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A theory which states that a man must keep his personal life (i.e. friends) separate from his relationship side (i.e. girlfriend). Should the two worlds come into contact with each other (by means of his girlfriend becoming friends with his friends), both worlds blow up.
"If Relationship George walks through that door, he will kill Independent George! A George divided against itself, cannot stand!" - George Costanza (Seinfeld)
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Worlds Collide Theory
To extend this a bit - not limit just to gf/bf - I get really weird when my school friends say who Im with at a mall etc and suddenly run into my office ppl- seems kinda awkward as your the only one common to both groups and pressure on you to make nice post introductions. What do you say/talk about ? Seems like you need to find common ground between both groups to carry on?
Do you guys ensure that your partner/school gang/college/office/family dont really mix cause we are different with diff people (not in a negative way but you get the point..) ?
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I only do that if I feel they're different people. Otherwise just introduce everyone to eachother and let them explore one another (if there's interest, if there isn't then it doesn't matter). I hope noone comes in to this thread and is afraid of some of their friends judging them for another group of friends they keep because I find such situations really sad. (Edit: To make a really basic and stereotypical example, having a few friends who you could classify as nerds and a few friends who you could classify as jocks, and then being afraid that the jocks would ever find out about your nerd friends and think less of you).
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Unless you're a secret agent, it's destined to be uncomfortable and fail.
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There are some things that usually stay between partners or between friends... but there's really no reason why relationships and the rest of your life can *never* intertwine.
In fact, it's supposed to be open o.O Secrets aren't necessarily a great thing to always keep all the time. Try being open.
Proof: Marriage?
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Well.. George is a huge liar, might have something to do with it? He paints different pictures for different people.
I do agree somewhat though.
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Meh. Unless you behave very differently between the two groups there shouldn't be problems for you.
For the two groups mingling, they might not like eachother but that is their problem. Most people know how to get along with other people, whether it's talking about sports, doing shots, or talking about the weather. There's only about 1/10 who are just jackasses and bring up topics like politics or religion or just have a giant ego and like to correct others.
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Funny you should mention this. I just started dating a new girl. So far I haven't met her friends (except our mutual friends) and she hasn't met mine. In the weeks we have been dating, I have gone full retard. I used too much soap in my laundry, I lost my travel mug, I forgot to buy gas for my car, I mailed in some benefits claims without the receipts, I've been repeatedly late for work... I'm fucking up left and right. My buddy reminded me about the seinfeld rule that says having sex makes you stupid. 
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On October 01 2011 04:04 ToxNub wrote:Funny you should mention this. I just started dating a new girl. So far I haven't met her friends (except our mutual friends) and she hasn't met mine. In the weeks we have been dating, I have gone full retard. I used too much soap in my laundry, I lost my travel mug, I forgot to buy gas for my car, I mailed in some benefits claims without the receipts, I've been repeatedly late for work... I'm fucking up left and right. My buddy reminded me about the seinfeld rule that says having sex makes you stupid.
lol is there anything seinfeld didn't cover?!
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Completely disagree, unless for some reason you act differently to your gf than you do your friends.
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On October 01 2011 03:59 DuneBug wrote:
Meh. Unless you behave very differently between the two groups there shouldn't be problems for you.
For the two groups mingling, they might not like eachother but that is their problem. Most people know how to get along with other people, whether it's talking about sports, doing shots, or talking about the weather. There's only about 1/10 who are just jackasses and bring up topics like politics or religion or just have a giant ego and like to correct others.
your point being...what? that people shouldn't discuss politics unless they know the other person already agrees with them?
I thought the value of discussions with different types of people was to share ideas and be challenged, thereby broadening your worldview.
Then again, talking about the weather is nice, if you don't know which way the wind blows.
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On October 01 2011 03:49 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:
There are some things that usually stay between partners or between friends... but there's really no reason why relationships and the rest of your life can *never* intertwine.
In fact, it's supposed to be open o.O Secrets aren't necessarily a great thing to always keep all the time. Try being open.
Proof: Marriage?
Marriage is a pretty bad proof, considering what, 50% of all marriages fail?
Fact is, if you want to ensure a great relatioship with everyone you know, you need to keep them somewhat separated. Since, say you and your gf shares some friends, the inevitable breakup occurs and now your relationship with those friends will always be awkward. One of your friends decline your birthday invitation because your ex had already invited him/her to something else, and you can't help being pissed. You just can't.
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