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On July 18 2009 01:42 MrHoon wrote:
man thread titles these days are so misleading
I was hoping for some huge irl drama
This.
I had a friend who broke up with his ex and found out a few months later that she was pregnant. He has a 2 or 3 year old daughter now. The dumb ass didn't wear a condom. Or even at least pull out lol.
Anyways, this blog is a lot less dramatic than I was suspecting. It's not really your problem, but I guess she was just reminding you as a friendly concern just in case it at least matters to you at all
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On July 18 2009 02:27 EvilTeletubby wrote: He wants to know WHY she called him. After 14 months, why?
Not well integrated socially in Germany & lonely. This may be why she got pregnant on vacation in Bulgaria too I guess...
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On July 18 2009 02:27 EvilTeletubby wrote:Pfffffft, damn, we need more females to post on here, because so far no one has got it right... everyone is just "thank god you're not the father", etc. Which yes, that's the right reaction for a guy, but... He wants to know WHY she called him. After 14 months, why? Because she still cares about him, because they were just 'dating other people', and there was always the possibility that they could get back together, and maybe she secretly wanted that. That possibility, however small, was always there, so she never acted on it. With a baby on the way, that possibility is basically gone. Essentially, she was calling you to say the possibility of you and her being together was gone, and maybe she needed that closure to know for sure that you had moved on to. Or maybe she was hoping you'd put up your last stand and make a play for her. *shrugs* I bet she didn't know what she wanted herself, women never do. Women just hate not knowing what our feelings/thoughts are (even though we usually don't have any, they never believe us). Anyways, that's my take on it, but my fiance actually says I'm wrong too, lol. 
That's a gem of a post ETT. I hope the OP reads it.
My humble take is that she's probably very scared at this point. If she was going to raise the child she would need support. A part of her (however small) wanted to ring you, just in case you would meet her and maybe get back together. She knew it was a ridiculous long shot, but I guess she still trusts you more than this other guy.
Everything has now changed for her.
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On July 18 2009 01:20 JWD wrote:
Try to be friendly and supportive, but don't get too involved. This is really between her and her new boyfriend...I foresee danger if you get too close and let yourself fall for her again.
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yeah.. what does she expect you to say..? heh.
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On July 18 2009 02:43 disciple wrote:
having the baby and going back home has nothing to do with him. She just wanted to tell me that she will have the child no matter what, even if he has smth against it. I'm just guessing she will marry the guy, cause thats what I would do.
and I really really want to be taken as a person and not as a banner / wallpaper guy... I'm doing gfx stuff for the community, because I'm enjoying it, I dont see it as a work or service...
okay i'm not trying to be mean but if you already knew all of this why are you making this blog and asking everyone why you think she called when you really don't care in the first place i feel that you might have some misplaced issues with this young woman that might have never really had disovled.
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Not your burden to bear bro.
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I care a lot about her, it was just so that we could'nt 'just be friends'
This doesnt mean, that I have no interest in whats going on with her. As I said, I respect her a lot, but I really dont know how to help or to support her right now, cause I'm not part of her life for a very long time now. Therefore I dont understand why she called me in first place. I'm just a long good memory thats all
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On July 18 2009 03:30 disciple wrote:
I care a lot about her, it was just so that we could'nt 'just be friends'
This doesnt mean, that I have no interest in whats going on with her. As I said, I respect her a lot, but I really dont know how to help or to support her right now, cause I'm not part of her life for a very long time now. Therefore I dont understand why she called me in first place. I'm just a long good memory thats all
Don't you think it has something to do with all her priorities changing?
Suddenly she realises she needs to be with someone that she can really trust, you're that person.
Even though she'd never admit it, I bet she wishes she was still with you right now.
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Well girls have weird memory so 14months is nothing. Girls I've had various forms of relationships with can drag up stories for an infinite time in the past. Yesterday a girl i hooked up with a few times for some unknown reason got mad at me and started talking about a girl I made out with at a party 7years ago. Havent seen that girl since that night so the logic for bringing that up is something a guy could never understand.
Women are like elephants, never forget anything.
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On July 18 2009 01:38 fanatacist wrote:Show nested quote +On July 18 2009 01:37 Marradron wrote:
I agree with nyovne.
Why would she contact you after 14 months of no contact.
If you had become friends after the relation it might have been difrent.
But now just stay out of it imo Girls use you as a shoulder to cry on, they feel good about the fact that a guy they haven't spoken to in over a year is willing to hear their shit. That's how they raise their self-esteem.
Your an epitome of information on how to deal with women
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On July 18 2009 03:49 StorrZerg wrote:Show nested quote +On July 18 2009 01:38 fanatacist wrote:On July 18 2009 01:37 Marradron wrote:
I agree with nyovne.
Why would she contact you after 14 months of no contact.
If you had become friends after the relation it might have been difrent.
But now just stay out of it imo Girls use you as a shoulder to cry on, they feel good about the fact that a guy they haven't spoken to in over a year is willing to hear their shit. That's how they raise their self-esteem. Your an epitome of information on how to deal with women
Yea I have some know-how. I'm no Kennigit though.
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I think what you did was good.
You supported her, I suppose?
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On July 18 2009 02:41 MoltkeWarding wrote:Show nested quote +On July 18 2009 02:29 Naib wrote:
This blog serves two purposes:
1, laughing at another 'logical' Moltke comment (Jesus, could you be more pretentious?)
2, teaching disciple that even though "hole" and "whole" are pronounced in a similar way, they are different words.
I.e. "this whole situation" etc.
This isn't flamebait, I love your banners disciple, and as a fellow Bisu zealot you have my full support in whatever you do! I am doing a presentation on Anglo-Hungarian relations next week. Mind if I use your post to exhibit the differences between English and Hungarian humour?
Please don't take him as our representative
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On July 18 2009 03:40 Eatme wrote:
Well girls have weird memory so 14months is nothing. Girls I've had various forms of relationships with can drag up stories for an infinite time in the past. Yesterday a girl i hooked up with a few times for some unknown reason got mad at me and started talking about a girl I made out with at a party 7years ago. Havent seen that girl since that night so the logic for bringing that up is something a guy could never understand.
Women are like elephants, never forget anything.
This is the opposite of my experiences. My ex doesnt remember shit whereas I vividly remember every detail. Ive always had a good long term memory though, and she always had a shitty one.
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On July 18 2009 04:33 Mastermind wrote:Show nested quote +On July 18 2009 03:40 Eatme wrote:
Well girls have weird memory so 14months is nothing. Girls I've had various forms of relationships with can drag up stories for an infinite time in the past. Yesterday a girl i hooked up with a few times for some unknown reason got mad at me and started talking about a girl I made out with at a party 7years ago. Havent seen that girl since that night so the logic for bringing that up is something a guy could never understand.
Women are like elephants, never forget anything. This is the opposite of my experiences. My ex doesnt remember shit whereas I vividly remember every detail. Ive always had a good long term memory though, and she always had a shitty one.
You obviously either
1. Cared more about her than her about you
2. Had a harder time moving on than she did (who left who, and on what circumstances)
or
3. You have a feminine romantic mind and she has a male one.
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On July 18 2009 04:33 Mastermind wrote:Show nested quote +On July 18 2009 03:40 Eatme wrote:
Well girls have weird memory so 14months is nothing. Girls I've had various forms of relationships with can drag up stories for an infinite time in the past. Yesterday a girl i hooked up with a few times for some unknown reason got mad at me and started talking about a girl I made out with at a party 7years ago. Havent seen that girl since that night so the logic for bringing that up is something a guy could never understand.
Women are like elephants, never forget anything. This is the opposite of my experiences. My ex doesnt remember shit whereas I vividly remember every detail. Ive always had a good long term memory though, and she always had a shitty one.
Well this girl is far from the only one doing stuff like that. Dragging up random girls they know about from my past. Dont even have to be one I've done anything with, could be an old classmate or whatever. As long as it is a girl that I know or knew it seems to fly. Sure I remember those girls too but I dont know what it would have to do with anything the girl and I are talking about at the moment.
Oddly enough they dont mention my past girlfriends. Maybe just havent happend yet.
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I don't really see the point of this thread, her being pregnant has nothing to do with you lol./
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On July 18 2009 02:27 EvilTeletubby wrote:Pfffffft, damn, we need more females to post on here, because so far no one has got it right... everyone is just "thank god you're not the father", etc. Which yes, that's the right reaction for a guy, but... He wants to know WHY she called him. After 14 months, why? Because she still cares about him, because they were just 'dating other people', and there was always the possibility that they could get back together, and maybe she secretly wanted that. That possibility, however small, was always there, so she never acted on it. With a baby on the way, that possibility is basically gone. Essentially, she was calling you to say the possibility of you and her being together was gone, and maybe she needed that closure to know for sure that you had moved on to. Or maybe she was hoping you'd put up your last stand and make a play for her. *shrugs* I bet she didn't know what she wanted herself, women never do. Women just hate not knowing what our feelings/thoughts are (even though we usually don't have any, they never believe us). Anyways, that's my take on it, but my fiance actually says I'm wrong too, lol.
On July 18 2009 06:20 CharlieMurphy wrote:
I don't really see the point of this thread, her being pregnant has nothing to do with you lol./
They were together for 4 years right? And broke up only because they were in different cities.
I wouldn't say she had a feelings for him after breaking up for so long, more like she needed to tell that someone she has been close with and possibly edit2 hear some comfort? And nothing more?
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just in case
Maury always gets to the down and dirty truth
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