What do you do when you're depressed?

On January 11 2011 14:40 Raeleigh wrote:
I talk to people who mean a lot to me in my life.
I lay down in bed and cry before I go to bed for a few hours.
I play Counterstrike.

I don't know, for me, it usually just goes away after a while. I'll cry for a long time and be close to tears for a week, and then it goes away and I feel okay again.

Just gotta find those who are important to you, and keep them close.

On January 11 2011 14:38 d_so wrote:
run

it's hard, i know, u'd rather just kill time doing shit and feeling shittier and go gently down this vicious cycle but the best thing to do, if you really want to get undepressed, is to pour endorphins into your brain and the best way to do that is to run

On January 11 2011 14:42 Gatsbi wrote:
drink

On January 11 2011 14:47 d(O.o)a wrote:


I don't cry, for whatever reason I just can't, although I'll try talking to my parents, I don't want to drag my friends down too.

On January 11 2011 15:02 endy wrote:
Don't drink. Everytime I'm depressed and drink I cry.

On January 11 2011 14:50 Raeleigh wrote:

Your friends are there to support you through good and bad.
The biggest mistake I made before was not trusting my friends, or my boyfriend enough with my depression and my problems, and it just caused even more problems.
If you have friends that are close, they are understanding.

I'm here for my friends, no matter. One of my close friends is constantly depressed, has had a bad life, his mom did drugs, but I did all I could, and he says he's happy he had(and still has) me around.

Sometimes all it takes is one person caring and understanding, one person who's willing to sit with you in silence until you feel okay, one person to really, make you feel somewhat decent again. Somewhat human. Right?

Don't be afraid to "drag your friends down", because you won't be. Really.

On January 11 2011 14:54 Phelix wrote:
Usually when I'm depressed, I take a slow walk outside and meditate about my thoughts. It helps me clear my mind of what's happening around me, and just focus on what I need to do in order to bring myself out of the situation. Having less distractions during the walk helps a lot in focusing.

On January 11 2011 14:56 Whole wrote:
Running while listening to music always does it for me. If it is something that you need another viewpoint for, then obviously turn to your friends.

On January 11 2011 14:57 TheJoyBringer wrote:
I listen to sad music so I can wallow in my depression and fully embrace my feelings.

On January 11 2011 14:58 THE_DOMINATOR wrote:
Get over it. Life is too damned short to be depressed. You don't like the situation you're in? Fix it. It will only get worse if you try to distract yourself. Make a list of what you are going to do every day and stick to it. I guarantee you won't feel as bad in a week or two.

On January 11 2011 15:02 University wrote:
man you need to do something physical ASAP. Maybe you aren't athletic, but that doesn't matter. Get on a strict diet, work out, feel good about yourself. Unless you have a serious physical handicap that prevents you from working out at all, get out there and start running/swimming/biking/etc.

It sort of gets all the bad energy out of your day and allows you to be less aggressive towards yourself and your life.

On January 11 2011 15:04 d(O.o)a wrote:

I trust my friends with everything, but they are going through some stuff right now too and I don't want them to add my issues on top of theirs.

On January 11 2011 15:19 Raeleigh wrote:

Your friends aren't selfish people. It's a two way street; You listen to their problems and they listen to yours. Not exactly like that, but you get the idea. You have to give to get a little, right? And if you're being so considerate of their feelings and acting like a friend, it's only fair they do the same.
I could be having the most terrible day ever, but i'll still stop and listen to my friend or help them out. I care about them, so.

On January 11 2011 15:23 d(O.o)a wrote:


:/ I don't think there's much they could do anyways other than say how shitty it is and that things will get better in time but idk I'll try if I'm still feeling like shit after I run tomorrow morning\

On January 11 2011 15:04 d(O.o)a wrote:

I trust my friends with everything, but they are going through some stuff right now too and I don't want them to add my issues on top of theirs.

Yeah I'll be doing this while I run.

Yeah I'm not alert enough to go for a run right now, but I'm definitely going to go this morning.

I don't want to get more depressed, I've done that in the past and it didn't help at all, thanks for the suggestion though.


Do you truly believe that there is a fix to every issue? If so, you have probably lead a very sheltered life.


I already work out daily, I just haven't had the time to go for a good long run lately, and earlier today when I had the time, it wasn't the first thing on my mind so I didn't think of it.

On January 11 2011 16:58 Tuneful wrote:
Look up ventrilo rage on youtube and revel in the fact that you will never be those people.

On January 11 2011 17:05 Raeleigh wrote:

This makes me feel better, always. XD

On January 11 2011 14:40 Raeleigh wrote:
I talk to people who mean a lot to me in my life.
I lay down in bed and cry before I go to bed for a few hours.


I don't know, for me, it usually just goes away after a while. I'll cry for a long time and be close to tears for a week, and then it goes away and I feel okay again.

Just gotta find those who are important to you, and keep them close.

On January 11 2011 23:21 Xxio wrote:
While you do these different things I suggest eating big, delicious, healthy and hearty meals. Eating a lot of good food always cheers me up

On January 11 2011 21:10 SpoR wrote:

no offense but that's not good advice for males imho.

Maybe the talking to meaningful people bit a little, but this is the same shit I just read in glamour magazine (only reading material in el banyo).

I'd say working out is #1. Healthy body = healthy mind.

Drop any drug habits you have (or at least minimize them). Self medicating is usually bad.

Eat healthier ofc.

Find a new hobby, or try new things. For me lately, I've been experimenting with cooking alot. Just whenever I think of something to eat or see somethin and go 'shit I should learn to make this' and I do it. Its not hard, just look up a few recipes online and compromise on the ingredients etc.

Games and music are good distraction, but sometimes its not enough and they don't really benefit you unless you are doing something proactive with the gaming/music. Going/Being involved in events and things etc.

I dunno if you have a girl in your life, but I'd say lot of unabated sex would destroy depression.

PS- I've never tried this but I'm sure it would help, find your nearest soup kitchen or homeless shelter and try and help out somehow. Just spend a whole day there, guaranteed to hear some stories and you will definitely see how your life is not as bad as you think it is.

On January 12 2011 04:55 Lemonwalrus wrote:
Guys don't cry when they are depressed. Sorry girls it just isn't how we operate.

I'm not saying we are all he-men that never cry or anything, just crying for us isn't really cathartic and doesn't make us feel better like it does for you.

On January 12 2011 07:31 Lemonwalrus wrote:
Oh, crying is a self-cooling mechanism? You would think some of my bio professors would have covered that.

On January 11 2011 14:36 d(O.o)a wrote:
Well, life hasn't been working out great right now and I've found myself really depressed over various things going on in my life I'd rather not get into, I'm in need of something new to do, my usual listening to super loud music, and playing video games just aren't cutting it.

So, what do you do when you're feeling down and out? Hopefully I can find something that'll help motivate me to wake up tomorrow.

On January 12 2011 04:10 Raeleigh wrote:

You can't say, "this isn't very good advice for males."
I say the same thing I would to anyone. I've said this to plenty of my guy friends, and they've accepted it, done it, and been fine. Well, not fine, but they've cheered up drastically.
If you're going to be some big manly douche bag man, then yeah, go for it and work out, get some bitches, you know, normal things.
But if you have a heart and really need to feel better, there are basic needs every person, girl or guy, needs.

The biggest thing like everyone has said here, is just to keep your mind and your body occupied.
Any moment you have to sit around and start thinking again(unless it's what you wanting) is just going to bring down everything you were doing to make it go away.

On January 12 2011 09:27 SpoR wrote:


not trying to sound manly or a douche or whatever. Just saying it as a pseudo fact from experience. I don't mean any offense by it.
Any time I've ever cried I've always felt like a pussy and worse, crying doesn't solve anything it just waste time and make you feel helpless imho. Just like your last sentence, you sit around crying and thinking about shit it gets worse.
For girls I'm pretty sure it's different because our minds are built differently.

On January 12 2011 09:41 LazyMacro wrote:
I'm not taking sides here, but guys are generally socialized to not show emotion, and certainly not to cry. It's "okay" when a girl does it but "not okay" when a guy does it.

But fuck that. If I'm upset, I'm going to cry. If you don't like it, tough. Doesn't mean I won't do it in private.

I'm just trying to say that letting it out is way better than keeping it in. If you hold it in, eventually it's going to resurface. It's going to be worse when it comes up again.

On January 12 2011 09:46 Raeleigh wrote:

That's another thing too.

If you're all, "I'm not gonna cry because i'm not weak. I don't want to think about anything." you're making it worse.

When I had my heartbroken, I cried before I went to bed for about 6 hours, and went through every bit of thought I had left, examined it all, and could easily wake up the next day with a clear point of view.
Yeah, I was still upset about it, but it was easier to move on and grow up knowing that I had no real feelings of "oh my god my life sucks" left.

On January 12 2011 09:46 Raeleigh wrote:

That's another thing too.

If you're all, "I'm not gonna cry because i'm not weak. I don't want to think about anything." you're making it worse.

When I had my heartbroken, I cried before I went to bed for about 6 hours, and went through every bit of thought I had left, examined it all, and could easily wake up the next day with a clear point of view.
Yeah, I was still upset about it, but it was easier to move on and grow up knowing that I had no real feelings of "oh my god my life sucks" left.

On January 12 2011 04:37 Haemonculus wrote:
Yeah I'm with Raeleigh on this one. Just having a good cry gets a lot of shit out of your system.

On January 11 2011 14:36 d(O.o)a wrote:
Well, life hasn't been working out great right now and I've found myself really depressed over various things going on in my life I'd rather not get into, I'm in need of something new to do, my usual listening to super loud music, and playing video games just aren't cutting it.

So, what do you do when you're feeling down and out? Hopefully I can find something that'll help motivate me to wake up tomorrow.

On January 13 2011 08:28 Shauni wrote:
It sounds more like the OP has depression, not just being slightly 'depressed'. Stop linking these shitty videos, telling him to listen to music, cry (Raeleigh and Haemonculus, I'm looking at you), eat, exercise, smile.

On January 13 2011 08:38 Raeleigh wrote:

Perhaps, instead of posting on a blog telling people to stop posting stupid responses, you should give him some advice too.
If it sounds like he has depression, why not suggest seeing a doctor or something instead of being a dumb ass.
Just sayin'