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On July 07 2014 07:17 SoSexy wrote: Ok guys, I have a golden chance.
I'm dating multiple girls. The other night one of them went on to talk about how she used to like a GIRL friend. While my jaw was dropping, she then said that she would like to try a threesome with me and another girl, to the condition that this other girl is beautiful.
Now I have only one thought: need.to.find.girl
but it's hard, super hard
Don't even act excited that she brought out the threesome.
Be rather bored with her suggestion and say "If that's what you want, go ahead and find one." and leave it as it is.
On July 07 2014 07:17 SoSexy wrote: Ok guys, I have a golden chance.
I'm dating multiple girls. The other night one of them went on to talk about how she used to like a GIRL friend. While my jaw was dropping, she then said that she would like to try a threesome with me and another girl, to the condition that this other girl is beautiful.
Now I have only one thought: need.to.find.girl
but it's hard, super hard
Don't even act excited that she brought out the threesome.
Be rather bored with her suggestion and say "If that's what you want, go ahead and find one." and leave it as it is.
Does she have any attractive girl friends?
Tell her to bring them over.
Can't do that because she is younger than me and kinda the 'please-lead-me' girl. Also, if the girls are ok with it I don't see the problem with using just one condom.
On July 05 2014 10:32 LeLfe wrote: just broke up... gonna suck it up with good friends and insane amount of work out as usual... really liked that one though.
Sorry to hear that Time heals all wounds
yup vodka and time will do!
vodka = girl drink. whiskey = man drink. After breakups i tend to pull out that cognac, sip and relax. Because the next day.. Im getting on the saddle again and riding that horse !!
Whiskey used to be a man's drink back when real men drank it. Now a bunch of boys wanting to be men drink it. Its masculinity has been sold out. Kind of like craft beer.
On July 05 2014 10:32 LeLfe wrote: just broke up... gonna suck it up with good friends and insane amount of work out as usual... really liked that one though.
Sorry to hear that Time heals all wounds
yup vodka and time will do!
vodka = girl drink. whiskey = man drink. After breakups i tend to pull out that cognac, sip and relax. Because the next day.. Im getting on the saddle again and riding that horse !!
Whiskey used to be a man's drink back when real men drank it. Now a bunch of boys wanting to be men drink it. Its masculinity has been sold out. Kind of like craft beer.
On July 05 2014 10:32 LeLfe wrote: just broke up... gonna suck it up with good friends and insane amount of work out as usual... really liked that one though.
Sorry to hear that Time heals all wounds
yup vodka and time will do!
vodka = girl drink. whiskey = man drink. After breakups i tend to pull out that cognac, sip and relax. Because the next day.. Im getting on the saddle again and riding that horse !!
Whiskey used to be a man's drink back when real men drank it. Now a bunch of boys wanting to be men drink it. Its masculinity has been sold out. Kind of like craft beer.
tbh I don't feel my manhood threatened by drinking Vodka, I don't like whiskey, and vodka is better to take shots, but it's a dating thread, there's another one for alcohol!
On July 05 2014 10:32 LeLfe wrote: just broke up... gonna suck it up with good friends and insane amount of work out as usual... really liked that one though.
Sorry to hear that Time heals all wounds
yup vodka and time will do!
vodka = girl drink. whiskey = man drink. After breakups i tend to pull out that cognac, sip and relax. Because the next day.. Im getting on the saddle again and riding that horse !!
Whiskey used to be a man's drink back when real men drank it. Now a bunch of boys wanting to be men drink it. Its masculinity has been sold out. Kind of like craft beer.
Ya whiskey kinda lost its appeal to me, besides Jack because most people wont drink that still lolol when the hipster/pbr drinking pussies started drinking all of it, really dumb should have stuck to their vodka.
Either way, met a nice girl( i talked about a few pages ago) think things are going well but not really sure at the moment. will keep updated
Ouch. I have a swimming pool in my garden and in summer I tend to organize small parties (like 15-20 friends). We drink and swim etc. Girls love it! I usually call just one girl that I date at the time, because I fear that they may get jealous of each other.
However, I messed up this week and probably this Friday two of them will come over. IN THEORY it shouldn't be a problem because one of them is in a 'open relationship' (even if the last time she told me that it's better if her boyfriend doesn't know if she comes to my house o.o ) but I'm really in an awkard spot. Arrrghhh.
What should I do? Kiss neither of them? Pick one? Act indifferent the whole time?
On July 10 2014 07:58 SoSexy wrote: Ouch. I have a swimming pool in my garden and in summer I tend to organize small parties (like 15-20 friends). We drink and swim etc. Girls love it! I usually call just one girl that I date at the time, because I fear that they may get jealous of each other.
However, I messed up this week and probably this Friday two of them will come over. IN THEORY it shouldn't be a problem because one of them is in a 'open relationship' (even if the last time she told me that it's better if her boyfriend doesn't know if she comes to my house o.o ) but I'm really in an awkard spot. Arrrghhh.
What should I do? Kiss neither of them? Pick one? Act indifferent the whole time?
I'm an idiot
slap yourself for being so stupid lol dont ever invite 2 girls you have an interest in anywhere together that shit is so scummy and will fuck you real fast
On July 10 2014 07:58 SoSexy wrote: Ouch. I have a swimming pool in my garden and in summer I tend to organize small parties (like 15-20 friends). We drink and swim etc. Girls love it! I usually call just one girl that I date at the time, because I fear that they may get jealous of each other.
However, I messed up this week and probably this Friday two of them will come over. IN THEORY it shouldn't be a problem because one of them is in a 'open relationship' (even if the last time she told me that it's better if her boyfriend doesn't know if she comes to my house o.o ) but I'm really in an awkard spot. Arrrghhh.
What should I do? Kiss neither of them? Pick one? Act indifferent the whole time?
I'm an idiot
slap yourself for being so stupid lol dont ever invite 2 girls you have an interest in anywhere together that shit is so scummy and will fuck you real fast
I know man! One of them never came to the parties, I always ask for politeness. This time she waited 2 days to reply and then was like 'hey, I may come if I'm free '
On July 10 2014 07:58 SoSexy wrote: Ouch. I have a swimming pool in my garden and in summer I tend to organize small parties (like 15-20 friends). We drink and swim etc. Girls love it! I usually call just one girl that I date at the time, because I fear that they may get jealous of each other.
However, I messed up this week and probably this Friday two of them will come over. IN THEORY it shouldn't be a problem because one of them is in a 'open relationship' (even if the last time she told me that it's better if her boyfriend doesn't know if she comes to my house o.o ) but I'm really in an awkard spot. Arrrghhh.
What should I do? Kiss neither of them? Pick one? Act indifferent the whole time?
I'm an idiot
slap yourself for being so stupid lol dont ever invite 2 girls you have an interest in anywhere together that shit is so scummy and will fuck you real fast
On July 10 2014 07:58 SoSexy wrote: Ouch. I have a swimming pool in my garden and in summer I tend to organize small parties (like 15-20 friends). We drink and swim etc. Girls love it! I usually call just one girl that I date at the time, because I fear that they may get jealous of each other.
However, I messed up this week and probably this Friday two of them will come over. IN THEORY it shouldn't be a problem because one of them is in a 'open relationship' (even if the last time she told me that it's better if her boyfriend doesn't know if she comes to my house o.o ) but I'm really in an awkard spot. Arrrghhh.
What should I do? Kiss neither of them? Pick one? Act indifferent the whole time?
I'm an idiot
slap yourself for being so stupid lol dont ever invite 2 girls you have an interest in anywhere together that shit is so scummy and will fuck you real fast
Yeah you are pretty much fucked.
Just rescind the invite and say that if she's not going to be free that day you'll make it up some other way and give her a raincheck. It's a douchey thing to do, yes, but it may save you in this instance. You fucked up and the only non-sticky way out of this is luck, which is not on your side. You should ask her politely if you could make it up to her by taking her to dinner that night since you asked too many people and want to give her the attention she deserves.
On July 05 2014 10:32 LeLfe wrote: just broke up... gonna suck it up with good friends and insane amount of work out as usual... really liked that one though.
Sorry to hear that Time heals all wounds
yup vodka and time will do!
vodka = girl drink. whiskey = man drink. After breakups i tend to pull out that cognac, sip and relax. Because the next day.. Im getting on the saddle again and riding that horse !!
Whiskey used to be a man's drink back when real men drank it. Now a bunch of boys wanting to be men drink it. Its masculinity has been sold out. Kind of like craft beer.
On July 10 2014 07:58 SoSexy wrote: Ouch. I have a swimming pool in my garden and in summer I tend to organize small parties (like 15-20 friends). We drink and swim etc. Girls love it! I usually call just one girl that I date at the time, because I fear that they may get jealous of each other.
However, I messed up this week and probably this Friday two of them will come over. IN THEORY it shouldn't be a problem because one of them is in a 'open relationship' (even if the last time she told me that it's better if her boyfriend doesn't know if she comes to my house o.o ) but I'm really in an awkard spot. Arrrghhh.
What should I do? Kiss neither of them? Pick one? Act indifferent the whole time?
I'm an idiot
slap yourself for being so stupid lol dont ever invite 2 girls you have an interest in anywhere together that shit is so scummy and will fuck you real fast
Yeah you are pretty much fucked.
Just rescind the invite and say that if she's not going to be free that day you'll make it up some other way and give her a raincheck. It's a douchey thing to do, yes, but it may save you in this instance. You fucked up and the only non-sticky way out of this is luck, which is not on your side. You should ask her politely if you could make it up to her by taking her to dinner that night since you asked too many people and want to give her the attention she deserves.
That strikes me as the easiest way out.
There's plenty of ways to rescind an invite, from outright lying ("oh sorry party is cancelled") to kind of lying ("hey a buddy of mine from out of town is around and I'm probs gonna end up hanging with him at this party, can i make it up to you later so we actually get time to talk?") to simply saying that now you think about it, you'd rather get some quality time with her than drag her to a party with a ton of other people.
Shouldn't be too hard to spin it in a "you're important to me/I'll make it up to you with dinner" kind of way.
On July 10 2014 07:58 SoSexy wrote: Ouch. I have a swimming pool in my garden and in summer I tend to organize small parties (like 15-20 friends). We drink and swim etc. Girls love it! I usually call just one girl that I date at the time, because I fear that they may get jealous of each other.
However, I messed up this week and probably this Friday two of them will come over. IN THEORY it shouldn't be a problem because one of them is in a 'open relationship' (even if the last time she told me that it's better if her boyfriend doesn't know if she comes to my house o.o ) but I'm really in an awkard spot. Arrrghhh.
What should I do? Kiss neither of them? Pick one? Act indifferent the whole time?
I'm an idiot
slap yourself for being so stupid lol dont ever invite 2 girls you have an interest in anywhere together that shit is so scummy and will fuck you real fast
I know man! One of them never came to the parties, I always ask for politeness. This time she waited 2 days to reply and then was like 'hey, I may come if I'm free '
FML
I understand this situation completely haha. I have done the same but it was 3 dates to the same formal event...I think I managed it ok...
On July 10 2014 07:58 SoSexy wrote: Ouch. I have a swimming pool in my garden and in summer I tend to organize small parties (like 15-20 friends). We drink and swim etc. Girls love it! I usually call just one girl that I date at the time, because I fear that they may get jealous of each other.
However, I messed up this week and probably this Friday two of them will come over. IN THEORY it shouldn't be a problem because one of them is in a 'open relationship' (even if the last time she told me that it's better if her boyfriend doesn't know if she comes to my house o.o ) but I'm really in an awkard spot. Arrrghhh.
What should I do? Kiss neither of them? Pick one? Act indifferent the whole time?
I'm an idiot
slap yourself for being so stupid lol dont ever invite 2 girls you have an interest in anywhere together that shit is so scummy and will fuck you real fast
Yeah you are pretty much fucked.
Just rescind the invite and say that if she's not going to be free that day you'll make it up some other way and give her a raincheck. It's a douchey thing to do, yes, but it may save you in this instance. You fucked up and the only non-sticky way out of this is luck, which is not on your side. You should ask her politely if you could make it up to her by taking her to dinner that night since you asked too many people and want to give her the attention she deserves.
That strikes me as the easiest way out.
There's plenty of ways to rescind an invite, from outright lying ("oh sorry party is cancelled") to kind of lying ("hey a buddy of mine from out of town is around and I'm probs gonna end up hanging with him at this party, can i make it up to you later so we actually get time to talk?") to simply saying that now you think about it, you'd rather get some quality time with her than drag her to a party with a ton of other people.
Shouldn't be too hard to spin it in a "you're important to me/I'll make it up to you with dinner" kind of way.
Also, if you do this then it goes from her possibly being able to come to you "rescheduling" your time with her to a date she can for sure have off to spend with you, seeing as she still hasn't 100% confirmed being able to come.
On July 10 2014 16:31 Gotlander wrote: Wow never knew this kind of thread existed at Teamliquid.
I have never officially been dating a girl... Actually getting a bit worried now as my course requires me to study as if its full time work.
I had the same worries when I was without girlfriend (although I had been dating before) when I was in med school. My only advice is, don't stress about it too much. If you need to spend that much time studying, you won't have time for a girlfriend anyway (seriously, outside of studying it has probably been the most time consuming thing in my life - and I'm a former competitive badmintonplayer).
So this girl is like, telling me about how she is wanting to sleep, tell her she should go to sleepy land(gaaaay) shes like "i wouldnt but i dont want to" tell her "obv bc im sweet and fun to talk to" as a joke, and she responds "honestly yes that is it lol" later goes on to tell me even tho she doesnt answer my texts sometimes(i only send 1 and just wait till she responds even if its forever lolol) bc shes busy they make her smile and im a really nice guy.
this is the girl who's fiance died like 2 months ago, what do? :< she said a while back shes mostly looking for a friend(i was beating around the bush) should i move quickly and just ask her out to do something?
On July 11 2014 12:47 arb wrote: So this girl is like, telling me about how she is wanting to sleep, tell her she should go to sleepy land(gaaaay) shes like "i wouldnt but i dont want to" tell her "obv bc im sweet and fun to talk to" as a joke, and she responds "honestly yes that is it lol" later goes on to tell me even tho she doesnt answer my texts sometimes(i only send 1 and just wait till she responds even if its forever lolol) bc shes busy they make her smile and im a really nice guy.
this is the girl who's fiance died like 2 months ago, what do? :< she said a while back shes mostly looking for a friend(i was beating around the bush) should i move quickly and just ask her out to do something?
EPT
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