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edit: im 90% sure i posted this in General not in blog. apologies if i did and it was moved or something gay.
i dont need or want advice, i just want to hear your stories
you're absolutely in love with a person
he or she does not love you back, nor does he or she barely comprehend how powerful your feelings are, although he or she understand that you have those feelings (since you've let it be known, many times, in many ways abeit most probably unnoticed)
you are close friends with this person and talk about pretty much anything under the sun - and i do mean everything in a deeper sense of the term, from your innermost thoughts to your religion your past and your doubts fears hopes and values, up to the extent of sexual modesty, since that is a precarious subject between you for "obvious" reasons.
you have an understanding between one another that extends far beyond it.
you , for the first time in your life, due to various degrees of enlightenment, are "comfortable" (read: able) to interact with this person closely whilst containing the metaphorically violent expression of your love and desire.
how do you feel? your heart is constantly shattered, rebuilt and shattered again. you are on that fine line between honest friendship and pent up explosiveness, ever controlling it. every so often you have to let slip, at the most appropriate and innocent of times, casual phrases like "love you" or "you're awesome!". and all the while you wonder if she really has any idea of what you feel.
your act is so good. you have never been so strong in your life. a normal person would break down violently and the relationship would be forever gone. but it's not an act. if this person were same-gendered you would love them just as much. your "act" is only so that they don't feel uncomfortable, so that the relationship remains as intact as it can possibly be.
this person says to you...
"if simply being friends is really that difficult for you, perhaps we should just end it altogether. what do you think about that?"
and you answer...
"i don't know. i really don't know."
you're dying inside, you're almost fainting. do you have the strength to rally? how long can you keep this up for? is this the feeling of "hope" that keeps me alive? without this strength i would surely be wallowing in manic depression as i have done so many times before.
but how long can it last. i'm afraid. my only strength is in her own sense of enlightenment and the hope that she can forgive and accept me for what i am. and she seems to be able to do this. and for this i love her all the more.
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You definently fail
vGi-Cow moved it to the blog, and your idiot ass just posted again
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You're the one who should be growing up
Get over it, start thinking independently
The Leaders of Teamliquid didnt create this website so they can hear you cry about some girl
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its too uncommon and significant to be left in blog, if u read it its a unique experience that should b left open for a larger audience . imo
edit oh and grow up jesus
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Hoho, it is NOT a unique experience on TL.
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I'd say it's not a unique experience in life either.
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Obviously this persons new to the internet, and to reality, haha
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On November 12 2008 09:14 tika wrote:
its too uncommon and significant to be left in blog, if u read it its a unique experience that should b left open for a larger audience . imo
Holy SHIT lol
hahahaha oh my god how deluded and self-important can you be
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jibba i respect a lot of your posts in the past but recently it seems like ur doing very low level of thinking, i dont mean to be aggressive or offensive in any manner, just pointing out how u appear to myself and a couple of others. its so very easy for myself and others to slip into that "instant response" style but we sometimes all need a reminder that things are more than they immediately seem
edit: and this goes for folca who seems to think that the most significant points of our emotional lives are as simplistic as their own first fad loves at the age of 16 and not for example serious relationships between middle-aged adults
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You sure ask a lot of questions.
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How old are you?
If you are below 18, then realize that things like this happen, and in retrospect you will find them silly.
But as for advice, keep the friendship. And if you can't keep the friendship and respect her friendship, then YOU need to move on. It is a very difficult line to walk, but do try. Good luck.
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My post in the blog is dead serious. She knows that you want to be in a relationship and she's gone as far as to say you should end it if you can't handle just being friends, so you are definitely stuck in the friend zone. You're only going to forget about her by 1) not being friends anymore or 2) start a relationship with someone else. #2 is obviously the better choice if you haven't been intimate before.
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This thread is now about cereal.
My favorite is Cap'n Crunch.
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On November 12 2008 09:23 TheOvermind77 wrote:
How old are you?
If you are below 18, then realize that things like this happen, and in retrospect you will find them silly.
But as for advice, keep the friendship. And if you can't keep the friendship and respect her friendship, then YOU need to move on. It is a very difficult line to walk, but do try. Good luck.
thanks for some form of encouragement at the least, it almost definately is as simple as what you say. just is some great comfort to hear from others in this lonely, lonely world we live in.
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On November 12 2008 09:24 Jibba wrote:
My post in the blog is dead serious. She knows that you want to be in a relationship and she's gone as far as to say you should end it if you can't handle just being friends, so you are definitely stuck in the friend zone. You're only going to forget about her by 1) not being friends anymore or 2) start a relationship with someone else. #2 is obviously the better choice if you haven't been intimate before.
no offense but in the "real world", at least between people who "think" as much as myself and my associates do, this is a very very ....unsophisticated, black and white way of thinking. if you are in a relationship with someone who is very thoughtful and intelligent, answers, paths, aren't so clearcut.
edit: this isn't america where relationships sprout and end on a whim. we put real value into our lives and what we do and what we experience.
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oh lawdy what a sick world this is
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In a way I'm glad I don't "think" like you. My world isn't lonely and most problems have straightforward solutions.
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There is always more fish in the sea.
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You are walking on a thin line.
Stop being so emo.
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On November 12 2008 09:24 LordWeird wrote:
This thread is now about cereal.
My favorite is Cap'n Crunch.
Honey Bunches of Oats, most underrated and best tasting cereal out there.
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On November 12 2008 09:30 tika wrote:Show nested quote +On November 12 2008 09:24 Jibba wrote:
My post in the blog is dead serious. She knows that you want to be in a relationship and she's gone as far as to say you should end it if you can't handle just being friends, so you are definitely stuck in the friend zone. You're only going to forget about her by 1) not being friends anymore or 2) start a relationship with someone else. #2 is obviously the better choice if you haven't been intimate before. no offense but in the "real world", at least between people who "think" as much as myself and my associates do, this is a very very ....unsophisticated, black and white way of thinking. if you are in a relationship with someone who is very thoughtful and intelligent, answers, paths, aren't so clearcut. edit: this isn't america where relationships sprout and end on a whim. we put real value into our lives and what we do and what we experience.
The Friend Zone is in international waters, sir.
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