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x_woof_x United States659 Posts January 13 2008 06:45 GMT #1 hey guys. yesterday was a very important day for my mental growth as a person.. let me start off by saying i have liked this girl since the 7th grade and im a 12th grader now. I have a pretty decent relationship with her family since they are family friends.

EpiK Korea (South)5757 Posts January 13 2008 06:56 GMT #2 ...that fucking sucks dude. This same exact thing actually happened to me recently and I'm still pretty pissed/mortified about it.

Jibba United States22883 Posts January 13 2008 06:57 GMT #3

x_woof_x United States659 Posts January 13 2008 07:09 GMT #4 yea Jibba i appreciate the video. i know im prolly too young to fall in love hence the little quotes around the word love when i wrote it up there, but i dont think u cant tell me wat i felt was real

clazziquai 6685 Posts January 13 2008 07:26 GMT #5 Time is the best medicine. Well for me it was, at least. The girl I like now, I really could care less now haha :p

Jibba United States22883 Posts January 13 2008 07:40 GMT #6 Oh, I know I have no idea what you felt, but I don't think we just have one "true love" so waiting is ok. It would be great if things were that simple, but they aren't. I do think it's premature to call her "the one" based on what you described, with the casual talking and text messaging and so on. IMO love goes beyond the warm and fuzzy feeling, it's a deep caring for someone even when things are dull or shitty. I became intimate with a girl this summer and I was ready to start that whole future together business and she said she was, but then months later she asked for space and said she just wasn't happy, and of course I got the typical bs that I was "great" and she just "selfish and needed to be alone." I guess she wanted to stay friends and keep talking or whatever, but I really had/have no interest in being her friend - not after being that close. Every once in a while I'll msg her just to check if she's doing well in life and everything, because I really want her to have a good life. It's sad and pathetic because my life has gotten 10x better since we broke up and things are really looking bright for me in the future, but I still feel unhappy and think about her. I've gone out with several girls since then and have ended it because none of them interest me like she did and it wouldn't be fair to them. So that's where I'm coming from with this. I love her, but I have no intention of being with her again, so I simply move along and look for someone else that can captivate me like she did. But yes, I know there's no logical way to convince you what's right and wrong because it's not a logical decision. I'll tell you one thing - it makes great motivation for running and working out.

skyglow1 New Zealand3962 Posts January 13 2008 07:59 GMT #7 Man I have a friend who I always talking to on msn about his girlfriend who just a couple minutes ago basically said she doesn't want to be even close friends, and he pretty much had fallen in love in her before that, and I was surfing TL at the same time and saw this blog. He was pretty broken up, but now he's angry and cause of that he's motivated to study and work lol.

fight_or_flight United States3988 Posts January 13 2008 08:21 GMT #8 I don't know, I can't really understand these situations too well. I guess what she's thinking is that if you really loved her you would sweep her off her feet and not take no for an answer. What you should do is talk to her more to make sure she understands your feelings completely, ie no ambiguity. This is the most important thing. After that you will probably just end up being closer friends, but at least there will be no more question marks.

pirate cod 810 Posts January 13 2008 08:42 GMT #9 Good for you. And yay for shrooms.... Yay!

intrigue Washington, D.C9935 Posts January 13 2008 10:36 GMT #10 haha it's okay, it's nice that you don't sound as down as one would expect =P i had been eyeing my ex for three or four years before we finally started dating, which ended with me getting really sick of her really fast. i have been mad for another girl i had a fling with a few years later through freshman and sophomore year of college, too, and that slowly wore off though we're good friends now. as unlikely as it sounds your interest for her will eventually fade, and with it your idea of how you can't 'move on.' just takes time! meanwhile, i do believe that men and women can hold platonic relationships. i think you're obligated to keep her as a friend if you respect her so much : ]

Fen Australia1848 Posts January 13 2008 10:55 GMT #11 As I interpret it, you and her know each other quite well. So while youve been obsessing over her daily for the last few years, shes probably at least once thought about it seriously and come up with the answer that she doesnt like you in that way. Theres nothing really more to say, its not meant to be. Its good that you didnt go emo. Rejection really isnt that bad unless the girl is a bitch. Whats important now is not to lose the friendship, if you want to keep it that is. To start with, go about your daily life as you usually would, talking to her at school and stuff. Stay clear of the topic untill a little time has passed and your both confortable again, and then you can talk about it if you want. Things like this generally strengthen relationships. Youve opened up to her, and she will be more willing to open up to you meaning deeper conversations and a stronger bond between you both.

yubee United States3826 Posts January 13 2008 11:33 GMT #12 woof you have mad props from me for putting yourself out there for her. whether or not she says yes, whether or not you succeed and you two start dating, i'm not going to lie and say it doesn't matter, but it's 100 times better that now you know at least you tried. respect

fanatacist 10319 Posts January 13 2008 14:15 GMT #13 To add to what everyone else has said, she may seem truly special now, but so do all your first "true loves," especially if you've liked her since 7th grade. The fact is, to think that a person that is already in your life is the perfect one for you is statistically foolish - there are billions of people in this world, and there are probably thousands if not millions that are just as good or fitting to be "the one," you just have to move on and find them [: Who knows, there may be a diamond in the rough where you are right now that you overlooked because of how long you liked this girl? Happened to me before, definitely. Glad to hear you took it well - many people don't. Like yubee said, respect.

HeadBangaa United States6512 Posts January 13 2008 15:42 GMT #14 Hmm, I've never actually told a girl I liked her, out of nowhere. They've always come to me. That sucks man.

Bill307 Canada9103 Posts January 14 2008 05:26 GMT #15 If you ask me, unfortunately she just isn't interested in you at all, and probably never will be. Also, don't read too much into how you feel about her. It's mainly a result of how sexually-attracted you are to her. That's why, if you ever feel love for another man (e.g. if you two are really close friends and do a lot of stuff together), I'm pretty sure it will feel completely different from the way you feel about her (unless you're gay or bi, of course). You will get that feeling with many girls over the course of your life without loving any of them. So if you're looking for true love, you'll have to look for a different feeling than that. I am glad that you finally told her how you felt about her, though. Being honest about something like that takes BALLS, and you came through. If a girl feels the same way about you, I'm sure she'll be overjoyed to hear you say you feel that way, too. It sucks that in this case, she doesn't feel the same way about you, but at least now you know exactly how she feels, and you can now move on to other girls.

x_woof_x United States659 Posts January 15 2008 08:45 GMT #16 thank you guys, makes me feel much better

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