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On August 23 2011 05:06 Porcelain wrote:Show nested quote +On August 23 2011 00:32 Morfildur wrote:On August 23 2011 00:07 Hassybaby wrote:On August 22 2011 22:23 underscore wrote:
You need someone in your life with a lot of characteristis flaws to make yourself feel better.
Ask yourself why. Acknowledge that you are responsible for yourself.
Growing up is hard but hopefully one day you will be a woman and not longer a girl. Can someone translate this? From what i understand, he means: "You (the OP) are an immature girl and need to grow up" So basically he isn't contributing anything and just offending the OP. I might be wrong though. No, I think you're right. That comment doesn't really make sense though. "No longer a girl...?" What the hell lol.
I'll take a swing at it
He means that "you keep looking for bad guys because you have low self esteem, and you should introspect to find out why you do this. You have to realize you need to take responsibility for yourself, including your mental health and who you get involved with in relationships. Maturing and changing is hard but as you get older you will realize the wrongs of your ways and become a mature woman, instead of an immature girl. You'll look back on it with some condescension and revel in the fact that you've grown up for the better."
How did that sound?
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dating gamers isn't your problem, dating losers is your problem.
not all gamers are like this guy, lol. some of us male gamers have successful day jobs too! just dodge people who let games completely consume them if you can't deal with it (which it sounds like you can't and frankly that's a good thing. I don't think you can have a healthy relationship where someone is completely consumed by a game even if they make their living from it, let alone a bum like this guy, lol).
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It sounds like your problems have absolutely nothing to do with him being a gamer(probably the millionth person to say this). Maybe get to know what a person is like better before you move in with them?
If you aren't that into the guy just move out.. you have a job, what are you afraid of?
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OMG boy blog!
That is all.
Also, how dare you call me and all other gamers a lazy bum! Rah rah must defend gamer pride.
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you're boyfriend's a loser.
get over it and move on.
Like, seriously, I could never imagine dating someone so useless. I pay my rent, cook my meals, take care of myself and pay bills. I also support my mother because times are rough and she can't work. I also have RRSPs, and travel. And I've been doing all of these things since i was 22 years old. I moved out of my 'rents place when I was 18.
This will probably come off as some sort of brag, but I really don't think I'm all that amazing. I've done well for myself, sure, but so has anyone else who is worth dating. I'm not great, I'm normal. People work hard for lives they desire, everyone else is just lazy.
edit - just for clarification, my comment was about working hard, not about monetary success. If you work had at what you do and poor your heart into your life, it does not matter whether you are a starving artist, work retail, or are a lawyer.
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Why are so many responses here just gamer guys being defensive?
I empathize with your experiences. My ex gf was a gamer too, was spoiled by her parents, didn't put in much effort to get a job, and just stayed home playing WoW and watching anime all day while I paid for the bills. I had to break up with her to get this point across - we had discussions for many months about needing to see changes - it just didn't happen.
I agree with others saying you do not need to be in a relationship just because you're out of one at the moment. Enjoy life, meet some new people once in a while, reconnect with ones you haven't talked with in a while too. Join in on some groups you're interested in. All the while, keep doing whatever it takes to keep you feeling good with your life - working out, learning new things, or whatever.
Good luck!
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On August 23 2011 08:13 EscPlan9 wrote:
Why are so many responses here just gamer guys being defensive?
I empathize with your experiences. My ex gf was a gamer too, was spoiled by her parents, didn't put in much effort to get a job, and just stayed home playing WoW and watching anime all day while I paid for the bills. I had to break up with her to get this point across - we had discussions for many months about needing to see changes - it just didn't happen.
I agree with others saying you do not need to be in a relationship just because you're out of one at the moment. Enjoy life, meet some new people once in a while, reconnect with ones you haven't talked with in a while too. Join in on some groups you're interested in. All the while, keep doing whatever it takes to keep you feeling good with your life - working out, learning new things, or whatever.
Good luck!
I know, I didn't mean to come across as if I wanted to jump into something new right away. It's just... I've felt single for a long time. It's difficult to explain.
On August 23 2011 08:09 Mora wrote:
you're boyfriend's a loser.
get over it and move on.
Like, seriously, I could never imagine dating someone so useless. I pay my rent, cook my meals, take care of myself and pay bills. I also support my mother because times are rough and she can't work. I also have RRSPs, and travel. And I've been doing all of these things since i was 22 years old. I moved out of my 'rents place when I was 18.
This will probably come off as some sort of brag, but I really don't think I'm all that amazing. I've done well for myself, sure, but so has anyone else who is worth dating. I'm not great, I'm normal. People work hard for lives they desire, everyone else is just lazy.
edit - just for clarification, my comment was about working hard, not about monetary success. If you work had at what you do and poor your heart into your life, it does not matter whether you are a starving artist, work retail, or are a lawyer.
I know, I'm trying. lol. It's interesting... Canadians have given me the best advice so far!
On August 23 2011 07:39 Hidden_MotiveS wrote:
OMG boy blog!
That is all.
Also, how dare you call me and all other gamers a lazy bum! Rah rah must defend gamer pride.
Oh dear lord, I'm so sick of this. 
I'm not at all saying every guy who plays gamers/considers themselves a "gamer" is a bum/lazy/worthless.
Seriously..... Guys I've dated in the past (I know someone asked me this...) have just sort of fit this description. I've either met them through college, mutual friends, or through work. Mostly college.
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You should date qxc. Gamer + degree in best college ever + lives in chicago which aint that far.
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On August 23 2011 14:20 ReketSomething wrote:
You should date qxc. Gamer + degree in best college ever + lives in chicago which aint that far.
Well... now we all know qxc's teamliquid alt now don't we
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Find a more responsible gamer nerd 
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On August 23 2011 14:29 Hidden_MotiveS wrote:Show nested quote +On August 23 2011 14:20 ReketSomething wrote:
You should date qxc. Gamer + degree in best college ever + lives in chicago which aint that far. Well... now we all know qxc's teamliquid alt now don't we
Psh, you're right, only 5-6 hours from here.
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On August 22 2011 15:40 SagaZ wrote:
"Maybe I should date someone who enjoys sports. Like… the kind with balls! "
Date salce, he is very good with oriana
It's a shame Jiji is taken, eh!
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On August 23 2011 08:13 EscPlan9 wrote:
Why are so many responses here just gamer guys being defensive?
On August 22 2011 15:35 Porcelain wrote:
I guess I should stop dating gamers. I feel like I’ve been in this situation before… My last three relationships all failed miserably due to different goals in life. They were all gamers. Sure, it’s a good time when you stay up late drinking wine and playing final fantasy… but when I go to work the next day and you get to sleep in (because you either have no job or barely work) … I get a tad bit jealous. Just sayin’.
^ it's just cause of this.
OP: I ate 3 rotten apples, now I don't ever want an apple again!
Defensive Apple: Hey! I'm an apple and not rotten, you shouldn't swear off us because you ate rotten ones!
Just seems the OP is misidentifying the issue, but maybe I just fixated on that particular part of the post too much. *shrug*
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I'm sure you'll find another place and roommate sooner or later.
As for future relationships, you now have higher standards (added: employed and without addiction).
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Move on with your life -- he is not worth it. =) Keep your chin up and everything will be alright!
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move to a bigger city once you finish your studies.
get a job that you like.
build your home.
THEN
start looking for something serious.
Works everytime.
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On a sidenote ... why do intelligent people study finance?
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On August 24 2011 14:20 jacen wrote:
move to a bigger city once you finish your studies.
get a job that you like.
build your home.
THEN
start looking for something serious.
Works everytime.
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On a sidenote ... why do intelligent people study finance?
Sometimes below average people choose to study finance as well, trust me.
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I think you just need to date sc2 players instead. Here are some reasons.
+ Show Spoiler +1. Economy management, They know shit costs money 2. Planning, They know how to plan builds/lives 3. Multitasking, Cooking takes multitasking. With their high APM they can cook dinner, do dishes and give you a massage at the same time! 4. Good with their hands, need I say more? 5. Sense of timing. If your observer is late, your lose. They will never be late to appointments. 6. Memory. Forgetting pylons is bad, so is forgetting birthdays! 7. Map knowledge. They know their way around Metalopolis, and probably their town as well! 8. Rare material knowledge. All sc2 players know, Gold>Silver 9. Ladder know how. Putting up Christmas lights has never been easier! 10. Chat ready! Chat channels are good for communication skills 11. Prospecting. Learned in various minerals. 12. Club Ready!. They know how to /dance! 13. methodical. Knowing when to do a slow push, can make all the difference. 14. Rushing, Need to get their ASAP? No Problem! 15. Scouting, You will never have to worry about what your neighbors are doing ever again! 16. Construction. Need an expansion on your house!? Done! 17. Harassment. They know how to deal with it. 18. Manners. glhf! 19. Hard Working. Not enough minerals, harvest more minerals. 20. Handsome! 'nuff said. + Show Spoiler +Hope these cheered you up some.
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NeverGG
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This is definitely one of the reasons I don't get myself involved in relationships anymore. The drama just isn't worth it. (I guess I'm more like a guy in my attitudes towards relationships anyway. O.o;) I'm sure it'll work out for you in the end, just don't get too caught up in the whole thing. There are way more important things worth focusing on.
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