On March 22 2008 08:09 {88}iNcontroL wrote: If you get REALLY mad make sure to never ever hit a person, especially a woman or a mentally handicapped child. The safest alternative is to beat the shit out of a dog or cat. The fur covers up the bruises / cuts and the language barrier provides you with the kind of protection necessary for venting harmlessly.
is blindness a mental handicap? i always thought it was a physical handicap. and there's no sport in it. but to teach a mentally handicap child to navigate into an oncoming lane of traffic, then watching him do so... now that's sport.
On March 22 2008 06:30 SweeTLemonS[TPR] wrote: Punching a wall works for me, too, but that puts holes in walls. I know people always say do something constructive, but I've tried and have been unable to do that, because it nags at me so badly...
Have you thought about investing in a punching bag? I'm actually serious.
EDIT: Looks like I should have read the entire thread..
Well I don't think your problem is totally a bad thing. If you can get it under control, I'm sure you will be able to focus that energy towards something beneficial.
I think there have been some good suggestions of what to do at the time you get angry. What I would suggest is try to look at the larger picture and think about why you have this type of reaction. Is it because you're impatient? Is it because you are frustrated with something else?
Maybe you aren't happy with some part of you're life. I would say set goals and try to acheive them, then when something happens (and you get angry) it won't seem like such a big deal because you have confidence that you can overcome any problem.
Also, lol:
On March 22 2008 07:58 Elric_ wrote: I don't think I have anger problems on the same level as some of you people here. But when I do get frustrated, I find it helps to just scream something obscene really loud. :/ Maybe you can try that instead of hitting things.
Just make sure there aren't too many people around when you do it. (At uni, I woke up several neighbours after bellowing the word "FUCKKKKK" when I realised I missed my 9am lectures...)
Edit: After reading the post above, I must agree completely. Anger problems (including my own!!) are utterly retarded. I personally f-ing hate it when people (including me!!) get pissed over nothing.
We all got anger problems. It's a matter of your personal control over a situation.
Also, growing up and being humbled a few times helps. I used to have "anger problems", but it was just immaturity. You'll outgrow it. If you don't, well, that's the story of your life.
On March 22 2008 06:30 SweeTLemonS[TPR] wrote: I have a problem with anger, and they say the first step to recovery is admitting it.
It's not that I'm always angry, not anymore, or even that little things irritate me all the time... not anymore. Little shit does still get to me, but most of the time I'll just let it go. It's just that when something gets to me, the only way I can get over my anger is to break something. Something must be broken in order for me to feel better. I've broken bones because of this (not intentionally, it happened while I was trying to break something else).
What really made me think about this was that my car got snowed in today, because I forgot to roll up my windows. It was my fault, and I understand that, and I wasn't mad at anyone but myself, but something had to be done (aside from cleaning my car out). I took a brush, initially, and brushed some of the snow off my driver-side seat, and then the anger built up inside more, and I hit the inside of my door with the brush. Luckily, I drive a shitty car, so I'm not going to feel a need to fix this, but I will be constantly reminded of how stupid that was. It destroyed this cheap padding crap on the door, ripped it off partially, and put a nick in the plastic on the door. I also broke the brush (which was not mine, and I have no intention of replacing unless the owner confronts me about this).
I'm not mad anymore, but I feel like a total dumbass for having done that, as I do almost every time I break something valuable when I get mad. The thing is, I don't know how else to deal with anger. It's like the barrel of a gun being jammed up. You fire the bullet, and that energy is going to go out somehow. The barrel of the gun may get messed up, but the energy will escape. That's what my anger is like, this energy gets inside me instantaneously, and it has to come out--if it doesn't it nags at me for a long time.
So, I guess the whole point of this is to find out how others deal with anger. Punching a wall works for me, too, but that puts holes in walls. I know people always say do something constructive, but I've tried and have been unable to do that, because it nags at me so badly...
Maybe I should have made this a blog... people don't respond as much there, though, and I could somewhat use responses here.
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