EPTOn June 11 2011 19:33 Deyster wrote:
Now the typical advice people give me is to take initiative and do something (As in be a YES man, as in the movie and take a chance), I've tried several things, none worked, probably to me being a guy who always over thinks stuff, clubbing went AWFUL, I'm not the kind of guy that would fit in a club or even feel comfortable in one. Going to the gym was also as bad, it's people with music in their headphones doing their thing. Hanging out with people in the University/Hospital is awkward, my interests are so different from others so conversations are usually me being oblivious on what they are talking about, or me explaining/talking about something to them that I'm sure they don't understand.
Now the typical advice people give me is to take initiative and do something (As in be a YES man, as in the movie and take a chance), I've tried several things, none worked, probably to me being a guy who always over thinks stuff, clubbing went AWFUL, I'm not the kind of guy that would fit in a club or even feel comfortable in one. Going to the gym was also as bad, it's people with music in their headphones doing their thing. Hanging out with people in the University/Hospital is awkward, my interests are so different from others so conversations are usually me being oblivious on what they are talking about, or me explaining/talking about something to them that I'm sure they don't understand.
One thing that I learned from being in a remarkably similar situation is enjoying things that "normal" people like is a skill that can be practiced and learned like any other skill.
Also, there's clubs and groups for almost any interest imaginable. I started having A LOT more friends when I found some groups that met weekly to play poker, for example.
