EPTI never said it was true for all men, I'm just saying that girls are far more likely to cry for catharsis than men. If you wish to argue please argue against the point that I made, not the one that you wish I had made since it would be easier to argue against.
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Lemonwalrus
United States5465 Posts
I never said it was true for all men, I'm just saying that girls are far more likely to cry for catharsis than men. If you wish to argue please argue against the point that I made, not the one that you wish I had made since it would be easier to argue against. | ||
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Raeleigh
Canada902 Posts
On January 12 2011 07:31 Lemonwalrus wrote: Oh, crying is a self-cooling mechanism? You would think some of my bio professors would have covered that. No need to be rude, just tell you what I was told in school and what I've learned. -shrug- | ||
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LazyMacro
976 Posts
On January 11 2011 14:36 d(O.o)a wrote: Well, life hasn't been working out great right now and I've found myself really depressed over various things going on in my life I'd rather not get into, I'm in need of something new to do, my usual listening to super loud music, and playing video games just aren't cutting it. So, what do you do when you're feeling down and out? Hopefully I can find something that'll help motivate me to wake up tomorrow. I do a lot of things that may or may not work for you. I try to talk about what's bugging me with my friends. If you can't talk to them, either you're not that close or they're not your friends. I eat. I shouldn't, but I do. I listen to music. I make a playlist of my favorite songs and I turn the volume up. I listen to recordings of rain storm and thunder storms. I also take long showers for the same reason. Despite being a guy, and while I don't buy into the whole macho ideology, I cry. If it's that bad, I cry. You feel better after. | ||
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Frits
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SpoR
United States1542 Posts
On January 12 2011 04:10 Raeleigh wrote: You can't say, "this isn't very good advice for males." I say the same thing I would to anyone. I've said this to plenty of my guy friends, and they've accepted it, done it, and been fine. Well, not fine, but they've cheered up drastically. If you're going to be some big manly douche bag man, then yeah, go for it and work out, get some bitches, you know, normal things. But if you have a heart and really need to feel better, there are basic needs every person, girl or guy, needs. The biggest thing like everyone has said here, is just to keep your mind and your body occupied. Any moment you have to sit around and start thinking again(unless it's what you wanting) is just going to bring down everything you were doing to make it go away. not trying to sound manly or a douche or whatever. Just saying it as a pseudo fact from experience. I don't mean any offense by it. Any time I've ever cried I've always felt like a pussy and worse, crying doesn't solve anything it just waste time and make you feel helpless imho. Just like your last sentence, you sit around crying and thinking about shit it gets worse. For girls I'm pretty sure it's different because our minds are built differently. | ||
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ChoRds
United States127 Posts
anyways, usually I lay on my bed with my phone on silent and everything turned off and try to relax for a while. or I read a book and let myself get lost in a different world, or talk to my best friend about whatever is dragging me down. I just kind of work my way out of it. | ||
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Raeleigh
Canada902 Posts
On January 12 2011 09:27 SpoR wrote: not trying to sound manly or a douche or whatever. Just saying it as a pseudo fact from experience. I don't mean any offense by it. Any time I've ever cried I've always felt like a pussy and worse, crying doesn't solve anything it just waste time and make you feel helpless imho. Just like your last sentence, you sit around crying and thinking about shit it gets worse. For girls I'm pretty sure it's different because our minds are built differently. But it's honestly not any different at all. If you think, "hey, i'm a pussy bitch for crying, god damn i'm fucking retarded" then that's completely your own fault, and your own mind blocking out something that's completely natural. Like, it reminds me of when everyone is younger, and your parents are all "omg don't have sex it's so bad and terrible!" when it's honestly not. Yeah, I don't think kids should be doing it, but it's a completely natural process. Sometimes things need to get worse before they can get better. :/ | ||
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LazyMacro
976 Posts
But fuck that. If I'm upset, I'm going to cry. If you don't like it, tough. Doesn't mean I won't do it in private.  I'm just trying to say that letting it out is way better than keeping it in. If you hold it in, eventually it's going to resurface. It's going to be worse when it comes up again. | ||
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Raeleigh
Canada902 Posts
On January 12 2011 09:41 LazyMacro wrote: I'm not taking sides here, but guys are generally socialized to not show emotion, and certainly not to cry. It's "okay" when a girl does it but "not okay" when a guy does it. But fuck that. If I'm upset, I'm going to cry. If you don't like it, tough. Doesn't mean I won't do it in private. I'm just trying to say that letting it out is way better than keeping it in. If you hold it in, eventually it's going to resurface. It's going to be worse when it comes up again. That's another thing too. If you're all, "I'm not gonna cry because i'm not weak. I don't want to think about anything." you're making it worse. When I had my heartbroken, I cried before I went to bed for about 6 hours, and went through every bit of thought I had left, examined it all, and could easily wake up the next day with a clear point of view. Yeah, I was still upset about it, but it was easier to move on and grow up knowing that I had no real feelings of "oh my god my life sucks" left. | ||
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LazyMacro
976 Posts
On January 12 2011 09:46 Raeleigh wrote: That's another thing too. If you're all, "I'm not gonna cry because i'm not weak. I don't want to think about anything." you're making it worse. When I had my heartbroken, I cried before I went to bed for about 6 hours, and went through every bit of thought I had left, examined it all, and could easily wake up the next day with a clear point of view. Yeah, I was still upset about it, but it was easier to move on and grow up knowing that I had no real feelings of "oh my god my life sucks" left. Yeah, exactly. When I had my heart broken, I cried until I couldn't, and then cried some more the next day. But at least I could go on with my life. If I just ignored it, I wouldn't have gotten anywhere. Holding shit in doesn't help. Open up to your friends. Open up to your family. Open up to us. It's the internet but you're still a person and we'll still help. | ||
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Kakera
United States419 Posts
But as far as I deal with depression, I deal with it by reminding myself that there are literally tons of people out there with real problems. Like their dad rapes them or starving and poverty stricken. My problems used to be parents don't love me bshit, moved out no longer a problem. Girlfriend dumped me, banged her best friend and married said best friend no longer a problem. Now I deal with the irrational meaningless depression that some call genetic... It's empty and I just feel discontent at times. But i just remind myself that there are people with real problems. But after my ex dumped me i was fucking bummed, One of the shittiest times of my life, heading into the military parents fucking hate me, no friends, no girl, on top of my significant teenage depression i was pretty bad off, had to make an agreement with myself to not commit suicide til this one book series ended... That's how bad it was, it get's better with time bro don't let it get to you, like i said, least ur dad doesnt rape you. If he does... well shit.... >.> <.< | ||
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SpoR
United States1542 Posts
On January 12 2011 09:46 Raeleigh wrote: That's another thing too. If you're all, "I'm not gonna cry because i'm not weak. I don't want to think about anything." you're making it worse. When I had my heartbroken, I cried before I went to bed for about 6 hours, and went through every bit of thought I had left, examined it all, and could easily wake up the next day with a clear point of view. Yeah, I was still upset about it, but it was easier to move on and grow up knowing that I had no real feelings of "oh my god my life sucks" left. Kinda derailing his topic here now but I'm not saying to hold it in if you wanna cry, by all means do it if you have to. What I'm saying is; telling a guy to go sit down somewhere and try to cry for his problems is not going to work for a large majority of guys. The reason for that is because we are conditioned as human males to be strong our whole lives and if we show weakness it is bad thing. Or that we are actually stronger mentally to not need to cry in the first place (I know this sounds sexist but I'm just trying to put my thought out the easiest way). So even if we wanted to cry, we may not be able to. On January 12 2011 04:37 Haemonculus wrote: Yeah I'm with Raeleigh on this one. Just having a good cry gets a lot of shit out of your system. you're a girl too though haha. irony from the funny pic thread http://i.imgur.com/ARVx9.jpg | ||
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Servius_Fulvius
United States947 Posts
On January 11 2011 14:36 d(O.o)a wrote: Well, life hasn't been working out great right now and I've found myself really depressed over various things going on in my life I'd rather not get into, I'm in need of something new to do, my usual listening to super loud music, and playing video games just aren't cutting it. So, what do you do when you're feeling down and out? Hopefully I can find something that'll help motivate me to wake up tomorrow. The best way I have found is to immerse myself in as many activities as possible (the more physical the better) to keep my mind focused on other things. I also have a number of friends happy to serve as venting buddies and the worst the event(s) that lead to the depression the more I have to vent. I got a lot out of talking to a therapist a few years ago, but it's not for everyone and takes a while to find a good one. After a breakup three months ago I completely immersed myself in grad classes through finals. It doesn't suck nearly as much now, but there's still some left. A personal favorite are 500-1000 piece puzzles while singing along to good music  | ||
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Helvig
Denmark55 Posts
Watch this when you're depressed, you will eventually feel better with a grin on your face  | ||
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Shauni
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Raeleigh
Canada902 Posts
On January 13 2011 08:28 Shauni wrote: It sounds more like the OP has depression, not just being slightly 'depressed'. Stop linking these shitty videos, telling him to listen to music, cry (Raeleigh and Haemonculus, I'm looking at you), eat, exercise, smile. Perhaps, instead of posting on a blog telling people to stop posting stupid responses, you should give him some advice too. If it sounds like he has depression, why not suggest seeing a doctor or something instead of being a dumb ass. Just sayin' | ||
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Shauni
4077 Posts
On January 13 2011 08:38 Raeleigh wrote: Perhaps, instead of posting on a blog telling people to stop posting stupid responses, you should give him some advice too. If it sounds like he has depression, why not suggest seeing a doctor or something instead of being a dumb ass. Just sayin' Depression isn't something you can just shrug off by talking to friends... No need to be rude, just tell you what I was told in school and what I've learned. -shrug- | ||
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DoubleZee
Canada556 Posts
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