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Before I begin this is going to be a whine blog, so whatever.
My relationship with my brother has always been awful, I won't deny it and I have not made any effort to make the difference smaller mostly because I know its not worth the effort. He is the laziest sack of shit I have ever met in my entire fucking life, not to mention he's always rude and disrespectful to everyone. One instance of his laziness would be him NEVER getting up and getting ANYTHING for himself. He lords over my 8 year old sister and gets her to do everything. Like I know in Korean families you can get the younger siblings to do some stuff, but this is fucking ridiculous. He needs some pants to go outside during the rare occasions he bothers to go outside, "HEY GO GET MY PANTS, NO NOT THOSE PANTS ARE YOU FUCKING STUPID" or getting water, I'm amazed he can wipe his arse by himself.
His attitude, theres something fucked up with his brain. He has this attitude that because he cares about the environment and stuff that he's better than me. I admit I don't particularly care about the environment, but I know how much of a massive hypocrite he is when he does nothing proactive about global warming. He disrespects ANYONE who asks him to do even the most trivial task. I swear to fuck putting on some pants and taking out the garbage isn't hard, yet he'll moan and gripe about it for 30 minutes before he either A) decides to go take out the garbage or B) I go take out the garbage. He actually yells at my parents because they don't bring him some food I actually cannot stress how annoying this is, he starts throwing around chairs, yelling, and shouting. Then two months later he actually has the gall to ask why the chairs are breaking. WELL MAYBE ITS BECAUSE YOUR FAT ASS NEVER LEAVES THEM AND WHEN THEY DO ITS BECAUSE YOU'RE THROWING THEM EVERYWHERE, HUH?!!?!?!?! He actually once started doing this in front of my GRANDPARENTS like seriously, my grandma can be a bit overbearing sometimes(a lot) but I don't fucking start yelling(well I do but only because her hearing is going) and throwing shit
On weekends he won't wear a shirt or pants, he'll just go around in boxers closing all the blinds and windows because he's afraid people will see him (we live on the third floor of an apartment, in a pretty sparsely populated area). The thing is none of my family wants to see his sagging manboobs and his gut, but he won't wear a shirt or pants.
My parents recently went on their first vacation in over 10 years after working long hours that most people wouldn't even consider. The first thing he starts bitching about is how this will affect how much DotA time he'll be playing. WHAT THE FUCK ITS DOTA, WHY DON'T YOU WORRY ABOUT YOUR PARENTS LIKE SERIOUSLY WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU. And of course he did nothing basically and my aunt and grandmother coddled him like the baby that he is saying "he's too young to be working" and blah blah blah so me and my cousin had to cover the hours he was originally supposed to work and we were fucking pissed off. I worked 105 hours in 19 days and he worked like 4.
His fucking anger issues are the worst thing about him he'll throw shit, and break plates and then at school he'll play shy asian boy and its really annoying to see someone so fake, that I know is a massive douchebag
/endrant
P.S. I could probably go on, and theres probably worst things he's done, but these are the things that he basically does on a bi-weekly basis that really have stuck
  
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Can I ask how old you all are? That's pretty screwed up though, makes me grateful for the family I have 
Btw what do your parents being gone have to do with his playing Dota?
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Austin10831 Posts
My relationship with my brother has always been awful, I won't deny it and I have not made any effort to make the difference smaller mostly because I know its not worth the effort.
Maybe he feels the same way, and maybe that's why you have a terrible relationship. In the end, you're both still really young. I have a sister who's 22 now, and still fairly self-important. I used to get myself worked up about her antics, her egocentric attitude and the fact that I felt like I was putting much more into the relationship than she was. Ultimately, I had to realize she was dealing with her own problems in her own way.
To be honest, it sounds like you both might have some growing up to do. You need to find a way to view your relationship with your brother as one where the work and effort you put in is enough to satisfy you. Even if he doesn't reciprocate, knowing you're doing all you can will make you feel much better about it.
Reminds me of a thing Isabel Allende said in her "This I Believe"
The pain of losing my child was a cleansing experience. I had to throw overboard all excess baggage and keep only what is essential. Because of Paula, I don't cling to anything anymore. Now I like to give much more than to receive. I am happier when I love than when I am loved. I adore my husband, my son, my grandchildren, my mother, my dog, and frankly I don't know if they even like me. But who cares? Loving them is my joy.
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I don't know how it works with asians familys, but in mine, act like that and your going to get your sorry ass kicked.
but seriously, how comes nobody beats the crap out of him?
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i'm not sure if this is a troll or not
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i think u need to get your ass beat by your hyung like right now
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On April 28 2010 04:11 il0seonpurpose wrote:Can I ask how old you all are? That's pretty screwed up though, makes me grateful for the family I have Btw what do your parents being gone have to do with his playing Dota?
I'm 17, and he's 16.
My parents are going on a vacation and we're all expected to help out a bit at the business while he's gone, and he's concerned how much this will cut into his Internet time
On April 28 2010 04:14 BroOd wrote:Show nested quote +My relationship with my brother has always been awful, I won't deny it and I have not made any effort to make the difference smaller mostly because I know its not worth the effort. Maybe he feels the same way, and maybe that's why you have a terrible relationship. In the end, you're both still really young. I have a sister who's 22 now, and still fairly self-important. I used to get myself worked up about her antics, her egocentric attitude and the fact that I felt like I was putting much more into the relationship than she was. Ultimately, I had to realize she was dealing with her own problems in her own way. To be honest, it sounds like you both might have some growing up to do. You need to find a way to view your relationship with your brother as one where the work and effort you put in is enough to satisfy you. Even if he doesn't reciprocate, knowing you're doing all you can will make you feel much better about it. Reminds me of a thing Isabel Allende said in her "This I Believe" Show nested quote +The pain of losing my child was a cleansing experience. I had to throw overboard all excess baggage and keep only what is essential. Because of Paula, I don't cling to anything anymore. Now I like to give much more than to receive. I am happier when I love than when I am loved. I adore my husband, my son, my grandchildren, my mother, my dog, and frankly I don't know if they even like me. But who cares? Loving them is my joy.
I don't really know what kind of issues he would have to deal with, anything he would be teased about its because he brought it upon himself. The other morning after I was sleeping in on Sunday, after the 'volunteer work' I was asked to put up this massive tent that we have for flowers. I thought I had earned an honest break right, so I ask my mom to get my brother to do it since he hasn't done much. 3 minutes later he starts his usual yelling and screaming, and starts calling me gay, homo, retard, etc, etc. By then I'm awake and the blame falls on me again. I just can't get around how much he could disrespect his parents and grandparents and it really pisses me off, meh.
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Also this is not a troll, if anything I'm understating most of what happens -_-;
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trollin?
Edit: gues not, just smack him around when your parents aren't around.
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Hmm looks like he was a bit too spoiled as a child. I dont think theres anything you can do now. Hes just another spoiled stubborn teenager. When high school finishes hopefully your parents dont baby him too long and he gets hit in the face with reality.
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On April 28 2010 04:48 showkjh wrote:Show nested quote +On April 28 2010 04:11 il0seonpurpose wrote:
Btw what do your parents being gone have to do with his playing Dota? I'm 17, and he's 16. My parents are going on a vacation and we're all expected to help out a bit at the business while he's gone, and he's concerned how much this will cut into his Internet time
nigga if YOU'RE the jangnam and you're allowing your family to get dominated by someone lower than you in the hierarchy you are fucking failing, go punch him in the nose right now, don't even have a discussion. i'm serious yo. get off the computer, find a bat or something for self-confidence and go kick his ass, it's the only way and you only have one or two more years where u can abuse your mutual non-adult status to use physical violence
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That is not right. It is time for you to step in and fix the problem. Make him your bitch.
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If this is true, you should consider giving him the first beat down of his life. I probably shouldn't advocate violence, especially when I don't have all the facts (only your story), but he sounds like a spoiled bitch in serious need of a wake up call.
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Not working at 16 is a fairly standard deal man. I refused to work till I was 17 and only worked while on summer break. Not excusing the rest of his shitty behaviour, but not working a job is normal 
If hes on summer break already then yea, kinda lazy.
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On April 28 2010 05:03 Chriamon wrote:
Blame the parents.
My parents are wonderful people I could never REALLY blame them for anything. They went through the age old story of packing up everything and leaving South Korea to come to Canada in search of a better life for their children. My mom had a university degree in chemistry and was dabbling in planning for construction while looking for a job in her field. They basically left their entire family and their friends behind for their children, and my mom gave up her career to be basically a housewife/variety store clerk. Theres no way I could blame my parents for whatever he does, and frankly I'm a bit insulted.
On April 28 2010 05:06 BloodyC0bbler wrote:Not working at 16 is a fairly standard deal man. I refused to work till I was 17 and only worked while on summer break. Not excusing the rest of his shitty behaviour, but not working a job is normal If hes on summer break already then yea, kinda lazy.
Him not working really just shows me that he doesn't appreciate what my parents have done for us, and I perceived that as he not thinking they deserve a vacation.
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On April 28 2010 05:06 BloodyC0bbler wrote:Not working at 16 is a fairly standard deal man. I refused to work till I was 17 and only worked while on summer break. Not excusing the rest of his shitty behaviour, but not working a job is normal If hes on summer break already then yea, kinda lazy.
but its the family business...
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On April 28 2010 04:54 d_so wrote:Show nested quote +On April 28 2010 04:48 showkjh wrote:On April 28 2010 04:11 il0seonpurpose wrote:
Btw what do your parents being gone have to do with his playing Dota? I'm 17, and he's 16. My parents are going on a vacation and we're all expected to help out a bit at the business while he's gone, and he's concerned how much this will cut into his Internet time nigga if YOU'RE the jangnam and you're allowing your family to get dominated by someone lower than you in the hierarchy you are fucking failing, go punch him in the nose right now, don't even have a discussion. i'm serious yo. get off the computer, find a bat or something for self-confidence and go kick his ass, it's the only way and you only have one or two more years where u can abuse your mutual non-adult status to use physical violence
This is a horrible comment....wow
I've had problems with my younger brother growing up as well, and all I can say is in the end, just do everything you are asked to do, and totally ignore everything about him. He knows he can get under your skin really easy, and takes advantage of it. From now on, just ignore his presence. If he tries to speak to you, don't even give him eye contact. If you are both asked to do something, just go and do it, and who cares if he helps or not. In the end, your parents will look at you as the mature, respectful hardworking son, and view him as the lazy slob that in the end deserves nothing.
You may have to deal with his bullshit while you reside at home, but think of the future, and the respect your parents will show you. Hell even your brother will eventually stop being such a pain, and not bother wasting his time pissing you off, because in the end, you could care less.
ths approach really helped me and my brother get along when we were younger, and now that were both in our mid twenties, we have grown to appreciate brotherhood much more, and don't have to look back and think of possible times where we got violent (which is always ackward between brothers as they grow up)
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