[Girl Blog] Confuzzled. - Page 2

On March 12 2012 19:54 RogerX wrote:

Hmm.. Unfortunately... No.

Thats the part I do wish I would go onto though Perhaps when I finally break the social awkward barrier(Soon) We can.

On March 12 2012 18:52 Cyber_Cheese wrote:
Who initializes all the conversations?
If it's you, stop and see how long it takes her to do it.

On March 12 2012 20:21 Cyber_Cheese wrote:

Just find excuses to make physical contact where you can

e.g
If she's depressed some day, hug her.
If she asks for something, grab her hand and put the object in.
The contact doesn't have to be necessary by any stretch of the imagination.

Hell, just act depressed, and say you need someone to hold for a while, tell her she makes everything better.
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By the way, if 'all you did' was talk about each other on a date, I'd say it didn't go half as badly as you thought. It was a first date and all...

On March 12 2012 23:31 7mk wrote:
does she even know you saw the shopping thing as a date??? sounds like something a girl would do with her gay bff.
I didnt read any of the comments in here but yes, just ask her out on a real fucking date, if she likes you she'll say yes, if she doesn't then you can know for sure and let the fuck go.

and dont worry, being friendzoned is part of growing up for many people ^^, just learn from it and dont make the same mistakes again





I'm OK with the first physical contact part but the acting depressed, telling her she makes everything better, and talking about "this really cute girl" all sound like terrible, terrible advice.

On March 12 2012 20:47 Liveon wrote:

I tried this, about 7 months ago, still haven't heard a thing T.T . Pretty clear who was into who though

On March 12 2012 18:35 RogerX wrote:
The thing is, i'm completely obsessed, I wait for her on facebook after school ffs lol, (Well.. just keep facebook on then checking every 3 hours or so but you know what I mean) which is insane, if I didn't have these feelings I would've left just like that.

On March 12 2012 18:35 RogerX wrote:
Anyway, so its been two weeks now and she seems to be busy or she doesn't talk to me much anymore because she has meetings as she is performing at a concert not too long from now and also she has lots of studies to do, me as well of course (We would talk on facebook a lot) Because of the teenage hormones I just keep assuming that she has lost feeling for me and that is why she hardly talks to me online anymore.

On March 13 2012 01:18 OpticalShot wrote:
Fear not, the OpticalShot is here. Yes, the self-claimed unofficial Girl Blog Hunter (GBH) of TL. I give very biased opinions and sometimes they come off as troll. While that is not my direct intent, some days I don't feel like thinking twice about giving girl blog advices so I let my fingers loose on the keyboard and off they go.

Not this day.

So let's begin with your fine lass. She's got you, man.


Definitely not the start you want. Even if you think she's the one forever and ever and you can't go a minute without thinking about how tasty her lips would be and [the nsfw thoughts] so on, you have to keep yourself in check. Making irrational decisions only work on rare occasions (like in K-drama). Follow your common sense.


I understand that you can't help talking to her online. There are so many things you want to share and discuss with her and you can hardly wait for the next day. Some days you are busy, some days she is busy, then there is almost no face-to-face talk time. Put together a string of busy days, and maybe you two can't meet for a week or more. Tragedy, tragedy! Or, is it?

When you talk to her online, she is satisfying her "dose of conversation" with you as well. So in that sense, she doesn't feel as inclined to meet you in person. She's already done talking about her favourite band, or her exam worries, or about her new puppy. I'm going to extend this to you as well - when you talk to her about everything online, you don't have the same motivation to see her face-to-face. You've exhausted your news and she's exhausted hers in the previous night's chat, so when you do meet in person, what do you talk about? Hmmm...

Anyway, let's move on to the real talk about friendzone and how to get out and whether you're in and so on. We're only halfway through this.

My fair evaluation is that yes, you've been so called "friendzoned". I put that in quotations because nowadays people over-generalize the friendzone and basically label everything non-sex-relationship as friendzone. Really, it doesn't mean you don't have any chances with her. I'm not downplaying the fact that first impressions are probably the strongest, but who says you can't change? I'm not talking about changing yourself for her sake alone, I'm talking about a general self-improvement kind of thing.

Hey, but you still have a good chance. After all, she agreed on the first date, that means at least you're not a hideous creature to her. Friendzone or not, she agreed to spending her time with you and you alone. For the next date, let me drop a couple advices that you should tailor to your specific situation.

- Physical-contact-date: A typical "dinner-and-coffee" date is fine for having a relaxed conversation and all, but it establishes no physical contact. I'm a big fan of dinner-and-coffee kind of thing, but this ain't the thing to get a relationship started. You need some sort of natural physical contact. I recommend activities like bowling and pool. You gotta man the fuck up, get behind her and get her posture right. Be patient if she's a noob (be playful if she's a pro... actually, be playful in general). Don't go too easy on her - keep the game competitive so that she's immersed enough to not resist high-five's or hugs after awesome plays. You can make almost anything in to physical contact if you seriously man the fuck up. Shopping? It helps if the mall is packed with people, but regardless, you could be holding her hand or at least tugging her shoulders close to you so that you don't get lost in the crowd.

- Confidence: Why do people say nice guys finish last? Aside from the odd exceptions, it's because "nice" guys can't grow a pair to enjoy the date for themselves. Those "nice" guys try to cater the date so hard for the girl that it becomes annoying and tiresome at the end, despite the intentions. "What do you want to eat?" "Oh I don't care I can eat anything I don't mind so what do you want to eat?" "No, well I didn't quite think of this through..." "Me neither but I'm fine with anything and I know all the different restaurants around this area so whatever you want I know where to go so what do you want to eat?" SEE, THIS IS GOING NOWHERE. The hell, if the girl asks you what you want to eat, you answer what you want to eat. You want fucking fried chicken? Then say "hey, I'm craving some fried chicken." This is a really simple example but this is where the "nice guys" set the first foot in the friendzone. Stop catering for the girl. Have some confidence in your choices and preferences - if the girl doesn't share the same, shrug it and move along. "You don't like fried chicken? Well that's unfortunate, do you have any suggestions? Sushi? Raw fish ain't my type, but let's go to that Japanese restaurant so you can get sushi and I can get some delicious chicken katsu." I'm not saying be a complete jerk and boss her around. I'm saying that you should be confident in yourself, let her know what you like and what you don't like, and work it out after. She'll feel great if she sees you having a great time as well. If you want her to be your princess, you'd better be a prince yourself.

That's about it for now. On top of that, there are all the cliche things like be yourself, be honest, don't be a white knight, let her take the lead sometimes, mutual respect, etc., but I don't need to go in detail, right? I think you get the idea.

Also, definitely let her know about how you feel. You don't have to rush it, but you need to make it clear. You can follow the advices above but keep your feelings bottled in, and then you become "that confident, touchy, comfortable guy who doesn't have feelings for me." That's not what you want, eh?

Good luck, and keep blogging to let us know about how it works out!

On March 12 2012 20:47 Liveon wrote:

I tried this, about 7 months ago, still haven't heard a thing T.T . Pretty clear who was into who though

On March 13 2012 04:32 RogerX wrote:

Hmm... I think I remember one of your post telling that your a girl blog expert, guess its true :3.Quite amazed how much time and effort you took into this silly thread of mine And I very much appreciate it, it's a great help learning from other members of the community. Got me a few laughs too, good sir.

All your points are incredibly good and I agree with the bold so so so much. Thanks again, I'll be memorizing what you said in this post as well so your efforts are not wasted!


Thus my greatest fear, huh ?