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I'm 27, married, have a child. I have a nice job with a slighlty-above-average salary. I'm an underachiever. I don't like my job. I don't have any goals or entusiasm for life. And so on. This situation is kinda common for my type of guys.
But a while ago I decided to make a change (As if Obama speaking). I was wondering where should I start, find a new job? leave current job to meet new challenges? stop gaming? After sometime and lots of thinking, I came to conclusion that most of my problems come from me being unorganised and unhealthy/unfit. I feel that if I get healthy (healthy in a way that I have a lot of energy, don't feel sleepy, and always active) I start seeing everything in a positive way, many opportunties will come, I start talking to people and be a part of community. With opportunities I can come up with goals, achieving goals will improve the quality of my life. Of course, to achieve goals I need to get more organised and disciplined. Thats the core part of any succesful person, so my current goals:
1) Need to be very healthy to remain positive, active and willing to do smth.
2) Need to be organised in order to make sense of my actions. No chaosing.
I already bought some work-out equipment. Have a somewhat sleeping regime and healthy diet.
I already feel positive.
Wish me luck.
My progress.
Update 1: I started off doing dumbbell exercises (heavy dumbbells, not those which are for chicks). I work out until I'm tired and eat a lot. I don't have any particular schedule but I do it everyday and I try to go bed ontime. Although I didn't stop playing computer games and/or give up some not-very-good habits, it seems my life started changing. I sleep better, a bit more active, my mind is clear. I spent all weekend with my family outside, being to my relatives, malls and supermarkets. It's amazing how much change can bring simple things like doing exercises and sleeping on time.
Planning to continue doing same stuff. Still considering going to gym, or hiring a personal trainer. But my 1st priority is to improve my life and daily activities, 2nd work out.
 
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Hmmm. You ought to check out the TL health forum. it's really a wonderful group of people who are highly supportive toward health goals.
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You sound like you're doing pretty well, simple things like regular, enjoyed exercise can really help with work related morals.
Good luck!
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On March 29 2012 14:55 Froadac wrote:
Hmmm. You ought to check out the TL health forum. it's really a wonderful group of people who are highly supportive toward health goals.
Thanks, I'm considering to start working out. I'm quite thin and need to gain some weight. Maybe, I hope someday I will post in "Success thread" 
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I would definitely recommend getting in shape and eating healthy. I have been through severals years where my health/fitness fluctuated significantly and I have to say it things are significantly better when you are healthy for a long time. The thing is getting in shape and eating healthy gets a lot easier once you do it for a while. The benefits are incredible and includes altering your state of mind. If maintained for a long period of time, you might just find that new thing that will change your life for good. But it seems like you already figured that out. Best of luck!
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ive been trying to do the same for the last couple of months,though i am still 21 year old.been working out great for me,i hope it does for you.
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I don't really have any advice for you, I wish I did. I just hope that you can sort things out. Best of luck.
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Your plan sounds good. I don't ever make a schedule but I do often write down what I did each day, eventually this makes you keep up with the plan and challenge yourself even. Best of luck.
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United Kingdom1708 Posts
Exercise is a great way to pick up your mindset, not to mention the fitness which will give you self-confidence, and help you make better first impressions.
I recommend running/swimming/some kind of cardio every day, to really make the biggest difference. Have you also considered taking up a sport on the weekends? It's good to have somewhere to showcase and use your new fitness.
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buying workout equipment is not what you need. you need a social atmosphere. join a gym that has lots of group class, or join a boot camp (not sure if they have them in singapore though).
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TL health forums are awesome. Join a crossfit gym, you get to meet awesome people, the classes are legit, tight community, and you get a bad ass work out!
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On March 29 2012 17:04 dAPhREAk wrote:
buying workout equipment is not what you need. you need a social atmosphere. join a gym that has lots of group class, or join a boot camp (not sure if they have them in singapore though).
yeah I know. But by going to gym I will spend 3-4 hours, which unfortunately I don't have. My work is pretty far and I have a child to care. I have maximum 1-2 hour a day for myself 
My goal is not only to work out, but to get my life together. I need to spend more time with my family.
Thanks for being supportive guys. TL is wonderful community.
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As you stated, the key to success in your plan is discipline. Do you have any strategy on how to maintain your discipline? Or will you feed purely on being motivated?
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On March 29 2012 18:40 FortuneSyn wrote:
As you stated, the key to success in your plan is discipline. Do you have any strategy on how to maintain your discipline? Or will you feed purely on being motivated?
I consider discipline as a habit. You need to train it repetitevely in order to sustain. So, I'm willing to work on it. Although, some people have discipline naturally, I'm not one of them. I get shaken or broken down easily
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United Arab Emirates1141 Posts
Good luck. A healthy body goes hand with hand with a healthy mind and healthy spirit. Shoot me a pm if you desire prayer for God to work in your life mightily. Otherwise, good luck!!
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On March 29 2012 22:32 JesusOurSaviour wrote:
Good luck. A healthy body goes hand with hand with a healthy mind and healthy spirit. Shoot me a pm if you desire prayer for God to work in your life mightily. Otherwise, good luck!!
Pretty sure Religious preaching is against conduct on TL.
Aside from that, ironically you're the last past on a page that has seen 666 views prior to me posting this.
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Dude,
I'm stoked for you. I am 26, married, work a dece job with a dece salary and I too am a gamer so I can relate to you and I am empathetic to your situation.
Here is some of my advice - take it or leave it:
If you're looking to start working out and become more healthy, i suggest you invest in a personal trainer. You don't have to pay a ton of money over a long period of time. See if you can get some one to coach you for a couple weeks to boost your moral/teach you how to work out effectively for your body type/just overall help you get a good foot on your new healthy regime.
These days (in Canada where i live at least,) there are a lot of people graduating with a 2 year diploma or certificate in personal training who are looking to go into business. Check your local classified adds to see if there is a newly graduated student who is looking for clients. They can be a huge asset and they can be fairly inexpensive.
A lot of my friends have hired personal trainers to help them get into a nice routine of working out. It might work for you too.
glhf
-CBK
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Thanks a lot guys. I'm definitely gonna look into getting a personal trainer. I'm total noob at working out. Btw, did anyone try working out at home, with basic equipment?
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You don't need a personal trainer. Diet and training are pretty simple if you spend just a few hours on the proper forums, learning. Bodybuilding.com is the biggest that I know of, but there are a ton of em'.
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On March 30 2012 12:40 bokeevboke wrote:
Thanks a lot guys. I'm definitely gonna look into getting a personal trainer. I'm total noob at working out. Btw, did anyone try working out at home, with basic equipment?
P90X can be really good for that. You don't need much (dumbells, pull-up bar or bands). I really like how much it emphasizes form, and if you're new to working out, that's a good thing to learn and do well. It (at least for me) made it easy to stay motivated and not skip a workout. I'd recommend it for you.
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My progress.
Update 1: I started off doing dumbbell exercises (heavy dumbbells, not those which are for chicks). I work out until I'm tired and eat a lot. I don't have any particular schedule but I do it everyday and I try to go bed ontime. Although I didn't stop playing computer games and/or give up some not-very-good habits, it seems my life started changing. I sleep better, a bit more active, my mind is clear. I spent all weekend with my family outside, being to my relatives, malls and supermarkets. It's amazing how much change can bring simple things like doing exercises and sleeping on time.
Planning to continue doing same stuff. Still considering going to gym, or hiring a personal trainer. But my 1st priority is to improve my life and daily activities, 2nd work out.
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dont forget that your muscles need like 48 hours rest after exercising them, otherwise you risk injury. maybe you could switch it up with jogging every other day? ive been going through a similar process of improving my life powered by working out.. after like 3 weeks i started feeling the increased energy, and after a few months i actually started getting compliments.. keep it up brother i know you can do it!
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I really recommend you start going to the gym. I have never looked back since I started, my gym days are always my highlights of the week, and I live a pretty fun life. I often times find myself wanting the weekends to end so I can get back to my workout routine (weekends are rest days for me). I've tried working out at home but it's just not the same thing, and you don't have access to the same equipment.
If you go to the gym and get a personal trainer, always remember that they will always tell you what is best for their company, and not for you. This and they are not always very well informed, take everything you hear from them with a grain of salt and always looking for second opinions. Ultimately you want to be skeptic towards everything until you can confirm it yourself either with experience or well supported research. The fitness community is filled with myths, probably more than half the stuff you hear will be pulled out of someones ass.
I recommend lurking around some fitness forums. /r/fitness on reddit is pretty good, they are really friendly to new people and have a weekly "stupid questions thread" where you can ask anything that isn't already covered in the very good FAQ (http://www.reddit.com/help/faqs/Fitness reading through this will be really helpful!).
Good luck with changing your life! Never give up!
edit: Also, another thing I noticed. The most basic and important thing about setting goals is to be able to measure your progress along the way, which you can't do with either of your listed goals. For example, you don't set a goal to "get stronger", you say "I want to increase my squat by 40kg" so you always know if you're on the right track or not. Also so you can see your progress and get motivated by it. If you're serious about this changing, you should set real goals for yourself. Take some time to really think about what you want to achieve and how, then just jot the goals down on a piece of paper and glance at it every now and then, pondering about how you're progressing and what you could do differently.
Once again, good luck!
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On April 03 2012 00:32 Snaiil wrote:
I really recommend you start going to the gym. I have never looked back since I started, my gym days are always my highlights of the week, and I live a pretty fun life. I often times find myself wanting the weekends to end so I can get back to my workout routine (weekends are rest days for me). I've tried working out at home but it's just not the same thing, and you don't have access to the same equipment.
If you go to the gym and get a personal trainer, always remember that they will always tell you what is best for their company, and not for you. This and they are not always very well informed, take everything you hear from them with a grain of salt and always looking for second opinions. Ultimately you want to be skeptic towards everything until you can confirm it yourself either with experience or well supported research. The fitness community is filled with myths, probably more than half the stuff you hear will be pulled out of someones ass.
I recommend lurking around some fitness forums. /r/fitness on reddit is pretty good, they are really friendly to new people and have a weekly "stupid questions thread" where you can ask anything that isn't already covered in the very good FAQ (http://www.reddit.com/help/faqs/Fitness reading through this will be really helpful!).
Good luck with changing your life! Never give up!
edit: Also, another thing I noticed. The most basic and important thing about setting goals is to be able to measure your progress along the way, which you can't do with either of your listed goals. For example, you don't set a goal to "get stronger", you say "I want to increase my squat by 40kg" so you always know if you're on the right track or not. Also so you can see your progress and get motivated by it. If you're serious about this changing, you should set real goals for yourself. Take some time to really think about what you want to achieve and how, then just jot the goals down on a piece of paper and glance at it every now and then, pondering about how you're progressing and what you could do differently.
Once again, good luck!
I guess you're right. However, I'm not sure how can I squeeze in gym between my job and looking after my kid. Thats the main problem. Regarding measuring my goal: I don't even how much my dumbbells weigh, but they're definitely heavy for me. I'm sure I could do more. I'm not working out for strength, I want good body and to be fit. Should I try heaviest weight I can pull off?
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