EPT"I wish you were never born" ? - Page 2
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Clearout
Norway1060 Posts
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Pandonetho
Canada321 Posts
But arguements for it could be: If you're having a heated arguement with your child, if they've deliberately hurt you, if they've said themselves that they wish they were never born, etc. What? WTF kind of arguments are these? | ||
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Hamster
United Kingdom156 Posts
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XsebT
Denmark2980 Posts
The kid is already born. No matter how old/young, stupid, agressive, violent or annoying this kid is, there is no turning back. The kid is out, the point of no return is long gone, and thus nothing good can ever come from a comment like that from a parent. If there are any problems, they should of course be solved somehow, but saying that denifitely isn't the way of doing so. Also, if the parents ever say that, they should really just wish they, themselves, were never born in the first place. | ||
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FlopTurnReaver
Switzerland1980 Posts
This is the last thing a parent should ever say to it's child. | ||
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Jayve
155 Posts
On February 10 2011 04:45 Sorkoas wrote: I'm curious about the reason why you even start this thread, because the answer seems obvious. It's hardly something you can use as a joke, of course. OP you can talk to us, it's ok. I suppose I'd say this even if it wasn't the case, but no it's not me I'm talking about.  I have a set of completely different complicated issues with my parents. ^^ On February 10 2011 05:02 Pandonetho wrote: What? WTF kind of arguments are these? The ones I've heard. As I said, I don't believe there is ANY scenario in which this is okay, but I've heard these. Thanks for the feedback so far guys. <3 | ||
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compscidude
176 Posts
I still remember some bad things my parents said to me when i was 5 or 6. still hold grudge againts them for it. | ||
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Fraidnot
United States824 Posts
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distant_voice
Germany2521 Posts
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StewKer
United States301 Posts
A parent should have nothing but love for their children and want the best for them. | ||
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RickOrShay
New Zealand132 Posts
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Sewi
Germany1697 Posts
I hope I expressed what I wanted to say... :p | ||
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ktp
United States797 Posts
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dbosworld
United States317 Posts
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danl9rm
United States3111 Posts
On February 10 2011 04:37 MidasMulligan wrote: I think if it were said jokingly, that would be an acceptable scenario. I can't think of a time where that "joke" would ever be funny. Still unacceptable imo. | ||
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Crushgroove
United States793 Posts
If My kid was caught trying to fly a plane into a building screaming "F*ck the USA" I'd tell him that and never think twice about it. | ||
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Freyr
United States500 Posts
One quick comment I'd like to make is regarding this idea that parents are solely responsible for how their kid turns out - this is obviously not true at all. After the first few years of a child's life, children are exposed to a dramatically increasing number of external influences, all of which have the potential to impact the maturing process. Even assuming the parents are omniscient with regard to child raising (which is a ludicrous proposition), they still won't have complete control over their children's surroundings/influences (which we can all be thankful for since they are never omniscient), so how could parents possibly be solely, or even largely (except presumably in clear cases of abuse) responsible for how their children turn out? | ||
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Crushgroove
United States793 Posts
On February 10 2011 05:41 Freyr wrote: Ideally no one would say mean things at all. Still don't understand why its not ok to be honest. | ||
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Enervate
United States1769 Posts
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Freyr
United States500 Posts
On February 10 2011 05:42 Crushgroove wrote: Still don't understand why its not ok to be honest. I think it can be okay - like I qualified after that excerpt, in the context of carefully considered "tough love". I think it does have to be carefully considered, though. For example, if you just tell an obese adult he/she's fat, it is probably not going to help, because the individual is probably already painfully aware of the issue (this may be different for children, who knows). If you agree with that logic, then being honest in that case is just indulging some silly desire to be mean, which in my opinion is not okay. (Or at least, to avoid arbitrary definitions of what is "okay" and why, I just don't like it). | ||
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