EPTHave any of her friends flirted with you in the past?
This is the solution.
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Kennigit
Canada19447 Posts
Have any of her friends flirted with you in the past? This is the solution. | ||
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iNcontroL
USA29055 Posts
On July 20 2009 02:48 Jayme wrote: Everytime I read threads like this I get confused. Is the concept of trust foreign now? Like when I get into a relationship with someone at this point you should really really like said person and give them the benefit of the doubt in most situations. What the hell is the point of a relationship if you don't have just about near unconditional trust in them to "allow" them to go somewhere on their own... Then again I don't bother to get into a relationship just to be in one, I actually have to give a shit about the other person. Maybe he trusts her but not the guy. Maybe her "cluelessness" makes for problems he'd rather (shouldn't) deal with. Trusting someone is fine.. but trusting someone who puts themselves in reckless situations is bad. It isn't like this is some great friend who is being purely platonic.. he has a history of faggotry. I love tl.net's over emphasized sense of macho. "MY WOMAN DOES WHATEVER CAUSE AT THE END OF THE DAY blah blah blah" | ||
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ZpuX
Sweden1230 Posts
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vlaric
United States412 Posts
On July 20 2009 02:51 {88}iNcontroL wrote: Maybe he trusts her but not the guy. Maybe her "cluelessness" makes for problems he'd rather (shouldn't) deal with. Trusting someone is fine.. but trusting someone who puts themselves in reckless situations is bad. It isn't like this is some great friend who is being purely platonic.. he has a history of faggotry. I love tl.net's over emphasized sense of macho. "MY WOMAN DOES WHATEVER CAUSE AT THE END OF THE DAY blah blah blah" LOL | ||
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kOre
Canada3642 Posts
Why? They continue to hit on her and try shit even though they know she is already taken. Yet, she won't let me do anything about it because they are her "friends". Takes all I have to restrain myself from going all psycho-im-going-to-fucking-shoot-you on them. What I mean by "clueless" is that she keeps telling me nothing is going to happen even when she is drunk/high. But I know that when these guys see an opportunity they are going to take it. | ||
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SirNeb
United States243 Posts
What I'm hearing are actually these questions: "Can I trust my gf?" or "Why am I so insecured?" | ||
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Olorin.SVK
Slovakia136 Posts
On July 20 2009 02:10 Chef wrote: If you don't trust her the relationship is already over. This. Really. If you think she can do whatever with that guy, there is something wrong. I know it feels kinda unconfortable for you, but you just have to trust her. Also talk about it with her if it is that big of a deal for you. | ||
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piratebay
United States399 Posts
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piratebay
United States399 Posts
On July 20 2009 03:02 piratebay wrote: return the favor. find a girl to go hang out with alone. *edit* whichever mod that said bang her best friends, do this. | ||
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PaeZ
Mexico1627 Posts
And guys he clearly has a reason to feel bad about this, specially if she is going to get drunk and smoke ALONE with another guy whose testosterone will kick in and try to hit on her. | ||
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Smu
Serbia164 Posts
It's very important for a relationship that she feels for you. That's not something you can talk over. If she isn't all over you and caring from the start, you can't change that about her. She either doesn't care about you very much to begin with or is just a heartless bitch in general. Avoid like the plague. | ||
DivinO
United States4796 Posts
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Vilda
Sweden111 Posts
You might not trust the guy, but it takes two to tango. If you really do trust her one guy wouldn't really matter, would he? lol. | ||
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Chef
10810 Posts
On July 20 2009 02:54 kOre wrote: I trust her, I don't trust the guys that she is with. Why? They continue to hit on her and try shit even though they know she is already taken. Yet, she won't let me do anything about it because they are her "friends". Takes all I have to restrain myself from going all psycho-im-going-to-fucking-shoot-you on them. What I mean by "clueless" is that she keeps telling me nothing is going to happen even when she is drunk/high. But I know that when these guys see an opportunity they are going to take it. You don't trust her not to reject his advances or leave if he starts pawing her. "Trust" is more than just a word. Unless you're afraid of him raping her, than it's not really your point. And if you think she's so dumb she won't notice he's feeling her up, maybe that's a reason not to trust her either. Honestly, it sounds like you must be going out with a 15 year old. If you're so desperate to be in a relationship, fine, tell her you don't want her to go. Your relationship will never get any deeper than it is right now and you can expect it to end within a year. If you're not desperate, you might as well dump her now or learn to trust her. | ||
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KinosJourney2
Sweden1811 Posts
On July 20 2009 02:48 Kennigit wrote: Just tell her "if you can't show me some respect by NOT going out with a guy who is clearly interested in you then we obviously have way bigger issues here.,,, Your call." if she goes, dump her immediately - then fuck one of her friends as SOON as possible. The last part is key because you don't want to be seen as the needy boyfriend who couldn't handle her going out with other guys but rather the asshole who got mad and then was like ROLFOLROLOLRFOLOLOL BRB FUCKING YOU FRIEND! Have any of her friends flirted with you in the past? This is the solution. Lol, this is made of win. | ||
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iNcontroL
USA29055 Posts
rofl You guys are so fucking manly! I Envy the cock sizes around here. /barf | ||
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Vilda
Sweden111 Posts
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unknown.sam
Philippines2701 Posts
on the one hand i feel that telling your gf to stop hanging out w/ someone (esp a penis) would be unfair (i wouldn't wanna be told to stop hanging out w/ any of my friends) but on the other hand the guy has been known to put a few moves on your gf. i guess me trying to be a rational bf would say to lessen the amount of time they hang out. if she keeps insisting that nothing will happen bla bla then you'll just have to work around it if you think she's worth all that trouble..but if you really can't hack it, there's always the easy way out. | ||
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Gliche
United States811 Posts
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Orlandu
China2450 Posts
On July 20 2009 03:43 Vilda wrote: Lol inc, if my guy told me he didn't want me to hang out with a friend of mine because the guy had hit on me before I'd give him the finger and tell him to FO -_- but then again I'd never cheat on him either.. Attitudes like that are terribly disrespectful... That's great if things are working out well for you, but you need to know, that's a pretty disrespectful way to treat someone. To tell them that how they feel doesn't matter, that you don't care about their worries. Trust is something that is built up, not something that you're automatically entitled to. Whether they truly have trust for you or not, pulling stuff like what's quoted definitely isn't going to help build up any more trust. The guy has a legit reason to be concerned. Maybe he's overreacting, maybe he's not. We don't know all the details or all the sides, but it sounds like he's got a good reason to at least be concerned. I don't think this is an issue of him trusting the girl or not. This is him being uncomfortable with a situation that clearly smells. There's nothing wrong with that. Even if the girl is completely trustworthy and loyal, that doesn't mean that something bad can't happen. | ||
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