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d(O.o)a
Profile Blog Joined June 2008
Canada5066 Posts
June 06 2011 04:15 GMT
#21
That's a good read, you clearly have a knack for writing, I would recommend getting a job and moving out so you can live on your own for a while. I'm almost positive it'll have a good effect on your mental health. You can even potentially find somebody to split an apartment with via TL or craigslist.
Hi.
Enervate
Profile Joined August 2010
United States1769 Posts
June 06 2011 04:20 GMT
#22
Maybe try going to writing school and get a job as a writer somewhere? Just try doing what you love for a living would be my advice.
Z3kk
Profile Blog Joined December 2009
4099 Posts
June 06 2011 04:20 GMT
#23
On June 06 2011 13:11 DoctorHelvetica wrote:
Show nested quote +
On June 06 2011 13:08 Z3kk wrote:
On June 06 2011 12:56 DoctorHelvetica wrote:
On June 06 2011 12:39 sob3k wrote:
What do you do for money?

Nothing, I don't have any.


Wait, do you live alone? I'm just wondering how you have money for necessities; i.e. food, water, and shelter >< That really was an emotional outpouring, and I'm sure that everyone here is with you.

Also, something I noticed: did the mods rename your blog to "The Happy Sunshine Blog", or did you sort of name it that sarcastically? D:

I live with my parents and my blog has been named that for quite a while by my own choosing.


Ah, okay. An amazing title nonetheless. It's amazing how much better you write (type?) when you're not on alcohol ;D no, really! Your life story is unbelievably sad, though...you probably do not want pity, and I can extend my sincere sympathy, but unfortunately perhaps not empathy, because I'm spoiled enough not to have gone through that...

As to where to go from here--for starters, I suppose you could focus, as best as you could, on the positive. My advice is probably worth its weight in used newspaper, but anytime you feel down, do not hesitate to talk to us!! If you do not think you have many friends in real life, then rest assured knowing that we'll always be your friends, and will not judge you! >\\\< I would think of something fun to do, but I'm a really boring person... D: I'll think of something.
Failure is not falling down over and over again. Failure is refusing to get back up.
Suc
Profile Blog Joined January 2009
Australia1569 Posts
June 06 2011 04:31 GMT
#24
I have to agree with the people here saying that you're stronger than you give yourself credit for; you've gone through so many incredible hardships and that very dark episode last week, and you've still come through to be stronger.

From the great write-ups you've done for TL and your other posts, it's easily shown that you definitely have the ability to succeed in whatever is your choosing, but you just really need a kick start to get your life back together (I know this is obvious, I just felt it needed to be said as well).

Perhaps getting a job at a local supermarket or something would give you more exposure to different social situations and help you feel more comfortable. It also goes without saying that having a job will help you get out of the house a lot more and you'll be earning a bit of money.

I realise how cheesy and fricken lame some inspirational quotes and such can be, but one that I remember that I think really applies to your situation is, "The second you think of giving up, think of the reason that you held on for so long until now".

Best of luck Christopher, I hope you can get out there and start succeeding at life again.
Atom Cannister
Profile Blog Joined April 2009
Germany380 Posts
June 06 2011 22:40 GMT
#25
Myself and SirJolt like you! We talk about our concern for you in real life.

You don't even know us but we still care.

Things will look up. Think about what adventures your future could have.

Also, look into therapy, that helped me in the past.

...
Diggity
Profile Blog Joined September 2007
United States806 Posts
June 06 2011 23:11 GMT
#26
Hang in there Chris

My childhood wasn't as difficult as yours but I can commiserate otherwise.

Within a 4 year period:

My close friend/roommate was in a car wreck crushing the entire right hand side of his body and collapsing both of his lungs

Another close friend was diagnosed with an inoperable pituitary brain tumor. The tumor completely threw his hormones out of wack which made things extremely uncomfortable for me. He was border line co-dependent and emotionally abusive.

During that my sister was raped. I had to regularly fight the thought of hunting the guy down and murdering or at least maiming him. I knew I could find him, and I knew I would be prepared to make sure he never walked again, but I knew I would go to prison for at least 25 years which would have made my sister feel worse.

I managed to graduate college after switching majors. After a long stint in temp work (during which I saw the housing crisis foundations first hand a couple years before it happened) I finally landed a "reputable" job.

However my mother was diagnosed with leukemia. She had a spider bite that looked odd. She had it checked and on a whim they discovered the very early onset of the cancer.

I couldn't focus at work. The work place was somewhat cliquish to start. I am fairly certain the boss believed that I was flirting with his then girlfriend (co-worker). The entire situation was hell. I was fired within a month.

I moved back home to recoup. While there I took care of my father who had no clue how to function with my mom in the hospital. I spent the next 2.5 years between San Diego looking for a job and home taking care of my Dad. During one of the trips to San Diego my car literally blew up (fan belt failure and flames out the side of the front hood sending the radiator through the floor) after making a trip over the grape vine.

I refused to lie about the permanence of my living situation and so I was unable to find a full time job either at home or in San Diego.

After my mother died my Dad lost all cognitive ability. He left me alone to take care of his affairs while he traveled the country visiting my sisters. While doing so he instantly began visiting online dating sites which lead him to abusive relationship after abusive relationship.

One of my sisters went into a deep depression. My mother was her best friend.

In the meantime I was stuck in the house that belonged to my mother and father alone for 6 months. I had very little money as I tried my best not to be drain on my parents resources. I spent the month of December in a minivan from 3am to 7am and then from 2pm to 5pm in the cold, outside of gas refilling stations writing down numbers off the side of trucks for a cold-call marketing list. This was all so I could afford presents for my family at Christmas.

During this time my Dad started to rail into me about not having a job. I had a 2.5 year gap in employment and I had been fired from my previous position. My only recourse was a long series of temp jobs. While I did excellent work there was zero pressure on the companies to hire me. As a result I filled in 6 month assignment after 6 month assignment often times being shuffled back to the same work location on request.

I was given empty promises of positions multiple times only to have them come up dry. All the interviews I found outside of temp work were marketing schemes or for positions that paid less and demanded more hours.

It was actually during this time that I found Starcraft commentary and used it as a way to cope.

Some years later I am now employed with a fantastic job. I have an amazing wife and an amazing life.

I know we didn't talk long at the finals party you attended but my impression of you was on the whole positive. Whatever your father or other people said, you are definitely not a failure. You are someone who is highly capable and intelligent.

I can't guarantee that everything will be rainbows and unicorns on the other side of everything, but I can say things get better. I think you will find that once you get through this, the stupid petty things that everyone else freaks out over will seem really small to you. What is important, like really important, will be extremely clear and easy to grasp. Once you start to see those things again you will find that you can endure pretty much anything anyone can throw at you.

I know what it feels like to be completely unmotivated. Its like there is someone out there whose personal job is to orchestrate events to simply exhaust you. I still feel like that sometimes. But it gets better. In the future you will be able to look behind you at moments exactly like these and use it as strength to move forward.

If you ever need someone to talk to I am not that far away.
Coagulation
Profile Blog Joined July 2006
United States9633 Posts
June 06 2011 23:13 GMT
#27
If you didnt live on the other coast we could make a band and rock out.

+ Show Spoiler +
you have no idea how hard it is to find a decent drummer to jam with here.
SirJolt
Profile Blog Joined October 2009
the Dagon Knight4002 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-06-07 00:05:20
June 07 2011 00:03 GMT
#28
On June 07 2011 07:40 Atom Cannister wrote:
Myself and SirJolt like you! We talk about our concern for you in real life.

You don't even know us but we still care.

Things will look up. Think about what adventures your future could have.

Also, look into therapy, that helped me in the past.



This is all true, and I hadn't known he had posted it, so as I read this topic I was thinking of a post with a similar shape to this.

I also agree with whoever said "passion is fuel for the soul."

If you're passionate about history, I would very much advise just writing a history of something. As a student of a social science, I found that my interests really kicked off when I had left college, I was able to investigate and read around subjects that interested me at my leisure.

I guess all I'm trying to say is, "I appreciate your output here."

Edit: A lovely old musician I know once told me, "A decent drummer will never go hungry," so there's always hope there
Moderator@SirJolt
Trozz
Profile Blog Joined November 2008
Canada3454 Posts
June 07 2011 00:18 GMT
#29
Just read all of this.
I hope your mood never drops.
Please stay in the game. <3
A build is not a guess, an estimation or a hunch, a feeling, or a foolish intuition. A build is a dependable, unwavering, unarguably accurate, portrayer of your ambition.
CodECleaR
Profile Joined November 2010
United States395 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-06-07 00:55:24
June 07 2011 00:52 GMT
#30
Now I realize that my problems are nothing compared to yours, makes me have a much more appreciative view of the world. For determination, you really, really have to find something to latch onto. You say you want to be a World History Professor @ a top uni/college, or a well paid performing musician, and while you may have a knack for those, it doesn't seem as if those are motivators--you need something that you can devote all of your time to. I know it may seem like you're old, too old to dream, but you have to find something you absolutely love, then you'll be successful at it. I know this post probably won't help so I really recommend seeing your doctor ASAP.
Dr. Helvetica FIGHTING
<3

EDIT: Feel free to contact anyone on TL---we're here for you Admins, anyone in this thread, etc.
How do you beat a terran who's hardcore turtling off 3 base? Flip him on his back and walk away."
Probulous
Profile Blog Joined March 2011
Australia3894 Posts
June 07 2011 04:34 GMT
#31
On June 07 2011 08:11 Diggity wrote:
+ Show Spoiler +

Hang in there Chris

My childhood wasn't as difficult as yours but I can commiserate otherwise.

Within a 4 year period:

My close friend/roommate was in a car wreck crushing the entire right hand side of his body and collapsing both of his lungs

Another close friend was diagnosed with an inoperable pituitary brain tumor. The tumor completely threw his hormones out of wack which made things extremely uncomfortable for me. He was border line co-dependent and emotionally abusive.

During that my sister was raped. I had to regularly fight the thought of hunting the guy down and murdering or at least maiming him. I knew I could find him, and I knew I would be prepared to make sure he never walked again, but I knew I would go to prison for at least 25 years which would have made my sister feel worse.

I managed to graduate college after switching majors. After a long stint in temp work (during which I saw the housing crisis foundations first hand a couple years before it happened) I finally landed a "reputable" job.

However my mother was diagnosed with leukemia. She had a spider bite that looked odd. She had it checked and on a whim they discovered the very early onset of the cancer.

I couldn't focus at work. The work place was somewhat cliquish to start. I am fairly certain the boss believed that I was flirting with his then girlfriend (co-worker). The entire situation was hell. I was fired within a month.

I moved back home to recoup. While there I took care of my father who had no clue how to function with my mom in the hospital. I spent the next 2.5 years between San Diego looking for a job and home taking care of my Dad. During one of the trips to San Diego my car literally blew up (fan belt failure and flames out the side of the front hood sending the radiator through the floor) after making a trip over the grape vine.

I refused to lie about the permanence of my living situation and so I was unable to find a full time job either at home or in San Diego.

After my mother died my Dad lost all cognitive ability. He left me alone to take care of his affairs while he traveled the country visiting my sisters. While doing so he instantly began visiting online dating sites which lead him to abusive relationship after abusive relationship.

One of my sisters went into a deep depression. My mother was her best friend.

In the meantime I was stuck in the house that belonged to my mother and father alone for 6 months. I had very little money as I tried my best not to be drain on my parents resources. I spent the month of December in a minivan from 3am to 7am and then from 2pm to 5pm in the cold, outside of gas refilling stations writing down numbers off the side of trucks for a cold-call marketing list. This was all so I could afford presents for my family at Christmas.

During this time my Dad started to rail into me about not having a job. I had a 2.5 year gap in employment and I had been fired from my previous position. My only recourse was a long series of temp jobs. While I did excellent work there was zero pressure on the companies to hire me. As a result I filled in 6 month assignment after 6 month assignment often times being shuffled back to the same work location on request.

I was given empty promises of positions multiple times only to have them come up dry. All the interviews I found outside of temp work were marketing schemes or for positions that paid less and demanded more hours.

It was actually during this time that I found Starcraft commentary and used it as a way to cope.

Some years later I am now employed with a fantastic job. I have an amazing wife and an amazing life.

I know we didn't talk long at the finals party you attended but my impression of you was on the whole positive. Whatever your father or other people said, you are definitely not a failure. You are someone who is highly capable and intelligent.

I can't guarantee that everything will be rainbows and unicorns on the other side of everything, but I can say things get better. I think you will find that once you get through this, the stupid petty things that everyone else freaks out over will seem really small to you. What is important, like really important, will be extremely clear and easy to grasp. Once you start to see those things again you will find that you can endure pretty much anything anyone can throw at you.

I know what it feels like to be completely unmotivated. Its like there is someone out there whose personal job is to orchestrate events to simply exhaust you. I still feel like that sometimes. But it gets better. In the future you will be able to look behind you at moments exactly like these and use it as strength to move forward.

If you ever need someone to talk to I am not that far away.


Wow...I don't know what I just read but it felt like a film-script. I'm not sure what to say other than you sir, are an inspiration.

Chris, as many have said, you have survived this long, you are stronger than you think. Life has been cruel to you but that doesn't mean that life is always cruel.

You know you have specific difficulties and I guess getting help with those is the most important thing. I like the idea of hanging out with some of the TL guys. It might help you with the social awkwardness, I mean who on TL doesn't understand what it is like to feel uncomfortable around people, or different.

Good luck man, and remember TL is global. There is always someone here.
"Dude has some really interesting midgame switches that I wouldn't have expected. "I violated your house" into "HIHO THE DAIRY OH!" really threw me. You don't usually expect children's poetry harass as a follow up " - AmericanUmlaut
Shield
Profile Blog Joined August 2009
Bulgaria4824 Posts
June 07 2011 04:56 GMT
#32
Find a gf, half of your problems connected with emotions will be solved.
MountainDewJunkie
Profile Blog Joined June 2009
United States10341 Posts
June 07 2011 05:41 GMT
#33
On June 07 2011 13:56 darkness wrote:
Find a gf, half of your problems connected with emotions will be solved.

No, horrible advice. You just delay shit until THAT relationship ends.
[21:07] <Shock710> whats wrong with her face [20:50] <dAPhREAk> i beat it the day after it came out | <BLinD-RawR> esports is a giant vagina
Shield
Profile Blog Joined August 2009
Bulgaria4824 Posts
June 07 2011 08:38 GMT
#34
On June 07 2011 14:41 MountainDewJunkie wrote:
Show nested quote +
On June 07 2011 13:56 darkness wrote:
Find a gf, half of your problems connected with emotions will be solved.

No, horrible advice. You just delay shit until THAT relationship ends.


It's better to delay it than constantly experience it imho.
DoctorHelvetica
Profile Blog Joined July 2008
United States15034 Posts
June 07 2011 11:23 GMT
#35
On June 07 2011 13:56 darkness wrote:
Find a gf, half of your problems connected with emotions will be solved.

ive had my fair share of relationships lol didn't help one bit

i don't like to talk about my relationships in public since i feel like its also violating someone elses privacy and it's not my place to talk about what i went through with some of those girls since some of it is really personal
RIP Aaliyah
Zorkmid
Profile Joined November 2008
4410 Posts
June 07 2011 11:40 GMT
#36
Have you ever been diagnosed with autism?
OutlaW-
Profile Blog Joined July 2010
Czech Republic5053 Posts
June 07 2011 12:03 GMT
#37
On June 07 2011 20:40 Zorkmid wrote:
Have you ever been diagnosed with autism?

sucking at socialising =/= autism (even though in this case it's caused by external problems)
Delete your post underage b&. You're incestuous for you're onee-chan so you're clearly not a bad guy, but others might not agree
DoctorHelvetica
Profile Blog Joined July 2008
United States15034 Posts
June 07 2011 12:04 GMT
#38
I have severe approach anxiety issues, otherwise I can socialize fairly normally. I'm definitely not autistic lol
RIP Aaliyah
quirinus
Profile Blog Joined May 2007
Croatia2489 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-06-07 12:16:46
June 07 2011 12:12 GMT
#39
1) Go to the doctor.
2) Get a job, doesn't matter if it's a lame temp job. What is important is that it gives you something to do any maybe meet new people. Plus you'll be away from home.
3) Probably try to get some money from the job and move out to some cheap place where you can have a more peaceful time and then go on from there.

If you need help or motivation for any of those steps, just blog about it.
All candles lit within him, and there was purity. | First auto-promoted BW LP editor.
Zorkmid
Profile Joined November 2008
4410 Posts
June 07 2011 12:21 GMT
#40
On June 07 2011 21:04 DoctorHelvetica wrote:
I have severe approach anxiety issues, otherwise I can socialize fairly normally. I'm definitely not autistic lol


That is exactly what a high functioning autistic person might say. (gf is saying this - shes an applied behavior analyst)
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