Need desperate help! [Girl Blog] - Page 5

On June 07 2011 12:16 Artemis wrote:
I'm going to wait one more day to talk to her, get to know her a bit more before asking her out. My sister and some of my female friends convinced me that its probably too soon and I should wait at least one more conversation. If shes there tomorrow ill talk to her and get her name, then ill ask her out on Wednesday.

On June 07 2011 13:36 edc.initiative wrote:
Damn it man, be more confident! Her fidgeting is a good indicator that she has feelings to you, as well as her comments on your shirts and, if you are correct, her looking at you while you worked out. Talk to her, ask her if she plays SC2, and ASK HER OUT!

On June 07 2011 06:04 darmousseh wrote:
This is an idea to get you into the right situation.

Go a little later than normal and find out what time she gets off work.

The next time you go, wait until about 10 mins before she leaves and order a drink and talk to her. When she has to leave say something like "Hey i'm going to XXX to get a coffee/drink whatever, want to join me?" I leave the rest up to you.

Some advice. Be yourself. It's a lot harder than it sounds. Don't pigeonhole yourself as a "Gamer guy" and her as a "gamer girl". I'm sure you enjoy other things and so does she. Try to find out what kinds of things you like, don't like etc. Don't do the dinner/movie thing. Take her somewhere fun like mini-golf or a video arcade. At the end of the night say something like "This was fun, would you like to hang out again?" and that will get you her number. Don't call her right away, wait at least 24 hours otherwise you just will appear obsessive.

Other than that, it's all up to your personality. Enjoy!

On June 07 2011 13:18 Probulous wrote:


He's back!

Great idea mate. If you don't feel comfortable then she won't. Besides if you know nothing about her, it is possible that when you find out more you realise that she isn't worth the effort. I hope for your sake this isn't true but it is possible. That should help you feel a little less focussed on the future and more on just getting to know her.

If you are worried about being "friend-zoned" I can tell you that I spent eight weeks doing dance classes with my girl before I asked her out. We have just had a first year together and things are going swimmingly. Being friend-zoned is a myth. If you feel strongly about her, you make your move and see what happens. Taking time allows you to be sure.

Good luck mate. I'm rooting for you!

Keep posting

Edit: Ps. I hope you didn't mind us hijacking your blog

On June 11 2011 13:33 Fumanchu wrote:


I didn't want to bump up your blog without you posting first, but I felt I had to when I read that "Being friend-zoned is a myth" statement. This is totally NOT true. Being friend-zoned is completely legitimate and it does happen with every girl, only the length of time differs. Probulous got lucky, most girls won't stay interested that long. In fact about 5 months ago I got friend-zoned by a girl in my study group. After I asked her out she was like, "I liked you when we first met, and I was really hoping you would ask me out, but things change you know?". Do not let yourself fall into this trap. Waiting a small amount of time is okay, if you want to make sure she is as cool as she seemed to be, but don't wait too long. Plus once you get your answer, you won't have to worry anymore, about stuff like: is she going to be there today when I work out, what should I wear to start a conversation, stuff like that. Even if she says no, the relief of not having to think about that kind of stuff will outweigh the disappointment. Good luck man.