, which was pretty nice because no one else did that. I thanked her for that.
2.) Couple of hours later she wished me a nice weekend and told me, that if I would be out that night and wanted to have a drink I should go to bar XY because she'll be there since one of her friends works there as a DJ.
Unfortunately I've already had an appointment with another friend of mine. This is also what I wrote her.
After these two messages I thought it might be a good idea to ask her out a second time. But well.... she's not answering.
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@waffelz: if she's not insane she's probably the best girl you'll ever have.
Dr.Freud:
someone with morals, believes and very decent attitudes is alone by default. that's not on her.
she's acting on pure biological/chemical, instinctive drives. bio-determinism at its finest. you don't get that; you can't get it with your logic or morals (your controlling (of self) freakish nature probably killed even the so called micro-transactions that were supposed to happen to you when the hypothalamus and the frontal lobe disagreed about which gets to control your reactions/emotions at/in specific times)) so it intimidates/scares you. that's all there is (or/and maybe the fact that you don't like her, physically).
if you end up with her or someone like her, will you feel alone some of the time? -probably; misunderstood/not-understood? - probably; can there be someone else that she will feel more drawn to? - definitely; could/will she leave you for him? - maybe; would you be able to make her stay? - fuck if i know;
but the alternative is ... boring. spending the rest of your life with someone like yourself, just like yourself, exactly like yourself ... that's the definition of boredom (unless, of course, you over-compensate with high levels of narcissism while being in denial).
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I think I've gotten into my first serious relationship in the last two years (discounting the one that drunk me accidentally fucked up and turned into a hookup), but already I'm having kinda shaky thoughts about it.
I mean, she's great, really passionately into me, and I feel like I am in her. Not just thinking with my dick here, but actually willing to get invested in her emotionally and socially. We're alike, but I think in some aspects we're too alike, and really the only place we really aren't is where it matters - interests, long-term ambitions, that sort of thing. At some points I'm really into it, at some points I'm going through the motions with absolutely no emotion behind my face and I feel like a complete sociopath doing it.
But at the same time, now I just feel bored. Like the fun of looking for a relationship was more fun than the actual relationship itself. For now it's no problem. I can go nowhere but up. But I feel like this one just isn't built to last for some reason.
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On December 20 2014 01:21 [UoN]Sentinel wrote:
I think I've gotten into my first serious relationship in the last two years (discounting the one that drunk me accidentally fucked up and turned into a hookup), but already I'm having kinda shaky thoughts about it.
I mean, she's great, really passionately into me, and I feel like I am in her. Not just thinking with my dick here, but actually willing to get invested in her emotionally and socially. We're alike, but I think in some aspects we're too alike, and really the only place we really aren't is where it matters - interests, long-term ambitions, that sort of thing. At some points I'm really into it, at some points I'm going through the motions with absolutely no emotion behind my face and I feel like a complete sociopath doing it.
But at the same time, now I just feel bored. Like the fun of looking for a relationship was more fun than the actual relationship itself. For now it's no problem. I can go nowhere but up. But I feel like this one just isn't built to last for some reason.
You're making excuses up.
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Met my first real girl on tinder and we actually had a conversation. Exchanged phone numbers and txt'd a bit to keep in touch. Plan to hangout on Sunday together, unsure who's place though, thinking hers. Have incredibly similar interests and I think she's gorgeous, pretty sure she feels the same way about me lol. She talks to me first sometimes and showed excitement when I brought up hanging out, can't wait.
We also have a mutual friend, so we kinda both know we aren't serial killers/rapists ya know? Speeds things up a bit.
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Sentinel, I understand what you, cause that happened to me , the "romance" part of trying to get the girl, don't knowing if she likes you, spending time and trying to do creative stuff, going on a date , its just super fun. Then you get into the relationship and its like what now? I guess you should have objectives and trying to not fall into monotony, just doing different things to keep it interesting I wish I could help you more but I kinda have the same problem.
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However....During the past year, maybe more, I have lost all desire to look for a girlfriend, like I don't even try. I'm not ugly, nor particularly handsome, but during all this year even when I have had the chance to try to "get" (don't know how to say it) or date a girl, I don't do it, I just say "meh, not today" And i just don't talk to her or if I talk I just talk like a friend and then leave. This has lead up to some of my friends believing I'm gay, but its not that, its just like, I don't know, maybe I haven't met the right person? Or I'm afraid of being rejected?
Anyway, strangely all these week I have dreamt , in a non sexual way, daily of different woman, either ex, girls I used to like or even girls I'm not even sure who they are or if I know them at all or my brain just created them hahaha. At its just so strange because it has been literaly everyday, so maybe deep inside of me I do want a relationshing? The thing is its just kind of hard for me cause I don't know a lot of women since in my school its 90% men (engineer) and as I have said, when I go to parties or somethomg and then I get to talk alone with a I don't even try to invite her or ask her number or whatever, I just talk to her but never try to do more, even if I like the girl , I just feel an apathy I guess a "I'll do it later".
Haha well maybe I'll try tinder some day as Zooper.
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On December 14 2014 07:27 FiWiFaKi wrote:Show nested quote +On December 12 2014 13:33 Orcasgt24 wrote:On December 12 2014 13:10 FiWiFaKi wrote:
If your girlfriend says she really doesn't want an engagement ring, what do you do?
Women are women, and I'm sure it's something she might get sour about eventually.
Anyway, I've been with my girlfriend for 22 months, everything is super great, we've been enjoying our time together every time we see each other. We're both busy, quite career focused, going hardcore at university, one in Engineering, one in Accounting. Any ideas for what would be a fun idea for a trip for a week? We haven't really done anything outside of the city, besides going to the mountains hiking, or going to a cabin for 3 days, etc.
I'd really like to do something new and fresh together. Our hobbies are like... Watching TV shows like Breaking Bad, Walking Dead, GoT, Bob's Burgers, and Parks and Rec... Umm, and going for wing nights or other bar specials... Staying at home and laying in bed together for hours, playing games like Mario Cart, Littlebigplanet, SSB, etc. And we try to live healthy, she's fit, eats healthy, goes to the gym, I used to be healthy, I work out now, created a solid home gym, etc. Besides that, we don't do much that is crazy. And I suppose a little bit of Dota, SC, and Chess here and there, but the schedule is quite hectic as is.
Anyone similar to us that has had fun experiences at trips? I'd like to do something more than going to a 4-4.5 star resort in Mexico or the Dominican and lay there for a week. Vegas is cheap and can be alot of fun. You don't have to be a gambler to enjoy it there. Things like the Freidmont Street light show, Fountains at Bellagio, the pirate show at Treasure Island and the Mirages Volcano are all cool and free. The many shows you can go see are reasonably priced and completely worth paying for (I've seen 6 myself). Great shopping, helicopter tours are pretty cheap(Grand Canyon is amazing!). Given that it is a pure tourism town the list of things to do is massive. My concern is not being able to get the full experience from Vegas with the university student budget of like 3.5k-4k for both of us. -$1000-$1200 airplane ticket each -$500-$600 for 4-5 nights at a hotel -$50/day on food each, so $500 -$125/show, 2 shows each, $500 -$250 gambling money each, $500 So just from the basic necessities of going to Vegas, we are talking almost $3,500. Then, any shopping, grand canyon,any fancy extras, drinks etc... Add up. Not to mention the exchange rate between the USD and CAD is quite bad for us right now, (1.16CAD for 1USD). Anyway, I've been to Vegas when I was 16 years old with my parents, I stayed in Bellagio, so I have a rough idea of what to expect in terms of quality, and how far money can get you. But I think I'd rather go to Vegas once I graduate and have more income to spend on it, as a nice trip I feel like I'd need 6 grand to spend, which I rather wouldn't right now. Show nested quote +On December 13 2014 12:17 Bigtony wrote:On December 12 2014 13:10 FiWiFaKi wrote:
If your girlfriend says she really doesn't want an engagement ring, what do you do?
Women are women, and I'm sure it's something she might get sour about eventually.
Anyway, I've been with my girlfriend for 22 months, everything is super great, we've been enjoying our time together every time we see each other. We're both busy, quite career focused, going hardcore at university, one in Engineering, one in Accounting. Any ideas for what would be a fun idea for a trip for a week? We haven't really done anything outside of the city, besides going to the mountains hiking, or going to a cabin for 3 days, etc.
I'd really like to do something new and fresh together. Our hobbies are like... Watching TV shows like Breaking Bad, Walking Dead, GoT, Bob's Burgers, and Parks and Rec... Umm, and going for wing nights or other bar specials... Staying at home and laying in bed together for hours, playing games like Mario Cart, Littlebigplanet, SSB, etc. And we try to live healthy, she's fit, eats healthy, goes to the gym, I used to be healthy, I work out now, created a solid home gym, etc. Besides that, we don't do much that is crazy. And I suppose a little bit of Dota, SC, and Chess here and there, but the schedule is quite hectic as is.
Anyone similar to us that has had fun experiences at trips? I'd like to do something more than going to a 4-4.5 star resort in Mexico or the Dominican and lay there for a week. I dont see the problem with going to a tropical resort and chilling for a week based on your preferences? You can work out, eat, chill, and watch movies or play video games except in a beautiful place where people are waiting on you hand and foot. You might try portland, san francisco, seattle, or some other hipster city. They are usually very bike friendly for your fitness side and have art/events to enjoy., Well yeah, but it's just so... bland. You stay a week in some poor third world country completely separated from everything, laying on a beach, having slaves bring you drinks, make you whatever food you want, and really doing anything you want with the risk of getting fired for every little thing (and they don't want to be, since the money they make there is usually 2x-3x of what they'd make inside their cities)... While you don't get to see much, at least I haven't, and I've been to tropical resorts at least 15x in my life. Truth is, I haven't really gone on trips once there very much, so maybe going snorkeling, whale spotting, going to see some world wonder, etc. would be quite neat. Definitely something I'll keep in mind, but something out of the ordinary, while also educational is what I had in mind initially. Living with the folk from the rural areas, African safari, living in hostels in India or Taiwan. It's trips like that which really get you to build an adventure and holiday, rather than being given one and living through it.
I suggest a Convention of some sort. Based on your interests I thought this might be a decent one on the budget side.
http://www.fanexpovancouver.com/ Or maybe a bigger one in a city with stuff to see (outside Canada)?
Something along those lines might fit the interesting/entertaining/learning experience thing. To make it 'out of the ordinary' you could consider some cosplay that would hide your faces so you could behave differently than you might in plain cloths. Kinda like being a kid as an adult.
On the more active side, you could do a ropes course and again use it as a reason to travel to a place you haven't seen with something you'd like to see.
Or sounds like you were thinking something like this
http://inuitadventures.ca/webconcepteur/web/AventuresInuit/en/experience
They have a variety of options and sound like they will work with you to get the type of experience you are looking for.
On December 16 2014 17:30 JoeCool wrote:Show nested quote +On December 11 2014 22:40 JoeCool wrote:
After the first cup of tea we moved to my sofa, there we sat for quite some time and, like I mentioned before, she talked & laughed a lot so in my opinion it seems like she enjoyed my company.
Most of the time she was sitting on the other side of the sofa (it is a small one for three persons, so there was not much space between us) with her arms around her knees, facing my direction. While we were talking I moved closer to her and placed my hand on her knee/shank.You know, to have some physical contact. Then I showed her a short trailer for a funny movie she was interested in, I took my laptop placed it on my lap and sat right next to her. After the trailer was over (like 3 mins), she immediately said that it is already 11 p.m. and asked when the next train was leaving. We went to the trainstation where she hugged me and said, like mentioned before, "Thank you for the nice evening".
Now the thing why I did not kiss her, is that this whole time I had the feeling, that she was not feeling very comfortable with physical contact. Maybe I was wrong, don't know about that though. On the other hand she immidiately agreed when I asked her out and she was looking forward to see me. And like I said we had a very nice evening.
Nevertheless, at the end of the day it probably won't matter, because I guess that you guys are right and I missed the chance. Better luck next time... Okay, I thought I was done but two days later (last friday) she texted me twice. 1.) In the first message she wished me good luck for my presentation on that day, which was pretty nice because no one else did that. I thanked her for that. 2.) Couple of hours later she wished me a nice weekend and told me, that if I would be out that night and wanted to have a drink I should go to bar XY because she'll be there since one of her friends works there as a DJ. Unfortunately I've already had an appointment with another friend of mine. This is also what I wrote her. After these two messages I thought it might be a good idea to ask her out a second time. But well.... she's not answering.
The nice read is that she is a shy reserved girl who may have been hurt in the past and wants to be in control of the situation. The texts indicate she is interested in getting closer but wants it on her terms in a place where she feels like she can control how far/fast you go. She also wants to run you by a friend to make sure she thinks you seem ok.
The pessimist in me reads it as "I had a nice night" red flag... "nice" is not usually the word you're looking for.
The texts read like a well... come help fill a venue for my friend and I'll probably give you some attention, and maybe give you a chance. Maybe I have a friend that would like you?
Wait a bit, if you have a legit reason to text her go ahead and if she seems responsive you could ask for another date, if not and I feel like a girl is giving me a cold shoulder or whatever but I'm not positive, so I'd like to at least leave the door open, I just drop a message like "Next time you're going to see your friend spin let me know and I should/might be able to join you"
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Looking into giving online dating a whirl, what are the most recommended (and free) sites for those who have never tried it? The only one I'm really aware of is POF.
Thanks in advance.
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Okcupid is a great site, systemwise. When you live in a country that has female okcupid users, it's a great site overall.
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okcupid works for casual sex but dont expect something real. we created 2 accounts one is real and the other is charming prince. real one is a good guy, a white american who is keeping up his fathers affairs in a domestic trade company, aged 27, has a car and a flat in NYC, and he is handsome, hitting gym, wears classy, enjoying cocktails in local pubs with friends etc. what we text to girls were almost making me wet, what a good guy, what a husband to be, what a caring father.
and the fake one, an italian dude in nyc who appeared to travel the city for a while and looking for local hot girls to attract him, seduce him during this visit to make his time "worthy" only. he enjoys wine and drugs, total jerk with the utter philosophy of carpe diem almost yoloswagpeacesexromance! motto.
man, first guy gets lots of profile visits and messages from mandarin or black girls in nyc but NOT A SINGLE FUCK from matching / status equal girls while the FUCKING GREASY HAIR JACKASS gets tons of em every week and most of the messages are pickup lines that girls say EWWWWWW WE HATE .
"hey hottie wanna ride?"
"hey i wanna try u"
"sup babe u up for good"
"u italians really good in bed they say prove!"
man. everything. sometimes wall of texts that how are they ready to come to the italy to start a new life. and THEY ARE REALLY BEAUTIFUL and probably you wont name all of them as sluts, while some really are sluts lel.
actually one girl is sending us messages everyday and states that our non replying attitude is turning her on badly day by day, and we sent a message to this girl from good guy, no answers... we r thinking over going public on imgur but this may cause problems so we are not eager to.. fuck life. fuck standarts. fuck woman logic.
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Plot twist: All these "girls" are actually secondary accounts.
On a serious note; As an european it's actually very easy to get girls in the USA. I've been to the states twice in my life, in 2007 I've attended a high-school in Westfield - NJ and in 2013 we did a round trip at the west coast (LA, LV, SF etc.). During both visits, lots of woman actually hit on me & my friends.
In 2007 it took me like two weeks and I had about ten new female "friends" plus two dates with different women. I didn't even approach them. Suddenly there were just... there. Two of my friends even got laid in the first week.
In 2013 it was similar, one evening we were sitting in a whirlpool having couple of beers when a girl joined us out of nowhere. She started talking and after one hour my friend took her to his room... and got laid. This lady didn't even ask for our names, it's like you just have to mention that you're from germany and that's it.
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In terms of site quality and not users, okcupid is a way better designed site with better features and more intuitive navigation. However, they've recently been kinda dumb by removing or changing a lot of features that didn't need to be touched, which is annoying.
In terms of user number, pof might seem to have more but I don't know the exact statistics.
In terms of user quality, okcupid feels more... cosmopolitan? At least compared to pof. There's still a good chunk of overlap between sites, but I found it easier to find profiles on okcupid that seemed classier, or maybe it's just the way profiles are displayed.
I guess it depends on the area, but I found it pretty easy to find dates with real people even though none of them developed into anything.
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On January 04 2015 06:30 lastpuritan wrote:
okcupid works for casual sex but dont expect something real. we created 2 accounts one is real and the other is charming prince. real one is a good guy, a white american who is keeping up his fathers affairs in a domestic trade company, aged 27, has a car and a flat in NYC, and he is handsome, hitting gym, wears classy, enjoying cocktails in local pubs with friends etc. what we text to girls were almost making me wet, what a good guy, what a husband to be, what a caring father.
and the fake one, an italian dude in nyc who appeared to travel the city for a while and looking for local hot girls to attract him, seduce him during this visit to make his time "worthy" only. he enjoys wine and drugs, total jerk with the utter philosophy of carpe diem almost yoloswagpeacesexromance! motto.
man, first guy gets lots of profile visits and messages from mandarin or black girls in nyc but NOT A SINGLE FUCK from matching / status equal girls while the FUCKING GREASY HAIR JACKASS gets tons of em every week and most of the messages are pickup lines that girls say EWWWWWW WE HATE .
"hey hottie wanna ride?"
"hey i wanna try u"
"sup babe u up for good"
"u italians really good in bed they say prove!"
man. everything. sometimes wall of texts that how are they ready to come to the italy to start a new life. and THEY ARE REALLY BEAUTIFUL and probably you wont name all of them as sluts, while some really are sluts lel.
actually one girl is sending us messages everyday and states that our non replying attitude is turning her on badly day by day, and we sent a message to this girl from good guy, no answers... we r thinking over going public on imgur but this may cause problems so we are not eager to.. fuck life. fuck standarts. fuck woman logic.
post pics and block images if you are that afraid of your experiment. the real one is probably just boring as hell
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On January 04 2015 06:30 lastpuritan wrote:
okcupid works for casual sex but dont expect something real. we created 2 accounts one is real and the other is charming prince. real one is a good guy, a white american who is keeping up his fathers affairs in a domestic trade company, aged 27, has a car and a flat in NYC, and he is handsome, hitting gym, wears classy, enjoying cocktails in local pubs with friends etc. what we text to girls were almost making me wet, what a good guy, what a husband to be, what a caring father.
and the fake one, an italian dude in nyc who appeared to travel the city for a while and looking for local hot girls to attract him, seduce him during this visit to make his time "worthy" only. he enjoys wine and drugs, total jerk with the utter philosophy of carpe diem almost yoloswagpeacesexromance! motto.
man, first guy gets lots of profile visits and messages from mandarin or black girls in nyc but NOT A SINGLE FUCK from matching / status equal girls while the FUCKING GREASY HAIR JACKASS gets tons of em every week and most of the messages are pickup lines that girls say EWWWWWW WE HATE .
"hey hottie wanna ride?"
"hey i wanna try u"
"sup babe u up for good"
"u italians really good in bed they say prove!"
man. everything. sometimes wall of texts that how are they ready to come to the italy to start a new life. and THEY ARE REALLY BEAUTIFUL and probably you wont name all of them as sluts, while some really are sluts lel.
actually one girl is sending us messages everyday and states that our non replying attitude is turning her on badly day by day, and we sent a message to this girl from good guy, no answers... we r thinking over going public on imgur but this may cause problems so we are not eager to.. fuck life. fuck standarts. fuck woman logic.
i toally understand them:
Girls like to have sex.
Girls get judged by society for having sex with different partners, or without the context of a relationship. Just take a look at your reaction for example...
So a good looking guy who will be out of their lives afterwards is an appealing thing.
If you are jelly: just hit the gym and travel^^
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On January 04 2015 04:16 Grobyc wrote:
Looking into giving online dating a whirl, what are the most recommended (and free) sites for those who have never tried it? The only one I'm really aware of is POF.
+1 for OkCupid.
Comparing OkCupid and POF is like comparing Windows 7 to Windows 3.1
It mostly depends on your region but I think OkCupid will have a reasonable user base in Canada. I've heard that if you're in Asia it can be a different story though. If memory serves me right I was told Badoo is quite strong in parts of Asia.
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