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On June 07 2011 02:15 Artemis wrote:
My sister and my friends told me its too early to ask her out but u guys say otherwise. We havent talked THAT much besides that one conversation about halflife/portal. Is it ok to ask her out even if we havent talked too much, or should I wait to talk to her a bit more first?
I say go for it. Getting to know her is for a date, you don't have to wait.
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On June 07 2011 02:18 Dalguno wrote:Show nested quote +On June 07 2011 02:15 Artemis wrote:
My sister and my friends told me its too early to ask her out but u guys say otherwise. We havent talked THAT much besides that one conversation about halflife/portal. Is it ok to ask her out even if we havent talked too much, or should I wait to talk to her a bit more first? I say go for it. Getting to know her is for a date, you don't have to wait.
Aye. I guess personally, I just kinda assumed you knew her name already. :p
I agree with Dalguno anyways, you can use your first date as a "get to know you" instead of a serious relationship talk. Do something nice and easy where you can sit down and get to know each other better. Then if things go well from there, find out when the next date is!
Just let her know that you want to get to know her better and see if she wants to go get a coffee or something. :p
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what you need to do is grab 60 pound dumbells walk in front of her and start doing curls while grunting and saying fuck yeah i want you baby!
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On June 07 2011 02:15 Artemis wrote:
My sister and my friends told me its too early to ask her out but u guys say otherwise. We havent talked THAT much besides that one conversation about halflife/portal. Is it ok to ask her out even if we havent talked too much, or should I wait to talk to her a bit more first?
I talked to my current gf for about 10 minutes before calling her up a few days later to ask her out (she was a friend of a friend, we met at a bar in a group setting). We've been dating for 2 years now, so I'd say it's not too early for you. Just decide what you want to do and go do it already!
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Be friendly, smile, ask for her name and have the attitude "do I want her?" instead of " am I good enough for her?", ask her out if you like her. Good luck!
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Damnit I really hope I dont fuck this up, she seems like the perfect girl 
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On June 07 2011 05:00 Artemis wrote:Damnit I really hope I dont fuck this up, she seems like the perfect girl
Post number 100 better be "I am going on a date!"
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Go to her, speak to her, and a few minutes into your casual conversation drop one of these lines:
"Hey, would you like to grab a coffee with me sometime?"
"Hey would you like to continue this conversation over coffee/lunch/dinner with me?"
Problem solved.
It's not threatening at all to ask a girl to meet, just do it.
From the body language you describe it seems she likes you.
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What should I invite her to do if she accepts? The gym I go to is at the mall, should I take her for coffee and a walk around the mall or should I do lunch or something?
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On June 07 2011 05:50 Artemis wrote:
What should I invite her to do if she accepts? The gym I go to is at the mall, should I take her for coffee and a walk around the mall or should I do lunch or something?
I would say coffee, or something informal. Something not extremely formal is best imo because you want to get to know her a bit before you start something more upfront.
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This is an idea to get you into the right situation.
Go a little later than normal and find out what time she gets off work.
The next time you go, wait until about 10 mins before she leaves and order a drink and talk to her. When she has to leave say something like "Hey i'm going to XXX to get a coffee/drink whatever, want to join me?" I leave the rest up to you.
Some advice. Be yourself. It's a lot harder than it sounds. Don't pigeonhole yourself as a "Gamer guy" and her as a "gamer girl". I'm sure you enjoy other things and so does she. Try to find out what kinds of things you like, don't like etc. Don't do the dinner/movie thing. Take her somewhere fun like mini-golf or a video arcade. At the end of the night say something like "This was fun, would you like to hang out again?" and that will get you her number. Don't call her right away, wait at least 24 hours otherwise you just will appear obsessive.
Other than that, it's all up to your personality. Enjoy!
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I would say coffee or lunch, dinner might be a bit too lengthy at this point. Just something small is a subtle way of showing interest in her, a dinner might be a bit too much for now.
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I think im going to ask her for lunch at the food court, then segue into a walk through the mall. If all goes well Ill call her up 2 days later and plan a second more formal date. Sound good?
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On June 07 2011 06:15 Artemis wrote:
I think im going to ask her for lunch at the food court, then segue into a walk through the mall. If all goes well Ill call her up 2 days later and plan a second more formal date. Sound good?
good idea 
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On June 07 2011 05:50 Artemis wrote:
What should I invite her to do if she accepts? The gym I go to is at the mall, should I take her for coffee and a walk around the mall or should I do lunch or something?
You try a testing facility?
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I'll just write some of my thoughts:
A coffee is an excellent idea. Something informal and around the corner. Make her feel comfortable and good about herself - AND in what she is doing (remember she is meeting up with a total stranger, you could be a rapist for all she knows...). Say that she looks nice and you would like to get to know her. When you talk: diversify subjects. Don't be scared about showing passion for something, but DON'T BRAG about yourself. She's quite capable of making her own mind up on what an awesome person you are, and how strong you are etc. Don't ask too much about work, school and boring stuff like that. Talk about animals. Talk about travelling and the universe, the cosmos etc. Let your imagination run wild. Ask her if she's got any homosexual friends. Tell her how fascinated you are with homosexuals, but that you, sadly, isn't one. You are just a dull straight dude with no colorfully sexual excentricities. Remember that it is always good to talk about sex as long as you both can handle it in a mature way. Girls tend to like maturity to some extend. I'm single by the way.
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On June 07 2011 06:15 Artemis wrote:
I think im going to ask her for lunch at the food court, then segue into a walk through the mall. If all goes well Ill call her up 2 days later and plan a second more formal date. Sound good?
Perfect! Go for it.
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On June 07 2011 01:35 Artemis wrote:Update: Saw her again this morning, said hi on my way in she commented on my portal 2 shirt again, I only said thanks as I walked away  . After I got a smoothie from here again, and only said hi, my order, and thank you, then walked out. God damn it. I also noticed her looking at me from the reception desk as I was working out (is that good?). Next time I HAVE to talk to her more, get her name, AND ask her out for coffee or w/e.
SO MUCH FAIL
START A NEW BLOG ASKING YOURSELF WHY YOU STILL LIVE!!!111
No seriously, what the fuck man? Way to pussy out D:
Fuck dude, the longer you stall, the less that first conversation seems more valid and your mark on her becomes slowly washed out.
Start a new fucking conversation.
Then ask her out.
Work your way up bro, it's a corporation.
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Oh Artemis....
What happened man?
I hope you are alright. This is such a nice blog, don't ruin it with bad news. I missed TL over the weekend and has exams yesterday>
Personally, I would take it slow if you don't feel comfortable. Remember, a girl is just a girl. There are more than 3 bilion on the planet. No matter how awesome this one seems, she is not the only one out there. Particularly if you don't know much about her. She could be a serial killer for all you know.
Anyway, hope things are alright.
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