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[H]So, I like this girl... - Page 2
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paper
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don't do anything stupid and see how everything goes :} | ||
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Aepplet
Sweden2908 Posts
On January 22 2008 15:02 pyrogenetix wrote: its like pvz lategame where for some reason all you got is goons goons and more goons and two reavers and you see a nation of hydras coming towards you and you wonder to urself where the fuck your zealots are and why the fuck leg upgrades arent even rollin. priceless analogy! | ||
Sigrun
United States1655 Posts
Rofl, awesome analogy. XD | ||
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imBLIND
United States2626 Posts
Seriously, just do stuff with her lol. | ||
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clazziquai
6685 Posts
well the girl i liked used everyone and is an evil bitch in the inside. anyways my advice: GO FOR IT! you have nothing to lose | ||
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OverTheUnder
United States2929 Posts
On January 22 2008 15:02 pyrogenetix wrote: best bet imo otherwise, the most fucked up thing that could happen is the pile of deep shit you are in now. when you meet a girl you think to urself OK "is she girlfriend material?" if yes then treat her like crap. dont be nice. dont be all O SHI i got plans but ill move all my shit aside to make time for you. if you got shit to do, then DO IT. if its friend material then treat her like a friend. help her with hwk, talk shit together, talk shit abt other etc etc but do not, under any circumstances THEN FALL IN LOVE WITH HER. cuz in her mind you've been labelled as friend material aaaaaand the metamorphosis from friend to BOYfriend is a painful, confusing and for the most part, unsuccessful move. normally i treat everyone like crap and then if its not kickin, THEN i start being nice and befriend her. man i cant count the number of times i fell for my female friends and how shitty, awkward and painful it all ended up. its a shitty place to be. its like pvz lategame where for some reason all you got is goons goons and more goons and two reavers and you see a nation of hydras coming towards you and you wonder to urself where the fuck your zealots are and why the fuck leg upgrades arent even rollin. all you asians be crazy xD seriously though...don't ask a friend..that was something you did in middle school, don't do it as it shows a severe lack of confidence in the guy and a huge case of pussyitius:O I'm not saying it wont turn out ok but it is a horrible habit to get in to. There is also one thing I never got about this idea...... ok, if some guy came up to me and asked...."do you like *mary*" that would be a HUGE fucking red light that mary has been talking to people about you or asked him to ask you or something like that. The only thing that changes with that situation is that you aren't directly there asking yourself, but instead a little msnger girl that might as well have your name tattooed all over their body. edit: I hope everything works out, it is so hard for people to analyze shit that they are only told about or given one perspective. I'm sure several ppl here could watch your interactions with her for a few days and tell if she liked you or not...it is always much harder to to see obvious hints when you are the person involved;p | ||
IntoTheWow
is awesome32277 Posts
"So, I like this girl...", "Girl help", "Computer Help", "Religious thread", etc. In that order. | ||
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indecision
Germany818 Posts
And ontopic: Tell her, find yourself in the friendzone, get over it and find someone else, profit! | ||
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Scorpion
United States1974 Posts
On January 22 2008 21:39 indecision wrote: this picture so is a fat-girl angleshot... And ontopic: Tell her, find yourself in the friendzone, get over it and find someone else, profit! She's not fat IRL... she's short+skinny :3 | ||
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ChkChk.Boom
United States140 Posts
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Jayson X
Switzerland2431 Posts
On January 22 2008 14:38 Scorpion wrote: It's weird cause I didn't want to hang out with friends or anything, I'd just constantly think about her; I'd ditch my friends sometimes so I could talk to her, and if I did end up going with my friends, I'd just text her the entire time. I once stayed on MSN all night talking with her at a friends house >_> Yeah, I talked with her all night on MSN. That's how 'serious' you could say things would get. I've seen some weird answers in your blog. Listen my friend. You are young, you fell in love, that happens. Nothing stings longer than a lost chance in terms of love. You know what you got to do, all you're looking for is either a confidence boost, or an excuse to not open your heart. All these excuses and sideroads here might sound promissing because you don't have to go all-in on this girl. You can't be friends with here, not like this. You know that. You wan't the big pie, the full price, the chicken supreme, the big bingo family toaster jackpot. Here is the situation. You like here being around she likes you. That's the basis we have here that's at least for certain. Or in other words she does not switch roadlanes as soon as she sees you. Now you wrote you wan't her to get her feelings out first, wich would be a really convenient way. But if she thinks the same, you dance around each other going nowhere and she might eventually go for the other guy. I don't say it happens, but it's a worst case cenario. Here is what you do. To enforce the moment of truth one has to get rid of the surrounding. It might take balls, and you feel like dying before the moment comes but it's the best way for someone as afraid as you. All you do is ask her out to a place where you are alone. You don't wan't to go for locations like the forrest or your "secret place" under the bridge. Kinda kills the motivation. You don't have to be complety alone, but places like restaurants, bars, dinners are not your place to go because everything around you can kill time and build up a moment where you guys could distract yourself from each other. A neutral place of interest for both. So here's the deal. Do you meet there? No you go there togheter and while you're walking magic happens. From your posts both of you have expirience in using your legs while you're around each other. Good thing. Forget roses and other presents. These are strong symbols and take away your chance to build up. Ok what to do next. You're walking and you have enough willpower to at least talk about some crap you don't even give a shit now. All you wan't is to get to the bottom of her heart. You see the bridge infront of you but you don't know how save it is to walk over. If you go to fast it breaks, if you go to slow you might end up not even take one step on the bridge. One might think! Here's were lot's of guys think that there is only one chance and they fuck it up completly if it goes wrong. Wrong wrong wrong. But we're right in the middle of something. So what is it what you have to do? You're walking, your body is melting, your mouth talking about some random thing she might not even understand. WHAT TO DO? WHAT TO SAY? WHAT TO THINK? SMILE? LAUGH? CRY? SCREAM? OH GAWD YOU'RE SO AFRAID YOU WAN'T TO CURSE BUT YOU CAN'T!! And then you stop. You end the conversation abrupt. You stand still focusing her. And from here on you're in the zone. Everything around you fades away. Blood veins bursting, eyes burning, knees folding, kittys crying, houses collapsing, stars exploding. And then you open your mouth and .. gna gotta go my boss is back from lunchbreak. cya, write you later. | ||
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Titusmaster6
United States5937 Posts
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QuanticHawk
United States32097 Posts
On January 22 2008 20:28 IntoTheWow wrote: Teamliquid magical words: "So, I like this girl...", "Girl help", "Computer Help", "Religious thread", etc. In that order. What if there was a thread that incorporated all of these topics into one? Would TL crash and burn?! | ||
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FirstBorn
Romania3955 Posts
On January 22 2008 23:54 Hawk wrote: What if there was a thread that incorporated all of these topics into one? Would TL crash and burn?! No, a black hole would open and draw all the mods in it. More on topic, tell her. If she see's you as a friend, it won't matter if you tell her after a romantic dinner (from your Pov) or on the road to school.She'll be surprised. It's up to you from there on. If she see's you as a man, pls read any of rekrul's threads and you'll be sleeping with her in no time. | ||
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Chef
10810 Posts
(and she stole my phone once and put her phone number in it :D) so we're able to talk even more. If this was recent, I think she likes you ;P IMO it's not really worth it to be friends with a girl you want more from. So make a move and see how it goes. | ||
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nA.Inky
United States794 Posts
Solution: you must sack up. Time to grow some balls, my friend! What you are looking for does not exist: you want a situation of total security where you can be safe no matter what (which is why you want all these signals from her without offering any of your own). You don't want to risk embarassment. The thing is, life is dirty! The only life worth living is one in which you take some risks. You gotta put yourself out there and try things and risk being embarassed or shot down. When you do this, and you succeed, the exhilaration and fulfillment is priceless. You may get shot down. She may say she just wants friendship and you might feel a bit silly for having said anything. But she might very well be feeling the same thing as you and be thrilled that you said something (women usually expect the dude to make the first move on these things - unfortunate, but that's how it is.) You just gotta do it. The more you put yourself out there, the more you realize how painless and easy it really is. In fact, if you do get shot down, it'll be good for you. IT'll show you that you can get back up and be totally fine. It'll put you on the fast track to finding someone who WON'T shoot you down (you can move on!) Getting shot down is no big deal, and most people won't be cruel to you if they aren't interested - if anything, she will try to spare your feelings. That's probably your worst case scenario - she will gently let you down. Best case scenario, you got yourself a special lady friend. The possible gains far outweigh the risks (the risk is so insigificant, dude). Well, most people here will disagree with ol' InkLor, but my way of handling things has always been very straight forward. I don't like mind games, so I don't really play them. I just say what's on my mind. Sometimes I do it in a humorous way, as if to make fun of myself, but I still say what I want. So I'd tell her I was interested in her, and blah blah (do it in YOUR way, though - you're the one doing it.) Or I might just be doing something with her and ask her if I could hold her hand. Cheesy, but if she lets you, you got yourself a green light to keep moving forward, and if not, you kinda know where you stand. One thing you'll learn as you get more experience is that if vibes are good with a woman, you probably have some relationship potential. What I mean is, if you can talk a lot and both enjoy it and it isn't forced, if she smiles or laughs a lot with you, and if you both seem to enjoy each others company, you have a green light to try to take it to the next level. It's really about that simple. If things feel good, they are good. Sounds like you have the foundation, so take the next step. While I think being straight forward is great, don't come on too strong. Don't profess your deep love for this woman - that would be too much pressure. Just let her know you are interested in her romantically (the hand holding thing does this.) Just step lightly, but keep moving forward. Realize that if it doesn't work out, you are fine and there is someone better for you out there. Getting shot down is no big deal. Sounds like you have a good shot anyway. You should update your blog to let everyone know what happened. | ||
Jibba
United States22883 Posts
She put her number on your phone and stayed up talking to you all night on MSN. I think that's a bright green light. | ||
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nA.Inky
United States794 Posts
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JensOfSweden
Cameroon1767 Posts
Also, don't put the girl on a piedestal because that will only make you feel awkward and inferior around her. Just go with the flow and try to make some gestures that shows her that you like her. Go for the romantic, classic stuff like roses and chocolate. Girls have seen that in "cute" movies so many times and I don't know of a single girl who wouldn't be happy to recieve those items along with you saying "I like you". | ||
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fight_or_flight
United States3988 Posts
And make sure you look at her in the eyes when you talk (jk, sorry couldn't help it;)) | ||
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