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Hello guys, I'm back... so much happened yesterday. I couldn't even sleep well, now i feel like a zombie at work rofl. Just for the sake of it, if you don't know what i'm talking about please refer to my previous posts, not that you can't understand what's going on reading just this one...
Bros B4 Hoes
Maybe she's a liar?
Anyway, yesterday I went to watch MiB 3 with my friends, and let me tell you guys, the movie was nice...
I was supposed to go watch MiB3 with my friends... something like 12 people or so. Couple A (her cousin and one of my friends) would be there too. BUT, none of them appeared. It was just me and she. "No problem" I thought, "she would never do something inside the movie room".
Just as we entered the movie room and took our seats she said:
- Isn't nice that there's just us here?
It was a trap, I knew she set up a trap for me and I fell. Thanks to god, she didn't do anything while watching the movie, we talked about how we can't look at Will Smith without remembering fresh prince of bel air (btw EPIC show... and we even sang the opening theme just for fun).
After the movie we walked a bit, we ate pasta together and then, while we were talking about random things I realized, she was so shy. It was strange for me... i mean before yesterday she came on msn directly asking me to go out with her and now acting so differently. I decided to go with the flow by not touching that subject.
And then the beginning of my fall begun. She asked me to drive her home (since she doesn't have a driver's license). While I was driving she began:
She: You know, that night was great
Me: It sure was... it would be better if our friends came
She: Oh.. so you didn't like me, you'd rather be with them?
Me: It's not that.
She: You know, I'm liking you so much
Me: I like you too
She: But you didn't do anything...
Me: I'm not sure yet, there's the whole thing about friend B
She: Oh that? Ok, I'll wait
Me: Thanks.
We arrived at her house and i was ready to go home play some serious sc when she asks: "can't you leave me at the door?". Before I could even think i was at her doorstep. She hugged me and said some words that I don't remember... something like "don't make me wait too much" and so... we shared a kiss. A long one (it wasn't that good though, she don't kiss the way I like, it's not a big problem...)
OH well, shit happens. BUT, THE NIGHT WASN'T OVER YET.
So, i went home, did my things (play some sc, drink some beer...), and decided it was time to go sleep. Then the girl sends a SMS:
She: Are you awake?
Me: Yeah...
She: Oh good, i'd just want you to know, i really like you
Me: Thats good, but, i must say... i'm not sure yet
She: Didn't you like today?
Me: Sure I did, but that whole thing about my friend being gay, this dude telling me you're dating another guy
She: I'm not dating anyone else, stop with that.
Me: Sorry, but I have to many thing on my mind right now
She: No problem, but be sure that i'm just with you
Me: Thanks, hey, can i ask something?
She: Sure
Me: How can you be sure my friend won't be mad if i start going out with you?
She: I already said it, he's gay. He may not admit but hes gay and theres no denying to that fact.
Me: Then why would you date him after he told you that?
She: Ok, i'll tell you. He came and told me he was gay but was attracted to me. That maybe he could be bisexual. And being a bisexual myself, for me it was fine.
Me: Wait, you're bisexual?
She: Yeah, i did have some lebians experiences before but now i'm just going out with guys. Any problems?
Me: No, it's just that i'm surprised.
She: Oh, sorry.... well gotta go sleep
Me: Me too, i have to work tomorrow morning, bye
She: Bye =*
And now i'm going out with a self-declared bisexual girl. I don't have any problems with her being bisexual... wait, I have. Not by her sexual orientation but by other things. While this can explain a lot of things... how she was so direct on msn, Since I find homos more straight to the point than straight people. I don't know how to explain, but to me, they don't play hard to get.
I have yet to talk with her cousin to ask about this other guy she is supposedly dating or if she's really bisexual, I mean, i never knew anything about that, no one ever said that she dated a girl before, maybe she is just a bicurious? And what about my friend? Is he really gay or just another bi-curious? I'll try to set up a date with my friend and her new girl, or I'll just ask him if he's gay or bisexual... Now I need answers.
  
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In my experience girls are a lot more open to sexual experimentation than boys are. I can honestly count on one hand the number of girls I know that have not experimented in some way with another girl. I don't know if they'd jump to calling themselves bisexual, but this girl seems to be pretty quick to throw her words around. I wouldn't take her "i'm bisexual" claim to heart right away. When she suggests another girl joins in with you guys, then maybe I'd buy it (and buy her something nice haha)
I'd suggest holding off with her until you figure everything out (stuff with guy B, was she honest about your friend). If she's telling the truth, your obsession over whether or not she is will ruin things for you (she'll probably get fed up with defending herself all the time). If she's lying, you really really really really want none of that.
Also, I'd strongly suggest not asking your friend if he's gay. That's like breaking the man code. If he is, and hasn't told anyone, there's obviously a reason. He's not comfortable with someone/everyone knowing, and you should respect that. I would mention to him that you like this girl, and that you want his blessing to progress with her. He will respect you for asking him, and if he is in fact gay, I highly doubt he'll tell you not to go for it. Conversely, he may know some things about this girl you don't, and being upfront with him may net you some information about her that you'd want to know going forwards.
It does sound like she likes you, so I would figure out your shit asap. Make some calls, talk to who you need to.
Good luck.
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Russian Federation228 Posts
Good luck man, I really don't know how you can have healthy relationship with the girl after all this..
Go for 3some, I guess?
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On June 01 2012 23:06 Gleen wrote:
After the movie we walked a bit, we ate pasta together and then, while we were talking about random things I realized, she was so shy. It was strange for me... i mean before yesterday she came on msn directly asking me to go out with her and now acting so differently. I decided to go with the flow by not touching that subject.
Who would have thought people act diffrent on the internet then they do in real life.
Seriously though keep it coming this stuff sustains me.
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This blog is freaking insane, it's like a soap opera blog..
Personally, if you are good friends with friend B, then ask him if he is gay, tell what she said. Otherwise, this seems like a big ass mess. (Edit: just read what the guy before said about the man code, so I actually agree with him)
Next time you blog, I will bring popcorn, because your life seems a lot more interesting than mine right now.
Also, good luck with everything.
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This girl has bigger balls than you. Like, way bigger. Go have fun with her, you might learn something. You don't need answers. You need to figure out what you want and stop being a wussy about it.
So what if she dated girls before or not? Knowing is cool, but her openly stating that she's bi is enough to aim for threesomes down the road. What else would you want to know about that for? =P
So what if that friend of you is gay or not? Ask him if he's gonna be pissed if you date girl xy. If he says "YES!!!11" decide if he's worth keeping around and/or if you think he's being silly or if you want to ditch him over this. If he says "No", stop worrying. You don't even care yourself if he's gay or not, you're just making up excuses because you're scared of this girl.
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Lmao I wonder what comes next.
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On June 01 2012 23:29 r.Evo wrote:
This girl has bigger balls than you. Like, way bigger. Go have fun with her, you might learn something. You don't need answers. You need to figure out what you want and stop being a wussy about it.
So what if she dated girls before or not? Knowing is cool, but her openly stating that she's bi is enough to aim for threesomes down the road. What else would you want to know about that for? =P
So what if that friend of you is gay or not? Ask him if he's gonna be pissed if you date girl xy. If he says "YES!!!11" decide if he's worth keeping around and/or if you think he's being silly or if you want to ditch him over this. If he says "No", stop worrying. You don't even care yourself if he's gay or not, you're just making up excuses because you're scared of this girl.
Of course i'm scared of this girl. I live in a small city where everyone knows everyone. HELL, whenever we travel to a nearby town to hang all we find is people from the same city we are! If someone throws shit on the flan, EVERY SINGLE FUCKIN PERSON will know it. I've seen plenty reputations shatered to pieces here.
I have to be careful, can I trust this girl? What i am aiming for isn't a g'old threesome, it's for a relationship with girl i really like. Of course, If i find down the road that i just want have sex, why not go for some threesome action? =p
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On June 01 2012 23:42 Gleen wrote:Show nested quote +On June 01 2012 23:29 r.Evo wrote:
This girl has bigger balls than you. Like, way bigger. Go have fun with her, you might learn something. You don't need answers. You need to figure out what you want and stop being a wussy about it.
So what if she dated girls before or not? Knowing is cool, but her openly stating that she's bi is enough to aim for threesomes down the road. What else would you want to know about that for? =P
So what if that friend of you is gay or not? Ask him if he's gonna be pissed if you date girl xy. If he says "YES!!!11" decide if he's worth keeping around and/or if you think he's being silly or if you want to ditch him over this. If he says "No", stop worrying. You don't even care yourself if he's gay or not, you're just making up excuses because you're scared of this girl. Of course i'm scared of this girl. I live in a small city where everyone knows everyone. HELL, whenever we travel to a nearby town to hang all we find is people from the same city we are! If someone throws shit on the flan, EVERY SINGLE FUCKIN PERSON will know it. I've seen plenty reputations shatered to pieces here. I have to be careful, can I trust this girl? What i am aiming for isn't a g'old threesome, it's for a relationship with girl i really like. Of course, If i find down the road that i just want have sex, why not go for some threesome action? =p
You can't lose in this situation in terms of reputation, only she can.
a) You have sex with her. You find out (which will be damn easy in such an environment) that she is having sex with other guys. You dump her because "You got bored with her". She will be perceived as the slutty town gal, you're just another dude who had fun with her.
b) You have sex with her. She falls in love with you, you fall in love with her and you live happily ever after.
The only bad spot that can happen is that you get together, you fall in love with her heads over tails and then you find out she was just in it for the sex and you will look like a retard to everyone you talked about your "new girlfriend".
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Have fun. Enjoy your time together. If you want to aim for a relationship, do what couples do. Don't talk about any relationship related things, don't change the way you deal with other girls. Don't even talk about whether you're exclusive or not. Enjoy your time, have sex, have fun. If SHE starts with the "Uh... what exactly do we have here?"-talk, don't be afraid to be honest, she won't do that unless she's falling in love (or suspects that you do).
If you don't think that you're able to have sex with her without falling in love instantly and never wanting to look at any other girl anymore... stay away from it.
Edit: You two major things you should keep in mind when you want to have a go at it:
1) Try to be less judgmental and less suspect to gossip. It's not sexy if you worry about guys who gave you the okay and where she tells you they're gay anyway. It's your job to get his okay (if you value it), it's not your job to worry about his feelings.
2) Be more decisive. This girl is highly active in this whole thing, you aren't. For some reason she seems to like you, but that's unlikely to stay if you don't start making moves. Initiate physical things. Don't let her do the work, she won't do it for long.
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Russian Federation228 Posts
Small town you say? Well, be careful, or you will be the next "gay/bisexual" guy.
Wait for more experienced relationship experts. 
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I'm so confused that I don't know what to advise. I would be just as confused and lost in your position.
Nonetheless, this is excellent entertainment so keep it coming! =)
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i can't figure out yet if this blog totally owns or totally sucks but i've been following it closely and i anxiously await the conclusion
[edit] and seeing as how i'm bothering to actually post this, i suppose i'll add a bit of "advice":
as someone before me already suggested, don't ask your friend whether or not he's gay. if you're really good friends and he hasn't elected to tell you, it's not something he's ready / willing to share and you don't want to jeopardize your friendship. but if you ever want to get anywhere with this girl you need to stop pussy-footing around it and talk to your friend about it. tell him that you're interested in her and that you wanted to talk to him first.
if you go straight for the girl without telling him and he really ISN'T gay, not only are you going to get burned by her (because that would mean that she's already lying to you... and for the record from what i've read i really don't think i trust this girl) but you're going to lose a good friend. this girl seems really forward and if you get involved without talking to your friend first, i think you're doomed to lose something either way.
i should also state for the record that if you're not that close of friends with this guy and you just want to get your dick wet, nail this chick because she obviously wants it. just make sure you don't get too involved because i get the impression she's really manipulative and not girlfriend material
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On June 02 2012 00:25 neSix wrote:
i can't figure out yet if this blog totally owns or totally sucks but i've been following it closely and i anxiously await the conclusion
[edit] and seeing as how i'm bothering to actually post this, i suppose i'll add a bit of "advice":
as someone before me already suggested, don't ask your friend whether or not he's gay. if you're really good friends and he hasn't elected to tell you, it's not something he's ready / willing to share and you don't want to jeopardize your friendship. but if you ever want to get anywhere with this girl you need to stop pussy-footing around it and talk to your friend about it. tell him that you're interested in her and that you wanted to talk to him first.
if you go straight for the girl without telling him and he really ISN'T gay, not only are you going to get burned by her (because that would mean that she's already lying to you... and for the record from what i've read i really don't think i trust this girl) but you're going to lose a good friend. this girl seems really forward and if you get involved without talking to your friend first, i think you're doomed to lose something either way.
i should also state for the record that if you're not that close of friends with this guy and you just want to get your dick wet, nail this chick because she obviously wants it. just make sure you don't get too involved because i get the impression she's really manipulative and not girlfriend material
aHAHA this comment made me laugh because I was feeling the same way, couldn't have been more spot-on.
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i have no advice to give you, but i will thank you for reaffirming my decision to remain celibate.
the vag just seems like a gaping hole of drama and all kinds of bad feelings. i'm a keep that jazz away from my zen ass for as long as possible.
edit: wait a second? are you in high school?
does this shit really happen in high school these days? this seriously sounds like something i would see on a cheesy daytime soap. damn what happened to kids playing like power rangers or some shit?
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On June 01 2012 23:29 r.Evo wrote:
This girl has bigger balls than you. Like, way bigger. Go have fun with her, you might learn something. You don't need answers. You need to figure out what you want and stop being a wussy about it.
So what if she dated girls before or not? Knowing is cool, but her openly stating that she's bi is enough to aim for threesomes down the road. What else would you want to know about that for? =P
So what if that friend of you is gay or not? Ask him if he's gonna be pissed if you date girl xy. If he says "YES!!!11" decide if he's worth keeping around and/or if you think he's being silly or if you want to ditch him over this. If he says "No", stop worrying. You don't even care yourself if he's gay or not, you're just making up excuses because you're scared of this girl.
I generally agree with this.
In the end, this girl likes you so if you get on well together and want a girlfriend then go with it.
As others have said don't keep talking about the relationship with her, just hang out and do stuff etc..
Over time you will get to know her better; even if you end up disliking her and break up, but you will still have had good times together which you will remember even if it ends badly. I don't think that will harm your reputation unless you hear more things in the future that would make a relationship with her a bad idea.
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It's really hard to judge that one. Either this girl is just a pretender and a manipulative liar or she is just really straightforward and very interesting. Just try to solve that puzzle by playing it slow but don't keep her waiting too much she might be a nice catch after all.
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On June 02 2012 00:34 sc2superfan101 wrote:
i have no advice to give you, but i will thank you for reaffirming my decision to remain celibate.
the vag just seems like a gaping hole of drama and all kinds of bad feelings. i'm a keep that jazz away from my zen ass for as long as possible.
edit: wait a second? are you in high school?
does this shit really happen in high school these days? this seriously sounds like something i would see on a cheesy daytime soap. damn what happened to kids playing like power rangers or some shit?
Highschool? No, I'm 24, shes 18. What made you think i'm in highschool? haha
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This girl is an ass.
If your friend is gay, she's an ass for telling someone when he obviously hasn't been comfortable telling even his close friends like you.
If your friend is not gay, she's an ass for telling people he is just to spread rumors. (Maybe mad she got caught cheating?)
You don't sound quite comfortable with her pushy aggressiveness, especially without having the answers to what is really going on. Avoid her til you figure that shit out and can make an informed decision.
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Listen to RedJustice. Otherwise Bad Things will happen.
Though Bad Things may make for more entertaining blogs...
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