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This is sort of a follow on to my most recent blog post..
http://www.teamliquid.net/blogs/viewblog.php?id=244783
I know it's about a girl and there are endless posts of something like this but it's gotten to the point where I'm scared.. I feel alone and I don't know what to do and any second I'm alone, I start to have panic attacks and I just can't take it anymore..
I've tried texting and calling anyone I can and I really need help here guys.. I really do..
I've been through rough situations with girls before but in this case.. something within me, it's killing me inside...
I can't sleep.. I've had 4 hours a night for the past week..
I can't eat... my body is telling me I'm hungry but my head and mind and feelings just don't have the strength to pick something up to eat..
I miss her.. I love her.. I can't stop thinking about her and I'm doing everything I can to block her out but I mentally and physically can't.. I need anyone..
If any of you guys can help.. please.. even talking on MSN.. I just need someone..
  
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Buddy just grab a couple of your closest friends who aren't busy with school/work and host a massive drinking party for the weekend (or the entire week, who cares!). This is personal advice from personal experience.
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train your body, wear it out. go for walks for hours. i dont know about alcohol...friends is probably a good idea, but try not to sob.. 
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On July 19 2011 04:33 OpticalShot wrote:
Buddy just grab a couple of your closest friends who aren't busy with school/work and host a massive drinking party for the weekend (or the entire week, who cares!). This is personal advice from personal experience.
I tried man.. I didn't know how lonely I really was until I stopped talking to her..
I have no one right now..
People are willing to see me on the weekend but I'm having a panic attack at this moment.. I just am hoping for anyone's support and help right now..
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there is nothing anybody can do to directly starting "curing" your emotional state.... there is nothing you can do but stick it out and wait till you can accept and be okay with the way things are subconsciously, which is something that must come naturally and should not/cannot be rushed. the best thing you can do is to hang out with people, go do active things that are fun/distracting and will keep you occupied to pass the time that your mind needs to get back on its feet while also making good memories and strengthening friendships in the process.
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Do you have a mom that you can talk to?
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On July 19 2011 04:39 jjun212 wrote:Show nested quote +On July 19 2011 04:33 OpticalShot wrote:
Buddy just grab a couple of your closest friends who aren't busy with school/work and host a massive drinking party for the weekend (or the entire week, who cares!). This is personal advice from personal experience. I tried man.. I didn't know how lonely I really was until I stopped talking to her.. I have no one right now.. People are willing to see me on the weekend but I'm having a panic attack at this moment.. I just am hoping for anyone's support and help right now..
Jesus, this sounds serious.
Gimme a PM if a little chat could help you at all and you got noone else.
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On July 19 2011 04:43 caruso wrote:Show nested quote +On July 19 2011 04:39 jjun212 wrote:On July 19 2011 04:33 OpticalShot wrote:
Buddy just grab a couple of your closest friends who aren't busy with school/work and host a massive drinking party for the weekend (or the entire week, who cares!). This is personal advice from personal experience. I tried man.. I didn't know how lonely I really was until I stopped talking to her.. I have no one right now.. People are willing to see me on the weekend but I'm having a panic attack at this moment.. I just am hoping for anyone's support and help right now.. Jesus, this sounds serious. Gimme a PM if a little chat could help you at all and you got noone else.
thank you man.. i sent a pm..
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You can always talk to Teamliquid! one of the nicest communities out here in the sc2 scene!
Girl problems happen to a lot of people that i know, but they will pass dude, its just a big hill that you will have to try and climb over it, I believe you can do it
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Blazinghand
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Hey man, hope things are going okay :"(((
It won't be easy to think about anything else if you're not doing anything else. Maybe it's time for a 48 hour starcraft marathon? Something to occupy your hands might also occupy your mind, and give you a break from pining away-- or at the very least, give you something else to think about.
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Yeah, you weren't in love dude, sorry. That doesn't happen from chatting with someone over the internet a bunch and then seeing them twice. It's real easy to make yourself seem like a wonderful person to a stranger on the internet
Go watch the movie Catfish. It will make you realize how stupid that whole situation is, which will help you get over it.
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On July 19 2011 04:39 jjun212 wrote:Show nested quote +On July 19 2011 04:33 OpticalShot wrote:
Buddy just grab a couple of your closest friends who aren't busy with school/work and host a massive drinking party for the weekend (or the entire week, who cares!). This is personal advice from personal experience. I tried man.. I didn't know how lonely I really was until I stopped talking to her.. I have no one right now.. People are willing to see me on the weekend but I'm having a panic attack at this moment.. I just am hoping for anyone's support and help right now..
Weekend? What, today is Monday so you gotta wait it out for 5 days, ok so that's not going to go well at the current state lol. I dunno, I'm pretty comfortable listening to emotional talk so you can send me a PM, but trust me talking to random people online is NOTHING compared to sitting down with friends/family and having a couple drinks.
You feel alone but you are probably not that alone... unless you live in the middle of nowhere (which you don't, because you have internet right now). So scroll through that contact list on your phone and call up a couple people. Preferably immediately.
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Shoot me a PM and maybe I can help.
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Listen, i know how first days can be hard, all the thoughts, memorys, regrets. But hold on man, i guarantee you that your going to be just fine, dont worry.
Try to watch some tv or play something, keep ur mind busy.
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On July 19 2011 04:49 Hawk wrote:
Yeah, you weren't in love dude, sorry. That doesn't happen from chatting with someone over the internet a bunch and then seeing them twice. It's real easy to make yourself seem like a wonderful person to a stranger on the internet
Go watch the movie Catfish. It will make you realize how stupid that whole situation is, which will help you get over it.
Thank you for the reply.. I'm actually really serious about my gratitude because it feels nice just knowing that someone knows that I'm in pain.. because she sure doesn't know.. And that hurts even more..
But I was trying to act cool in the previous blog post. Cool as in.. trying to be a man about it and trying to be logical and just move on.. but in reality.. it's killing me more than any other relationship I've had with any other person..
I actually knew her from 4 years back.. we were just friends.. but we started talking intimately 1 year ago; so she isn't just someone I found on the internet.. she's been someone close to me for much longer.. Even though I hadn't seen her in years.. I hold her so close to my heart..
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Rated a 3 because I went through this type of experience before...
Let me just say that what my ex-girlfriend did to me trumps your teen angst about tenfold.
I do feel for you though. I had all kinds of horrible dreams, couldn't eat (lost 10 lbs), couldn't work out, couldn't work, and generally felt like crap. It's a scary state to be in but there are many ways of dealing with it. Here's a brief summary of how I got out of it:
First of all I could always talk to my parents. On multiple occasions I could either talk to my mom or my dad and they would be genuinely concerned for my well-being and try to build me up again. Your parents should always be your final call if you have no one else. Who else can you turn to if you can't turn to them? No one.
Second, I think my friends picked up on what happened at least to some degree (or at least how I felt) and they made an effort to hang out with me. My friendships have built up hugely over the past couple months. You can never cure a depression like that without friends. Even when you think that no one will hang out with you there has to be at least someone who will.
For immediate panic help though I'd go straight to my parents. Friends are willing to be confidantes but not always at random times. You don't want to bug your friends too often, only when you really need it.
Finally, you should have realized by now that this is a ridiculously small situation, and it is not worth getting this upset over. Deleting her texts is OK but killing all of Facebook over it is such an overreaction. You'll look back on this later when a girl has really fucked you over and realize that this was small-time.
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Relax dude, you aren't going through anything that many others haven't gone through. I'll chat with you if you want, but you need to relax and not be so attached.
To feel better you could do some stuff other than dwelling on it. I would recommend the TL Health and Fitness thread. Don't knock it til' you try it, it will change your life.
http://www.teamliquid.net/forum/viewmessage.php?topic_id=180919
If you don't want the easy way out (distractions) then you can take the best path of all and that is questioning why you are scared and depressed and facing it head on.
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On July 19 2011 04:59 TheGiz wrote:
Rated a 3 because I went through this type of experience before...
Let me just say that what my ex-girlfriend did to me trumps your teen angst about tenfold.
Story! Story! Story!
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On July 19 2011 05:02 caruso wrote:Show nested quote +On July 19 2011 04:59 TheGiz wrote:
Rated a 3 because I went through this type of experience before...
Let me just say that what my ex-girlfriend did to me trumps your teen angst about tenfold.
Story! Story! Story!
I love it when TL blogs are full of drama. YES STORYYYYYY
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Maybe we can cheer the OP up by telling him our worst girl stories.
Mine was a ONS who during a blowjob actually tried to stick a finger...
Well I can't say it, but imagine the worst place she could stick a finger into.
No need to mention I threw her out instantly.
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