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On January 25 2008 09:21 Yuljan wrote:
Dont confess to her. Go invite her to someplace only the two of you. Nothing too romantic or too casual. When the athmosphere feels right just try to kiss her (dont rush it so she isnt taken by surprise) . If she rejects dont get all awkward and weird just shrug it off and see if she wants to go home or still spend some time. Your decision what to do afterwards, but better than just telling her how you feel.
My friend was telling me to do something like this(apparently it works). Then it reminded me of a time when my other friend liked this girl, but she got a boyfriend, but he didn't care cause he still got him and the girl he liked somewhere quiet and tried kissing her. She got really pissed off(he probably thought she'd dump her boyfriend and go for him since they were best friends and practically going out, but she got a boyfriend for some REALLY weird reason) and they ended up fighting about it/shit started happening, lots of people were torn apart by this(not just them), people who use to hang out all the time near my house all of a sudden started to diss each other in public and avoid each other(my friend started to sit with me in lunch instead of his friends, rofl).
Yeah, but the girl I like doesn't have a boyfriend so it won't matter, woo! I'll try it I guess :O
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On January 24 2008 23:30 Hawk wrote:Show nested quote +On January 24 2008 15:20 Cambium wrote:
Worst case scenario: "Let's be friends." Not THAT bad. yeah, if you don't mind hitting a brick wall at 60mph. Few things are more awkward than making a move on a girl and having her say that, ick.
So let's just sit in the car instead in fear of hitting a brick wall.
You never know what the girl is going to say, and you'll never find out unless you ask. Try it, if it works, yay; if it doesn't, life goes on.
You really have two options in life:
a) Ask a girl out
b) Wait for a girl to ask you out
If you go for option b), you could be lonely for a long-ass time.
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This situation is a little awkward since you already know the girl pretty well. So there is this ambiguity to the whole situation... I like to go right for the date vibe with women, right from the beginning. If I get shut down, then I've not had my expectations built up, and if things move forward, there is no question that we are dating and not just being friendly.
Still, in this situation, best to grow balls as many people have said (including myself) and just make a move. Don't get all heavy about it..... I'd just tell her you are interested in dating - or else do the hand holding thing, or the kiss thing. Whatever you do, keep it light hearted so that she doesn't feel pressured.
As far as risking getting shut down, it's really no big deal. To use myself as an example, I'm already dating this neat blonde girl (very gorgeous, I should add) - for about 2 months now - but I really can't tell if things are going to get serious or not (we haven't had sex yet or had a talk about being serious), so I feel kind of open to other relationships (I am more into committed relationships, but if this other girl isn't up for that, then I might as well be open to other people). So today I asked out two girls. One of them shut me down - she said "Um... I've got a boyfriend..... sorry," in a nice friendly way, and I said "aww... shit. I'm gonna go EMO now, I guess," and laughed, and she kinda laughed, and we parted ways. No big deal.
The other girl I asked (later on) said OK. Gave me her number and told me she has no plans this weekend. So it's on!
Point is not that I'm a pimp - I most definitely am not. The point is that getting shut down is no big deal, and that even if you do get shut down, there are always other better women out there for ya. So just keep a positive attitude and don't worry. Things work out. Others have said that if you build this one girl up too much, you'll stress too much and it'll be harder than it needs to be.
Just tell her already, and let us know what happened. This thread needs closure. Nerds like me read this shit during our work hours (beats working, that's for sure), so come on already! (GL)
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Fuck.
Well, let me give you a little story:
There was this girl who liked me the instant she saw me(I'm guessing...) because she would never really leave me alone. She was really testing my social anxiety problems and it would get me extremely shy/nervous so I ended up trying to avoid her(or trying to(This was during marching band(also, if anyone remembers my "I have a problem thread"(http://www.teamliquid.net/forum/viewmessage.php?topic_id=60607), this was during that XD). Well, anyways, she kind of got the feeling that I didn't like her so I ended up trying to sustain that relationship so I tried making eye contact as HARD as I could possibly can, tried not sounding like a pedo, tried saying hi to her(when she always said hi to me). Well, this worked out a bit, but I still avoided her, so it was still the same. Then, I added her on myspace, and since it's the internet, confidence a blazing! I pretty much wooed her to the point where she was possibly thinking about me every possible moment.
Well, thing is, we weren't compatible... she was the preppy, band geek type who liked mexican music/some rock(mostly greenday... eww) and I was the more hardcore death metal headbanger, so, when I figured this out, I was like "it's ok... I can convert her." She started being a bitch after a while so I decided to cut her off... stopped talking to her, etc. She got really pissed off so she just started hating me/avoiding me hardcore.
Now, prior to this, she confessed her feelings to me on MSN(LAWL) and I just kind of made "o.0" faces, so she got really pissed off I guess and I had just confessed my feelings but she didn't buy it so she just logged off >_>;;
Now, she knows I like her friend, so she's going to use all of her power to BE A HUGE BITCH :/ I have to tie some loose ends... BRB
XD GAAAAY
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On January 25 2008 15:33 nA.Inky wrote:
Nerds like me read this shit during our work hours (beats working, that's for sure), so come on already! (GL)
So true.
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Meh, knew it. I tied some loose ends with this chick, she started talking to me casually and whatnot, all of a sudden told me if I liked her friend, I was like "Of course =DD", so she starts telling me all this stuff and then says "you want to know if she likes you?" I was like "okaaaaaay =OO"
She was like "ok, yeah, she doesn't like you, she actually thinks you're weird blah blah blah." I believed it at first(AAAAAAAAAAAAAAA) but then I forgot, she's still being a bitch =/
I now am going to ask the girl I like if she really thinks of me like that, TODAY! NO EXCEPTIONS! RAAAAAAAAAAAWRRRRRRRRR!
This thread is about to receive some closure =/
EDIT: Gawd, she never got online XD
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On January 26 2008 11:56 Scorpion wrote:
Meh, knew it. I tied some loose ends with this chick, she started talking to me casually and whatnot, all of a sudden told me if I liked her friend, I was like "Of course =DD", so she starts telling me all this stuff and then says "you want to know if she likes you?" I was like "okaaaaaay =OO"
She was like "ok, yeah, she doesn't like you, she actually thinks you're weird blah blah blah." I believed it at first(AAAAAAAAAAAAAAA) but then I forgot, she's still being a bitch =/
I now am going to ask the girl I like if she really thinks of me like that, TODAY! NO EXCEPTIONS! RAAAAAAAAAAAWRRRRRRRRR!
This thread is about to receive some closure =/
EDIT: Gawd, she never got online XD
I was thinking "She's probably telling the truth", then I read that part about you not talking anymore and not taking anything with her serious so I can imagine her making up shit like that.
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On January 22 2008 14:08 Pwntrucci[sR] wrote:
Don't say anything, just enjoy what you have. You risk screwing everything up. That was the first piece of relationship advice I have given in my life, feel special.
thats really pathetic advice
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Ok, so, yesterday, she got online and I started a conversation with her, then I told her that I couldn't stop thinking about her. She was like "w...what are you talking about?"
"I said I can't stop thinking about you..."
She then stopped typing... but I could see the "[person] is typing a message" thing but it would pop up then disappear over and over again, like if she was just hitting the keyboard randomly or something. She then said "I like... you too..."
She then immediately logged off =/ Wtf... I tried calling her for the first time ever but she doesn't answer...
I don't know how to react to this, I can't be like "OMG SHE SAID SHE LIKED ME WTF" because what if she was going to say "as a friend" right after? >_>... maybe she got really nervous? Girls get like that when you tell them your feelings and whatnot =/!!
Oh well... I'm waiting till she gets online... probably going to wait a while, watch ProLeague finals(GO LECAF!!!!), then see if she calls/gets online.
I asked her friend if she was online or if she answers her phone and she's like "She answered but she just kind giggled a lot then hung up." ._.!!
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I once really liked a girl, we were good friends, I decided to dive, told her how I felt, she laughed and we stayed good friends. Just, she was a lil' more cautious around me for a while.
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This is precisely why you don't do it over MSN... What the fuck?
This the sort of thing you do in real life, not even over the phone. You are supposed to take her somewhere nice and quite (and hopefully romantic).
Does TL really have to tell you everything -__________-;;
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On January 27 2008 14:06 Cambium wrote:
This is precisely why you don't do it over MSN... What the fuck?
This the sort of thing you do in real life, not even over the phone. You are supposed to take her somewhere nice and quite (and hopefully romantic).
Does TL really have to tell you everything -__________-;;
She's out of town for the weekend so that was out of the question(forgot to mention).
XD Didn't feel like waiting,(Ninja edit) Starcraft makes me impatient(typing GOGOGO OMG S T A R T really effected me IRL) =/
EDIT: Still waiting... hope she gets online XD
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Agreed with Cambium. Plus "I can't stop thinking about you" bluntly like that is a bit weird. You either say it when you're already knee deep in the relationship or you set it up a bit first and explain it.
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Agreed with Cambium and Jibba.
Look, first of all, this thing is not sounding like it went too well, but the thing to keep in mind is that it's OK. No big deal. Before my first GF, I asked out a ton of girls and mostly got rejected (always subtly, lightly, sweetly, but rejected none the less. Getting rejected is good for you in that it helps you realize that you can move on and find other girls and that it is really no big deal.
So it is no big deal...
But for the future, don't do this sort of thing over the internet. Things like this need to be done in person.
And don't come on with something like "I can't stop thinking about you." That's heavy dude! If she's not into you the way you are into her, then you just smothered her with heavy awkwardness. It's like taking a step in the dark, and rather than lightly putting your foot down to test what is in front of you, you just step with your whole weight - but there might be a huge drop in front of you, and you plummet right off the edge into a world of pain!
In other words, step lightly into a relationship. I don't suggest mind games at all, but be gentle and cool about it. You want things to be fun and exciting, not heavy and serious like marriage. If I were you, I'd go back through this thread and read the advice given.
It sounds like this time it didn't work out. If that's the case, happily move on and rest assured that there is someone out there that is better for you and that you will find her if you are patient and try. Let this one be a learning experience! (We all have something to learn.)
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I know saying something like "I can't stop thinking about you" would weird her out... so I tried joking around with her afterwards(when she wasn't responding but had [person] is typing a message going on) with like "You're probably weirded out right now ROFL!"
Meh, you guys helped me prepare for this and I fucked it up maybe. Well, at least I got something out of this thread, and thats to move on when you get rejected!
Yeh, I stopped getting that feeling in my heart, the feeling of "love" I guess? If I still had that feeling and she rejected me I'd probably be worse off, but since that feeling is gone I think I'll cope with the rejection way better =/
Not that I have gotten rejected yet though... she hasn't signed on/called/texted/commented. Oh yeah:
+ Show Spoiler +Proleague Finals... don't click here if you don't want to get spoiled + Show Spoiler +
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Life goes on. Glad you are taking it well.
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Ahhh nt nt nt. buut telling a girl that you like her online, don't you stop doing that during middle school?
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On January 28 2008 08:48 ChkChk.Boom wrote:
Ahhh nt nt nt. buut telling a girl that you like her online, don't you stop doing that during middle school?
It's the age of technology. Plus, around middle school(for me), being online = "NERD!!"
Nowadays, with the Myspace and whatnot, everyone all of a sudden has internet and is regularly checking their Myspace/watching videos on youtube/seeing that the internet is an awesome thing, and being humble about their internet use("I was liek totally online for only liek 10 minutes lol ^_^").
>_>
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not over msn dude come ON
/facepalm
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Ok, well, she started talking to me normally, a lot. It's like she never found out that I liked her, because when she did know, she would stop talking to me/seem to always have to "brbbb." Now, it's like we use to talk to before... Weird =/
I'll try again XD But, if this doesn't work out, I'll probably make another blog showing the progress of my next girl who I've already singled out from the masses =DD(Her Boyfriend dumped her last week o_O).
Woo, ty guys =O
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