EPTDecipher this girl's signals? - Page 7
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nerium
Philippines512 Posts
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d_so
Korea (South)3262 Posts
On July 03 2010 21:30 nerium wrote: Mixed signals are a pain in the ass! I say confront her if you really want answers. yo whatever you do do NOT take this guy's advice, that would be the absolute worst thing to do and you'll look desperate and just not cool. I'm not saying confrontation is unilaterally a bad strategy, i'm saying there is a time and a place for it and unless you're in love with this chick don't let yourself look stupid by looking desperate | ||
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Malgrif
Canada1095 Posts
On July 04 2010 11:40 d_so wrote: confrontation is the smartest possible way to handle mixed signals. you have nothing to lose and her to gain, how on earth do you look stupid and desperate? playing mind games for months on end will get you no where with a girl. if you want her, go after her, don't pussy foot around like a fool.yo whatever you do do NOT take this guy's advice, that would be the absolute worst thing to do and you'll look desperate and just not cool. I'm not saying confrontation is unilaterally a bad strategy, i'm saying there is a time and a place for it and unless you're in love with this chick don't let yourself look stupid by looking desperate | ||
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InTheFade
United States1721 Posts
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Malgrif
Canada1095 Posts
On July 04 2010 11:47 InTheFade wrote: men like to see men struggle too =pGirls just like to see men struggle. She doesn't sound interested in you, but loves the attention. There's also the eternal struggle with girls that are just nice, you know, the ones where you're like, "wow, she's responding well to what I'm doing, but maybe she's just friendly? I mean, just 'cause a girl is friendly doesn't mean she's into you... or does it?..." but honestly, many men(especially teenagers) value the pride and dignity over a possibility of a relationship. ask any shy guy why he doesn't have a girl friend and the root problem is likely because he's afraid of hurting his ego. ask any guy with a girlfriend and he'll understand that a little damage to his ego is worth the risk to gain a girl. | ||
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d_so
Korea (South)3262 Posts
On July 04 2010 11:45 Malgrif wrote: confrontation is the smartest possible way to handle mixed signals. you have nothing to lose and her to gain, how on earth do you look stupid and desperate? playing mind games for months on end will get you no where with a girl. if you want her, go after her, don't pussy foot around like a fool. it's not about pussy footing, it's about realizing that whatever games a girl plays is constrained by a limiting rule set (for various reasons that may sound misogynistic so I don't want to get into this now) and it is quite possible to beat her at her own game once you get past feeling sorry for yourself. Being driven to the point of confrontation = loss. The goal is to get HER to confront you, or at least a mutual "coming to terms", and not the other way around... unless, of course, you're deathly serious about the girl and you're looking for more than just fun&fuk | ||
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SleepSheep
Canada344 Posts
ask yourself, what has she done for you? | ||
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bloopie
United States123 Posts
during work she does make the effort and come up and talk to me. So right now I think I am just gonna chill for a while, and like someone said before, flirt back without any expectations and ramp up the kino interaction. I think thats the most important mindset. After all, she was the first one ever to make a move. | ||
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Malgrif
Canada1095 Posts
On July 04 2010 12:08 d_so wrote: i find this hard to believe. the girls i've known have never known to send mix signals on purpose in order to play a game. perhaps it's an unconscious game, but even so confrontation means that you waste less time trying to figure out one girl. if she's playing a game, then good now you're out of her bullshit, if she isn't then great now you got things clear. staying in the hazy mist of things is quite inefficient if you wish to get a girl. confrontation doesn't mean you lost, it means that you're mature enough to know that it's not worth playing a game where the victor gains relatively nothing.it's not about pussy footing, it's about realizing that whatever games a girl plays is constrained by a limiting rule set (for various reasons that may sound misogynistic so I don't want to get into this now) and it is quite possible to beat her at her own game once you get past feeling sorry for yourself. Being driven to the point of confrontation = loss. The goal is to get HER to confront you, or at least a mutual "coming to terms", and not the other way around... unless, of course, you're deathly serious about the girl and you're looking for more than just fun&fuk | ||
Smix
United States4549 Posts
On July 04 2010 12:27 bloopie wrote: Hmm.. the truth is i didnt go to her party invitation. But whatever. during work she does make the effort and come up and talk to me. So right now I think I am just gonna chill for a while, and like someone said before, flirt back without any expectations and ramp up the kino interaction. I think thats the most important mindset. After all, she was the first one ever to make a move. Yea just chill and take it easy and see if she does anything. To be quite honest she could just like flirting with you - sometimes that's all a girl is after, a good flirt (doesn't necessarily mean she wants to hook up) | ||
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BottleAbuser
Korea (South)1888 Posts
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bloopie
United States123 Posts
On July 04 2010 13:02 Smix wrote: Yea just chill and take it easy and see if she does anything. To be quite honest she could just like flirting with you - sometimes that's all a girl is after, a good flirt (doesn't necessarily mean she wants to hook up) tskkk. what a mindset. =D | ||
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bloopie
United States123 Posts
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shieldbreak
United States406 Posts
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InTheFade
United States1721 Posts
On July 07 2010 04:57 bloopie wrote: Oh well it has been confirmed - She went to watch the movie we were going to watch with another bunch of friend/friend(s) so whatever was there, isnt there anymore. 1 month! well, doesnt take very long to make a girl disinterested in you i guess. It's rare that it even lasted that long. I say, no sweat! Still 3 billion other women on Earth. | ||
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Antimage
Canada1293 Posts
On July 07 2010 04:57 bloopie wrote: Oh well it has been confirmed - She went to watch the movie we were going to watch with another bunch of friend/friend(s) so whatever was there, isnt there anymore. 1 month! well, doesnt take very long to make a girl disinterested in you i guess. Should still be no harm in asking her to have lunch or dinner with you some time. If there's no harm and there is a chance, you go for it because you're a man. Good luck. | ||
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SONE
Canada839 Posts
On July 07 2010 10:54 Antimage wrote: you go for it because you're a man. and because you smell like a man. | ||
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Subversion
South Africa3627 Posts
one person is always chasing, and the other is running. if u want her to stop running, stop doing the chasing. stop chasing after her, stop asking her to do plans. act like u dont give a shit, act like u couldn't care less. soon enough she'll be the one chasing again. sad that this will work, but its true. | ||
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bloopie
United States123 Posts
Today, she came over to "bother me", While we made some small talk, she started to run her fingers through my hair. This went on for a bit, then she went back to her seat, complaining that the office was kinda hot. So I walk over and placed my hands on her shoulder, and she went "Ooh! Your hands are cold, nice!" So i proceeded to give her a light shoulder massage and went to work on her ears, gently rubbing them, and going over them a couple of times. So she went "Ooh, that feels good.. My ears are kinda hot". (She got them sunburnt). So I said "This ought to cool it down" and blew on them a little.. and I'm not sure but was that too much? lol, she didnt complain about anything.. | ||
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shieldbreak
United States406 Posts
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