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You really cannot judge how many real friends other people have..
But do ask yourself this question.
Our of the 10+ real friends you think you have, how many of them would you put in a hotel room with your girlfriend and let them spend the night with each other and the next day you trust with out a slight doubt that nothing happend between them 100%?
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On October 05 2006 08:19 Hot_Bid wrote: [removed quote within quote] its near the wrist-cutting knives and black eye shadow
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It's hard to put in words the depth of the word 'friendship'. To the people with 50+ good friends, could you tell all of them you're gay or into child pron (if you were)? Would you take a bullet for all of them?
Friends really narrow down when you finish education, most highschool/college friends just are friends because they are close to you and are able to have a good time together. Are you going to keep in touch when you grow up, even if it's only once a year? I don't think anyone will keep in touch with 50 people.
But i don't think it's impossible to have 15 real good friends, but this takes a lot of social time to get to know each other. I personally have 3, maybe 4.
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On October 05 2006 10:07 1tym wrote: You really cannot judge how many real friends other people have..
But do ask yourself this question.
Our of the 10+ real friends you think you have, how many of them would you put in a hotel room with your girlfriend and let them spend the night with each other and the next day you trust with out a slight doubt that nothing happend between them 100%?
3 friends. They are shy .
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Like others have already hammered out - it all depends on the interpretation of what is meant by a 'real' friend.
My 'real' friends are the people that will always be a significant part of my life until the day I die. It's not an assumption, or a hope, it's KNOWING that they will always be extremely important to me. They are a big enough part of my life that my family will knowingly pick them above all others to be pallbearers at my funeral should something bad happen, and I will pick them above all others (without any second thought) to stand with me at my wedding. Non-family, of course.
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On October 05 2006 08:23 EvilTeletubby wrote: Everyone who said 10+ is a liar, and probably just in school/college.
Trust me, you don't have 10 REAL friends.
Don't forget that in different cultures it can be more/less difficult to make ''real friends'' (not to mention different personalities etc.). I have found making ''real friends'' in the US to be incredibly hard compared to the other places that I have lived. IMO it was a very narrow-minded statement that you made, which obviously came about from YOUR personal experiences. You shouldn't speak for the rest of us ;p
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No lies, I have over one hundred and fifty of these 'real' friends.
A good portion of them are from primary school others from early highschool and so forth, I have talked and been with these guys for a long, long time.
It wasn't always this way, I started off with one good friend when I was 10, who I met through an older man who worked as a professor in my home town, we were both young...but myself and him met so many new friends...we really spread our social wings as we went on our journey through life.
I think it's been this way since I left home at a VERY early age (10) and had to move around a lot. It's ok though...I wanted to. Soon I met two more people who I now consider the greatest friends I'll ever have. We travelled together, learning and meeting new people all the time.
My array of friends began to spread as I became more confident and stronger person in life, life has many battles in it, as I'm sure a lot of you know...but I've had so many battles in my life I don't know how to act properly sometimes. It also seems that every new person I'd meet would want to fight...it was the longest time before I became strong enough that people respected me for who I am...and they know that I have the backing of all my friends for support and to keep me in the fight.
My name is Ash Ketchum and I'm a Pokémon master.
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Hahahahaha Smurg!!!!!!
I have just a handful of real friends. Yeah...
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haha that post reads like a Mastercard advertisement
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I said 3, realy I have 3 friends who I KNOW would always back me up and I KNOW would never do anything to fuck me over. I have known both of them since 7th grade, and one of them I basicly lived at his house, and his family is like a second family to me.
Thats the kind of friend he is talking about, not the kind of friend you call every now and then to go hang out or whatever. I could use my bnet friends list if that was the case -_-
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Wow, I should of really read the question. I put 10+ but upon reading i'd say 3.
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On October 05 2006 10:33 DevAzTaYtA wrote: [removed quote within quote]
Don't forget that in different cultures it can be more/less difficult to make ''real friends'' (not to mention different personalities etc.). I have found making ''real friends'' in the US to be incredibly hard compared to the other places that I have lived. IMO it was a very narrow-minded statement that you made, which obviously came about from YOUR personal experiences. You shouldn't speak for the rest of us ;p
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Fair enough, I'll admit that I hadn't really considered that. What cultures would you say is more prone to creating true friends? Are we talking more along the lines of a humbled culture, or maybe small, isolated cultures where everybody tends to know everybody? I can't really see in the "busy" westernized mind-set how it's realistically possible to have that many close friends.
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I think I've only got 2 real friends. However I don't think I have anybody I can tell anything, but that's ok, since I don't wanna hear everything anyways.
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anyone who thinks that 50 years of not talking to someone won't change your relationship with them is a fool.
Admittedly, i have a few close friends that i can't imagine anything being different in 50 years. But in 50 years alot can happen. They can go insane. They can start believing in war. They can become a cocaine addict. They can become a murderer.
Most of us would like to believe that we know our 'real' friends better than this - that we know this wouldn't happen. But being that you will not have been around these people for said 50 years, many a life-shattering event can happen, and things will have inevitably changed.
I guess i have about 5 friends that i would consider 'real' by OP's definition. 5 people who i would stand by, help through, and love despite being a murderer/insane/cocaine addict/child molester. However, these people would not not be involved in my life for 50 years. If i didn't talk to one of these 5 people for 50 years and THEN they had these problems, i'd probably be sad, but not spend my time with them over spending time with my kids/grandchildren/other close friends.
You guys really trivialized what Chill has experienced. You attempt to explain and make less of his experiences when the truth is you do not understand his experiences - you only understand your own and try to relate them.
I personally doubt anyone on this forum has experienced 'true' love. But then again, i would never have the audacity to call someone mistaken if they claimed they have indeed experienced true love.
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My right hand(left hand when my right hand sores)
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i voted 10+ im 100% sure i can tell them anything and they will support me in my time of need, and ofcourse vice versa, i have been there for them in their time of need and trust them with my life. I can ask just about anything of them and they will surely do their best.
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On October 05 2006 11:39 dronebabo wrote: i have 5 girlfriends
and 3 feet of pure tender cock I see you got your old name back. But what happened to dronebabo jr., the new guy
To stay on the topic: I have only one true friend. Been a friend ever since I came to the U.S.
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