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On November 22 2017 14:28 Danglars wrote:That’s the church you just pack up and leave from. That specific part of it doesn't sound QUITE as bad in context(still really bad). The rest of it is pure insanity though.
“Judge Roy Moore graduated from West Point and then went on into the service, served in Vietnam and then came back and was in law school. All of the ladies, or many of the ladies that he possibly could have married were not available then, they were already married, maybe, somewhere. So he looked in a different direction and always with the [permission of the] parents of younger ladies. By the way, the lady he’s married to now, Ms. Kayla, was a younger woman,” Benham said on WAPI 99.5 FM Monday evening. “He did that because there is something about a purity of a young woman, there is something that is good, that’s true, that’s straight and he looked for that.”
When the hosts pointed out that Moore’s wife, Kayla, was divorced when she married Moore, which rather undermined Benham’s contention that he was looking for “purity” in a potential mate, Benham tried to change the subject by asking the hosts if it is acceptable for an adult man “to date and court a young lady who is 14 year old with their parents’ consent.” Benham clearly thinks that it is, but that line of questioning did not work out particularly well, since it prompted Murphy to ask Benham if he thinks it is acceptable for a man to date a 10-year-old girl if he receives permission from her parents, which caused Benham to angrily stumble around for a reasonable response.
“I don’t think that that would happen,” was all Benham could come up with while meekly insisting that the question was just “another logical fallacy.”
When Murphy explained he was asking the exact same question that Benham had posed but had simply changed the age of the girl in question, Benham endlessly protested and tried to dodge the question before eventually agreeing that a grown man dating a 10-year-old girl would be inappropriate.
“Congratulations, Flip,” said Murphy. “Now you are in the modern world.”
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Is their something going behind the scenes with the Charlie Rose thing? Its oddly consequential that Rose gained notoriety and popularity with his Manson interview, and now the day Manson dies a bunch of come forward accusing him of sexual misconduct. Could be a bunch of crazy Manson fanatics decided to troll Rose by making allegations against him. It just seems fishy that hours after his death, a dozen women come out against Rose.
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On November 22 2017 14:49 urmomdresslikafloozy wrote: Is their something going behind the scenes with the Charlie Rose thing? Its oddly consequential that Rose gained notoriety and popularity with his Manson interview, and now the day Manson dies a bunch of come forward accusing him of sexual misconduct. Could be a bunch of crazy Manson fanatics decided to troll Rose by making allegations against him. It just seems fishy that hours after his death, a dozen women come out against Rose. Apparently WaPo has been pursuing the story for over a year. Timing of the story dropping to get some extra clicks might be suspect, but it was coming sometime soon.
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Yeah. KwarK and P6 are way over the line.
Sexual arousal in itself clouds and alters our state of mind. Given that their line of thinking that an alcohol induced brain inhibits the judgement of a person in such a stark way that it makes the pure will weak or gone, which I partially agree to, than the simple altered state of sexual arousal, from soft to unhinged, should make consent in those kind of situations impossible.
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But one thing is clear: don't try to push it, especially in a situation in where your mind is clearer. Sex doesn't need an advantage! And, better safe than sorry, ask a lot, and I mean a lot for consent!
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On November 22 2017 13:32 Myrddraal wrote:Show nested quote +On November 22 2017 11:14 KwarK wrote:On November 22 2017 10:41 JonnyBNoHo wrote:On November 22 2017 09:28 a_flayer wrote:On November 22 2017 09:27 KwarK wrote:On November 22 2017 09:19 Liquid`Drone wrote:On November 22 2017 09:02 Plansix wrote:On November 22 2017 08:58 Liquid`Drone wrote:On November 22 2017 08:03 KwarK wrote:On November 22 2017 07:57 Mohdoo wrote: [quote]
I think the common case that is a bit more troublesome is this:
1. Man goes out to get trashed 2. Woman goes out to get trashed 3. These two totally trashed folks happen upon each other some time late at night and end up banging one out 4. Girl wakes up the next day, looks to her side and is like "omfg I was raped" 5. Dude wakes up and is like "lol hello, nice to meet you", him not remembering anything either
He had no intention of having sex with this woman prior to his 7th beer. Same with her. But after those final shots, they were slobbering all over each other and totally each digging it prior to banging it out. But she's super broken up about it the next day. She feels ashamed and whatnot. Did the dude do anything wrong? Neither was in a position to consent to anything. Both should have taken a look at the state of the other one and not continued. They both failed to do that and both drunkenly raped the other. Are you sure you didn't just confuse this with your 'everybody is racist, it's not an insult' argument because the words are similar or something? By this definition most people I know of both genders are rapists and many people, of both genders, habitually go out for some mutual rape. You didn't provide enough facts to your example. We don't know the relationship of the man and the woman. if they are a couple, it changes the facts. If they get trashed together and agree that they are going to have sex later, it changes the facts. But without additional facts, Kwark's point stands. As I said before, everyone is so concerned with the amount of booze, rather than the important issue: relationship between the parties involved. One guy went to the club with his buddies. One girl went to the club with her girl friends. They both started pre-gaming at a friends place at 7 pm, then they went to the club around 10. Then they spent a couple hours dancing with strangers, at some point they started looking at each other, started flirting, talked a little bit. At 2 AM, they've both been drinking for 7 hours, people are starting to leave the club, they drunken-stumbly meet up near the entrance and just start making the fuck out. It's really hot and passionate. Guy says I live 5 minutes away wanna come? Girl says 'fuck yes'. They keep making out and grabbing each other while going back to his place. Both of them totally want the other and they end up having sex. The guy mentioned not having a condom, and the girl just went 'I don't fucking care'. Girl wakes up the day after and thinks damn, that was kinda stupid. If there was a rick and morty universe where they decided to define this as 'both of them raping each other', I'd think the show jumped the shark. Each of them decided to fuck a stranger who had been drinking for 7 hours. They're both shit. And you're really just an incredibly judgmental prude trying to impose your own values on others by calling it a mutual rape. Nah, Kwark isn't a prude. He does weird shit then tells others that they're the immoral ones. I do shit with consent and tell people who don't do shit with consent that they're the immoral ones. And I don't apologize for it. Well I think you're a shit and immoral person for saying that people are shit for having sex with each other after only knowing each other for 7 hours (of course I agree that it's probably a bad idea and has all sorts of risks), and you should apologise for implying that Drone raped someone who was literally asking for sex. You need to read it again. They didn't know each other for 7 hours. They literally just met. The 7 hours was how much drinking they did before they met. They've never seen in each in a non trashed context, their sober selves are total strangers.
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Surprise, surprise... priests take the little boys and Moore takes the little girls.
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On November 22 2017 15:54 KwarK wrote:Show nested quote +On November 22 2017 13:32 Myrddraal wrote:On November 22 2017 11:14 KwarK wrote:On November 22 2017 10:41 JonnyBNoHo wrote:On November 22 2017 09:28 a_flayer wrote:On November 22 2017 09:27 KwarK wrote:On November 22 2017 09:19 Liquid`Drone wrote:On November 22 2017 09:02 Plansix wrote:On November 22 2017 08:58 Liquid`Drone wrote:On November 22 2017 08:03 KwarK wrote: [quote] Neither was in a position to consent to anything. Both should have taken a look at the state of the other one and not continued. They both failed to do that and both drunkenly raped the other. Are you sure you didn't just confuse this with your 'everybody is racist, it's not an insult' argument because the words are similar or something? By this definition most people I know of both genders are rapists and many people, of both genders, habitually go out for some mutual rape. You didn't provide enough facts to your example. We don't know the relationship of the man and the woman. if they are a couple, it changes the facts. If they get trashed together and agree that they are going to have sex later, it changes the facts. But without additional facts, Kwark's point stands. As I said before, everyone is so concerned with the amount of booze, rather than the important issue: relationship between the parties involved. One guy went to the club with his buddies. One girl went to the club with her girl friends. They both started pre-gaming at a friends place at 7 pm, then they went to the club around 10. Then they spent a couple hours dancing with strangers, at some point they started looking at each other, started flirting, talked a little bit. At 2 AM, they've both been drinking for 7 hours, people are starting to leave the club, they drunken-stumbly meet up near the entrance and just start making the fuck out. It's really hot and passionate. Guy says I live 5 minutes away wanna come? Girl says 'fuck yes'. They keep making out and grabbing each other while going back to his place. Both of them totally want the other and they end up having sex. The guy mentioned not having a condom, and the girl just went 'I don't fucking care'. Girl wakes up the day after and thinks damn, that was kinda stupid. If there was a rick and morty universe where they decided to define this as 'both of them raping each other', I'd think the show jumped the shark. Each of them decided to fuck a stranger who had been drinking for 7 hours. They're both shit. And you're really just an incredibly judgmental prude trying to impose your own values on others by calling it a mutual rape. Nah, Kwark isn't a prude. He does weird shit then tells others that they're the immoral ones. I do shit with consent and tell people who don't do shit with consent that they're the immoral ones. And I don't apologize for it. Well I think you're a shit and immoral person for saying that people are shit for having sex with each other after only knowing each other for 7 hours (of course I agree that it's probably a bad idea and has all sorts of risks), and you should apologise for implying that Drone raped someone who was literally asking for sex. You need to read it again. They didn't know each other for 7 hours. They literally just met. The 7 hours was how much drinking they did before they met. They've never seen in each in a non trashed context, their sober selves are total strangers. Yeah, I just read it again, and man, I miss those days. Passionately raping while simultaneously being raped after a night of drinking and then showing up still semi-drunk to work on Friday morning after an hour or two of sleep. Pretending to be sober as the coffee took a while to take hold. Luckily I mostly just worked half days. And of course the following evening casually talking with my girl friends and my sister how we all raped and got raped the night before. Good times, good times.
I feel so old now.
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A retired Alabama police officer told MSNBC’s Andrea Mitchell on Tuesday that she had to keep an eye on Alabama Republican Senate candidate Roy Moore in the 1980s at local high school football games because he would regularly harass the team’s teenage cheerleaders.
Faye Gary, who for 37 years was an officer at the Gadsden Police Department, explained to Mitchell that Moore’s reputation for pursuing underage girls was widely known throughout the community.
“We were also told to watch him at the ballgames, and make sure that he didn’t, you know, hang around with the cheerleaders,” said Gary.
Gary also said she learned that Moore had been barred from entering the local shopping mall because he had been “harassing” young women who worked there.
Moore faces multiple allegations that he inappropriately pursued teenage girls when he was in his 30s, including allegations from two women that Moore tried to force them to have sexual contact with him when they were both under the age of consent.
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On November 22 2017 15:54 KwarK wrote:Show nested quote +On November 22 2017 13:32 Myrddraal wrote:On November 22 2017 11:14 KwarK wrote:On November 22 2017 10:41 JonnyBNoHo wrote:On November 22 2017 09:28 a_flayer wrote:On November 22 2017 09:27 KwarK wrote:On November 22 2017 09:19 Liquid`Drone wrote:On November 22 2017 09:02 Plansix wrote:On November 22 2017 08:58 Liquid`Drone wrote:On November 22 2017 08:03 KwarK wrote: [quote] Neither was in a position to consent to anything. Both should have taken a look at the state of the other one and not continued. They both failed to do that and both drunkenly raped the other. Are you sure you didn't just confuse this with your 'everybody is racist, it's not an insult' argument because the words are similar or something? By this definition most people I know of both genders are rapists and many people, of both genders, habitually go out for some mutual rape. You didn't provide enough facts to your example. We don't know the relationship of the man and the woman. if they are a couple, it changes the facts. If they get trashed together and agree that they are going to have sex later, it changes the facts. But without additional facts, Kwark's point stands. As I said before, everyone is so concerned with the amount of booze, rather than the important issue: relationship between the parties involved. One guy went to the club with his buddies. One girl went to the club with her girl friends. They both started pre-gaming at a friends place at 7 pm, then they went to the club around 10. Then they spent a couple hours dancing with strangers, at some point they started looking at each other, started flirting, talked a little bit. At 2 AM, they've both been drinking for 7 hours, people are starting to leave the club, they drunken-stumbly meet up near the entrance and just start making the fuck out. It's really hot and passionate. Guy says I live 5 minutes away wanna come? Girl says 'fuck yes'. They keep making out and grabbing each other while going back to his place. Both of them totally want the other and they end up having sex. The guy mentioned not having a condom, and the girl just went 'I don't fucking care'. Girl wakes up the day after and thinks damn, that was kinda stupid. If there was a rick and morty universe where they decided to define this as 'both of them raping each other', I'd think the show jumped the shark. Each of them decided to fuck a stranger who had been drinking for 7 hours. They're both shit. And you're really just an incredibly judgmental prude trying to impose your own values on others by calling it a mutual rape. Nah, Kwark isn't a prude. He does weird shit then tells others that they're the immoral ones. I do shit with consent and tell people who don't do shit with consent that they're the immoral ones. And I don't apologize for it. Well I think you're a shit and immoral person for saying that people are shit for having sex with each other after only knowing each other for 7 hours (of course I agree that it's probably a bad idea and has all sorts of risks), and you should apologise for implying that Drone raped someone who was literally asking for sex. You need to read it again. They didn't know each other for 7 hours. They literally just met. The 7 hours was how much drinking they did before they met. They've never seen in each in a non trashed context, their sober selves are total strangers.
And, who cares that they didn't know each other before? Its just sex, its not like they are getting married, adopt a child and buy a flat together while drunk.
This discussion doesn't seem to be about consent, it seems to be about (american/anglosaxon) prudery vs "others".
The drunk argument is hilarious. It is actually legal for me to buy Sex while i'm pretty fucking drunk and so it is in many countries, but at least now i know that I then technically would be raped by the prostitute I just paid.
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On November 22 2017 16:59 Velr wrote:Show nested quote +On November 22 2017 15:54 KwarK wrote:On November 22 2017 13:32 Myrddraal wrote:On November 22 2017 11:14 KwarK wrote:On November 22 2017 10:41 JonnyBNoHo wrote:On November 22 2017 09:28 a_flayer wrote:On November 22 2017 09:27 KwarK wrote:On November 22 2017 09:19 Liquid`Drone wrote:On November 22 2017 09:02 Plansix wrote:On November 22 2017 08:58 Liquid`Drone wrote: [quote]
Are you sure you didn't just confuse this with your 'everybody is racist, it's not an insult' argument because the words are similar or something? By this definition most people I know of both genders are rapists and many people, of both genders, habitually go out for some mutual rape. You didn't provide enough facts to your example. We don't know the relationship of the man and the woman. if they are a couple, it changes the facts. If they get trashed together and agree that they are going to have sex later, it changes the facts. But without additional facts, Kwark's point stands. As I said before, everyone is so concerned with the amount of booze, rather than the important issue: relationship between the parties involved. One guy went to the club with his buddies. One girl went to the club with her girl friends. They both started pre-gaming at a friends place at 7 pm, then they went to the club around 10. Then they spent a couple hours dancing with strangers, at some point they started looking at each other, started flirting, talked a little bit. At 2 AM, they've both been drinking for 7 hours, people are starting to leave the club, they drunken-stumbly meet up near the entrance and just start making the fuck out. It's really hot and passionate. Guy says I live 5 minutes away wanna come? Girl says 'fuck yes'. They keep making out and grabbing each other while going back to his place. Both of them totally want the other and they end up having sex. The guy mentioned not having a condom, and the girl just went 'I don't fucking care'. Girl wakes up the day after and thinks damn, that was kinda stupid. If there was a rick and morty universe where they decided to define this as 'both of them raping each other', I'd think the show jumped the shark. Each of them decided to fuck a stranger who had been drinking for 7 hours. They're both shit. And you're really just an incredibly judgmental prude trying to impose your own values on others by calling it a mutual rape. Nah, Kwark isn't a prude. He does weird shit then tells others that they're the immoral ones. I do shit with consent and tell people who don't do shit with consent that they're the immoral ones. And I don't apologize for it. Well I think you're a shit and immoral person for saying that people are shit for having sex with each other after only knowing each other for 7 hours (of course I agree that it's probably a bad idea and has all sorts of risks), and you should apologise for implying that Drone raped someone who was literally asking for sex. You need to read it again. They didn't know each other for 7 hours. They literally just met. The 7 hours was how much drinking they did before they met. They've never seen in each in a non trashed context, their sober selves are total strangers. And, who cares that they didn't know each other before? Its just sex, its not like they are getting married, adopt a child and buy a flat together while drunk. This discussion doesn't seem to be about consent, it seems to be about (american/anglosaxon) prudery vs "others".
The drunk argument is hilarious. It is actually legal for me to buy Sex while i'm pretty fucking drunk and so it is in many countries, but at least now i know that I would get raped by a prostitute i paid. Basically this.
My experience of anglo saxon countries is that the prevalent idea is that sex in something that happens somewhere on the road of the highly codified and ritualized dating process, or you are a shit person. Which is totally terrifying to a frenchman: we don’t even have a word for date in french ( let alone the need for that totally boring and unimaginative way of approaching someone.)
The fact that Kwak is horrified at the idea that one might want spending the night with a stranger or that some love story might start in a chaotic, drunken way is highly comical to me.
Hell, one of my best friends met a guy at 3am in a bailar in Rio, they ended up spending the night together, and they are nowmarried. According to Kwark, the guy is a rapist and they are both shit people.
It’s a pity this puritan heritage makes many people so horribly judgmental and narrow minded.
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I think it's the same kind of well-intentioned but poor-in-real-life idea behind 'zero tolerance on guns' at schools, where kids get kicked out of school for making their hands into gun shapes or pretending that sticks are guns. They want to prevent actual gun violence and actual rape. Which is fair enough, there's definitely men out there that deliberately target drunk girls in order to 'trick' them into having sex just like there are kids with access to guns who bring them to school for murder sprees. But then they come up with some ludicrous over-the-top standard in an attempt to help. People like KwarK and Plansix seem to buy into that sort of thing a lot.
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On November 22 2017 17:38 a_flayer wrote: I think it's the same kind of well-intentioned but poor-in-real-life idea behind 'zero tolerance on guns' at schools, where kids get kicked out of school for making their hands into gun shapes or pretending that sticks are guns. They want to prevent actual gun violence and actual rape, which is fair enough, but then come up with some ludicrous over-the-top standard in an attempt to achieve that. People like KwarK and Plansix seem to buy into that sort of thing a lot. The problem is that it’s normative and repressive beyond belief. Sex is something intimate and highly personal that people do in a all kind of different contexts without giving anyone the right to judge them « shit ». I am completely feminist and all for defining consent in a rigorous way, but this victorian shit is not a step forward.
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On November 22 2017 17:45 Biff The Understudy wrote: Sex is something intimate and highly personal Right there with you mate. That's why I take so much offense at their views. I feel like they're basically attempting to impose their ideas of consent on my personal experiences by outright shaming me. Calling me a rapist or a rape victim if my views are different from theirs. But it is I who decides when I consent to have sex, not they. And it is my partner who decides when she consents, not they. No matter what they might say or believe or "refuse to apologize for".
edit: It occurs to me that it could also be the difference in our approach to alcohol that creates this difference in perception regarding intoxication and sex specifically. I've been legally drinking alcohol since I was 16, as have most of the girls I've been with (I did sleep with an American once!). It's not legal until you're 21 in many US states. That's bound to increase the amount of people who regret having drunk sex as they learn how to drink.
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On November 22 2017 16:59 Velr wrote: The drunk argument is hilarious. It is actually legal for me to buy Sex while i'm pretty fucking drunk and so it is in many countries, but at least now i know that I then technically would be raped by the prostitute I just paid. A lot of legal definitions for things sound ridiculous if you assume 100% enforcement. But these are situations that don't matter because you never achieve 100% enforcement, and if nobody reports it, the event effectively never happened in the eyes of the law.
This is why Drone's drunk wife hypothetical was pointless to begin with. It's not functionally meaningful to apply a legal standard to a scenario that would never be reported. The only functionally useful way to apply the legal definition of consent is in cases where an abuse is being reported. Constructing hypotheticals like this "raped by a prostitute" scenario where realistically nobody is going to the police after the fact is useless.
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On November 22 2017 18:34 TheYango wrote:Show nested quote +On November 22 2017 16:59 Velr wrote: The drunk argument is hilarious. It is actually legal for me to buy Sex while i'm pretty fucking drunk and so it is in many countries, but at least now i know that I then technically would be raped by the prostitute I just paid. A lot of legal definitions for things sound ridiculous if you assume 100% enforcement. But these are situations that don't matter because you never achieve 100% enforcement, and if nobody reports it, the event effectively never happened in the eyes of the law. This is why Drone's drunk wife hypothetical was pointless to begin with. It's not functionally meaningful to apply a legal standard to a scenario that would never be reported. The only functionally useful way to apply the legal definition of consent is in cases where an abuse is being reported. Constructing hypotheticals like this "raped by a prostitute" scenario where realistically nobody is going to the police after the fact is useless. That’s really, really, really not how the law works. You don’t criminalize everything assuming that only the bad stuff will get reported. That’s bat shit crazy.
It’s like saying « let’s make sex illegal because sometimes sex is rape and consensual sex will never get reported so it doesn’t exist in the eye of the law ». The law is supposed to define what is legal and what is not in a rigorous way. If you make drunk sex illegal, drunk sex is illegal, period. Whether it’s with your wife or with a stranger.
I have to say this conversation in general sheds a very, very dark light on the me too and consent campaigns, that until now had all my support. If the purpose of the whole thing is to enforce anglo-saxon puritan morals into the law, I’m out of the boat.
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Trump's going after trash tier basketball personality LaVar Ball yet again, perhaps to get the heat off the fact that he's supporting someone everyone in Alabama knows is a loving creep.
Unless America's morality declines to the point that electing/supporting creepy men who chase after teenage girls is deemed acceptable provided you're from the correct political party, I don't see any of this really benefiting Trump in the long run.
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But remember the GOP is the party of morals (i read it here), family values and christian righteousness.
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On November 22 2017 17:35 Biff The Understudy wrote:Show nested quote +On November 22 2017 16:59 Velr wrote:On November 22 2017 15:54 KwarK wrote:On November 22 2017 13:32 Myrddraal wrote:On November 22 2017 11:14 KwarK wrote:On November 22 2017 10:41 JonnyBNoHo wrote:On November 22 2017 09:28 a_flayer wrote:On November 22 2017 09:27 KwarK wrote:On November 22 2017 09:19 Liquid`Drone wrote:On November 22 2017 09:02 Plansix wrote: [quote] You didn't provide enough facts to your example. We don't know the relationship of the man and the woman. if they are a couple, it changes the facts. If they get trashed together and agree that they are going to have sex later, it changes the facts. But without additional facts, Kwark's point stands.
As I said before, everyone is so concerned with the amount of booze, rather than the important issue: relationship between the parties involved. One guy went to the club with his buddies. One girl went to the club with her girl friends. They both started pre-gaming at a friends place at 7 pm, then they went to the club around 10. Then they spent a couple hours dancing with strangers, at some point they started looking at each other, started flirting, talked a little bit. At 2 AM, they've both been drinking for 7 hours, people are starting to leave the club, they drunken-stumbly meet up near the entrance and just start making the fuck out. It's really hot and passionate. Guy says I live 5 minutes away wanna come? Girl says 'fuck yes'. They keep making out and grabbing each other while going back to his place. Both of them totally want the other and they end up having sex. The guy mentioned not having a condom, and the girl just went 'I don't fucking care'. Girl wakes up the day after and thinks damn, that was kinda stupid. If there was a rick and morty universe where they decided to define this as 'both of them raping each other', I'd think the show jumped the shark. Each of them decided to fuck a stranger who had been drinking for 7 hours. They're both shit. And you're really just an incredibly judgmental prude trying to impose your own values on others by calling it a mutual rape. Nah, Kwark isn't a prude. He does weird shit then tells others that they're the immoral ones. I do shit with consent and tell people who don't do shit with consent that they're the immoral ones. And I don't apologize for it. Well I think you're a shit and immoral person for saying that people are shit for having sex with each other after only knowing each other for 7 hours (of course I agree that it's probably a bad idea and has all sorts of risks), and you should apologise for implying that Drone raped someone who was literally asking for sex. You need to read it again. They didn't know each other for 7 hours. They literally just met. The 7 hours was how much drinking they did before they met. They've never seen in each in a non trashed context, their sober selves are total strangers. And, who cares that they didn't know each other before? Its just sex, its not like they are getting married, adopt a child and buy a flat together while drunk. This discussion doesn't seem to be about consent, it seems to be about (american/anglosaxon) prudery vs "others".
The drunk argument is hilarious. It is actually legal for me to buy Sex while i'm pretty fucking drunk and so it is in many countries, but at least now i know that I would get raped by a prostitute i paid. Basically this. My experience of anglo saxon countries is that the prevalent idea is that sex in something that happens somewhere on the road of the highly codified and ritualized dating process, or you are a shit person. Which is totally terrifying to a frenchman: we don’t even have a word for date in french ( let alone the need for that totally boring and unimaginative way of approaching someone.) The fact that Kwak is horrified at the idea that one might want spending the night with a stranger or that some love story might start in a chaotic, drunken way is highly comical to me. Hell, one of my best friends met a guy at 3am in a bailar in Rio, they ended up spending the night together, and they are nowmarried. According to Kwark, the guy is a rapist and they are both shit people. It’s a pity this puritan heritage makes many people so horribly judgmental and narrow minded.
Since you are now talking about "the dating process" etc...
I am almost certain that Kwark has absolutely no problem with people who have just met having sex, as long as they are both consenting adults.
The problem in question is not the time that they know each other, but the consent.
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