I get into my car, turn on the radio and realize my XM isnt on my dashboard anymore. Its built into my radio, so it would normaly go Tuner (normal FM/AM), XM, CD, then my Ipod. Today it goes Tuner, CD, Ipod. So I start thinking shit, what the fuck happened.
Then on my drive home I started thinking about all the shit that has gone wrong in the past 2 months. From school, to moving into a new place, to getting a new job, to having car trouble after car trouble, and bills on top of bills. And i just started thinking about everything. Got so sick that I had to open the door and well, I saw what I had for Lunch.
Guess my question is anyone else have this problem? I dont worry all the time, but when I stop a think about I make my self sick. Anyone else ever do something like this?
if this ever happens realize worrying doesnt make anything better and just smile cause now that you stopped worrying you're going to live longer and have less wrinkles! if you care about either of those things that is, you should probably go and immediately watch some comedy if you do catch yourself worrying though
I can think of only one or two times in my life where for any period of time I didn't have real "worries", be they financial, academic, personal, or whatever.
Best way to deal with it, at least from my experience, is to just put everything you need to do down on paper/notepad/mind, whatever works best. Ignore everything that can't be helped or done immediately in the now and do/work on/fix whatever remains. Once you knock out one or two tasks, you'll find everything starts looking up.
Things are very rarely as bad as what your mind makes them to be.
speak to a doctor about your stress. they will start by recomending you a workout program to help with stress release. if that does not work, they may prescribe some drugs to help. however, best medicine is good night sleep with alot of exersize.
On July 03 2010 15:23 itzme_petey wrote: speak to a doctor about your stress. they will start by recomending you a workout program to help with stress release. if that does not work, they may prescribe some drugs to help. however, best medicine is good night sleep with alot of exersize.
When you do this for the first time you'll want to write it down.
Make a list of ALL your worries. Then make two columns. Label them "Things I can control" and "Things I can't control." Put everything you wrote down in the appropriate category.
Then make an outline with each of the things you can control column entries as a section. outline ways to fix it, mitigate it, or make it manageable. Work these things into your daily routine. Honestly, you don't even have to be that effective with them really, just as long as you feel like you are exercising control over your own life you'll stop feeling so stress out.
If you catch yourself worrying about entries from the "things I can't control" list, consciously stop yourself and tell yourself it doesn't matter. I found a yu-yu hakusho tcg card somewhere and put it in my pocket. It's called "Zombies on the Hunt" and zombies are chasing after Keiko (love interest in the series). That parts not really important, but hot damn I'll just pull it out sometimes, look at it, and go "thank god." Remember to put everything in perspective.
As cliche and mind numbingly redundant this sounds, make sure you're eating really well and exercising frequently. It seems you are stressed, and exercise is easily one of the most effective methods in which you can cope with stress. I work out vigorously for at least 45 minutes to an hour daily, 6 days a week. If circumstances prevent me from exercising for days on end, I feel all my stress levels increase significantly. Also, diet is important. To spare all the biological details of it all, your food intake his such a huge impact on the state of the chemicals in your brain. These chemicals are a direct cause to your emotions, stress, anxiety, etc. If you're consuming sugars or high doses of caffeine, you're going to severely impact your ability to cope with stress.
Also, getting your life organized and back on track really helps. I've had similar issues as you in regards to stressing over having such an extensive list of things to do, but this is what I did to help alleviate some of that. I just simply made a to do list in an excel sheet, using colour codes to show the status of all the tasks I needed to do. Just visually having the tasks present in front of me has made it easier for me to address them. Just seeing the number of items left incomplete diminishing over time is almost therapeutic in addressing those feelings of being overwhelmed.
If you're feeling like you may have some sort of depression (as it is commonly linked with high stress levels), I highly recommend reading about 5HTP supplements. They can work wonders.
On July 03 2010 15:23 itzme_petey wrote: speak to a doctor about your stress. they will start by recomending you a workout program to help with stress release. if that does not work, they may prescribe some drugs to help. however, best medicine is good night sleep with alot of exersize.
Also, you can always try alchocol.
This is a bad idea. It will seem to help, but in the long term it will be counter-productive in lowering your stress level.
Whenever I hear a low rumbling thunder I assume that a land mass in Africa has fallen into the ocean and has created a megatsunami that has traveled across the atlantic ocean to destroy me. Since I live on the east cost in Florida, I think about it a lot. This is what happens when you are paranoid and watch random documentaries about megatsunamis on the Discovery channel.
I get worried as hell all the time - about the stupidest things, too.
Sometimes just knowing that the next day will be boring can make me ridiculously sad. Hell, if I have something boring to do at 3PM, I won't be able to be productive until I'm done with it.
On July 03 2010 15:23 itzme_petey wrote: speak to a doctor about your stress. they will start by recomending you a workout program to help with stress release. if that does not work, they may prescribe some drugs to help. however, best medicine is good night sleep with alot of exersize.
I did, had an ulcer when I was 15. Here is the thing, I dont stress all the time. But when I do i make myself sick
On a more serious note, just try to take things one at a time if it's possible, I know life can be overwhelming but it's your only one so you have to make the best of it, you know?
Nope. I'm pretty much the opposite -- no matter how much shit is going on, I can just sort of not be bothered by it. I'm cognizant of the worries, but I can just sort of tuck it away.
This has happened to me, mostly in terms of school, but I know exactly how you feel.
I get by with knowing in a few years from now, it won't be a memory, nothing to worry about, as long as it's dealt with properly. Talk to people, when you talk, I find that you think harder then when you are just alone thinking to yourself.
Man worrying kills. lol im trying to stress less especially with summer break. Hell, hope things don't get too bad. Each day will worry about itself >.<
The problem with affirmations or telling yourself, "It's going to be okay." is that, you simply don't believe it. If I wanted you to believe that God Exists, and my argument was "Tell yourself over and over again that God exists until you believe it" it would be a silly argument. So that is the root problem with a lot of self-help books/motivational books.
The techniques in this book however is based on clinical research. Trials have shown that "CBT" is as effective (if not more effective) than pharmaceutical drugs for treating depression and anxiety.
The premise is that every single emotion is caused by a specific thought. Sadness, depression, guilt, anger, anxiety are all caused by our thoughts. And for any given situation we have dozens of automatic thoughts that pop up in reaction to that situation. Thoughts we may not even know we're thinking unless we really pay attention. So for example, thoughts about any "future threat" will cause feelings of anxiety accompanied by all its physiological symptoms.
So the situation is that your tuner is not working. And your thoughts might go something like, "Fuck, now what? This radio was new, XM was the only thing that kept me relaxed going to and from school. Now I'm going to be miserable and its gonna affect my entire mood. I'm going to hate going to classes in the morning, etc etc."
Drinking, smoking weed, or distracting yourself with something else are all bandaid solutions. I don't think anxiety will go away unless you deal with each negative thought one by one and replace each with a more realistic thought (that is 100% valid), once you do not believe the negative thought 100%, and you believe the realistic thought 100% you will experience an emotional transformation on the gut level. The book offers 40 techniques to completely put the negative thought to rest. (Of course, the first one might do it for you completely).
Seriously, it's the only way to have lasting, sweeping change.
On July 03 2010 15:23 itzme_petey wrote: speak to a doctor about your stress. they will start by recomending you a workout program to help with stress release. if that does not work, they may prescribe some drugs to help. however, best medicine is good night sleep with alot of exersize.
Also, you can always try alchocol.
This is a bad idea. It will seem to help, but in the long term it will be counter-productive in lowering your stress level.
I am not suggesting that he drinks alcohol everyday lol. And alcohol is way better healthwise than popping pills, if worse comes to worst. Just saying.
On July 03 2010 15:23 itzme_petey wrote: speak to a doctor about your stress. they will start by recomending you a workout program to help with stress release. if that does not work, they may prescribe some drugs to help. however, best medicine is good night sleep with alot of exersize.
Also, you can always try alchocol.
This is a bad idea. It will seem to help, but in the long term it will be counter-productive in lowering your stress level.
I am not suggesting that he drinks alcohol everyday lol. And alcohol is way better healthwise than popping pills, if worse comes to worst. Just saying.
How do you know if alcohol is better healthwise? I think that's quite a claim without back-up.
Alcohol is indeed a way to cope, but not a good one in my opinion. There are so many damaging side effects alcohol may have. It is always best to talk about it with a professional.
On July 03 2010 15:23 itzme_petey wrote: speak to a doctor about your stress. they will start by recomending you a workout program to help with stress release. if that does not work, they may prescribe some drugs to help. however, best medicine is good night sleep with alot of exersize.
Also, you can always try alchocol.
This is a bad idea. It will seem to help, but in the long term it will be counter-productive in lowering your stress level.
I am not suggesting that he drinks alcohol everyday lol. And alcohol is way better healthwise than popping pills, if worse comes to worst. Just saying.
While having a drink a day can yield healthy benefits (especially wine), more than that consistently diminishes health. Becoming intoxicated to any level as a means to deal with any stress / depression / anxiety is completely counter productive.
The reason pills such as anti-depressants are used to cope with these issues is this. When people are in a stressed, depressive state, they begin to lose the ability to effectively solve the problems that are causing these emotions. Since they are unable to address the issues as a result of feeling stressed/depressed, in turn the issues linger and worsen. The point of anti-depressants are to suppress the symptoms of depression so that a person can effectively turn their focus to addressing the issues that were making them depressed in the first place. It is difficult for people to feel motivated to make changes in their life when they are depressed. Anti-depressants help overcome that depressive lack of motivation and focus.
Alcohol; tends to be the band aid solution here. It allows us to forget our problems. People who are intoxicated generally are not putting their "thinking caps" on in regards to figuring out methods to solving the problems in their life. Aside from it being only a band aid solution consistent moderate to heavy alcohol use is strongly counter productive in relation to brain chemistry as well. Depressive people tend to have lower levels of serotonin and / or dopamine in the brain. I won't get into all the details of the differences or the detailed uses for these, but I will tell you that they are the direct effect on how we feel emotionally, how we feel motivationally, and how we handle stress. Alcohol effectively destroys the brain's ability to maintain its proper levels of these chemicals. So, essentially, alcohol kicks the already low serotonin / dopamine levels in a depressed / stressed person down further. Not the greatest of treatment methods.
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