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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
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SixStrings
Germany2046 Posts
On December 10 2014 05:53 Epishade wrote: This is the kidney snatcher you're referring to, right SixStrings? Sadly, yes. On December 10 2014 05:57 LostWraithSC wrote: Really? I always pictured you (SixStrings) as a handsome devil. Oh well... You're way off. | ||
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Najda
United States3765 Posts
On December 10 2014 05:36 SixStrings wrote: She talked loads, but I felt that she was kind of let down after having seen me in person. I still tried to make a move, but she recoiled and said that she wasn't into me. She wasn't being nasty about it, and it doesn't bother me too much. Tomorrow I have a Tinder date and Saturday I'm meeting a girl with whom I used to study, so I have two more chances to redeem myself this year. What a strange thing to do. Add random person on facebook, meet up, and proceed to do nothing. Are your facebook pictures much better than the reality or something? | ||
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SixStrings
Germany2046 Posts
But it's an honest photograph, because I don't know how to work with Photoshop. I don't want to dwell on it; I have another date lined up tomorrow and I don't want to take a hit to my confidence now. | ||
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WombaT
Northern Ireland26224 Posts
I'm an idiot in that it involves a relative distance and two packed schedules and me having pretty much broken down mentally (hell I've barely even been on here), but figured it was worth a shot! | ||
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SixStrings
Germany2046 Posts
On December 11 2014 03:18 Wombat_NI wrote: Looking up after I was approaching a year of being single. Met her at a LAN I was running down in Dublin and casting, she was doing the photos and got chatting to her more and more after initially bugging her for the footage. Met up on a date in all but name down there subsequently and she treated me to dinner, sightseeing and a few drinks, was great actually. I'm an idiot in that it involves a relative distance and two packed schedules and me having pretty much broken down mentally (hell I've barely even been on here), but figured it was worth a shot! Always happy to see when good things happen to you. | ||
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JoeCool
Germany2520 Posts
I asked her out to the christmas-market were we bought some tea and went to my place couple of minutes later to try it out. We had lots of fun she kept talking and laughing and after three hours she had to leave because the two of us have to get up realy early tomorrow and I have a ton of work to do. Before she left she agreed to watch "What we do in the shadows" with me at my place sometime and said sth. like "Thank you very much for the nice evening". Yet I have a bad conscience because I did not kiss her. Think I missed an opportunity there. :-/ | ||
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Oh,Hi!
United States0 Posts
On December 11 2014 07:52 JoeCool wrote: Today I've had my first real date in years, it was okay I guess. I asked her out to the christmas-market were we bought some tea and went to my place couple of minutes later to try it out. We had lots of fun she kept talking and laughing and after three hours she had to leave because the two of us have to get up realy early tomorrow and I have a ton of work to do. Before she left she agreed to watch "What we do in the shadows" with me at my place sometime and said sth. like "Thank you very much for the nice evening". Yet I have a bad conscience because I did not kiss her. Think I missed an opportunity there. :-/ It might actually be for the best if you didn't kiss her; you said this was your first date, right? I hate it when guys try to kiss me on a first date, and a lot of my friends hate it too. Speaking of things I hate on dates, someone posted earlier about a date where he was treated to dinner and drinks and whatnot. I've dumped guys who let me pay for everything, so it may not have gone as well as you thought. Going Dutch is fine, I'm even fine with paying for almost the entire date if it's after the third date and there are circumstances, but that would be a huge red flag to me. Btw, it should be fairly obvious if you've read this far, but I am a woman (yay for credibility)! Just so there are no misunderstandings. | ||
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B.I.G.
3251 Posts
Besides you dont know how it happened. Maybe she insisted on paying. Its not like it would have been better if he had gotten angry and told her to put back her goddamn wallet and let the man pay. Right? | ||
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MysteryMeat1
United States3292 Posts
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Epishade
United States2267 Posts
It's usually not even that big a deal. Happy meals are so cheap nowadays they can afford it! | ||
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eviltomahawk
United States11135 Posts
On December 11 2014 16:14 Epishade wrote: I'm with bigfan on this one. I think girls should pay for the first date. It's usually not even that big a deal. Happy meals are so cheap nowadays they can afford it! Always gotta get those happy meal toys. Those things could be worth a lot in several years, like beanie babies. | ||
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IgnE
United States7681 Posts
On December 11 2014 08:44 Oh,Hi! wrote: It might actually be for the best if you didn't kiss her; you said this was your first date, right? I hate it when guys try to kiss me on a first date, and a lot of my friends hate it too. Speaking of things I hate on dates, someone posted earlier about a date where he was treated to dinner and drinks and whatnot. I've dumped guys who let me pay for everything, so it may not have gone as well as you thought. Going Dutch is fine, I'm even fine with paying for almost the entire date if it's after the third date and there are circumstances, but that would be a huge red flag to me. Btw, it should be fairly obvious if you've read this far, but I am a woman (yay for credibility)! Just so there are no misunderstandings. Sounds like you aren't in to a lot of guys you date. | ||
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SixStrings
Germany2046 Posts
So take her words well salted. | ||
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Snotling
Germany885 Posts
On December 11 2014 17:19 SixStrings wrote: I've had the exact opposite experience. Whenever I had physical contact, I would unfailingly get a second date, whereas if I didn't at least kiss her, I'd get the 'this has been so nice, see you never!'. So take her words well salted. exactly the same for me | ||
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marvellosity
United Kingdom36161 Posts
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IgnE
United States7681 Posts
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WombaT
Northern Ireland26224 Posts
On December 11 2014 04:35 SixStrings wrote: Always happy to see when good things happen to you. Thanks man, rest of my life has gone to shit so something going positively is a fucking relief. On the kissing/not kissing debate regarding first dates, I know I've never personally got a second one without that, or at least some kind of physical escalation | ||
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SixStrings
Germany2046 Posts
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Snotling
Germany885 Posts
Even if they dont like the kiss. They "respect" (insert better word here) that you went for it. | ||
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WombaT
Northern Ireland26224 Posts
Actually my biggest weakness in these matters, super terrible at kissing someone for the first time. Once I have that, future spontaneous kissing is fine, or parts beyond but Jesus I find it super awkward. | ||
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