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When there is a special edition of a parent rage blog, you know something really bad has happened...
So I'll start with a previous blog. There was a backyard key, because my mom wouldn't let me have one. And she attached it to a 1ft by 6inch piece of wood. But it's inconvenient going into the backyard to get the key, and why the hell will hse not let me have one. I'd like to think that I"m ressponsible enough to have a key. With just a year and 2 months until college, if I can't have a house key there is something seriously wrong.
So I disattached the key from the block of wood and put it on a keychain. And then my mom asked about the keychain, and had a fit, and I put it back.
So then I just carried it around loose (note, don't do that)
I had it yesterday coming home from school. Sometime between yesterday after school and this morning, it ended up outside of my pocket.
So I couldn't find it, so I called my mom and confessed this morning. She got really mad (I was afraid what would happen if I didn't tell the truth, and she always says she will have a better reaction if I don't lieee) Wellllll that didn't work out. She had a huge fit, and started saying about how I wasn't ready for college, I have no responsibility, etc. SO I get home from school, she tells me to look. SHe yells at me for a very very very very long time about lack of responsibility. And about how my brother is more responsible than me, and about how he can have a housekey, but I won't have access to one, so I can't even get in until 5:00 two days a week.
So at this point, after being told I was soooo irresponsible I got mad. And when you get mad you make less than optimal decisions.
I know that my mom doesn't need to use the car/house key until like 6:00. So I take the key and leave to get a couple keys cut. One to "replace" the one I lost, and one to use for myself. TO put on a keychain.
Well, alas my mom finds out what I was doing. So I"m leaving OSH.
And she pulls up at like 40mph in the parking lot, with squealing tires. I thought there was a robber taking off or something along those lines. And the OSH people hear it and run out, and are like SLOW DOWN MA'AM. And then she yells at me. "show me the keys, all of them" At this point I'm just sitting there sort of shocked like lolwut. AND THE RECEIPT. YOU CUT MORE THAN 2 DIDN"T YOU. SO I show her the reciept.
And then she said "WHEN YOU GET HOME SOMETHING IN YOUR ROOM WILL BE MISSING"
And then she took off, almost hitting my foot, and causing the OSH worker to yell at her again, and look at my with sympathy. SO now I"m at the nearby library contemplating what the hell to do. What should I do?
Sigh.
 
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show her the error of her ways. lay low somewhere for a couple of days and make her think you've gone missing. but don't skip school.
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I have finals tomorrow.
Also, if I do go to school but am not at home she'll call me missing and they'll know I'm at school so it's over.
So no.
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Maybe she locked the door on the way out of the house, and now she doesn't have a key to get back in. :p
Now THAT would be ironic.
I also don't have a house key right now, but that's more because we recently changed the front door/knob, so I have keys to the back but not the front, and the back door knob is kind've screwed up, and almost impossible to open. So instead, I just phone the house repeatedly until someone opens the door at night :p
Just got my car back from the shop today too, maybe I'll get some keys cut this weekend.
Edit:
About your situation:
Is there any rational reason that your Mum has given you for not being able to have a key? Have you ever asked? That would probably be the first step to have taken.
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Dunno. SHe has em now.
She won't let me have a house key, is the thing.
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All of this drama seems like a hell of a lot more inconvenient than just going to the backyard, no? Sometimes you just have to let your parents have their way, even when they're wrong. But what would I know, I'm not an angsty teen anymore.
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just go missing/run away after your finals.
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On June 09 2011 07:25 Froadac wrote:
Dunno. SHe has em now.
She won't let me have a house key, is the thing.
Well that's what I'm wondering about, has she ever given a reason for it?
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How long until you're 18?
Regardless, I think the best solution here is to just talk it out. Say what you feel, and have respect for what she feels. Be civil. Apologize if necessary, and try to make up some ground and get your relationship with her on course if possible. Iirc from your last blog or so, you're a responsible guy, but she just doesn't respect that. Try to show her that and prove it to her, first by talking to her, and gradually from there.
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Because I"m generically irresponsible.
yes, in terms of just having the housekey in the backyard, I understand it's fine. It's not a big deal for me to go around back. But it angers me that at 17 I can't have a housekey, and it has to be in the backyard.
It's not ratinoal, and I havne't fought over a lot of things where it makes no sense. But my thought is I'd better fight for rights now :/
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So let me get this straight.
Your Mom says you are not responsible enough to have a house key.
Your Mom leaves one hidden in the backyard so you can still get into the house?
You decide to take the key so you do not have to go into the backyard to grab the key.
You then lose the key?
I mean your situation sucks, but maybe your Mom is right when she says you cannot be trusted with a key. It also seems you do the opposite of what she says. The only way to fix your situation in the long term is to prove to your Mom you can be a responsible young adult. Only way to do that is man up and act like a young adult. Do you have a part time job? If not maybe get one to show her that you can do something responsible.
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Damn Froadac ><
your mom needs to lay off. But she's probably just doing it because she worries about you. I think Kralic's got a good idea, try to put yourself in a responsible situation. Get a part time job or even volunteer dude  .
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She won't let me have a job because i"m not responsible enough.
It was a stupid power move on my part, I'll admit that. But I've proven in more than one way that I'm responsible enough for a house key.
I lost the housekey. I know it's in the house. I can find it in 15 minutes, but I admit my fault and got roasted.
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She said you couldn't have the keys because you aren't responsible. You go and take the keys and lose them. I think it would've been easier to just go in through the back. Deal with it for a couple months and then have freedom in college. But you blew it
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awu: I dealt with it for 2 years. Never lost it once.
I volunteer, so I"m responsible for stuff. But that doesn't count in her book
I'm responsible for the second and third largest clubs at my school. But that doesn't count either.
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The reality is just that your mom is fucking insane. There is no use trying to fight it. The best thing I would do is to just tolerate it, you need have the self confidence to recognize that what she says isn't true. Honestly from reading a lot of your blogs it seems that because your parents say things, they become more likely. (if you are irresponsible, forcing you to get a job will give you more consequences that you care about, encouraging you to act more responsibly. It is like they are trying to justify their opinions by making them come true, and then covering their intent with lies that make you think their statements are true). Make sure your actions reflect someone who you want to become, and force yourself to ignore your parents, they aren't helping you. I think there are a bunch of ppl on here who support you. Don't provoke your parents, take their punishments and train yourself to ignore them.
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On June 09 2011 07:34 Froadac wrote:
She won't let me have a job because i"m not responsible enough.
It was a stupid power move on my part, I'll admit that. But I've proven in more than one way that I'm responsible enough for a house key.
I lost the housekey. I know it's in the house. I can find it in 15 minutes, but I admit my fault and got roasted.
How can she control whether or not you can apply for a job? I'm pretty sure it's up to your employer to figure out whether you're responsible enough or not to work for their company :p
Also, I think I remember seeing you bought a car in one of your blogs. So then, don't you have keys to that, for which you must be responsible, and also, isn't driving in itself a responsible activity? (Being safe, taking care of your vehicle, following the rules of the road, etc.)
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I'm really having trouble understanding why you wouldn't get a housekey, even knowing that you're going to lose it. Did something happen in the past that makes your parents feel the need to control your coming and going?
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So let me get this straight...
You're mad, because she didn't think you were responsible... which you proved right by stealing and losing a house key? And then later you went behind her back and stole a copy of a new set of keys, which further proved how immature you were about the whole situation?
And you're mad at her for overreacting to you being wrong about the situation by her squealing her tires and wanting to take something of yours as retribution for you stealing something of hers, never mind the fact that some random person may now have the key to your house because of you (although you compared her to a robber, which was funny)?
Oh okay. Got it.
Well played. She was definitely the jerk in that whole situation.
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On June 09 2011 07:51 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:
So let me get this straight...
You're mad, because she didn't think you were responsible... which you proved right by stealing and losing a house key? And then later you went behind her back and stole a copy of a new set of keys, which further proved how immature you were about the whole situation?
And you're mad at her for overreacting to you being wrong about the situation by her squealing her tires and wanting to take something of yours as retribution for you stealing something of hers, never mind the fact that some random person may now have the key to your house because of you (although you compared her to a robber, which was funny)?
Oh okay. Got it.
Well played. She was definitely the jerk in that whole situation.
....read his blog
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