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Sorook
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
31 Posts
August 29 2012 06:37 GMT
#1
I've found TL blog section to be better then Dear Abby, so here we go with another round of "please help me I suck with women."

There's this girl I work with that I have really liked since I started working here back in Feburary. The problem has been she has a boyfriend. He's in the coast guard and recently got restationed to where they now have a long distance relationship. She told me she's not a fan of long distance relationships.

The two of us were in the break room the other day talking and we found out that we share the same favorite bar here in town. We said that we should go have a beer there one day and the next day she asked me if I wanted to go there on Monday. I gave her my number and told her to text me on Sunday and we would iron out the details.

She texted me on Sunday and we decided to meet there on at 5. We meet there have a couple of beers while laughing and having a good time talking about anything and everything. We each paid for our own beer. Then I asked her if she was hungry and if she wanted to get something to eat. We decided on this small oyster bar about a block from the bar we were at.

After we eat and have another beer or two there's a little fight over the check but I ended paying saying that she can get the next one. She then tells me that she is a light wait and wants to walk off the alchol for a bit before she heads home. So we take a short walk to get some ice cream and then a short walk on the beach.

Then I walked her back to her car we both say we need to do this again and it was a lot of fun. There was no contact or anything. She tells me that's she flying out this weekend to visit her boyfriend. I'm kind of lost on what my next move should be and if I even have a real shot here. Any advice would be helpful.

*****
Aerisky
Profile Blog Joined May 2012
United States12129 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-08-29 06:46:26
August 29 2012 06:41 GMT
#2
Not sure what to say, but of course it's great that you guys had a good time.

I personally would advice you not to try to break up her relationship. Sucks terribly that she's taken already, but for now at least, just be a friend to her I guess? It would be rather underhanded and/or mean to try to get with her in my humble opinion even though you two really seemed to hit it off by all means if they decide to split up, maybe.
Jim while Johnny had had had had had had had; had had had had the better effect on the teacher.
739
Profile Blog Joined May 2009
Bearded Elder29903 Posts
August 29 2012 06:44 GMT
#3
Hard to say, it's very dependant, I'd just wait for her to make the next move/call/text and set up the meeting.
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dot89
Profile Joined February 2012
81 Posts
August 29 2012 06:50 GMT
#4
Pull the naked man. 2/3 success rate
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Dmn
Profile Blog Joined July 2010
Norway101 Posts
August 29 2012 07:06 GMT
#5
Don't make someone a priority who only sees you as an option.
Dirkzor
Profile Blog Joined June 2011
Denmark1944 Posts
August 29 2012 07:07 GMT
#6
On August 29 2012 15:50 dot89 wrote:
Pull the naked man. 2/3 success rate


=)

That was clearly a date. If it turns out to be a romantic date or not have yet to be seen, but it was a date. Having tried "breaking up" someone in a long distance relationship I know a bit about this. It has to be her decision to start something with you and end it with her current boyfriend. Don't push to get a kiss or anything that will just make her feel guilty that you "tricked her" into kissing her. It have to be her decision. It if isn't she'll "blame" you and run back to her boy friend.

If you do start being romantic together - over a longer period of time, say a month of regular kissing/dating - you can start to voice your opinion about her still being with this other boy friend.

If you don't do this gently you'll end up being the bad guy even though you have none of the blame really beside being a nice and loveable guy.

That's what my experience tell me anyway.
"HOW THE FUCK ARE YOU ON TOP AGAIN???? HOW DO YOU KEEP DOING THIS????" -Julmust (also, thats what she said)
lastprobeALIVE
Profile Blog Joined October 2004
United States973 Posts
August 29 2012 07:22 GMT
#7
hit it and quit it, if this chick is gonna mess around so ez, who's to say she wont do it to you. long distance or not.
when in doubt DT out
1ntrigue
Profile Joined May 2012
Australia948 Posts
August 29 2012 07:49 GMT
#8
Don't rush anything. You, yourself, aren't even sure what you have in this relationship yet. Just take it slowly and don't let your dick do the thinking and she will make it more obvious what she wants from this in the coming weeks.

Just take the date as a date between friends. If you force her hand too soon, you're gonna lose 99/100 since she has a boyfriend who, you know, she actually likes and knows well enough to depend on.
lukasdesign
Profile Joined April 2011
Switzerland93 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-08-29 08:01:41
August 29 2012 08:00 GMT
#9
well you are about to put yourself into a whole lot of troubles: she has a boyfriend and you work together.

But hey, she likes you in one way or the other...so go and find out in which way exactly. Just don't do anything stupid, because you will have to face her every single weekday afterwards! Be a gentleman, she knows that you like her too!

Ask her out next monday, be a bit creative tough. Propose a new place, something that she might like as much as the place you both know...woman hate routine...

BTW: don't mention your SC2 ladder rank...might not impress her :-)
Pandemona *
Profile Blog Joined March 2011
Charlie Sheens House51470 Posts
August 29 2012 09:04 GMT
#10
You never know until you try. Personally like someone else already said i would make her ring/text/ask you for in effect date number 2. Just keep showing her a good time and a few hints that you like her and you might get her to make a move, specially if "she is a lightweight"

Also, by any chance do you know what her boyfriend looks like, i have feeling he might look like you..Also be careful he is a coast guard If he looks like Ashton Kucher from that film you might have an enemy xD

HOWEVER, dude you work with this girl. Having a relationship where you both work at the same place is bad. I remember seeing one go from loveydovey to abusing within weeks of watching my mate and my other mate @ KFC when i was manager. It's not a good idea to go out with someone from work >.<


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Lyter
Profile Blog Joined February 2010
United Kingdom2145 Posts
August 29 2012 10:13 GMT
#11
Its tough, its hard to say whether you've been friendzoned really hard or she wants to do something but won't pull the trigger, its just not a good idea to get involved with people who have another half. I think it might have been smarter to see if she would have broken up over time first because she would get bored with long distance, now that is more unlikely because you are giving her a bunch of male attention in between visits
bITt.mAN
Profile Blog Joined March 2009
Switzerland3693 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-08-29 10:35:05
August 29 2012 10:34 GMT
#12
Decison: Leave them 'happy', or work to 'get her'


Leave the 'Happy' couple: Instead of only looking out for the wellbeing of your own sex drive, consider what would be best for her. What would maximise her satisfaction and happiness. If you figure she'd be happier overall with the guy she's currently with, I'd say it'd be overly selfish for you to try and break that just to get some sexy time. Yep, it IS worth it to consider the overall effect of your actions, not just how it'd benefit you.

Work to 'get her': However if you decide 'screw dat guy, imma hunt this' its more than just having opponents competing for her, the other guy's already levelled it up with her. So if you really want to break that, level it up on your side too (even mroe than him), show her a good time, and overall be so congenial that she'd be dumb to stick with that other guy, cause clearly you've convinced her you are much more worth her time and affections.

I hesitate to use the term 'be the better man', as I believe in this case, the better man would leave it be and settle.
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Tommylew
Profile Blog Joined March 2010
Wales2717 Posts
August 29 2012 11:00 GMT
#13
if this was a few years ago id say leave it she has a boyfriend, wait till that relationship dies, due to circusmtance in my life.. do it, if its in trouble go and take what you want. Remeber generally friends dont flirt... so flirt away!
Live and Let Die!
BookTwo
Profile Blog Joined May 2009
1985 Posts
August 29 2012 11:29 GMT
#14
Seriously, these girl blogs are getting better and better. And I'm not even joking.
taran
Profile Joined July 2010
Finland49 Posts
August 29 2012 12:56 GMT
#15
Ok there's a few you can and a few things you _need_ to do. First, think about where you are in standing with her. Since it's safe to assume that she is a bit interested(going out with you to a bar and a restaurant), I would start out with some playful touching(or whatever you feel is appropriate) and progress the conversation emotionally. If you see that there is a negative reaction, slow down a bit and start again. This essentially means to her that "hey, I'm interested but I'm also not rushing things too fast so you can't push me away". Easy. The thing is that you need to progress on both a physical and emotional level with this girl to have a shot at her - the fact is she can ALWAYS resort to her boyfriend - you're just one option among many. So you need to pull out your inner mojo and summon the confident guy that you are. This also gets you out of the possible friendzone that you're in - make it clear that you're interested in her but also that you don't need her. If you want her - you WILL have her. It really is that simple, unless she is highly religious and has a huge moral block to this sort of thing. Otherwise, I'd just slowly ramp things up a bit to see where you are in relation to her and then proceed from there. Most importantly - remember to have fun If you have fun, then she has fun and that's all that matters.
OpticalShot
Profile Blog Joined October 2009
Canada6330 Posts
August 29 2012 13:45 GMT
#16
As others already said - take it easy and enjoy the friendship.
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bITt.mAN
Profile Blog Joined March 2009
Switzerland3693 Posts
August 29 2012 13:53 GMT
#17
taran, for some immature reason, I interpreted what you wrote in a completely different way :E q:

+ Show Spoiler [NSFW imaginings] +
"I would start out with some playful touching(or whatever you feel is appropriate) and progress the conversation emotionally" - randomly starts fingering her, asks about emotions 'Does this surprise you?'

"If you see that there is a negative reaction, slow down a bit and start again" - starts again

tell her "you can't push me away". Easy. - aka lie to her

"So you need to pull out your inner mojo and summon the confident guy that you are" - whip out c'ur dick

"This also gets you out of the possible friendzone that you're in - make it clear that you're interested in her" - yeah there's no way back to the firendzone now

"If you want her - you WILL have her. It really is that simple, unless she is highly religious and has a huge moral block to this sort of thing. " - danger-Wolf approves

"I'd just slowly ramp things up a bit up the pain"

"Most importantly - remember to have fun If you have fun, then she has fun and that's all that matters."
-
On October 29 2009 05:31 bITt.mAN wrote:
Show nested quote +
On October 26 2009 23:10 fanatacist wrote:
Rape is nothing but surprise sex, and sex is nothing but corporeal pleasure - assisted masturbation. No problems there.


http://www.teamliquid.net/forum/viewmessage.php?topic_id=103834&currentpage=23#441


I'm sorry, I don't know what came over me. It's just, one thing that I always find very funny is to intentionally mis-interpret things in the worst possible manner, so I think I did a good job (:
BW4LYF . . . . . . PM me, I LOVE PMs. . . . . . Long live "NaDa's Body" . . . . . . Fantasy | Bisu/Best | Jaedong . . . . .
Sorook
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
31 Posts
August 29 2012 23:52 GMT
#18
Thanks for all the good advice. I think I'll go with wait and take it slowly cause I think that her relationship will end on its own in time. I'm not too working about it being with someone I work with because we do work at the same place but not in the same area so if it turned bad I wouldn't have to see her.
RAGEMOAR The Pope
Profile Joined February 2011
United States216 Posts
August 30 2012 02:21 GMT
#19
Just rape her. She can't get pregnant anyways.

Source: Representative Todd Akin.
bibilisk
Profile Joined May 2011
France44 Posts
August 30 2012 03:41 GMT
#20
if you dont make any move pretty fast you are going to get friendzoned.
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