I don't think he is controlling.

The dude tried to do some shit with his gf KNOWING she was taken.. and asks again anyways?

Your gf is trouble (from this very limited point of view). Going out drinking and enjoying a hookah with 1 other guy, a guy who tried to seduce her anyways.. is no good.

BBS

Germany204 Posts

July 19 2009 17:20 GMT

#22

i'd clrearly tell my gf that she shall stay away from those idiots if it's serious to her, because i'd never do something like that to her. say it straight out!

Kennigit

Canada19447 Posts

July 19 2009 17:20 GMT

#23

Options
1) Punch this kid in the head
2) Drop her
3) Punch this kid in the head, then drop her

most important question for framing. How old are you?

kOre

Canada3642 Posts

July 19 2009 17:22 GMT

#24

I'm 21, I like option number 1.

anderoo

Canada1876 Posts

July 19 2009 17:23 GMT

#25

I'd go with option 3 personally
sure you'll solve the problem short term by punching the kid in the head, but it's not like there are only 2 guys in th whole world who are going to try to fuck your gf

edit: and if she's not gonna tell them to fuck off then ditch her

NiTenIchiRyu

United Kingdom273 Posts

July 19 2009 17:24 GMT

#26

shisha (kind of like weed)

Shisha is just another term for hookah and that's basically smoking tobacco through a water pipe so it's not even remotely related to weed.

kOre

Canada3642 Posts

July 19 2009 17:24 GMT

#27

On July 20 2009 02:24 NiTenIchiRyu wrote:
shisha (kind of like weed)

Shisha is just another term for hookah and that's basically smoking tobacco through a water pipe so it's not even remotely related to weed.

Okay well yeah I never really did have any idea what it was.

Xeofreestyler

Belgium6771 Posts

July 19 2009 17:24 GMT

#28

Either she's completely oblivious to what this guy wants or she's got no respect

I'd say go with Sean Connery's advice.

lovelyrose

Canada160 Posts

July 19 2009 17:24 GMT

#29

if you have to stop your g/f from cheating, what's the point?

kOre

Canada3642 Posts

July 19 2009 17:25 GMT

#30

On July 20 2009 02:23 anderoo wrote:
I'd go with option 3 personally
sure you'll solve the problem short term by punching the kid in the head, but it's not like there are only 2 guys in th whole world who are going to try to fuck your gf

edit: and if she's not gonna tell them to fuck off then ditch her

Guess since there won't be just 2, I'll have to punch every kid in the head lol

On July 20 2009 02:24 lovelyrose wrote:
if you have to stop your g/f from cheating, what's the point?

She isn't, she's just really clueless.

MiniRoman

Canada3953 Posts

July 19 2009 17:25 GMT

#31

Do you not smoke/drink? Forbiding her to not do something she wants to will piss her off. I made a new friend when I had a gf and she had a bf and we chilled and got high and drank and shit alone. My gf at the time didn't care, her bf didn't care. Neither of us did anything besides hang out. It's just fun to drink and smoke ~~

And if you punch the kid in the head for wanting to hang out with your gf she'll just think you're crazy and not want to be with you. Just let it go.

anderoo

Canada1876 Posts

July 19 2009 17:25 GMT

#32

lol, if you have the hands for it

kOre

Canada3642 Posts

July 19 2009 17:27 GMT

#33

On July 20 2009 02:25 MiniRoman wrote:
Do you not smoke/drink? Forbiding her to not do something she wants to will piss her off. I made a new friend when I had a gf and she had a bf and we chilled and got high and drank and shit alone. My gf at the time didn't care, her bf didn't care. Neither of us did anything besides hang out. It's just fun to drink and smoke ~~

I don't really smoke because it's bad for your health (I breakdance so I can't do that shit) and drinking I can handle my alcohol pretty well while she can't so I would rather she drink when I'm with her because of what could happen.

The dude tried to do some shit with his gf KNOWING she was taken.. and asks again anyways?

brian

United States9620 Posts

July 19 2009 17:31 GMT

#34

i mean look at it this way

your girlfriend has friends right? are you trying to say there should be rules as to when and how she spends time with them?

Its just a matter of whether or not your girlfriend is trustworthy, like it or not. I'm the most jealous BF on the planet. I was pissed off one night just because she was out at 5 am. She was with a good girlfriend of hers. Any good reason? no. It's entirely irrational. just something you have to come to terms with.

also, turns out she is now my ex and not trustworthy.

brian

United States9620 Posts

July 19 2009 17:33 GMT

#35

if the dude is trying to make moves, he's in the wrong and your girlfriend is either a moron or trying to make you jealous.

I would call out the dude.

On July 20 2009 02:27 kOre wrote:

I don't really smoke because it's bad for your health (I breakdance so I can't do that shit) and drinking I can handle my alcohol pretty well while she can't so I would rather she drink when I'm with her because of what could happen.

she's old enough to take care of herself. are you sure you dont mean you'd prefer she drink with you because you want to keep an eye on her? (asking for introspection purposes)

MrHoon

10183 Posts

July 19 2009 17:35 GMT

#36

On July 20 2009 02:25 kOre wrote:

Show nested quote +

She isn't, she's just really clueless.

How clueless could a person be?
I don't know how old your girlfriend is but I highly doubt a girl could be that 'clueless'

Hammy

France828 Posts

July 19 2009 17:37 GMT

#37

Sorry to nitpick, but Shisha is NOT at all like weed.

On July 20 2009 02:10 Steelflight-Rx wrote:
shisha is a type of tobacco product that you smoke out of a hookah

That really depends on the dialect. Yes, in egypt shisha is the tobacco, but in north africa shisha is the hookah itself (also called arguilé or narguilé in the middle east, which is probably the place where it's most anchored in the culture).

I guess I wanted to clarify that because i've got one running in my hands right now :s

edit: kay : ) someone else corrected that before me

Zinfandel

Canada115 Posts

July 19 2009 17:40 GMT

#38

I say let it play out on its own (even though it'll probably eat you up inside while it's happening). Let her go out with the guy. Let the guy hit on her again. See what she does. See if when she gets home she realizes what a creep this other guy is, or whether she likes this other guy, or what... If by the time she gets back (assuming the other guy makes a pass at her again) she doesn't realize that this guy is into her... then she's oblivious (read: dumb)... and then you have a choice... she's probably going to continue to be dumb and give you stupid problems like these (in which case if you've got balls and any self-respect: you dump her)... or you keep putting yourself through these situations where your girlfriend goes on dates (yep, I said it) with other guys while she's technically committed to you...

SK.Testie

Canada11084 Posts

July 19 2009 17:47 GMT

#39

She isn't clueless. She's trouble.

Jayme

United States5866 Posts

July 19 2009 17:48 GMT

#40

Everytime I read threads like this I get confused.

Is the concept of trust foreign now?

Like when I get into a relationship with someone at this point you should really really like said person and give them the benefit of the doubt in most situations.

What the hell is the point of a relationship if you don't have just about near unconditional trust in them to "allow" them to go somewhere on their own...

Then again I don't bother to get into a relationship just to be in one, I actually have to give a shit about the other person.