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Ilovesunzandsonz
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igotmyown
United States4291 Posts
Gary from South Park, All about Mormons And even though people in this town might think that's stupid, I still choose to believe in it. All I ever did was try to be your friend, Stan, but you're so high and mighty you couldn't look past my religion and just be my friend back. You've got a lot of growing up to do, buddy. Suck my balls." | ||
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RogerX
New Zealand3180 Posts
BUUUUUUUUUUUUUT saying this, don't go all full nerd on her like, "Hi I like you and I play starcraft, did you know that marauders do yadayadayada and that the physics of hills are different by a radius of yadayada baneling baneling baneling" But mostly, the real reason why actually most girls break up because of video games is because you don't find enough time for her. I've had past relationships get angry with me because of this. Or maybe she find that you were a bit over excessive with it. And if you ever feel like girls and Starcraft can't mix then Geoff needs to do more showing off. | ||
Xxio
Canada5565 Posts
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Absentia
United Kingdom973 Posts
I don't see why this is even an issue. Just stick your nerd badge out in the open and be done with it. If people disregard you, for that reason, then more fool them for their ignorance. You'll end up meeting someone who doesn't care/is interested eventually and you shouldn't settle for anything less that that. | ||
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mizU
United States12125 Posts
Kidding. If they don't embrace you and your love of SC, they're not worth it. It's OK if they HATE SC, but if they dump you because of it, no. Kick em. | ||
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askTeivospy
1525 Posts
also you're 19, i wouldn't sweat "whether or not you'll find someone" since you're basically a baby age wise | ||
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LayZRR
Germany449 Posts
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blabber
United States4448 Posts
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John Madden
American Samoa894 Posts
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Kontemptuous
Australia132 Posts
On October 02 2011 17:45 Sonzzy wrote: Apparently it was a sign of laziness to her, and a total turnoff You should of stopped her there and pre-emptively rejected her.. total turnoff. Ew. So my questions is am I doomed to have to hide my passion of gaming forever? Do I have to the hide the fact that I'm in my colleges CSL team and one of he best players on the team? You don't have to hide anything. You just have to find a way to let close-minded people know in a more sincere way, like slipping it in while talking about their interests. Say you meet a girl who enjoys watching Jersey Shore un-ironically, you could be like; wow, that's really interesting. It's cool that you're so passionate about things you like. I like Starcraft like you like watching orange people on TV. Or you could just wait to meet people with more depth. | ||
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RogerX
New Zealand3180 Posts
+ Show Spoiler + Jokes cuz | ||
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Fleebu
Great Britain65 Posts
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HeaDStrong
Scotland785 Posts
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Brett
Australia3820 Posts
But if this girl's that stupid/shallow then she's not worth your time. DO NOT HIDE THIS SHIT. Be a fucking man and take some pride in yourself and the things you enjoy. There are girls out there who will either get right into it with you, or accept it and love you all the same. Don't compromise yourself. | ||
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Tommie
China658 Posts
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Gamegene
United States8308 Posts
If you like starcraft you like starcraft. let her deal with that if not go | ||
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Lakona
Canada110 Posts
If you don't actively deal with these misconceptions when the issue comes up, that's how you'll be perceived. You have to explicitly point out that these are misconceptions, that Starcraft is an incredibly deep and complex game (perhaps use Chess analogies), mention how big it is in Korea, and that for you it's no different than how people can be passionate about any other sport, how it can become an activity with great personal meaning and value for many reasons. Essentially, if you don't explain from the ground up what it actually is and what it means to you, and are too vague when you bring it up, they'll almost certainly end up filling in the blanks with their own negative preconceived ideas. | ||
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infinity2k9
United Kingdom2397 Posts
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Jedclark
United Kingdom903 Posts
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BouBou.865
Netherlands814 Posts
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BabyToss!
Czech Republic588 Posts
So, if someone just cannot accept something you enjoy, they are imo not worth it. We all want to have our hobbies we love, after all, it's part of one's happiness. What kind of life would it be, if you just have to pretend and hide what you enjoy from someone who 'supposedly' loves you? Hands off, seriously. There are girls who at least tolerate games, or even, who love games. Granted, they are not majority, but you just have to be kinda picky. But in the end, you'd be much better off with someone who understands your passion, rather than hide it for who knows how long. Good luck. | ||
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Chollx
Sweden38 Posts
On October 02 2011 19:24 infinity2k9 wrote: Why would you even bring up Starcraft.. Mainly because if you share your life with someone, and you are passionate about something (starcraft or anything else for that matter), you want to share that with your better half. They may not embrace your passion, but they should be able to appreciate why having a passion for something is a good thing. And to adress the OP: Don't worry about finding a gamer girl, find someone who can appreciate what you love and love you for who you are, and someone you can do the same for. There are plenty of girls like that out there. Take pride in what you do and have some self-confidence, those two are immensly more important than the what's and why's around it. | ||
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Deleted User 101379
4849 Posts
If she asks for your hobby and you talk for half an hour or more about SC (or gaming in general), it's bad. If you constantly mention it or constantly use gaming related memes, it's bad. If you just mentioned it's your hobby to play games without going into more detail than she might have wanted, there is nothing to say against it. If she doesn't respect that, she's not worth your time. There will be other girls who either respect such hobbies or are even gamers themselves. | ||
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Itsmedudeman
United States19229 Posts
The point of a relationship is to get along, find similar interests, and do things together. If someone isn't really interested in a particular thing you do, that's okay as long as you can find something else. If they don't love a thing you love, it's not the end of the world and she's not stupid nor ignorant. If you hold out for someone who enjoys starcraft as much as you do then you should prepare to be really lonely because the female demographic is incredibly small. | ||
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FuRong
New Zealand3089 Posts
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BabyToss!
Czech Republic588 Posts
On October 02 2011 20:18 FuRong wrote: If she's attracted to you then she won't give a fuck about what your hobbies are. Well, that is maybe right for short term relationships. But, if you plan for something longer, you kinda want to have a common ground with that person, you know? Otherwise you may find out 'wow, I have nothing to talk about with him/her' and suddenly you realize that you have no idea why you are with him/her. When I was looking for my significant other years ago, I wanted to make sure they'd accept me the way I am, as well as to make sure that we have a common ground with each other, as we'd be spending years together and it would suck if we would be bored with each other, you know? There's nothing worse when someone finds out after couple of months or even years, that the relationship they have just won't work, because there's simply nothing in common between the two, and they only had that relationship because of some sort of attraction, which eventually WILL fade away after certain time. | ||
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Kukaracha
France1954 Posts
You know, the guy in highschool with sunglasses who doesn't like sport because he runs like a grandpa. You need to accept that there are stereotypes, and that sometimes, in the eyes of some people, stereotypes can even be true. Honestly, I don't have much respect for pure "gamers", as I don't see what's so awesome about playing Call of Duty all day in front of a TV without even taking a step back and thinking about the game, they way it was made, the industry, the place of gaming in this news virtual culture, etc. The difference between, let's say, Day 9 and your typical basement dweller, is that Day 9 is truly passionate, and he DOES shit. He's NOT a pure consumer, he CREATES, he thinks, he gets into the community, you know, he's a baller! But your average gamer will just play videogames and that's that. He'll play WoW, be proud of it and shit, but won't acomplish anything special in real life, and won't get any respect from other people. Don't hide that you like Starcraft. But you need to compensate the stereotype. I for example don't bring this up immediately. I get people to see that I love to learn new things, that I'm a smart and outgoing individual, that I love sport, etc, etc, and they I have a REAL talk with them about internet, videogames and such, and show them how passionate and fascinated I am. I'll explain why I think it's a fascinating phenomenon. Only then will you get people to respect this lifestyle and think back on their clichés. | ||
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Sc2Requiem
United States121 Posts
A lot of girls have experienced the boyfriend that games all day and ignores them, and I think that's where the stigma comes from. I knew some cool gamer girls in high school who were just as passionate as me about gaming, but years later they've developed a disdain. With almost every one of them it came down to them feeling like gaming ruined a "good" relationship. It's depressing when I think about it, but that's life. Be yourself, don't hide anything, and let your passion be known. You'll eventually draw the attention of the right girl, but not before having to deal with more short-sighted ones. | ||
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Kickboxer
Slovenia1308 Posts
The effect will always be the opposite of what you want. If she likes you, she has to like you the way you are. Also "spending several weeks to get to know a girl" is mega fail. If you are romantically interested in a girl your best bet is to make a straightforward move within 48 hours of meeting her. Otherwise you are bound to end up in the friendzone which is the shittiest place to be and just a general waste of your self-image and time. You're far better off playing Starcraft :p | ||
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Capped
United Kingdom7236 Posts
On October 02 2011 18:36 askTeivospy wrote: a lot of girls aren't interested in video games. instead you should get them interested in you (that is qualities which girls find appealing) and after you've nabbed them then introduce them to the video game. works for me when i used to go out on the prowl /shrug (I don't anymore because i value money more over women for the moment) also you're 19, i wouldn't sweat "whether or not you'll find someone" since you're basically a baby age wise Agreed with this man. Get them first, then introduce them. :D Also i read that you werent actually with this girl but turned down when you asked, dont want to be an asshole mate but maybe it was an excuse. Either way she aint worth your time :-) | ||
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mordk
Chile8385 Posts
Now, if you have a more stable relationship, and she decides to dump you just because you play games, then you shouldn't waste time or efforts trying to get her back. Part of being in a relationship is trying to accept those not so perfect things everyone has. If you can make your life work normally and play games here and there, without neglecting your relationship, there's no reason it should affect it. If a person cannot accept you with your own hobbies and passions, then that relationship is doomed to failure, either by splitting up, or by you being unhappy in it, so it isn't worth the effort. | ||
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infinity2k9
United Kingdom2397 Posts
On October 02 2011 19:34 Chollx wrote: Mainly because if you share your life with someone, and you are passionate about something (starcraft or anything else for that matter), you want to share that with your better half. They may not embrace your passion, but they should be able to appreciate why having a passion for something is a good thing. Ok but he's not talking about sharing his life with someone. He's like on a date or something and probably starting ranting about Day[9] and how some guys were totally nerd ballers. People are getting all defensive and everything as you'd expect but with the context he put it in, it sounds like a bit of an excuse and also prehaps not a topic of conversation to bring up anyway. I play and watch a lot of SC but it wouldn't even cross my mind to talk about it, why would they be interested in that really. If SC defines your life so much then maybe you are just a bit boring unfortunately? | ||
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ShinySleepy
Philippines80 Posts
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Kukaracha
France1954 Posts
The most beautiful thing is when people who are different accept each other. | ||
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Pull
United States308 Posts
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Chef
10810 Posts
jk, but the serious answer is that you liking video games is not the real reason. It's how you present it, if she already likes you enough etc. Some people already have negative perceptions of video games, but that number isn't that high anymore. Just find a girl who has a brother and she probably plays video games too, or learn how to properly sell your hobby to a girl. I say this entirely assuming the girl isn't a complete moron, which may be the case, but even then it's still your fault for being interested in morons. I've never had anyone tell me they think I'm lazy because I like Brood War. Maybe that's because I look like a very busy person and already do a lot of other things with my life, but I think it's also because I tell them about the proscene and they get excited too. I have a natural gift for getting people into Brood War. PS: This is also assuming you aren't ridiculously addicted and spend hours playing all kinds of video games and have no real life outside of them. | ||
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Haemonculus
United States6980 Posts
On October 02 2011 22:18 Chef wrote: No, you misheard her. She thinks you're lazy because you play StarCraft 2. A real man would play Brood War. ffffff I was just about to post that when I read the OP PS: This is also assuming you aren't ridiculously addicted and spend hours playing all kinds of video games and have no real life outside of them. This. Guys who play games are cool. Guys who never leave the house because of it are not. | ||
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Nibbler89
884 Posts
But I think the question is what are you looking for in a girl? Are you just looking for a girlfriend or are you looking for a girlfriend who shares the same passions you do? I think that if a girl that isn't really into gaming starts having a guy talk to her about starcraft a whole bunch and that's the majority of what you talk about without asking her what her interests are it's reasonable to be turned off. If you met a girl and she kept talking about something you weren't that familiar with / interested in for the majority of your conversations would you feel much different? I guess what I'm saying is probably the best relationships are ones where people share mutual interests but not every relationship can be like that and so a lot will just be built upon give and take and meeting in the middle. Gradually over time your interests might become mutual or you can find other things you are mutually interested in. If you share literally no overlapping interests together then obviously it's just not really a viable relationship because if one expects the other to conform to their own interests while disregarding the others its just selfish. | ||
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lungo
Denmark276 Posts
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deafhobbit
United States828 Posts
My fiance has zero interest in Broodwar, and gives me shit for watching it constantly. At the same time, i have zero interest in the terrible anime and YA fiction she's into, and i give her shit for it constantly too. Part of this is just the sort of people we are, making fun of each other is practically our main way of showing affection. Likewise, both of us are introverted people, who want lots of alone time and will spend a lot of time sitting in the same room doing our own things, and just chatting while we do it. More importantly though, neither of us are mono dimensional people, and we have a ton else in common besides these hobbies. Enjoy the things you both love together, enjoy the things you don't both love by yourself, and have respect for each other. Note, this doesn't mean you shouldn't try and expand each other's horizons, since that's one of the best things about being in a relationship. At the same time, early on you should focus on what you both enjoy, and start to change things once you're relationship is more established. And, if you just can't convince them to like something, don't let it ruin the entire relationship, just respect each other's differences and move on. | ||
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cojosc2
United States87 Posts
1) With TL with have a whole community of bro's and its bro's before hoes. We want you to play SC2 or SCBW. Don't leave your bros hanging 2) You can't hurt Starcrafts feelings, the closest you can get is scaring your SCVs 3) You can turn on Starcraft whenever you want, girls.... it depends. 4) Starcraft will always be there for you, unless there is a patch.... 5) Watching Starcraft is better than watching football. Its just exciting. 6) You become tons smarter when you play Starcraft. Speaking for myself, I feel stupid around girls. Most of the girls where I live are stupid though. 7) High APM is cool as balls. Just watch DRG. Would you rather be a good kisser or be able to type with one hand what most people do with two? 8) You can blow stuff up with little insects how many times will you be able to do that outside of SC? Day9) Day9 10) Starcraft kicks ass! I do have a gf, so no "You can't get a girl" hate. | ||
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GigaFlop
United States1146 Posts
Go out and do things with people, you might meet someone interesting. For me, It was worth walking around from 10AM-7PM playing Humans vs Zombies with a group of people I had never met before and having feet that hurt like fuck after, because I made friends with an awesome girl. | ||
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sluggaslamoo
Australia4494 Posts
I mean I don't recommend it, I do it for fun. But if you really have to just add it in as a light touch, the key is to talk about the scene, the money, and of course how dextrous they are with their fingers. On October 02 2011 22:18 Chef wrote: No, you misheard her. She thinks you're lazy because you play StarCraft 2. A real man would play Brood War. jk, but the serious answer is that you liking video games is not the real reason. It's how you present it, if she already likes you enough etc. Some people already have negative perceptions of video games, but that number isn't that high anymore. Just find a girl who has a brother and she probably plays video games too, or learn how to properly sell your hobby to a girl. I say this entirely assuming the girl isn't a complete moron, which may be the case, but even then it's still your fault for being interested in morons. I've never had anyone tell me they think I'm lazy because I like Brood War. Maybe that's because I look like a very busy person and already do a lot of other things with my life, but I think it's also because I tell them about the proscene and they get excited too. I have a natural gift for getting people into Brood War. PS: This is also assuming you aren't ridiculously addicted and spend hours playing all kinds of video games and have no real life outside of them. LOL Guy: "Hey I play SC2" Girl: "You play what?! You mean you can't even be bothered to send your workers to mine?! Sorry I don't wanna talk to a lazy ass like you" | ||
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Mortality
United States4790 Posts
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caradoc
Canada3022 Posts
pffffttt.... its a sign of superficiality and a total turn off that she isn't enthused/turned on by passion. Tell her to go have fun chasing some guy with DESIGNER CLOTHES and a CAR and THINGS who CAN BUY MORE THINGS, and is BUSY BUYING MORE THINGS or plotting to, but is bored to tears with how empty life is. She can fill up his life with her interests. It'll work out. On October 03 2011 00:14 sluggaslamoo wrote: Guy: "Hey I play SC2" Girl: "You play what?! You mean you can't even be bothered to send your workers to mine?! Sorry I don't wanna talk to a lazy ass like you" this made my morning! | ||
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RedJustice
United States1004 Posts
If you are still friends though, try again later. Maybe she will have changed her mind then and see that is not how all gamers are. | ||
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Lemonwalrus
United States5465 Posts
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Azzur
Australia6259 Posts
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peachiekeen
United States4 Posts
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McKTenor13
United States1383 Posts
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fuzzayy
United States99 Posts
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RoboBob
United States798 Posts
There are women who are cool about video games, I've dated a couple myself. And a few others that didn't care much for playing, but liked watching. There's hope out there man =) | ||
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zeOllie
Australia486 Posts
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Asrathiel
Australia377 Posts
On October 02 2011 20:36 BabyToss! wrote: There's nothing worse when someone finds out after couple of months or even years, that the relationship they have just won't work, because there's simply nothing in common between the two, and they only had that relationship because of some sort of attraction, which eventually WILL fade away after certain time. Sounds like my relationship with my ex :/ Took about 6 years, but the attraction was gone and I realised that there really wasn't much at all I liked about him, and we had almost nothing in common... Gotta get the kids to bed, BBL with more of a reply ETA: More of a reply  OK, firstly I completely agree with everyone who's said that a relationship where you start off having to pretend to be someone you're not ain't going anywhere and will be absolutely no fun. Been there, done that. Secondly, if someone had a hobby that they were entirely addicted to, which came at the expense of the rest of their life, then that's a turn-off, no matter what the hobby is. So the stereotypical gamer who spends days on end playing WoW, living on doritos and coke, surrounded by empty packets and never going out = eww. If this girl has no experience with gamers, this is probably the image she had in her head. If she can't see past that and see you as a real person, then her loss, you don't want her anyways. Nothing wrong with talking about your hobbies with new girl/boyfriends, but if they're not interested, don't keep at it... love the example someone gave about how you'd probably not be interested if she harped on about shoes and makeup all the time, if that wasn't something you're interested in... Lastly, you're 19. Plenty of time left in your life for meeting people  | ||
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Saechiis
Netherlands4989 Posts
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QuanticHawk
United States32047 Posts
On October 02 2011 21:01 infinity2k9 wrote: Ok but he's not talking about sharing his life with someone. He's like on a date or something and probably starting ranting about Day[9] and how some guys were totally nerd ballers. People are getting all defensive and everything as you'd expect but with the context he put it in, it sounds like a bit of an excuse and also prehaps not a topic of conversation to bring up anyway. I play and watch a lot of SC but it wouldn't even cross my mind to talk about it, why would they be interested in that really. If SC defines your life so much then maybe you are just a bit boring unfortunately? it sounds exactly something like this... especially when you blame your one long relationship breaking up because of video games and her not sharing the same passion.... yeah. It's good to have different tastes and interests. Flip the tables: your girl loves shopping and you fucking hate it with a fiery passion. She continually tries to get you into it (just like you did with gaming!) What's your response going to be?? | ||
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Servius_Fulvius
United States947 Posts
This. Assuming you don't have a gaming addiction or neglect her this is a case of her not respecting your interests. Move on. There are plenty of better girls out there. Take these, for instance: My first girlfriend thought videogames were a waste of time, but respected the fact I liked to play them. I got into BW 8 months before meeting my second girlfriend. She never tried to watch it with me and didn't really give a crap about it. She didn't like it if I played too many games around her, which is understandable. That only came up during a stressful week at the end of my last undergrad semester. She was addicted to television shows, so we let each other have our own interests. My current girlfriend will get on a 4-way skype call with two of my younger brothers and play 4v4 SC2. We did this quite a bit at the end of the summer (not so much now because of work/school), but we still 1v1 on our own a lot, but that's mostly when the other person isn't around (6am for me, middle of the afternoon for her). She plays in her free time when I'm at work and currently sits #12 in her bronze division ^^. In this case we have a shared interest, but she has no interest in watching other people play, pro streams, or casted tournaments. Keep looking and keep trying - it WILL pay off! | ||
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CanucksJC
Canada1241 Posts
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snexwang
Australia224 Posts
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Starparty
Sweden1963 Posts
Thankfully i found someone who can deal with that. So can you! | ||
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PetitCrabe
Canada410 Posts
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Arthemesia
United States292 Posts
On October 02 2011 18:38 LayZRR wrote: Well. You should probably not tell your girl that you are into Esports until she knows you better and is your gf. This, I had a girl that was really into me and a while ago and the same thing happened to me. Girls don't want to hear any sign of what they think may be laziness. Like he said though don't let it be something that you bring up and let it be something that she finds out a lot later on rather than early. | ||
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kierpanda
United States757 Posts
There's so many double standards in stereotypical relationships. Why should a guy have to put up with girly hobbies like shopping and stupid drama shows when a girl doesn't reciprocate? I know too many girls who want a guy to kiss the ground she walks on...These girls are not worth your time. | ||
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zeloso
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