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On July 19 2011 05:11 caruso wrote:
Maybe we can cheer the OP up by telling him our worst girl stories.
Mine was a ONS who during a blowjob actually tried to stick a finger...
Well I can't say it, but imagine the worst place she could stick a finger into.
No need to mention I threw her out instantly.
Did she try to give you a Wet Willie?
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On July 19 2011 05:14 iGrok wrote:Show nested quote +On July 19 2011 05:11 caruso wrote:
Maybe we can cheer the OP up by telling him our worst girl stories.
Mine was a ONS who during a blowjob actually tried to stick a finger...
Well I can't say it, but imagine the worst place she could stick a finger into.
No need to mention I threw her out instantly. Did she try to give you a Wet Willie?
I wish.... I wish so much.
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On July 19 2011 05:14 iGrok wrote:Show nested quote +On July 19 2011 05:11 caruso wrote:
Maybe we can cheer the OP up by telling him our worst girl stories.
Mine was a ONS who during a blowjob actually tried to stick a finger...
Well I can't say it, but imagine the worst place she could stick a finger into.
No need to mention I threw her out instantly. Did she try to give you a Wet Willie?
Damn I hate wet willies during blowjobs!
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On July 19 2011 05:11 caruso wrote:
Maybe we can cheer the OP up by telling him our worst girl stories.
Mine was a ONS who during a blowjob actually tried to stick a finger...
Well I can't say it, but imagine the worst place she could stick a finger into.
No need to mention I threw her out instantly.
she tried to stick her finger into your penis?
because that is the worst place I can imagine
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On July 19 2011 05:27 travis wrote:Show nested quote +On July 19 2011 05:11 caruso wrote:
Maybe we can cheer the OP up by telling him our worst girl stories.
Mine was a ONS who during a blowjob actually tried to stick a finger...
Well I can't say it, but imagine the worst place she could stick a finger into.
No need to mention I threw her out instantly. she tried to stick her finger into your penis? because that is the worst place I can imagine
I was actually thinking that too, but it would be kind of impressive if she managed to do that during a blowjob.
Ah sorry for adding to the derail, but that was too hard to resist. No pun intended.
I would really really really suggest opening up to whoever you trust most. Personally I go prayer, parents, closest friends, and if all that hasn't fixed it up all the way, grandparents. I'm not sure what kind of relationships you hold with those around you, but the older people around me have the advantage of experience and it helps a whole lot. I mean I'm pretty closed off emotionally but I still manage to open up a little or however makes me comfortable. It took me awhile to figure out but it is a lot easier to let out just a little bit and possibly loosen up your feelings from that point rather than trying to keep it inside, over thinking it, or just plain getting scared.
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Blazinghand
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On July 19 2011 05:27 travis wrote:Show nested quote +On July 19 2011 05:11 caruso wrote:
Maybe we can cheer the OP up by telling him our worst girl stories.
Mine was a ONS who during a blowjob actually tried to stick a finger...
Well I can't say it, but imagine the worst place she could stick a finger into.
No need to mention I threw her out instantly. she tried to stick her finger into your penis? because that is the worst place I can imagine
well done... well done. my day is now traumatized.
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My initial advice is to not look for anyone else's help, but that's probably why I'm so cold-hearted and dead now. You may become stronger if you can stand this kind of pain on your own, but it may also be too much to handle and break you to the point of no return. No matter the case you've got to find the trust in yourself to hold on until someone can help. You don't happen to have seen a therapist before have you? They usually are ok with people calling them if you're in this kind of trouble.
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this kind of experience sucks -- and it's not at all uncommon. the best thing for you to do is to try and put things in perspective. common responses are:
you're still young
she's not as special as she seems -- there are other girls you may like even more than you like her
prioritize other aspects of your life
these responses are standard but they are misunderstandings -- they're subjective, which is your problem. as travis says, you're focused on yourself, on your desires and attachments. right now it seems like the sensible thing to do is to indulge your whims and use whatever means is available to numb the pain or loss that you feel. most people don't appreciate the bitter pill. that this experience and others like it will occur over and over again until you take a different path.
instead of searching for a replacement, or even for companionship; instead of drinking away your sorrows or using other methods of intoxication, the only way for you to 'exceed your level' or to make 'progress' is to calm your mind either by meditation or by performing some simple, relaxing activity while placing your full focus on the activity. continue to refocus yourself for as long as it takes to find some sense of stability (don't, for instance, play starcraft or indulge in some highly exciting activity. do something simple, but do it with your whole being). at first this focusing of the mind may seem very difficult or even impossible, but if you try for half an hour, constantly bringing your attention back to the activity that you're performing, you'll recognize that your mind is significantly more stable. once your mind is stable, gently consider your situation and try to pierce through the 'illusions' that have brought you to such a miserable pass.
you'll discover that much of what's driving you is 'monkey mind' or instinct. when you develop a sense of how little control your ego affords you, you'll naturally develop more stability as the you are less identified with your attachment. awareness and recognition will give you more, and lasting stability. as will the exercise of focusing your mind on a simple activity, gradually and gently braiding the strands of your attention so that your mind is not simply a frayed thread. as long as you remain in a state where your mind is simply a flood of uncoordinated thoughts, whatever you do will be miserable. if you drink, you'll be a danger to yourself and your company (this is true of other substance use as well). if you seek companionship, you'll have nothing to offer in return, and ultimately you'll do a disservice to both yourself and your friends, and knowing this, your bad mood will only worsen.
these problems are your problems, and no one else can address them for you. turning to activities, substances or companionship for distractions or indulgences will inevitably backfire. embrace this as an opportunity for growth, seek advice, don't rely on distraction.
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also, if you follow my advice, it will almost certainly bring about positive results in your mood and cure much of your anxiety
of course you'll need to make a sincere effort to continually refocus your attention for half an hour or so. the first few minutes are gonna seem especially hard and you'll probably think that what you're doing is in vain, but if you persist, for the full time you'll see significant positive results in your mood. the most important point is that you make a sincere effort to constantly bring your attention back to the simple activity and each time you find your thoughts straying to self-pity, disappointment, or loss, you gently refocus your attention on the activity. this will probably be very difficult since your will is weak, but you'll be surprised how much progress you can make in a short time
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On July 19 2011 05:11 caruso wrote:
Maybe we can cheer the OP up by telling him our worst girl stories.
Mine was a ONS who during a blowjob actually tried to stick a finger...
Well I can't say it, but imagine the worst place she could stick a finger into.
No need to mention I threw her out instantly.
Don't understand why most guys are so turned off by that. I don't think I would want her to go full tilt, but I'd actually encourage her to fondle it.
OP. Relax dude. I would be more depressed and scared about the fact that you consider yourself incapable of standing on your own two feet rather than anxiety of being betrayed.
You need to regain your foundation and accept that we are all capable of moving on and building new relationships. You'll bounce back.
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failsafe great advice, the only problem with it is how incredibly incredibly low the odds are that anyone ever takes that advice haha
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On July 19 2011 05:43 travis wrote:
failsafe great advice, the only problem with it is how incredibly incredibly low the odds are that anyone ever takes that advice haha
I really tried..
I worked out everyday for 3 months straight in order to lose body fat in order to see her with confidence...
Now everytime I change into my workout clothes.. everytime I'm on my yoga mat.. I'm reminded of her..
I worked out so much to the point that she was my motivation to eat healthier.. to exercise regularly...
If someone asked me why I'm depressed and struggling... it's the thought of her right now..
But if you ask me right now what my happiest memories are.. it's also of her..
I don't know what to do.. I don't want to let go of someone I love so much.. that I hold so close to my heart..
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cheer up bro the cares of this world are moot
jesus loves you & he's coming back real soon
peace of god be with you bro
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jjun read failsafe's advice thats what im responding to im not talking about working out
but the working out im talking about anyways is the kind where you push yourself so hard that you're dripping sweat and you can't keep going and you have to take a nap because you can't stay awake anymore.
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On July 19 2011 05:58 Coraz wrote:
cheer up bro the cares of this world are moot
jesus loves you & he's coming back real soon
peace of god be with you bro
Maybe it's not Jesus but the Spanish gardener jhesus and he doesn't love him but his girlfriend instead.
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On July 19 2011 04:30 jjun212 wrote:This is sort of a follow on to my most recent blog post.. http://www.teamliquid.net/blogs/viewblog.php?id=244783I know it's about a girl and there are endless posts of something like this but it's gotten to the point where I'm scared.. I feel alone and I don't know what to do and any second I'm alone, I start to have panic attacks and I just can't take it anymore.. I've tried texting and calling anyone I can and I really need help here guys.. I really do.. I've been through rough situations with girls before but in this case.. something within me, it's killing me inside... I can't sleep.. I've had 4 hours a night for the past week.. I can't eat... my body is telling me I'm hungry but my head and mind and feelings just don't have the strength to pick something up to eat.. I miss her.. I love her.. I can't stop thinking about her and I'm doing everything I can to block her out but I mentally and physically can't.. I need anyone.. If any of you guys can help.. please.. even talking on MSN.. I just need someone..
MSN will do for me, pm me for my username and I can offer a skype too. I'll be on all day.
When I fell deep in a crush two of my friends helped me out a lot. Another pushed me closer QQ
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stay away from internet girls... far far away
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1. Take your clothes off, all of them
2. Get in the shower, turn it on full blast as cold as possible
3. Stay in 2 for 3 minutes screaming at the top of your lungs
4. Put your clothes back on and go outside in the sun, be a new man
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i PM'd you my skype id if u still need someone to talk =]
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skype : telecomrg
aim : streetsweeper113
TL : pm me here
I've been through what you went through, if you need someone to talk to just hit me up, Don't worry about a thing, Love comes again~ and again~ and again~~~ in life theres always two things that keep coming and going, women and bus's !
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