On November 12 2008 09:32 Nytefish wrote:
In a way I'm glad I don't "think" like you. My world isn't lonely and most problems have straightforward solutions.

unfortunately this kind of thinking gets you divorced 1 or 5 years of misery down the line.

sushiman

Sweden2691 Posts

November 12 2008 00:34 GMT

#22

On November 12 2008 09:24 Jibba wrote:
My post in the blog is dead serious. She knows that you want to be in a relationship and she's gone as far as to say you should end it if you can't handle just being friends, so you are definitely stuck in the friend zone. You're only going to forget about her by 1) not being friends anymore or 2) start a relationship with someone else. #2 is obviously the better choice if you haven't been intimate before.

...and what's wrong with just staying friends? :S It's not at all impossible, but you refuse to see it that way.

Frits

11782 Posts

November 12 2008 00:35 GMT

#23

On November 12 2008 09:14 tika wrote:
its too uncommon and significant to be left in blog, if u read it its a unique experience that should b left open for a larger audience . imo

edit oh and grow up jesus

Dude, it couldn't be more common and insignificant. Nearly everyone gets in situations like this.

If she isn't interested stop seeing her you're just preventing yourself from meeting new people you might love and will love you back. You're just making yourself miserable for no reason, I know the feeling.

aqui

Germany1023 Posts

November 12 2008 00:36 GMT

#24

On November 12 2008 09:30 tika wrote:

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no offense but in the "real world", at least between people who "think" as much as myself and my associates do, this is a very very ....unsophisticated, black and white way of thinking. if you are in a relationship with someone who is very thoughtful and intelligent, answers, paths, aren't so clearcut.

edit: this isn't america where relationships sprout and end on a whim. we put real value into our lives and what we do and what we experience.

then where is this where you are? india?

Xeofreestyler

Belgium6777 Posts

November 12 2008 00:36 GMT

#25

Look, probably everyone knows what you are talking about. Its a shitty feeling.
But this topic is 99% a story about your own life and 1% 'asking people for their stories'. So it should be a blog.

That being said; dont stay focused on impossible love. Its not good for you and definitely wont help your chances with this girl.Forcing anything is no good. Good luck.

Nytefish

United Kingdom4282 Posts

November 12 2008 00:36 GMT

#26

On November 12 2008 09:34 tika wrote:

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unfortunately this kind of thinking gets you divorced 1 or 5 years of misery down the line.

You're making quite a lot of assumptions. :S

Sorry if I'm just a simpleton who can't understand your superior level of relationship.

Jibba

United States22883 Posts

November 12 2008 00:37 GMT

#27

On November 12 2008 09:34 sushiman wrote:

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...and what's wrong with just staying friends? :S It's not at all impossible, but you refuse to see it that way.

I meant start a new relationship relationship, not end the friendship with her. My advice in the blog was to have her help him get a gf.

LonelyMargarita

1845 Posts

November 12 2008 00:38 GMT

#28

I eat oatmeal every morning. I mix 2 servings of low-sugar flavored instant oatmeal with 1 serving of quickened oats and add about 4 ounces of whole milk. It makes a pretty nutritious 450-500 calories, and I add 16 oz of whole milk for 750-800 calories total. My favorite flavor is apples & cinnamon.

LightRailCoyote

United States982 Posts

November 12 2008 00:40 GMT

#29

On November 12 2008 09:24 LordWeird wrote:
This thread is now about cereal.

My favorite is Cap'n Crunch.

FUCK YEAH DUDE.

Frits

11782 Posts

November 12 2008 00:41 GMT

#30

cereal is so american/british

eat some bread fer chrissake

Xeofreestyler

Belgium6777 Posts

November 12 2008 00:42 GMT

#31

I eat all-bran+
its like a whole bread in one bowl its so crazy

tika

127 Posts

November 12 2008 00:43 GMT

#32

On November 12 2008 09:34 Jibba wrote:

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The Friend Zone is in international waters, sir.

anyone using "sir" to address someone especially after being doubted or questioned indicates an air of arrogance that is attributed usually only to the whimsical and the troll. basically it's a word that screams "i haven't really thought about what you are saying, i'm reacting spontaeniously and extremely confidently." unfortunately in REAL real life circumstance, ie life after the age of 23 when people are actually becoming or understanding what it means to be "mature in thought", extreme confidence is simply a deafening indication that a person is unenlightened.

imagine you're giving "love advice" to a 14 year old. you're 24. you tell them they're silly and how much they have to learn.

i wonder how much a 34 year old has to teach YOU. don't you?

New Zealand6138 Posts

November 12 2008 00:45 GMT

#33

On November 12 2008 09:24 LordWeird wrote:
This thread is now about cereal.

My favorite is Cap'n Crunch.

I'm personally a fan of Golden Crunchy Nut Cornflakes, there's seriously nothing better

LonelyMargarita

1845 Posts

November 12 2008 00:47 GMT

#34

On November 12 2008 09:43 tika wrote:

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unfortunately in REAL real life circumstance, ie life after the age of 23 when people are actually becoming or understanding what it means to be "mature in thought",

I like how you define the cut-off for mature life as your age. On topic, please stop trolling the thread. It is about breakfast foods.

aqui

Germany1023 Posts

November 12 2008 00:49 GMT

#35

On November 12 2008 09:41 Frits wrote:
cereal is so american/british

eat some bread fer chrissake

have you ever seen what they call "bread" in english speaking country?

brian

United States9642 Posts

November 12 2008 00:50 GMT

#36

lmao i had this exact same experience three days ago

you are not unique

time to grow up man up and get the fuck over it

the girl actually said to me
"Listen, you're making my boyfriend incredibly jealous and he doesnt deserve to be unhappy like that. You're cute, i like you, if i were single we would be a lot different. But its done. Stop. If you can't just be friends, its over entirely."

time to move on big guy

ktp

United States797 Posts

November 12 2008 00:51 GMT

#37

You are not in love with her, you simply desire her. If you truely love her, whether she loves you back or not matters very little. Once you start to grasp this concept, then your feelings will subside and everything will be wonderful again.

tika

127 Posts

November 12 2008 00:51 GMT

#38

i'm not 23 nor anything near it, that's just a very defining age for most people. sorry for arguing dumb (semantics, specifics?) like this but you DO ask so i can only imagine you're just trying to further your analysis of myself and this thread, and can only thank you for doing so.

Frits

11782 Posts

November 12 2008 00:52 GMT

#39

On November 12 2008 09:49 aqui wrote:

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have you ever seen what they call "bread" in english speaking country?

uh

Bread and cereal aren't the same if that's what you're implying, I sure as hell don't drown my bread in milk and spoon it down.

maleorderbride

United States2916 Posts

November 12 2008 00:53 GMT

#40

Yea, you need to stop seeing her. Completely. Don't just mope endlessly. Try to do some exercise everyday and hang out with friends. Hopefully you have some close guy/girl friends that know what you are going through so you can just veg out if need be, but with some company.

I would agree that being 18 is basically being clueless. You need to be on your own for a few years. Some 18 year olds are probably different, but I have yet to meet one. It definitely happens for most people sometime in your 20s, probably never for others.