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On December 09 2014 07:37 docvoc wrote:Show nested quote +On December 09 2014 07:01 arb wrote:On December 09 2014 06:10 SixStrings wrote:On December 08 2014 23:03 Erasme wrote:On December 08 2014 22:15 SixStrings wrote:
Are you for real? I've never NOT been a tiny little bit apprehensive about meeting someone, be it via Tinder or under normal circumstances.
I think I'd rather do something stupid every once in a while and get my kidneys harvested eventually. Just hope they'll be kinda nice and let you keep one She just asked me if she could meet me in my town instead, because she's heard about our legendary Christmas market. I think my kidneys are save for now. For now. I dont know anytime someone wants me to go directly to their place if ih avent met them i bring a pocket knife or something and be ready to fight if shit gets bad(99% chance it wont but cant ever be too safe) but i dunno thats just how i am :X Arb is down to get jiggy with it when needed, TIL.
It is funny bc im not kidding. Anytime i go somewhere i know is sketchy or someone i have never met wants to meet somewhere like that, i always bring shit with me because you can never be too safe.
im not even mad about it
I guess I can share my potentially depressing status too while I'm here Bc all this came out of no where and i am not sure what to think.
Well back story anyway,
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When I was 18 hit up this girl on fb(her 17) just talking shit to her, ended up having quite a big crush on her for the longest time but never made any moves, shit happens. She gets with some dude and ends up getting pregnant, figure at this point shit is done with so no use crying over it, get over it and carry on with my life. Talk to her occasionally but still kinda meh, maybe throw a flirt or something her way but never too overboard with it
Fast forward to a couple weeks ago(her 21, me 22), her and this guy had broke up and he had been sent to jail for neglecting their kid(like got drunk and passed out while she was working or something and their kid was found down the road playing in traffic, like what the fuck?) Talk to her a bit, she says maybe we should hang out sometime I'm like yeah sure whatever. (fully expecting nothing to happen or to even see her at all TBH) We talk for a bit, eventually she is like snapchat me, so i do no big deal. She starts freaking out im like uhhhhhhhh, tells me i am "mucho nice looking and that we really really should go out" I'm thinking "wow, ok dont think so but fuck yeah" so we schedule a night out, im supposed to get her from work at like 7, get ready to leave, her friend FBs me saying something came up and she cant make it. Aboutwhatifigured.jpg Figure at this point no big deal, Ask her the next day if she still wants to do something, figure she is gonna say no but she agrees and is like "i promise this time" Since some girl she knows had called her and wanted her to go out with her or something idfk ANYWAYS.
Time rolls around and i go to get her, she is all like "i figured you would think i was ugly and no tcome see me or something blah blah" which makes no sense cause she is well above average so im like, is she being serious or what the fuck right now. Anyway, go out to eat, which she insists she doesnt want anything(even tho that was the plan) but insist she better eating something or i will cry in front of everyone(kidding obv) so she agrees and gets a little something. Later come to find out she doesnt like anyone buying her things bc the entire tiem she was with this dude, she bought everything and that is kinda what she is used to which is scummy as fuck from his point but i later found out the guy is a complete fucking retard anyway so i get it now i guess. Anyway we end up going to my house to watch tv or something. I give her plenty of room so she doesnt have to get close to be if she doesnt want to, instead she actually gets right next to me and proceeds to do the whole cuddling thing, im like uhhhh okay not gonna complain.
Later on i'm like pretty deep into this movie, making the occasional joke and shit we are still talking but im def hella into this movie(lame af) she kinda moves her head partly infront of the thing and is like giving me the look(the pls kiss me look) im kinda apprehensive about this and turn back for a second and then turn back to look and she is like right at my face im like "whoa fuck, whatever gonna do it" kiss her and then we kiss for a bit and have sex which was pretty great. I make some off key comment and she gets mad, saying im probably like her ex, and wants to know if i brought her there to do that to get back at her for years ago, i assure her im not(like what the fuck do i do here?) After a bit of talking we have sex again(oh the thrills of being young lolol). Happens another time or two, then she wants me to take her home.
Figure to myself never gonna see her again but it was fun so i can definitely live with it i guess. To my surprise she wants to go out again the next day(not the next day but agrees to go out again a couple days later) We go out a few more times then a few days ago she is like obv being distant(aka being a cunt pretty much) im like okay what the fuck. Ask her what is wrong, she says nothing tell her shes bullshitting me too. Gives me some long speech about her baby daddy and im like "well that was fun time to go i guess" then randomly comes out with a "i think i may love you a little bit and it is weird bc ive never had feelings for two ppl but he is a fucking douchebag and you make me feel good etc" im like uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh whatttttttttttttttttttt?! Anyway then she is like "pls dont stop talking to me and leave me alone for real, i feel like i need you in my life alot :<" im like oh man what the fuck. Jaw still on the floor something like this actually happened to me instead of my usual stories i post here where i get shit on and then walk into the same thing again (lolol). Anyway we talk a bit more then go out when i have my last day of work(thursday)
Pretty much tell her I cant shake the entire baby daddy thing and when he gets out i am going to get fucked over and i cant deal with that shit, she assures me nothing like that is going to happen, bc going near him or vice versa means she will lose her kid and he is a fucking shitbag(like woman beating etc etc shitbag) and i kinda feel a bit better(still bothers me not gonna lie)
Tells me she wants to not really date until she gets her kid back but assures me she is 100% mine(in the dating sense ig uess?) but doesnt want to make it an official thing till she gets her kid back or something. I tell her that is ok i understand and it isnt really a huge deal to wait a bit. Again tell her something to the effect of "im not gonna wait months for you to get back with fuckstick and leave me out to dry and shit" again assures me there is 0% chance of this happening and now i am like still feeling ok but really cant get that out of my mind that something liket hat will happen even if it doesnt i still worry about that shit which is fucking stupid idfk.
TLDR : Meet girl with kid, she says she has super super strong feelings for me(tells me this alot actually, and i actually feel the same) but wants to go slow, baby daddy still not a thing for a while due to jail but am super confused as to how to proceed into this.
Dont think I have any real questions about this, it is going pretty well but i am just at a loss like how do you deal witha situation like this do i just go with the flow or something?
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On a less sinister note:
One of my didn't exactly go great, but we somehow ended up at my place anyway. She played some of her own music on my piano, and it was horrible. Not badly played, but just awful, awful music. She tries to make a competition out of it, and I get a bit salty, because of her general attitude.
So because I don't have any of my own music on the piano, and she's getting really smug about her being 'creative', whereas I just 'copy', I say I do have one song I could show her. So I play Stairway to Heaven, pretend I wrote it, and got SO laid that night...
On December 09 2014 07:51 arb wrote:
TLDR : Meet girl with kid, she says she has super super strong feelings for me(tells me this alot actually, and i actually feel the same) but wants to go slow, baby daddy still not a thing for a while due to jail but am super confused as to how to proceed into this.
So you're dating a girl who didn't want you when you stalked her on Facebook years ago, who now has a kid and who's now going to cuckold you with her screwup ex lover first chance she gets?
This is a bad idea, mate. Don't get emotionally attached. Never think of her as your girlfriend, actively look for other girls, be very honest about not wanting a relationship with her and for the love of god use condoms. Otherwise she's going to hurt you badly.
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On December 09 2014 08:32 SixStrings wrote:On a less sinister note: One of my didn't exactly go great, but we somehow ended up at my place anyway. She played some of her own music on my piano, and it was horrible. Not badly played, but just awful, awful music. She tries to make a competition out of it, and I get a bit salty, because of her general attitude. So because I don't have any of my own music on the piano, and she's getting really smug about her being 'creative', whereas I just 'copy', I say I do have one song I could show her. So I play Stairway to Heaven, pretend I wrote it, and got SO laid that night... Show nested quote +On December 09 2014 07:51 arb wrote:
TLDR : Meet girl with kid, she says she has super super strong feelings for me(tells me this alot actually, and i actually feel the same) but wants to go slow, baby daddy still not a thing for a while due to jail but am super confused as to how to proceed into this. So you're dating a girl who didn't want you when you stalked her on Facebook years ago, who now has a kid and who's now going to cuckold you with her screwup ex lover first chance she gets? This is a bad idea, mate. Don't get emotionally attached. Never think of her as your girlfriend, actively look for other girls, be very honest about not wanting a relationship with her and for the love of god use condoms. Otherwise she's going to hurt you badly.
I dont know about stalked that is a pretty harsh word. She told me she was just unsure of how i felt or anything, i think i was just too slow when i tried that shit years ago, was way too young or something idfk.
and no not dating, i am not even attempting something to that effect until i am certain i do not have to fuck around with any baby daddy bullshit tbh.
i am #1 dumb situation magnet NA
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On December 09 2014 08:32 SixStrings wrote:
On a less sinister note:
One of my didn't exactly go great, but we somehow ended up at my place anyway. She played some of her own music on my piano, and it was horrible. Not badly played, but just awful, awful music. She tries to make a competition out of it, and I get a bit salty, because of her general attitude.
So because I don't have any of my own music on the piano, and she's getting really smug about her being 'creative', whereas I just 'copy', I say I do have one song I could show her. So I play Stairway to Heaven, pretend I wrote it, and got SO laid that night...
How does she not recognize stairway to heaven?
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On December 09 2014 09:20 Najda wrote:Show nested quote +On December 09 2014 08:32 SixStrings wrote:
On a less sinister note:
One of my didn't exactly go great, but we somehow ended up at my place anyway. She played some of her own music on my piano, and it was horrible. Not badly played, but just awful, awful music. She tries to make a competition out of it, and I get a bit salty, because of her general attitude.
So because I don't have any of my own music on the piano, and she's getting really smug about her being 'creative', whereas I just 'copy', I say I do have one song I could show her. So I play Stairway to Heaven, pretend I wrote it, and got SO laid that night...
How does she not recognize stairway to heaven? Did you dream you succeeded in passing off stairway to heaven and get laid? It sounds so absurd. Even for musicians unacquainted with the genre, it's so damn recognizable.
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If you saw what's on her iPod, you'd believe me in an instant.
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She believed you?
That is a mixture of narcissism and ignorance that you should drop like the plague.
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On December 09 2014 15:04 CosmicSpiral wrote:
She believed you?
That is a mixture of narcissism and ignorance that you should drop like the plague.
That happened a long time ago, and I didn't see her again after that night.
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SixStrings never fails to deliver in this thread.
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On December 09 2014 20:31 Acrofales wrote:
SixStrings never fails to deliver in this thread.
And in just two hours he's meeting the kidney snatcher.
I haven't been this excited about a date in months, haha.
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tbh, sixstring's situation sounds a lot less insane than getting involved with a crazy kid who as a child of her own and a drunk felon baby daddy. You got two kidneys. Big deal.
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On December 09 2014 22:34 SixStrings wrote:Show nested quote +On December 09 2014 20:31 Acrofales wrote:
SixStrings never fails to deliver in this thread. And in just two hours he's meeting the kidney snatcher. I haven't been this excited about a date in months, haha.
Well, always nice to learn about new fetishes. 
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On December 09 2014 22:34 SixStrings wrote:Show nested quote +On December 09 2014 20:31 Acrofales wrote:
SixStrings never fails to deliver in this thread. And in just two hours he's meeting the kidney snatcher. I haven't been this excited about a date in months, haha.
Well, that was anticlimactic.
Literally nothing happened and I'm home at nine.
On December 09 2014 20:31 Acrofales wrote:
SixStrings never fails to deliver in this thread.
You bastard jinxed it!
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Plot twist, it was a Poster from tl wo wanted to Know if sixstrings actually exists
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On December 10 2014 05:22 Kleinmuuhg wrote:
Plot twist, it was a Poster from tl wo wanted to Know if sixstrings actually exists
No, she was a very real (and very hot) person. Too bad I couldn't do anything about it.
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On December 10 2014 05:28 SixStrings wrote:Show nested quote +On December 10 2014 05:22 Kleinmuuhg wrote:
Plot twist, it was a Poster from tl wo wanted to Know if sixstrings actually exists No, she was a very real (and very hot) person. Too bad I couldn't do anything about it.
What went wrong? Just nothing to talk about?
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On December 10 2014 05:31 LostWraithSC wrote:Show nested quote +On December 10 2014 05:28 SixStrings wrote:On December 10 2014 05:22 Kleinmuuhg wrote:
Plot twist, it was a Poster from tl wo wanted to Know if sixstrings actually exists No, she was a very real (and very hot) person. Too bad I couldn't do anything about it. What went wrong? Just nothing to talk about?
She talked loads, but I felt that she was kind of let down after having seen me in person.
I still tried to make a move, but she recoiled and said that she wasn't into me. She wasn't being nasty about it, and it doesn't bother me too much.
Tomorrow I have a Tinder date and Saturday I'm meeting a girl with whom I used to study, so I have two more chances to redeem myself this year.
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On December 10 2014 05:36 SixStrings wrote:Show nested quote +On December 10 2014 05:31 LostWraithSC wrote:On December 10 2014 05:28 SixStrings wrote:On December 10 2014 05:22 Kleinmuuhg wrote:
Plot twist, it was a Poster from tl wo wanted to Know if sixstrings actually exists No, she was a very real (and very hot) person. Too bad I couldn't do anything about it. What went wrong? Just nothing to talk about? She talked loads, but I felt that she was kind of let down after having seen me in person.I still tried to make a move, but she recoiled and said that she wasn't into me. She wasn't being nasty about it, and it doesn't bother me too much. Tomorrow I have a Tinder date and Saturday I'm meeting a girl with whom I used to study, so I have two more chances to redeem myself this year.
This is the kidney snatcher you're referring to, right SixStrings?
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On December 10 2014 05:36 SixStrings wrote:Show nested quote +On December 10 2014 05:31 LostWraithSC wrote:On December 10 2014 05:28 SixStrings wrote:On December 10 2014 05:22 Kleinmuuhg wrote:
Plot twist, it was a Poster from tl wo wanted to Know if sixstrings actually exists No, she was a very real (and very hot) person. Too bad I couldn't do anything about it. What went wrong? Just nothing to talk about? She talked loads, but I felt that she was kind of let down after having seen me in person. I still tried to make a move, but she recoiled and said that she wasn't into me. She wasn't being nasty about it, and it doesn't bother me too much. Tomorrow I have a Tinder date and Saturday I'm meeting a girl with whom I used to study, so I have two more chances to redeem myself this year.
Really? I always pictured you (SixStrings) as a handsome devil.
Oh well...
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