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On November 12 2008 10:07 tika wrote:Show nested quote +On November 12 2008 10:01 inlagdsil wrote:
Guys let's not be so mean to tika:
-he is pretty new to TL and doesn't understand which posts should be where
-he is young and inexperienced, doesn't know that what he describes is very common
-he isn't used to how people respond here (like blowing up to "sir", which is often used in a joking way on TL)
This should be put back in blogs right away in my opinion.
@tika: most people go through this at some time or another. It is very significant at the time, but not uncommon. You must stay friends with this person. What will happen over time is that your romanic feelings will weaken and then all of a sudden you will discover someone else, and then they will disappear completely. Feelings for close friends can provide a sense of security to your emotional life but as soon as another good opportunity (ie girl) presents itself (herself), these feelings will often just vanish. All you need is patience and resolve.
thanks for the encouragement altho u must realise it does not appear as "encouragement" to me but simply as a positive attitude that i do not necessarily agree with. there are ALWAYS alternatives and certainly there are alternatives to this obvious and seemingly careless approach to life. u must understand that myself and this girl are...thinkers who aim to resolve their issues in the most rational way possible. this means a LOT of consideration is involved, hence me opening this topic to the various points of view available on this website
I would be interested to see a more rational way of dealing with your predicament. I am encouraging you by saying that "things will work out for you", not that "you will get the girl".
Here is a thought: how will you react if she gets a boyfriend? Your careful "consideration" must take into account damage reduction for everyone. Would you get very jealous? Not only are you imprisoned by your emotions, but you might also be imprisoning her.
You don't want advice, so I am just giving you these things to think about. By the way, calling the two of you "thinkers" comes off as pretentious and condescending, which is probably not what you intended.
Now life has caught up with me and I must log off TL, so don't expect a prompt reply.
EDIT oh fuck you actually are pretentious. Don't waste people's precious procrastination time if you will just talk down to anything they say. Unless, of course, you can prove to us that you are a vastly superior being...
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On November 12 2008 09:57 tika wrote:Show nested quote +On November 12 2008 09:56 jidojazerg wrote:On November 12 2008 09:36 Nytefish wrote:On November 12 2008 09:34 tika wrote:On November 12 2008 09:32 Nytefish wrote:
In a way I'm glad I don't "think" like you. My world isn't lonely and most problems have straightforward solutions. unfortunately this kind of thinking gets you divorced 1 or 5 years of misery down the line. You're making quite a lot of assumptions. :S Sorry if I'm just a simpleton who can't understand your superior level of relationship. I'd have to agree with Nytefish here. What exactly does your 'thinking' (tika) have to do with marriage anyways? Are you trying to say that a love which permeates every aspect of your life is necessary for marriage? I'd have to say most couples prefer a more pragmatic approach. no i'm just pointing out that for example (and im getting angry now) THIS fucking relationship isn't so similar to all the others you seem to know so much about.
What is your basis for saying that yours isn't similar? I mean there are only so many variables that can come together to form a relationship. I'm not disagreeing with your uniqueness as a person or that of the individual you like; What I do believe though is that if you are trying to be objective and actually obtain something of value from your OP you should try to take the effort to indicate what you feel and why and provide a basis other than mere emotions. Emotions aren't a relationship or even the indication of one, its just infatuation. As that's the case I can see why you would be frustrated - especially as you can't seem to provide anything to help people give you advice.
I mean if you are looking for support without a resolution or opportunities for one you should just say you want that - not bash everyone who posts in your thread.
EDIT: I guess you do so you don't want advice but your subsequent posts seem to want the advice not 'other stories'.
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On November 12 2008 09:30 tika wrote:Show nested quote +On November 12 2008 09:24 Jibba wrote:
My post in the blog is dead serious. She knows that you want to be in a relationship and she's gone as far as to say you should end it if you can't handle just being friends, so you are definitely stuck in the friend zone. You're only going to forget about her by 1) not being friends anymore or 2) start a relationship with someone else. #2 is obviously the better choice if you haven't been intimate before. no offense but in the "real world", at least between people who "think" as much as myself and my associates do, this is a very very ....unsophisticated, black and white way of thinking. if you are in a relationship with someone who is very thoughtful and intelligent, answers, paths, aren't so clearcut. edit: this isn't america where relationships sprout and end on a whim. we put real value into our lives and what we do and what we experience.
Ok now this is gonna be a nations war...
Germany vs America go go go!
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Obvious solution:
Find out who she is; link her to this thread.
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OP: The thing you have to realize is that you aren't being given the simple answer because people are trying to coddle you, or escape the real problem. You're being given the simple answer because, empirically, its the best solution.
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On November 12 2008 10:16 tika wrote:Show nested quote +On November 12 2008 10:07 EpiK wrote:On November 12 2008 09:50 Gene wrote:
lmao i had this exact same experience three days ago
you are not unique
time to grow up man up and get the fuck over it
the girl actually said to me
"Listen, you're making my boyfriend incredibly jealous and he doesnt deserve to be unhappy like that. You're cute, i like you, if i were single we would be a lot different. But its done. Stop. If you can't just be friends, its over entirely."
time to move on big guy ouch... @ op: give it up man. take everyone's advice and move on. You'll look back at this and cringe at how late it took you to realize the simple solution. even the carebares teach that the simple answer, altho it may reach A goal, doesnt necessarily reach the ultimate goal. unfortunately in philosophy there is always a higher level of thinking, and therefore a higher level of peace/happiness/self improvement (enlightenment) to strive to. i could just end it all here one way or another, like so many others may have done. or, i could explore, like countless thousands of people have attempted. sorry if im not satisfied by your dumbed down or simplistic or obvious resolutions. there is always something more. how else do you consider those sciences or philosophies or psychologies or psychiatries that you , right now, have no hope of comprehending? this is what makes me , and her, different from you, and why you are not able to help me.
you truly have shown that you arent the superior here by how you judge peoples intellect. there are times for idealistic approaches and some for pragmatic ones. if you think you can live your life on your higher plane you are so naive that it hurts.
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OMFG SO DEEP!!!! MY PUNY INSIGNIFICANT MIND CAN'T HANDLE THIS!!!! ARGHHHH!!!!!
Pics Plz.
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YOU GUYS THIS THREAD IS ABOUT CEREAL SRSLY.
Cocoa Puffs are so god-damn underrated
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mm
sounds like
fry and leela
sry just finished watching futurama...
has any one seen the parasites episode?
i love that one..
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honey bunches of oats with almonds. on sale of course.
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Fourier expansions are such beautiful mathematical tools. Who would know that you can approximate periodic functions with a sum of linearly independent eigenvectors that happen to be sines and cosines? When you first see Taylor series, you tell yourself "wow, that's how calculators do it". Then when you hear about Fourier expansions "wow, neat-o", now I can approximate all sorts of crap. Then that gets developed into Fourier series, and you discover: hey, if I bunch together the differential operators into one linear operator, define it as Hermitian and use the principle of superposition, I can solve partial differential equations now!
This thread is now officially about infinite series.
EDIT: changed spelling + added sentence.
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On November 12 2008 10:20 il0seonpurpose wrote:Show nested quote +On November 12 2008 09:30 tika wrote:On November 12 2008 09:24 Jibba wrote:
My post in the blog is dead serious. She knows that you want to be in a relationship and she's gone as far as to say you should end it if you can't handle just being friends, so you are definitely stuck in the friend zone. You're only going to forget about her by 1) not being friends anymore or 2) start a relationship with someone else. #2 is obviously the better choice if you haven't been intimate before. no offense but in the "real world", at least between people who "think" as much as myself and my associates do, this is a very very ....unsophisticated, black and white way of thinking. if you are in a relationship with someone who is very thoughtful and intelligent, answers, paths, aren't so clearcut. edit: this isn't america where relationships sprout and end on a whim. we put real value into our lives and what we do and what we experience. Ok now this is gonna be a nations war... Germany vs America go go go!
stop that, his edit is certainly not describing germany oO
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Its funnier to continue the OT lol.
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that happened to me once.... take my word on it suicides the only way out
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no tika, its still not unique.
you could just give up and not know
my girl had a boyfriend, i didnt let it stop me. she told me to stop once, i did for a day, went back at it and she fell right back in to my arms. this went on for months. she finally made up her mind and told me it was done and she wasnt going to fuck up again.
this is when a man has to have some respect for the woman he is in love with and back the fuck off
its an incredibly similar situation, and in fact did happen to me just three days ago. you arent superior, special, above all of it, or in your own little world. im sorry it didnt work out for you. it probably wont in the future either.
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On November 12 2008 10:34 jidojazerg wrote:
Its funnier to continue the OT lol.
Frankly I'm sick of it. This should be closed and/or moved. Plus it's no fun anymore now that tika has stopped responding.
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On November 12 2008 09:24 LordWeird wrote:
This thread is now about cereal.
My favorite is Cap'n Crunch.
only inc can truely derail threads
nice try though!
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also,
i have a friend thats been trying to get with a girl for two years. he's entirely in love with her. he's well past his prime time to ask her out. they're together 24/7. He never had the balls to say anything to her, still doesnt. He knows that. He knows he's making a mistake with every day that goes by. And its not going to change. If he knew better he'd move on.
Seeing a pattern yet?
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On November 12 2008 10:24 aqui wrote:Show nested quote +On November 12 2008 10:16 tika wrote:On November 12 2008 10:07 EpiK wrote:On November 12 2008 09:50 Gene wrote:
lmao i had this exact same experience three days ago
you are not unique
time to grow up man up and get the fuck over it
the girl actually said to me
"Listen, you're making my boyfriend incredibly jealous and he doesnt deserve to be unhappy like that. You're cute, i like you, if i were single we would be a lot different. But its done. Stop. If you can't just be friends, its over entirely."
time to move on big guy ouch... @ op: give it up man. take everyone's advice and move on. You'll look back at this and cringe at how late it took you to realize the simple solution. even the carebares teach that the simple answer, altho it may reach A goal, doesnt necessarily reach the ultimate goal. unfortunately in philosophy there is always a higher level of thinking, and therefore a higher level of peace/happiness/self improvement (enlightenment) to strive to. i could just end it all here one way or another, like so many others may have done. or, i could explore, like countless thousands of people have attempted. sorry if im not satisfied by your dumbed down or simplistic or obvious resolutions. there is always something more. how else do you consider those sciences or philosophies or psychologies or psychiatries that you , right now, have no hope of comprehending? this is what makes me , and her, different from you, and why you are not able to help me. you truly have shown that you arent the superior here by how you judge peoples intellect. there are times for idealistic approaches and some for pragmatic ones. if you think you can live your life on your higher plane you are so naive that it hurts.
nope, i just think its essential, especially on this forum (not saying any other is better or worse) to throw this concept out there and see what comes back at me
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On November 12 2008 10:36 lesser_good wrote:
that happened to me once.... take my word on it suicides the only way out
rofl. Especially when "higher reasoning" fails you as well.
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