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Sigh, I really thought I wasn't going to do this again but eh.
Hey guys, I just want to get your advice as im confused on what im doing is right, or what I should do.
So I wen't out with a girl about 2 weeks ago? and our date was on the weekend on the same week, we went out to a local district and went shopping and yadda yadda. And I flunked it, the date, in my opinion was terrible because it wasn't a date, all we did was talk about each other for like 2 or 3 hours, had a few good laughs, sure.
Anyway, so its been two weeks now and she seems to be busy or she doesn't talk to me much anymore because she has meetings as she is performing at a concert not too long from now and also she has lots of studies to do, me as well of course (We would talk on facebook a lot) Because of the teenage hormones I just keep assuming that she has lost feeling for me and that is why she hardly talks to me online anymore.
We do talk a lot after school because we walk the same direction towards home and I tend to wait for her. She's a bit socially awkward and tends to hide her emotions, in my opinion. I can't tell anything from her.
The thing is, i'm completely obsessed, I wait for her on facebook after school ffs lol, (Well.. just keep facebook on then checking every 3 hours or so but you know what I mean) which is insane, if I didn't have these feelings I would've left just like that.
Theres so much things I want to tell her but I feel like a completely wuss and couldn't get myself to say it, which I regret pretty much every single moment I think about it, which I think about a lot.
Anyway, the real purpose of this blog; I was going to ask her out to a proper date this weekend, I learnt my lesson and I'm sure I can stick up this time.
BTW, sorry Chill.
What do you think guys? Good? bad? Or any other suggestions?
Sorry if this does sound pretty bitchy, I'm just a teen, lol.
Always can count on my Teamliquid family to help me up and boost my confidence ^^ Thank ya'll but now I shall sleep within the bed.
 
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I think the age old credo applies.
Imagine if she called you up or whatever, you would jump at the chance to rush over there.
Now ask yourself why she isn't replying in the same way. Probably because she doesn't feel the same way.
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On March 12 2012 18:45 zalz wrote:
I think the age old credo applies.
Imagine if she called you up or whatever, you would jump at the chance to rush over there.
Now ask yourself why she isn't replying in the same way. Probably because she doesn't feel the same way.
Or because she's a woman and our culture dictates that the male has to conquer the female (or something like that).
Obviously you want more with her, so just try the second date. Nothing will happen if you just continue the way you are doing now (talking with her so now and then). Hopefully she will be clear about whether she likes you or not 
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On March 12 2012 18:45 zalz wrote:
I think the age old credo applies.
Imagine if she called you up or whatever, you would jump at the chance to rush over there.
Now ask yourself why she isn't replying in the same way. Probably because she doesn't feel the same way.
See thats one of the tough thing, I know this is a possibility but I refuse it to be true no matter what. ._.
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On March 12 2012 18:49 Liveon wrote:Show nested quote +On March 12 2012 18:45 zalz wrote:
I think the age old credo applies.
Imagine if she called you up or whatever, you would jump at the chance to rush over there.
Now ask yourself why she isn't replying in the same way. Probably because she doesn't feel the same way. Or because she's a woman and our culture dictates that the male has to conquer the female (or something like that). Obviously you want more with her, so just try the second date. Nothing will happen if you just continue the way you are doing now (talking with her so now and then). Hopefully she will be clear about whether she likes you or not
I very much hope so, and if not then I'll just have to take it head on and move on. :D Thank you.
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On March 12 2012 18:35 RogerX wrote:
She's a bit socially awkward and tends to hide her emotions, in my opinion. I can't tell anything from her.
On March 12 2012 18:35 RogerX wrote:
Theres so much things I want to tell her but I feel like a completely wuss and couldn't get myself to say it, which I regret pretty much every single moment I think about it, which I think about a lot.
Maybe she thinks that you are a bit socially awkward and tends to hide her emotions and there are so much things she wants to tell you but she feels like a wuss and couldn't get herself to say it.
It's funny that you call her socially awkward for not sharing her emotions while you can't do any better.
You guys could be in love with each other and never say it.
Talk to her, either she indeed lost her interest in you and you have nothing to lose, either she didn't, and you have everything to win.
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Who initializes all the conversations?
If it's you, stop and see how long it takes her to do it.
On March 12 2012 18:51 endy wrote:Show nested quote +On March 12 2012 18:35 RogerX wrote:
She's a bit socially awkward and tends to hide her emotions, in my opinion. I can't tell anything from her.
Show nested quote +On March 12 2012 18:35 RogerX wrote:
Theres so much things I want to tell her but I feel like a completely wuss and couldn't get myself to say it, which I regret pretty much every single moment I think about it, which I think about a lot.
Maybe she thinks that you are a bit socially awkward and tend to hide your emotions and there are so much things she wants to tell you but she feels like a wuss and couldn't get herself to say it. It's funny that you call her socially awkward for not sharing her emotions while you can't do any better. You guys could be in love with each other and never say it. Talk to her, either she indeed lost her interest in you and you have nothing to lose, either she didn't, and you have everything to win.
Also this.
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On March 12 2012 18:51 endy wrote:Show nested quote +On March 12 2012 18:35 RogerX wrote:
She's a bit socially awkward and tends to hide her emotions, in my opinion. I can't tell anything from her.
Show nested quote +On March 12 2012 18:35 RogerX wrote:
Theres so much things I want to tell her but I feel like a completely wuss and couldn't get myself to say it, which I regret pretty much every single moment I think about it, which I think about a lot.
Maybe she thinks that you are a bit socially awkward and tends to hide her emotions and there are so much things she wants to tell you but she feels like a wuss and couldn't get herself to say it. It's funny that you call her socially awkward for not sharing her emotions while you can't do any better. You guys could be in love with each other and never say it. Talk to her, either she indeed lost her interest in you and you have nothing to lose, either she didn't, and you have everything to win.
That thought never occurred to me... I was always hypocritical with things. And I think it's because my minds really mixed up right now with confusion, which is the point of this thread.
The bolded part is going to help me a lot more than you think, thank you Its always nice to know its a win-win situation, i'll get back to you if you wish.
+ Show Spoiler +I can't get Bolded out of spelling error.
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On March 12 2012 18:52 Cyber_Cheese wrote:Who initializes all the conversations?
If it's you, stop and see how long it takes her to do it.Show nested quote +On March 12 2012 18:51 endy wrote:On March 12 2012 18:35 RogerX wrote:
She's a bit socially awkward and tends to hide her emotions, in my opinion. I can't tell anything from her.
On March 12 2012 18:35 RogerX wrote:
Theres so much things I want to tell her but I feel like a completely wuss and couldn't get myself to say it, which I regret pretty much every single moment I think about it, which I think about a lot.
Maybe she thinks that you are a bit socially awkward and tend to hide your emotions and there are so much things she wants to tell you but she feels like a wuss and couldn't get herself to say it. It's funny that you call her socially awkward for not sharing her emotions while you can't do any better. You guys could be in love with each other and never say it. Talk to her, either she indeed lost her interest in you and you have nothing to lose, either she didn't, and you have everything to win. Also this.
She's an extremely quiet type sort of person, she tends to not start any conversations, an example is that she doesn't know how to engage me, I'm free all there waiting for her but she seems to be just of like just quiet, even though she knows that we were walking home together...... and I had to start it all off so far... Or else I fear that we'll just drift apart, I'll do the waiting strategy later, when we're more acknowledged with each other.
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Hi Azera!!!!!
Why u not bloggin anymoa?
And how has your education been so far?
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Ugh shopping for a first date? Horrible, horrible choice!
Oh did you bother asking her out again after the 'first date' in the first place?
Just ask her out, preferably something like coffee/dinner/lunch and not shopping. Ask when she's free and get her out then, if she doesn't want to go out she probably isn't interested and you should re-evaluate your feelings for her.
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You fucked up. She's not interested. Stalking her isn't going to make her interested, just more distant. It sucks but you gotta give her space and if you really want her then work on being the kinda person that would impress her rather then stalking her on facebook everyday.
gl
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On March 12 2012 19:11 FractalsOnFire wrote:
Ugh shopping for a first date? Horrible, horrible choice!
Oh did you bother asking her out again after the 'first date' in the first place?
Just ask her out, preferably something like coffee/dinner/lunch and not shopping. Ask when she's free and get her out then, if she doesn't want to go out she probably isn't interested and you should re-evaluate your feelings for her.
I was gonna ask tomorrow If I have the chance, actually :D
On March 12 2012 19:12 Epoch wrote:
You fucked up. She's not interested. Stalking her isn't going to make her interested, just more distant. It sucks but you gotta give her space and if you really want her then work on being the kinda person that would impress her rather then stalking her on facebook everyday.
gl
Uh.. I'm not sure how I'm stalking her?
All I do is check messenger and chat lol.
On March 12 2012 19:27 Pandemona wrote:Awww teenage love Bless. Those were the days ;; But yeah, you have 2 choices, be the "gentleman" give her time space yadda yadda wait until she comes to you, keep being her friend talk to her whenever you can (when she is online, walking home from school etc) or... You tell her your feelings on the next walk home from school (if you think you can face to face) or if you can't do that, then tell her on facebook. My personal opinion would be to hold off just a bit longer, ask her out on another date. Try to make her feel like its a "date" this time though and maybe take her to movie and not shopping ;; shopping is hell bro! If not its summer in New Zealand right? Take her for a walk etc. Then keep "asking her out" every weekend or whenever she is free so you can keep showing your feelings rather than saying them, then before you know it you will realise the answer without asking her at all! I hope to god you don't get freind zoned though!! So good luck
Sadly, summers over and the weathers been bloody terrible  I really really don't like using Facebook to ask people out or tell people stuff about how I feel, just doesn't feel right y'know?
But thank you for the ecouragement. Yes, I planned to ask her out tomorrow actually, and I really do hope we don't walk into that dastardly place known as the friend zone haha.
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I feel for you bro, you might just be in the friend zone. That having been said if you treat her like a bestie then you are probs gonna get one :/
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On March 12 2012 19:35 Mazaire wrote:
I feel for you bro, you might just be in the friend zone. That having been said if you treat her like a bestie then you are probs gonna get one :/
I actually think your spot on in this post, I feel like i've treated her as a friend too much, well I'm gonna stop and learn mah lesson if that doesn't work because time already ran out for me, then, oh well I guess I have to look for someone else another time. :3
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On March 12 2012 19:37 RogerX wrote:Show nested quote +On March 12 2012 19:35 Mazaire wrote:
I feel for you bro, you might just be in the friend zone. That having been said if you treat her like a bestie then you are probs gonna get one :/ I actually think your spot on in this post, I feel like i've treated her as a friend too much, well I'm gonna stop and learn mah lesson if that doesn't work because time already ran out for me, then, oh well I guess I have to look for someone else another time. :3
:D That's the spirit, never give up never surrender!! Defiantly when you find a person who seems to fit your personality better or mesh with you better (giggidy), you will find that you are the one who is being bombarded with facebook messages and texts ^_^ its a rather nice feeling. Even quite people like the girl you described here would do something similar in their own way.
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When you walk back with her, do you hold her hand?
Physical contact is kinda important.
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On March 12 2012 19:48 Cyber_Cheese wrote:
When you walk back with her, do you hold her hand?
Physical contact is kinda important.
Hmm.. Unfortunately... No.
Thats the part I do wish I would go onto though  Perhaps when I finally break the social awkward barrier(Soon) We can.
On March 12 2012 19:44 Mazaire wrote:Show nested quote +On March 12 2012 19:37 RogerX wrote:On March 12 2012 19:35 Mazaire wrote:
I feel for you bro, you might just be in the friend zone. That having been said if you treat her like a bestie then you are probs gonna get one :/ I actually think your spot on in this post, I feel like i've treated her as a friend too much, well I'm gonna stop and learn mah lesson if that doesn't work because time already ran out for me, then, oh well I guess I have to look for someone else another time. :3 :D That's the spirit, never give up never surrender!! Defiantly when you find a person who seems to fit your personality better or mesh with you better (giggidy), you will find that you are the one who is being bombarded with facebook messages and texts ^_^ its a rather nice feeling. Even quite people like the girl you described here would do something similar in their own way.
It'll be really really tough for me to move on, but life goes on I guess :D
Thank you.
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