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ABagOfFritos
Canada454 Posts
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MerciLess
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iceburn
United States303 Posts
Also I think this belongs in the blog section. | ||
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Wysp
Canada2299 Posts
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ABagOfFritos
Canada454 Posts
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MountainDewJunkie
United States10341 Posts
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mastergriggy
United States1312 Posts
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ABagOfFritos
Canada454 Posts
On November 26 2011 09:24 mastergriggy wrote: Play the Day[9] Daily #100 for him. He'll be so inspired it'll be easy to convince him. I lol'd, thanks. | ||
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TheLOLas
United States646 Posts
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ABagOfFritos
Canada454 Posts
http://www.teamliquid.net/blogs/viewblog.php?id=289053 | ||
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RetroAspect
Belgium219 Posts
Not too much you can do except for not putting pressure on her in ANY way at all now. never forget that she is still the minor and you are stronger and more mature than her , and even more so she is between two fires right now. Imo you really should try hard to see her dad and talk to her man, go over to her house unnanounced even if need be, you have nothing to lose at the moment as far as i can see.. I wish you best of luck man and hope it works out for you! | ||
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ranshaked
United States870 Posts
Tbh I find it creepy. You're 20. Hang out w people your age. She's still in high school anyway you put it | ||
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Deleuze
United Kingdom2102 Posts
edit: ninja'd Please ask a mod to close your forum topic | ||
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HerroPreaseTN
Norway71 Posts
I know it's probably not remotely near the answer neither you nor any other would want to hear in this context, of course, but at least it's something to consider. Nevertheless, making a phone to him tell your bit and showing your true colors (which I assume are sparkly in a non-Twilight way, with powershine and glory <3), sounds like a pretty good idea =) | ||
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MerciLess
213 Posts
On November 26 2011 09:26 ranshaked wrote: She's too young bro. Honestly I'm 22 and I won't date anyone you get than 21. Tbh I find it creepy. You're 20. Hang out w people your age. She's still in high school anyway you put it Meh, he's 20 she's 16. It's not like he's a full blown adult and she's a kid, they're in the same ball park. If she was 18 and he was 22 it would be a non-issue | ||
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ranshaked
United States870 Posts
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Iranon
United States983 Posts
On November 26 2011 09:31 MerciLess wrote: Meh, he's 20 she's 16. It's not like he's a full blown adult and she's a kid, they're in the same ball park. If she was 18 and he was 22 it would be a non-issue And if she was 12 and he was 16 it wouldn't be a non-issue. You can't just slide ages around and think they're still going to be comparable. The issue isn't that they are four years apart, the issue is that she is six-goddamn-teen. I wouldn't put too much faith in the emotional maturity of a girl who's halfway through high school, regardless of what she seems like. There's a world of difference between being halfway through high school and being through high school, through some college, deciding college isn't for you, and back to high school. | ||
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Grettin
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gogogadgetflow
United States2583 Posts
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greatZERG
Australia755 Posts
We've been together for 3 1/2 years and lived together for three years, if she's mature enough at that age (which 99% of teenage girls aren't because teenagers are retarded) then she isn't too young for you. Glgl | ||
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ABagOfFritos
Canada454 Posts
On November 26 2011 09:37 Grettin wrote: Age difference aside, have you asked the girl to talk with her mother? If she could talk to the father and maybe convince him to let you talk with all of them? She isn't very close with her mother, who lives about 12 hours north and only calls every couple of months. Unfortunately I'm not going to be able to find a member of her family who can side with me other than her. | ||
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subV
United States93 Posts
Meh, he's 20 she's 16. It's not like he's a full blown adult and she's a kid, they're in the same ball park. She is definitely a kid... | ||
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ABagOfFritos
Canada454 Posts
On November 26 2011 09:42 subV wrote: There is a huge maturity difference between 16 and 20, at least there should be. I assume she is still in high school, you've graduated for two years now. My mentality in high school was so much different than it is now (I'm 21 now and if I ever met my 16 year old self, I would punch him in the face for being so goddamn stupid), and I couldn't imagine dating somebody with that same kind of high school mentality. She is definitely a kid... A lot of you are making pretty rash assumptions about the personality of both myself and this girl, which doesn't help me in the slightest and is completely useless. Stop wasting keystrokes, let your keyboards live a little bit longer. | ||
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StreetHeat
United States225 Posts
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ABagOfFritos
Canada454 Posts
On November 26 2011 09:51 StreetHeat wrote: When in doubt remember the "Half your age plus 7" rule. You're about 1year off my friend therefore it equals scandal I'm not going to rest my future on something as arbitrary as this. Don't be ridiculous. | ||
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HerroPreaseTN
Norway71 Posts
I was a hopeless romantic myself until I realized that love is fluffy, fun and without prejudice at first, it will after a while when it moves over to a real relationship, require a lot of hard work. At that point something solid (equal values, religion/non-religion, being at about the same places in life etc.) come in handy. I'll assume you're both quite alike, that you've thought things through and that you mention that you can really relax with her sounds great, so I'd never blame you for giving it a go. Still, people have their opinions regarding age for a reason. Then again, I've become quite extreme at not trusting the good 'ol Disney love story and have a set of criteria which has to be met for the girl to even be a candidate - regardless of how much fun we have at first  So after having all that said, I'll pay my 2 cents to the questions at hand: 1. Yes, you should call him and talk with him. Make an effort and show that you're responsible and take care of matters on your own initiative - which any grown and mature man who really loves his woman would do. 2. Yes, I'd say waiting until Monday sounds like a nice idea since then you'll have more to work on or know more of the context. Although, I'm not quite certain - for all I know it may be just as good a time right now. Bottom line is, you're a grown man and seem sensible. I'm quite certain you'll find a reasonable conclusion. | ||
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ArcticFox
United States1092 Posts
On November 26 2011 09:42 subV wrote: There is a huge maturity difference between 16 and 20, at least there should be. I assume she is still in high school, you've graduated for two years now. My mentality in high school was so much different than it is now (I'm 21 now and if I ever met my 16 year old self, I would punch him in the face for being so goddamn stupid), and I couldn't imagine dating somebody with that same kind of high school mentality. You may believe this, and it may be true, but trying to tell all this to someone blinded by love is going to be like beating your head against the wall, regardless of age. Truth is, the situation is very simple. You're dating a girl still living with her father. The father disapproves. So your options are pretty crystal clear: 1) Call and speak with the father man-to-man style. Set up a meeting if you can (someplace neutral if possible, or visit their place if he insists -- remember, you're the one asking for something here), and convince him that you're not just some "loser who can't get girls his own age, preying on his little girl who just likes you because you're older, and if I keep you two apart it will pass." This is what the father is thinking, and unless you can talk to him like a man, this is what he will always think. Also, if you can't face him, you'll more or less be proving him right. If you can't succeed on that front, or you can't man up and face him like that, your options are: 2) Wait until she's on her own to pursue anything. Which from the sounds of things you seem pretty unwilling to do. 3) Sneak behind everyone's back and see her anyway. And you WILL get caught. And it will end painfully. And it's the worst possible reaction. I highly advise against this. 4) Give up and pursue someone else. I don't know how long you have been seeing each other. If it's been a long time and you haven't met her father, that's a problem in and of itself. If it's been a short time, he's trying to nip it in the bud before it gets serious. Sorry if it sounds harsh. But moaning around about it fixes nothing, and the longer you wait the harder it will be. If she's awesome and worth pursuing, you gotta man up and face the Dad. If you can't, you're either too immature to handle the relationship that will follow (no matter how close 20 to 16 sounds, there will be a lot of problems you will need to work around, and yes a maturity level difference is one of them), or she's not worth it anyway and you need to move on. | ||
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ABagOfFritos
Canada454 Posts
On November 26 2011 10:11 ArcticFox wrote: You may believe this, and it may be true, but trying to tell all this to someone blinded by love is going to be like beating your head against the wall, regardless of age. Truth is, the situation is very simple. You're dating a girl still living with her father. The father disapproves. So your options are pretty crystal clear: 1) Call and speak with the father man-to-man style. Set up a meeting if you can (someplace neutral if possible, or visit their place if he insists -- remember, you're the one asking for something here), and convince him that you're not just some "loser who can't get girls his own age, preying on his little girl who just likes you because you're older, and if I keep you two apart it will pass." This is what the father is thinking, and unless you can talk to him like a man, this is what he will always think. Also, if you can't face him, you'll more or less be proving him right. If you can't succeed on that front, or you can't man up and face him like that, your options are: 2) Wait until she's on her own to pursue anything. Which from the sounds of things you seem pretty unwilling to do. 3) Sneak behind everyone's back and see her anyway. And you WILL get caught. And it will end painfully. And it's the worst possible reaction. I highly advise against this. 4) Give up and pursue someone else. I don't know how long you have been seeing each other. If it's been a long time and you haven't met her father, that's a problem in and of itself. If it's been a short time, he's trying to nip it in the bud before it gets serious. Sorry if it sounds harsh. But moaning around about it fixes nothing, and the longer you wait the harder it will be. If she's awesome and worth pursuing, you gotta man up and face the Dad. If you can't, you're either too immature to handle the relationship that will follow (no matter how close 20 to 16 sounds, there will be a lot of problems you will need to work around, and yes a maturity level difference is one of them), or she's not worth it anyway and you need to move on. Option 1 is where we stand right now, seems like it's the same advice there across the board from whoever I talk to (that is being supportive). Failing this I hate to say it but 4 is the most likely next step. 2 would make for a nice story, but the reality of it is tough to imagine, let alone act on. | ||
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mastergriggy
United States1312 Posts
Time also has a factor, maybe you just caught him during a bad week? Maybe he'll be more reasonable if you drop it for a few days? | ||
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Endymion
United States3701 Posts
edit` feels bad man and forever alone blog predicted for the future. edit number two On November 26 2011 09:17 ABagOfFritos wrote: my girl lol, she's not your girl apparently, shes the school and her dad's girl. | ||
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ABagOfFritos
Canada454 Posts
On November 26 2011 10:56 Endymion wrote: ok so you're a 20 year old university drop out attending highschool, and you fall in love with a 16 year old and then her dad gets mad and forbids it.. oh, and you add "what do" in a very 4chanish style. i would say get your act together and go to university and date someone your own age when it isn't illegal to touch them. the dad can fuck you up legally so many ways that you're a complete idiot if you pursue her after he was nice enough to warn you. edit` feels bad man and forever alone blog predicted for the future. edit number two lol, she's not your girl apparently, shes the school and her dad's girl. The assumptions in this post are astounding. I'm not a dropout, I completed two full years at a local University with a 3.0 and didn't find anything I really enjoyed, so I registered to attend a local school which accepts both highschool and post-secondary students. And as has been stated several times, the relationship is completely legal. | ||
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Trict
Canada182 Posts
On November 26 2011 09:37 Grettin wrote: Age difference aside, have you asked the girl to talk with her mother? If she could talk to the father and maybe convince him to let you talk with all of them? Don't know if you know but in canada the legal age is 16. He is doing nothing wrong, and can't be pursued legally by the father for anything unless she doesn't want it. | ||
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Chaves
Brazil315 Posts
If he dont accpt it , there is nothing that you can do ... and i would advice to forget this cos rly dont worth go to jail or some other sh1t like this ... | ||
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