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For a while (almost three years now), I was a great boyfriend. Now it has occurred to me that I should be great to myself. This realization meant I can't be a great boyfriend, because I must put myself first. In fact, I cannot be a boyfriend at all, because of logistical compromises that I could no longer complete. However, without this beacon of direction and hope, my direction, and my identity, and my way of life is clouded.
I don't suppose it was all that great for the last while, but it was sure nice to be loved, and to be understood, even if she was always a thousand miles away. it gives you this sort of blessed assuredness, no matter how awkward I was being, no matter how bad I fucked up, I had unconditional (but negative, confrontational, and deeply flawed) caring for me at all times.
My deepest apologies to the forever alone folk, who think that this complaint is akin to a rich man whose run out of things to buy, but she was the one who convinced me I wouldn't be forever alone.
How did your first real relationship end? Could you say that things get better?
 
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This is kind of a weird thought because the idea of existentialism is to liberate oneself so he can help his fellow humans because it is moral to do so, not because of god, but because helping others is the only true moral thing. Well thats how Sartre explained it. A main point is that you should love them more than you will receive and if both of you do that then your relationship will never die realy.
My first relationship was long distance and it lasted a month as a 16 year old and it sucked really, the girl was nice but not my type really and I was set up by a drunken girl. It was interesting. Things get better, my new relationship is the best one ever, and we have been together half a year (long in highschool terms) and plan to be together for as long as we can, its a great thing, there are many fish in the sea, but some fish are just better than others  .
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On July 16 2012 14:52 docvoc wrote:This is kind of a weird thought because the idea of existentialism is to liberate oneself so he can help his fellow humans because it is moral to do so, not because of god, but because helping others is the only true moral thing. Well thats how Sartre explained it. A main point is that you should love them more than you will receive and if both of you do that then your relationship will never die realy. My first relationship was long distance and it lasted a month as a 16 year old and it sucked really, the girl was nice but not my type really and I was set up by a drunken girl. It was interesting. Things get better, my new relationship is the best one ever, and we have been together half a year (long in highschool terms) and plan to be together for as long as we can, its a great thing, there are many fish in the sea, but some fish are just better than others .
i thought it more as a crisis of existence, not a existentialist crisis
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things get MUCH better :D
(I wouldn't count on the 2nd relationship being much better, but you learn and the 3rd + have a lot of potential)
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I will spend my 800th post to tell you that this has nothing to do with existentialism, and you should stop whining.
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EPT
