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It's 4:30am and I am wasting my life away doing worthless crap when I could be working hard to fulfilling my dream. In September, I will take perhaps the most important test in my life, and I am wasting my life away instead of studying. Why am I F'ing my life? It's because I'm afraid to fail. I know that I can succeed, but I'm scared that I will fall short.
Anyone else faced this type of thing? Maybe people do it more subconsciously. Actually, I think a lot of people do it. Like they say they didn't study to explain why they don't get good grades, when in fact, if they dedicated themselves truly then they would succeed. I need to get back on track, my life is going down the wrong road.
Anyone else feel like they aren't going down the road they want to? Let's unite here, and motivate each other. My goal: To study for 10 hours every day, non stop, from now until my exam. I am going to go to bed at 11pm every night. I will wake up at 8am and begin studying. I will succeed.
[Edit]: Exam is for professional school. I'm currently writing my study schedule. It might be a lot of work, but I'll manage the load.
 
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What test are you studying for?
LSAT?
BAR?
MCAT?
Anyways Good luck!
Kinda sucks that OSL/MSL finals are like next week....
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10 hours a day will burn you out and reduce your ability to absorb information, even if you're a disciplined studyer. You should probably try sessions of 2-3 hours with 30 mins-1 hour break in between.
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On August 14 2009 20:35 GrayArea wrote:In September, I will take perhaps the most important test in my life
what test? some sort of college entrance exam? what college you want to go to? if it's some ivy league college consider the cost. it's probably not worth it. for undergraduate any old state university is more than enough. ambition and hard work will get you places, not whatever college you happened to study math1101 in.
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10 hours is too much.
Study in blocks and distract often, go out, read, run. You need to give your brain different kind of work beside studing the same everyday.
You will usually find answers while doing other stuff, and wont stress, so be smart and do many things and study 4-6 hours everyday.
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iirc he was in med school. 10 hours a day is tough. I hope that was only necessary thanks to some procrastination. I would die if I had to study that much.
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I'm also afraid to fail, but I react differently. The final weeks of school when there was a lot of important tests I didn't want the pressure so I just skipped everything and escaped. It might be an extreme approach to this kind of problem but I actually do not regret it at all. I don't have any dream to realize and I don't value social status as much as many people in my surroundings do. It's a self-destructive behaviour, most of the teachers said that the essays I actually wrote were very good and that I'm one of the few students who could analyze things well from different perspectives. I recieved the highest grade on almost all my essays, but I failed most courses and even had to redo a year because of my attitude toward graduating and the school system in general. I believe this has to do with my inability to have dreams. I admire people who work hard to achieve a dream of their own but since I don't have them myself I don't know what I want to do with my life.
"To all you douchebags who are going to post your douchebagness, just watch how I win." What does this mean exactly? Watch how I win? Win the test? Win life? Win in Starcraft?
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I read a book on underachieving at one point. The most common form of it was massive procrastination on school work and study to avoid responsibilities and moving forward in life. Basically the idea is that you like the status quo of your life so much you don't want it to change so instead of doing well, you do average or whatever is needed to maintain your lifestyle. Mr. average means things don't progress much. You also make up tons of excuses around denying that this is your motivation. "I'll do it tomorrow" "It'll be fine later" "but this came up" "I forgot" "The deadline just you know, came up and then I couldn't get it done...I'll do better next time" etc.
I'm not sure about you but this has me pegged.
The way around it is to, and this is important Draw Up a Schedule and Stick To It. After that's done make sure you follow it and get it done day after day. If you don't do a day properly then there's no bullshit. You just say, It was on my schedule, I did not complete it, there is no excuse. I've been trying this out with a running schedule and it's been working really well. If I ever miss a day, even for legit reasons like work calling me in I feel real bad and work harder the day after 
Also I wouldn't run straight in to 10 hours a day, even if your problem is different to mine. That is still destroying how you live right now. It'll burn you right out. I would try to work towards that goal being done by September rather than tomorrow.
Good Luck.
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@Shauni: You must have something that you want to do with your life. Everyone has dreams and aspirations. I think a lot of a people disregard their dreams, or throw them away because they might be so farfetched that they think they will never achieve them. I'm sure if you looked hard enough, you could find at least something that would guide you. Even if you want to become an astronaut, it's possible if you work hard enough.
@FR4CT4L: I'm also doing the schedule right now. I've tried schedules many times before, but I always end up deviating from them. This time will be different, I have to stick to it. I'm glad its working out for you though, gives me more confidence. 10 hours straight might seem a lot, but I'm sure my mind will force me to take breaks when it needs them. I think I'm gonna unplug my internet so I won't get distracted.
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On August 14 2009 20:53 Shauni wrote:
I'm also afraid to fail, but I react differently. The final weeks of school when there was a lot of important tests I didn't want the pressure so I just skipped everything and escaped. It might be an extreme approach to this kind of problem but I actually do not regret it at all. I don't have any dream to realize and I don't value social status as much as many people in my surroundings do. It's a self-destructive behaviour, most of the teachers said that the essays I actually wrote were very good and that I'm one of the few students who could analyze things well from different perspectives. I recieved the highest grade on almost all my essays, but I failed most courses and even had to redo a year because of my attitude toward graduating and the school system in general. I believe this has to do with my inability to have dreams. I admire people who work hard to achieve a dream of their own but since I don't have them myself I don't know what I want to do with my life.
"To all you douchebags who are going to post your douchebagness, just watch how I win." What does this mean exactly? Watch how I win? Win the test? Win life? Win in Starcraft?
that made me incredibly depressed 
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On August 14 2009 20:46 coltrane wrote:
10 hours is too much.
Study in blocks and distract often, go out, read, run. You need to give your brain different kind of work beside studing the same everyday.
You will usually find answers while doing other stuff, and wont stress, so be smart and do many things and study 4-6 hours everyday.
you'll die and break down if you don't add a little variety to your life. good options here
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You won't be passing anything by studying for 10hrs straight.
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I have fucked my life over several times and I have lived more happy after then I ever did before. It only took 14-15 years of fucking my life over untill I found peace of mind and solitude.
You want to study 10 hours every day but that's an unrealistic goal, you need relaxation, social contact, positive input and motivation to keep you going.
Very few people can actually do nothing else than work, work, work without any self-indulgence, you can only keep that up for so long before you crack/breaking point. (Hi depression, burn out or w/e).
During my entire childhood/adolescence I had experiences of living under constant pressure, just doing what your supposed to do in life following the path society has set out for you school/duties etc. And/or never allowed myself pleasure screw it, irrelevant, that is just me.
I don't know what your dream is and wasting your time doing 'worthless crap' that does not contribute to your future, it's good to have that self-awareness and studies/education are one of the most important things in this world if you want to succeed and get ahead in any society as well as developing your own self-growth but don't allow it to be the only thing you ever live for.
The things you can find outside that box, family, friends, hobbies, even the tiny things that can be considered a waste of time/worthless crap but that can make you happy if only for a brief moment.
My point is, studies are important, work is necessary to support yourself but at the end of the day family/friends that support you, doing something you like, relaxing/having fun or watching Fantasy vs Jaedong live are things that can be important to even thou they may seem like a waste. Because they give yourself that positivity and meaning to keep on going studying/working and is the fuel necessary (not really really but you get it) to keep you going.
To some people their job is the only thing that they live for, but when they end up old and alone and have nothing else but to ponder 'where the fuck did my life go working at the post office for 40 years'...well you get it.
Im not trying to give some sort of rule or making a statement or telling you what to do, Im just saying go easy on yourself and do strike a balance between studies and your free time, studying 10 hours a day is pretty extreme and do allow yourself relaxation by doing worthless crap.
-The random stupid ramblings of someone whose education level ended at 16 years. (Youth school)
+ Show Spoiler +Ain't I a great fucking role model, don't listen to me at all haha.
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Hey FR4CT4L, what was the name of the book you read?
And 10 hours a day is so much =o
Personally, I find that the most important thing about studying and learning is to first understand your own studying and learning habits. Stick with what you know yourself to be, not with what you think you are or what you imagine yourself to be. Make your plans with these realities as your guide.
In the past, I used to frequently have moments where I tell myself that I'd study a bazillion hours a day, or spend a bazillion hours working on an assignment, and get 100% on whatever shit I was preparing for. I now know that those moments usually don't last long enough to get you through the bazillion hours.
When you're feeling really pumped, great, use those moments to study at a faster rate than what you normally go at. Just know that you're going to be spending the majority of your studying time in a less elevated mood.
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Hahaha, motivation for studying for a test? Man, I'm the wrong guy for that! ^_^
F'ing up your life though? Been there, done that. I seem to be pretty good at self-destruction.
I study for tests only very rarely. I never take notes. By all accounts, I'm a terrible student. My AP Calc teacher told me at the beginning of my senior year, "if you don't take notes and don't study, you'll have no hope of passing the AP test!" I've heard that so many times before. Now whenever I hear it, I laugh and reply "I accept your challenge!"
All throughout my high school career, I decided I wanted to be a music performance major. I always felt I was only good at playing the clarinet. First semester in college, I had less than a 1.0 GPA. It never even occurred to me that maybe I just didn't want to do this for the rest of my life after all, even after the second semester wasn't much better.
I eventually realized that it wasn't what I really wanted to do. Yeah, sure I had a lot of talent, but I hated practicing. Not a very good thing for a musician, let me tell you.
I'm now attending a community college in my hometown. I despise every moment of it, because I feel so stupid that I couldn't see it sooner. Even now, I'm pretty much pissed at myself because even with a change of study, even in a different school, I still can't do as well as I feel I should be doing. Most people tell me I'm too hard on myself, but I just keep thinking that I could be doing so much better if I just put my mind to it.
My short term goal is to get my associate's degree with a 3.8 GPA or higher. My GPA is currently 3.6, so I basically need perfect grades until I graduate. After that, I'm finally getting out of town again, and hopefully I'll start tearing up the classrooms in a university where that will actually mean something.
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On August 14 2009 20:35 GrayArea wrote:
It's 4:30am and I am wasting my life away doing worthless crap when I could be working hard to fulfilling my dream. In September, I will take perhaps the most important test in my life, and I am wasting my life away instead of studying. Why am I F'ing my life? It's because I'm afraid to fail. I know that I can succeed, but I'm scared that I will fall short.
Anyone else faced this type of thing? Maybe people do it more subconsciously. Actually, I think a lot of people do it. Like they say they didn't study to explain why they don't get good grades, when in fact, if they dedicated themselves truly then they would succeed. I need to get back on track, my life is going down the wrong road.
Anyone else feel like they aren't going down the road they want to? Let's unite here, and motivate each other. My goal: To study for 10 hours every day, non stop, from now until my exam. I am going to go to bed at 11pm every night. I will wake up at 8am and begin studying. I will succeed.
[Edit]: Exam is for professional school. I'm currently writing my study schedule. It might be a lot of work, but I'll manage the load.
Yeah I am like that too, until this summer I worked on it alot. All I can say is, don't wait to be motivated to study, you might wait forever. Anyway, you'll see that when you start working hard, work seems alot more enjoyable. Also, get some realistic objectives, 10hours per day seem alot for someone that don't seem to study much. I'd suggest objectives like "read chapter 3&4 today, and do the exercices from page 100 to 112" etc
good luck
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for me its just because I'm just.. really lazy. I have the desire, but the motivation for some reason is never enough.. I think its my addiction to the internet that's keeping me like this... :l
disconnect the computer/internet for tests lol
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I sometimes get that way too. It's like you get frozen. You have to force yourself to work and somehow you just can't do that very well.
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On August 14 2009 20:53 Shauni wrote:
I'm also afraid to fail, but I react differently. The final weeks of school when there was a lot of important tests I didn't want the pressure so I just skipped everything and escaped. It might be an extreme approach to this kind of problem but I actually do not regret it at all. I don't have any dream to realize and I don't value social status as much as many people in my surroundings do. It's a self-destructive behaviour, most of the teachers said that the essays I actually wrote were very good and that I'm one of the few students who could analyze things well from different perspectives. I recieved the highest grade on almost all my essays, but I failed most courses and even had to redo a year because of my attitude toward graduating and the school system in general. I believe this has to do with my inability to have dreams. I admire people who work hard to achieve a dream of their own but since I don't have them myself I don't know what I want to do with my life.
"To all you douchebags who are going to post your douchebagness, just watch how I win." What does this mean exactly? Watch how I win? Win the test? Win life? Win in Starcraft?
This is exactly how I feel.
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On August 14 2009 22:17 blue_arrow wrote:
Hey FR4CT4L, what was the name of the book you read?
It was this one
"Could Do Better": Why Children Underachieve and What to Do About It
http://www.amazon.com/Could-Do-Better-Children-Underachieve/dp/047115847X
Though it focuses on children it's still pretty dam useful. It's a good read as well. Strong layout and nice progression.
and bright yellow :D
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