On June 27 2011 01:18 Bibdy wrote:
It depends on the group. Strippers and strip clubs aren't my thing. I'd much prefer getting drunk and playing video games with my buds. Consequently we're probably going to Dave and Busters for my bachelor party.

Its TL who doesnt ;D

Nothingtosay

United States875 Posts

June 26 2011 20:27 GMT

#142

Posting without any experience

Yes its ok I don't see anything wrong with strippers at anytime in marriage but thats my opinion that many people don't share.

Vinski

505 Posts

June 26 2011 20:27 GMT

#143

Its completely needed at bachelor parties

VonLego

United States519 Posts

June 26 2011 20:29 GMT

#144

Why would you ever reevaluate a marriage because she is uncomfortable with a stranger rubbing her naked body up against you? What the hell is wrong with society.

Jswizzy

United States791 Posts

June 26 2011 20:29 GMT

#145

It depends on your Brother and his Wife.

sva

United States749 Posts

June 26 2011 20:30 GMT

#146

There's nothing wrong with having a stripper there, but it depends on your brother. I've hosted and been at both situations and it really just depends on the people you are doing it for. Personally I wouldn't want a stripper, I would rather sit around and play games, some people really enjoy it though. You should have this discussion with him on what he wants if you don't know what he would prefer.

PiRate647

Belgium187 Posts

June 26 2011 20:32 GMT

#147

lol way too young to have experience with this (19) but come to think of it i did see 2 strippers already in my life.
My advice : Very few reasons not to do it .
Groom can blame you (best man i presume?) if his future wife finds out and as far as making an uncomfortable memory : keep in mind it`s customary for strippers to give the partyboy a special treatment (lapdance, going up very close to him while naked) , but usually the groom should get somewhat hazed at his bachelor party + the alcohol will make short work of any awkwardness.
All sounds like great fun ! Enjoy!

EDIT: I might have a very good solution for you!
As it seems you guys have money to burn anyway, so hire a stripper (a decent one!) and have her just show up and surprise the party.
Now your brother will react in one of these three ways:
1) "hahaha awesome , you got me a stripper ! Bring it on Bitch !" You let her stay and put on a show.
2)"OMG, you got me a stripper ! Duuude that`s over the top ! What will my wife say !? Hahahha What the hell Bro, I hate you !! " He will probably still be smiling. Now here you actually have to convince him and play the bad guy

tell him his wife will never find out and that it`s tradition and that he doesn`t have a choice,... trust me he will give in.
3) He starts to freak out and threatens to leave . You send her away if he clearly does not want a striptease.

You`ll feel it in the room right away what situation you landed in

nosk

United States21 Posts

June 26 2011 20:37 GMT

#148

I don't understand the point of strippers, tbh. How can anyone find pleasure in being sexually frustrated without being able to do anything about it? On top of having to pay more than a prostitute? I find it to be on the same level of finding a homeless man and having him pay you 50 bucks so he can see and smell a happy meal.

Just sayin'.

couches

618 Posts

June 26 2011 20:53 GMT

#149

Personally I'd put that money towards hiring a band to play there. Cover band, original, whatever, it's up to you. It'll cost more but it's been more fun ime.

Then hit the bars and a strip club later if you want.

GrimReefer

United States442 Posts

June 26 2011 20:58 GMT

#150

it's been my feeling after a few bachelor parties and fraternity parties, that it can be VERY awkward watching a stripper outside outside of the strip club setting. most people don't have a room full of black lights, and the stripper usually wants the room pretty dark.
maybe we always hired shitty strippers, but i'll put it this way; every time i've been to a party with a stripper, most of us lost interest after like 45 minutes and went back to playing beer pong and flip cup.

G3CKO

Canada1430 Posts

June 26 2011 21:03 GMT

#151

It's perfectly fine because like everybody does it, I mean your fiance probably has strippers over at her place with her friends . I personally never understand this tradition at all.

Mahina

Netherlands44 Posts

June 26 2011 21:03 GMT

#152

I have attended one bachelor party, and no strippers were present. It was my cousin's and she had invited me, her mother, a lot of her female friends and my mother. We had a nice afternoon tea in a really pretty place surrounded by a beautiful garden. We talked a lot and her lifelong friends had all picked funny memories relating to my cousin and her soon-to-be husband.

Tbh if I would get married, I would feel very offended if my boyfriend would have a stripper at his bachelor's party. A last night of freedom? If I'm going to get married to anyone, we've obviously been in a monogamous relationship for quite some time, so why would it be his last night of freedom? He's not supposed to cheat anyway. If my boyfriend wants to marry me, it's because he loves me a lot (I hope:p ) and because I am enough for him. Why would he want to pay a random woman to dance around naked for him? I personally would feel very insulted about such a thing.

Severedevil

United States4839 Posts

June 26 2011 21:04 GMT

#153

Just ask.

dRaW

Canada5744 Posts

June 26 2011 21:19 GMT

#154

Strippers are mandatory, gotta go all out on a bachelor party

MonkSEA

Australia1227 Posts

June 26 2011 21:19 GMT

#155

Obligatory, that is all.

QuanticHawk

United States32145 Posts

June 26 2011 21:20 GMT

#156

it's actually a gay swingers party if there's not strippers. That is not how a straight man should celebrate his last night prior to marriage

DeadlyStar

Germany82 Posts

June 26 2011 21:20 GMT

#157

i would not want a stripper at my bachelorparty if i get there once in my life :D. have seen two private stripshows until now and i hated it... if my buddies want to have fun with her its ok but she should by any means stay away from me :D

Jswizzy

United States791 Posts

June 26 2011 21:21 GMT

#158

On June 27 2011 05:37 nosk wrote:
I don't understand the point of strippers, tbh. How can anyone find pleasure in being sexually frustrated without being able to do anything about it? On top of having to pay more than a prostitute? I find it to be on the same level of finding a homeless man and having him pay you 50 bucks so he can see and smell a happy meal.

Just sayin'.

You don't have any experience with strippers do you? Last time I went to a strip club one of my friends cheated on his wife by paying a stripper to sleep with him.