On March 22 2008 06:45 Aurious wrote:Show nested quote +On March 22 2008 06:40 zizou21 wrote:On March 22 2008 06:30 SweeTLemonS[TPR] wrote:
I have a problem with anger, and they say the first step to recovery is admitting it.
It's not that I'm always angry, not anymore, or even that little things irritate me all the time... not anymore. Little shit does still get to me, but most of the time I'll just let it go. It's just that when something gets to me, the only way I can get over my anger is to break something. Something must be broken in order for me to feel better. I've broken bones because of this (not intentionally, it happened while I was trying to break something else).
What really made me think about this was that my car got snowed in today, because I forgot to roll up my windows. It was my fault, and I understand that, and I wasn't mad at anyone but myself, but something had to be done (aside from cleaning my car out). I took a brush, initially, and brushed some of the snow off my driver-side seat, and then the anger built up inside more, and I hit the inside of my door with the brush. Luckily, I drive a shitty car, so I'm not going to feel a need to fix this, but I will be constantly reminded of how stupid that was. It destroyed this cheap padding crap on the door, ripped it off partially, and put a nick in the plastic on the door. I also broke the brush (which was not mine, and I have no intention of replacing unless the owner confronts me about this).
I'm not mad anymore, but I feel like a total dumbass for having done that, as I do almost every time I break something valuable when I get mad. The thing is, I don't know how else to deal with anger. It's like the barrel of a gun being jammed up. You fire the bullet, and that energy is going to go out somehow. The barrel of the gun may get messed up, but the energy will escape. That's what my anger is like, this energy gets inside me instantaneously, and it has to come out--if it doesn't it nags at me for a long time.
So, I guess the whole point of this is to find out how others deal with anger. Punching a wall works for me, too, but that puts holes in walls. I know people always say do something constructive, but I've tried and have been unable to do that, because it nags at me so badly...
Maybe I should have made this a blog... people don't respond as much there, though, and I could somewhat use responses here. k stopped reading Don't be such a fucking dick, what was honestly the point in posting that? Anyways, when you get angry just leave the situation if possible, and do something you enjoy doing.
Umm, I think the point was the OP was being a dick by not respecting other people. Yeah, pretty sure.
Anyway, anger can be useful... but when it gets too bad, it's bad (obviously). I would seriously suggest
1. learning respect for other people... if you see their perspective it'll change your perception of things that get you mad.
2. when you get pissed off, go lift weights. Nothing that'll hurt you, but enough to burn off the rage.
3. do something about your anger before you get too angry. Quick.
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