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On December 10 2014 05:53 Epishade wrote:Show nested quote +On December 10 2014 05:36 SixStrings wrote:On December 10 2014 05:31 LostWraithSC wrote:On December 10 2014 05:28 SixStrings wrote:On December 10 2014 05:22 Kleinmuuhg wrote: Plot twist, it was a Poster from tl wo wanted to Know if sixstrings actually exists No, she was a very real (and very hot) person. Too bad I couldn't do anything about it. What went wrong? Just nothing to talk about? She talked loads, but I felt that she was kind of let down after having seen me in person.I still tried to make a move, but she recoiled and said that she wasn't into me. She wasn't being nasty about it, and it doesn't bother me too much. Tomorrow I have a Tinder date and Saturday I'm meeting a girl with whom I used to study, so I have two more chances to redeem myself this year. This is the kidney snatcher you're referring to, right SixStrings?
Sadly, yes.
On December 10 2014 05:57 LostWraithSC wrote:Show nested quote +On December 10 2014 05:36 SixStrings wrote:On December 10 2014 05:31 LostWraithSC wrote:On December 10 2014 05:28 SixStrings wrote:On December 10 2014 05:22 Kleinmuuhg wrote: Plot twist, it was a Poster from tl wo wanted to Know if sixstrings actually exists No, she was a very real (and very hot) person. Too bad I couldn't do anything about it. What went wrong? Just nothing to talk about? She talked loads, but I felt that she was kind of let down after having seen me in person. I still tried to make a move, but she recoiled and said that she wasn't into me. She wasn't being nasty about it, and it doesn't bother me too much. Tomorrow I have a Tinder date and Saturday I'm meeting a girl with whom I used to study, so I have two more chances to redeem myself this year. Really? I always pictured you (SixStrings) as a handsome devil. Oh well...
You're way off.
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On December 10 2014 05:36 SixStrings wrote:Show nested quote +On December 10 2014 05:31 LostWraithSC wrote:On December 10 2014 05:28 SixStrings wrote:On December 10 2014 05:22 Kleinmuuhg wrote: Plot twist, it was a Poster from tl wo wanted to Know if sixstrings actually exists No, she was a very real (and very hot) person. Too bad I couldn't do anything about it. What went wrong? Just nothing to talk about? She talked loads, but I felt that she was kind of let down after having seen me in person. I still tried to make a move, but she recoiled and said that she wasn't into me. She wasn't being nasty about it, and it doesn't bother me too much. Tomorrow I have a Tinder date and Saturday I'm meeting a girl with whom I used to study, so I have two more chances to redeem myself this year.
What a strange thing to do. Add random person on facebook, meet up, and proceed to do nothing. Are your facebook pictures much better than the reality or something?
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Man I don't know. I only have one picture, so I think she just filled out the rest in her mind.
But it's an honest photograph, because I don't know how to work with Photoshop.
I don't want to dwell on it; I have another date lined up tomorrow and I don't want to take a hit to my confidence now.
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Northern Ireland23792 Posts
Looking up after I was approaching a year of being single. Met her at a LAN I was running down in Dublin and casting, she was doing the photos and got chatting to her more and more after initially bugging her for the footage. Met up on a date in all but name down there subsequently and she treated me to dinner, sightseeing and a few drinks, was great actually.
I'm an idiot in that it involves a relative distance and two packed schedules and me having pretty much broken down mentally (hell I've barely even been on here), but figured it was worth a shot!
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On December 11 2014 03:18 Wombat_NI wrote: Looking up after I was approaching a year of being single. Met her at a LAN I was running down in Dublin and casting, she was doing the photos and got chatting to her more and more after initially bugging her for the footage. Met up on a date in all but name down there subsequently and she treated me to dinner, sightseeing and a few drinks, was great actually.
I'm an idiot in that it involves a relative distance and two packed schedules and me having pretty much broken down mentally (hell I've barely even been on here), but figured it was worth a shot!
Always happy to see when good things happen to you.
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Today I've had my first real date in years, it was okay I guess. I asked her out to the christmas-market were we bought some tea and went to my place couple of minutes later to try it out. We had lots of fun she kept talking and laughing and after three hours she had to leave because the two of us have to get up realy early tomorrow and I have a ton of work to do. Before she left she agreed to watch "What we do in the shadows" with me at my place sometime and said sth. like "Thank you very much for the nice evening".
Yet I have a bad conscience because I did not kiss her. Think I missed an opportunity there. :-/
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On December 11 2014 07:52 JoeCool wrote: Today I've had my first real date in years, it was okay I guess. I asked her out to the christmas-market were we bought some tea and went to my place couple of minutes later to try it out. We had lots of fun she kept talking and laughing and after three hours she had to leave because the two of us have to get up realy early tomorrow and I have a ton of work to do. Before she left she agreed to watch "What we do in the shadows" with me at my place sometime and said sth. like "Thank you very much for the nice evening".
Yet I have a bad conscience because I did not kiss her. Think I missed an opportunity there. :-/
It might actually be for the best if you didn't kiss her; you said this was your first date, right? I hate it when guys try to kiss me on a first date, and a lot of my friends hate it too.
Speaking of things I hate on dates, someone posted earlier about a date where he was treated to dinner and drinks and whatnot. I've dumped guys who let me pay for everything, so it may not have gone as well as you thought. Going Dutch is fine, I'm even fine with paying for almost the entire date if it's after the third date and there are circumstances, but that would be a huge red flag to me.
Btw, it should be fairly obvious if you've read this far, but I am a woman (yay for credibility)! Just so there are no misunderstandings.
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So the whole notion of you treating a guy to dinner or w/e is so outlandishly rediculous to you it makes you break up?
Besides you dont know how it happened. Maybe she insisted on paying. Its not like it would have been better if he had gotten angry and told her to put back her goddamn wallet and let the man pay. Right?
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Thats completely different bigfan...
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I'm with bigfan on this one. I think girls should pay for the first date.
It's usually not even that big a deal. Happy meals are so cheap nowadays they can afford it!
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On December 11 2014 16:14 Epishade wrote: I'm with bigfan on this one. I think girls should pay for the first date.
It's usually not even that big a deal. Happy meals are so cheap nowadays they can afford it! Always gotta get those happy meal toys. Those things could be worth a lot in several years, like beanie babies.
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On December 11 2014 08:44 Oh,Hi! wrote:Show nested quote +On December 11 2014 07:52 JoeCool wrote: Today I've had my first real date in years, it was okay I guess. I asked her out to the christmas-market were we bought some tea and went to my place couple of minutes later to try it out. We had lots of fun she kept talking and laughing and after three hours she had to leave because the two of us have to get up realy early tomorrow and I have a ton of work to do. Before she left she agreed to watch "What we do in the shadows" with me at my place sometime and said sth. like "Thank you very much for the nice evening".
Yet I have a bad conscience because I did not kiss her. Think I missed an opportunity there. :-/ It might actually be for the best if you didn't kiss her; you said this was your first date, right? I hate it when guys try to kiss me on a first date, and a lot of my friends hate it too. Speaking of things I hate on dates, someone posted earlier about a date where he was treated to dinner and drinks and whatnot. I've dumped guys who let me pay for everything, so it may not have gone as well as you thought. Going Dutch is fine, I'm even fine with paying for almost the entire date if it's after the third date and there are circumstances, but that would be a huge red flag to me. Btw, it should be fairly obvious if you've read this far, but I am a woman (yay for credibility)! Just so there are no misunderstandings.
Sounds like you aren't in to a lot of guys you date.
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I've had the exact opposite experience. Whenever I had physical contact, I would unfailingly get a second date, whereas if I didn't at least kiss her, I'd get the 'this has been so nice, see you never!'.
So take her words well salted.
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On December 11 2014 17:19 SixStrings wrote: I've had the exact opposite experience. Whenever I had physical contact, I would unfailingly get a second date, whereas if I didn't at least kiss her, I'd get the 'this has been so nice, see you never!'.
So take her words well salted.
exactly the same for me
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Sounds like her views are like 40 years out of date or something.
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Or she just wasn't attracted to the guys trying to kiss her.
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Northern Ireland23792 Posts
On December 11 2014 04:35 SixStrings wrote:Show nested quote +On December 11 2014 03:18 Wombat_NI wrote: Looking up after I was approaching a year of being single. Met her at a LAN I was running down in Dublin and casting, she was doing the photos and got chatting to her more and more after initially bugging her for the footage. Met up on a date in all but name down there subsequently and she treated me to dinner, sightseeing and a few drinks, was great actually.
I'm an idiot in that it involves a relative distance and two packed schedules and me having pretty much broken down mentally (hell I've barely even been on here), but figured it was worth a shot! Always happy to see when good things happen to you. Thanks man, rest of my life has gone to shit so something going positively is a fucking relief.
On the kissing/not kissing debate regarding first dates, I know I've never personally got a second one without that, or at least some kind of physical escalation
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Though on second thought, this could be a case of correlation as opposed to causality.
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I think it could be because women seem to react positive to "bold" behaviour. Even if they dont like the kiss. They "respect" (insert better word here) that you went for it.
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Northern Ireland23792 Posts
Plus without something I think some women will be naturally thinking, 'he had a good time but he's probably not romantically interested'.
Actually my biggest weakness in these matters, super terrible at kissing someone for the first time. Once I have that, future spontaneous kissing is fine, or parts beyond but Jesus I find it super awkward.
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