EPTWhy is my Dad an ASSHOLE?! - Page 3
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UFO
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KlaCkoN
Sweden1661 Posts
On October 14 2009 05:04 Track wrote: Talking about superman punching your dad? Stabbing him? Are you thirteen years old? You should probably try to mature a bit and evaluate your situation more objectively, whining about it isn't going to do you any good. Usually I'm sympathetic to things like this, but you're just whining and moaning. Your parents bug you about school? Your dad disciplines you physically? "He even talked in that faggot tone how if I wanted to go to a far away college, I had to do it by myself because he won’t support me. So that means I have to take a bunch of loans." You are going to... take out LOANS!? The horror!! Grow up. Maybe you should read some of the blogs of the people here who have actual fucking problems. Daddy not wanting to fund your school so you have to take out loans doesn't qualify as a problem. Ones father beeing crazy enough to pull a knife on ones mother just might though? | ||
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Tsagacity
United States2124 Posts
On October 14 2009 06:49 AzureEye wrote: Yep. I wish I had done that. Spent so much money on 2 years of pretty pointless classes before I got to the good stuff Actually going to Community College, and then transferring to a good school is perfectly viable and good method of saving money. But if you really hate your dad and stuff, just get a loan and go to a good school that you deserve. Therefore, you can get away from your parents and stuff too.  | ||
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Ingenol
United States1328 Posts
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selboN
United States2523 Posts
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DragonSharp
United States85 Posts
Now, I'm a Vietnamese American as you are (less not get to that argument since thats what we aren't talking about), and I'm in the about the exact same situation as you are. I'm also in my 2nd year of community college and my dad is an asshole as well due to being working way too much and other stuff. However, I found that your dad is even more of an asshole than mines' which I feel sorry for you (details about my father won't matter much here). But the thing is, you are close to finishing your time in that community college and be off to another university where your pressures from your dad will be off a lot. You're better off with this option because not only you seem bright (which I'm assuming you spent a lot of time in your APs and SATs) but also you will experience the amount of freedom you will have there. I went to a tour to one of UCs schools with my friend showing around the places and what he does for this type of living, and I have to say, it's one of the best possible feelings to live in environment where no restrictions can be from your parents ( although I might exaggerate this a bit but you get the point). IMO, military isn't the best choice, even though I have thoughts of joining too during my high school years, because why put yourself more into in a messy situation where joining a 4 year-university can alleviate some of your troubles off. As you stated before, you will be far away from your house where you won't face your dad a lot. But thats just me because I have enough living my dad for God knows long I suffered from him, and I don't feel like going to the military a bit. But if you must for financial aid, join the ROTC of that university. Some universities might not have the Air Force ROTC that you might look for but at least you can be in both places at the same time and place. Hopefully this can help you, and sorry if there is something wrong with this cause I'm not the best when it comes to English. But one thing I want to point out that you are almost finish with college. All you need to do is complete your second year, transfer, complete the rest of the years in a 4-year university, and get that degree. Just survive a few more years and you will be in control. | ||
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SayaSP
Laos5494 Posts
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Kurosaki
United States158 Posts
On October 14 2009 06:28 redtooth wrote: this made absolutely no sense. okay the OP may not have the worst life in the world but how does he have a "great life"? its nothing to be absolutely emo over but he definitely does not have a "great life", especially when it comes to his relationship with his father. and it definitely doesn't have anything to do with your father. His dad and my dad are one the same. Only difference is that my dad is a heavy drinker. I'm Viet so yes I understand. Only difference is that I know how great my life really is. Just look at him. His parent makes double what mine makes. OP only mentioned problems with his dad. I have problems with my dad, sister, and brother. Why am I so optimistic? Because I haven't witness real life-changing event that can really fuck me over. I'm healthy, no financial burden, and nothing charged against me. Nothing catastrophic which I find is great. His situation isn't rare. Hell, I have friends whose siblings have schizophrenia and bi-polar. Compare to what I've seen, his family is normal. Great even. He just doesn't know it. | ||
DivinO
United States4796 Posts
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iNcontroL
USA29055 Posts
What happened at 13? Btw sorry to hear this | ||
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Cambium
United States16368 Posts
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weaksauce
369 Posts
I would definitely try to find a job and move in with a friend. The UC/CSU would give the most aide to you if you lived alone (basing it off household income), but i know its not too viable here in the bay. Hang in there, he'll get his in the end when he's alone, old, and senile. | ||
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QuoC
United States724 Posts
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ph33r
Canada58 Posts
On October 14 2009 09:14 Kurosaki wrote: His dad and my dad are one the same. Only difference is that my dad is a heavy drinker. I'm Viet so yes I understand. Only difference is that I know how great my life really is. Just look at him. His parent makes double what mine makes. OP only mentioned problems with his dad. I have problems with my dad, sister, and brother. Why am I so optimistic? Because I haven't witness real life-changing event that can really fuck me over. I'm healthy, no financial burden, and nothing charged against me. Nothing catastrophic which I find is great. His situation isn't rare. Hell, I have friends whose siblings have schizophrenia and bi-polar. Compare to what I've seen, his family is normal. Great even. He just doesn't know it. You can't say other people have "great lives" just cause nothing catastrophic happens. It's not that easy to understand people's troubles no matter how similar your situations may seem to be. | ||
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zoLo
United States5896 Posts
I just need to find a part time job, but it's hard since I apply to a lot of places and I get interviews, but I never get a call back even if I call them about my status. I still have time because I plan on moving out once I transfer to SJSU (if I have a job by then), so that gives me a lot of time to job hunt. As for my dad, I plan on writing a letter to him (since I can't talk to him in person because he's stubborn) when I move out the house and I'll use what I wrote in my 1st post (revised of course since I can't write in my native language that well) in the letter, but with extra things that always bugged me. | ||
GTR
51574 Posts
On October 14 2009 05:17 keV. wrote: Anyone else have completely reasonable parents? My dad is a little daddish, but he has only lost his mind very few times, and I think everyone is entitled to that once in a great while. Anyone ever try telling their crazy ass parents that they are being batshit insane? even though i'm asian my parents always accept what i want to do. they don't have any second thoughts on my objectives and ideals. weird eh. | ||
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zoLo
United States5896 Posts
On October 15 2009 13:39 GTR wrote: even though i'm asian my parents always accept what i want to do. they don't have any second thoughts on my objectives and ideals. weird eh. You should be happy lol. It's pretty rare to see understandable Asian parents (usually the ones not born in the Asian country are ) | ||
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Vivi57
United States6599 Posts
On October 14 2009 06:53 intrigue wrote: how can anyone understand it? it is unjustifiable across the board. have you seen what it's done to kids? i'm not talking about the extreme cases on the news, but the masses of otherwise nondescript asian kids who have to go through the system with no confidence, huge inferiority complexes, and unconscious self-loathing. it's sick. intrigue nailed the heart of the problem here. This is exactly what you're stuck in and you don't have the courage to stand up to your dad directly. Why else would you send him a letter after you move out? (this is perfectly understandable, very few people would be able to do that to his face) Your dad definitely sounds worse than most, especially the partying. I wonder what your dad feels here. Does he feel trapped and obligated to your family? I could ramble a while here, but I don't really feel like writing a bunch of barely connected thoughts (I'm tired now). Back to the first idea, what are the ways for someone to feel liberated from the self esteem crushing asian upbringing? Unless the letter creates some amazing discussion, zolo will probably still feel the effects of it alot. *can* anyone actually escape from that feeling or is the natural course of that to go on as an adult feeling that way and doing stupid crap like his dad to assert superiority? sorry if everything after the first paragraph is incoherent, I'm just sitting here typing as things come to my mind | ||
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OhThatDang
United States4685 Posts
im vietnamese and this shit doesnt happen to me at all i understand where you could get the race hating though sometimes i dont like vietnamese people either cause they always got something to say but thats HAS to be with every language too right? so lay off on that everyone talks mad shit you just understand that one language thats all on behalf of your dad, hes a dick my uncle is the same he cheated on my aunt and went back to vietnam he found a wife there and wouldnt divorce my aunt and then eventually went back to my aunt after his new girlfriend ditched him. | ||
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toastybunz
United States47 Posts
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