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On July 23 2013 12:50 DeepElemBlues wrote:Show nested quote +Inference and conclusion: People who do not like going to clubs have few to no interests in its associating factors i.e. music genre, alcohol, attraction, dance etc. I love all of those things and I can't stand clubbing, the club scene in America at least is awful imo. I'd rather have a house / pool / field party or just go to a regular bar and dance there than go to "the club." Maybe it's just the clubs in Pittsburgh are shitty filled with shitty people, that's probably it.
Chicago burbs aren't much better. Haven't been to any of the downtown ones, don't exactly have the budget for it though. I used to go to clubs in college. I had fun, but I was single then. Main reason I don't go now is I am engaged and my fiance has a very low tolerance for loud bass. I just think it would be weird to go now by myself. Though, I could probably be talked into going by some close friends.
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I used to like it. But recently i've started to dislike it more and more everytime i go lol
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If you are a guy going to clubs looking for a relationship with a girl then you are doing it wrong. If you are looking for sex then fair enough... but honestly I don't understand that mentality of needing sex to the extent where you will go to all that effort for it. Why can't you just jack it?
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I've been with the same girl for three years, and on this spring break this past spring i went to a club in Ireland, I got black out drunk and came to with two attractive women dancing on my leg. I decided it was time for me to leave at that point, Clubbing is good in general for exposure for single people, but for people in a relationship it is a terrible, terrible, relationship threatening time. Case in point: I don't like clubbing, will not do it again. Raise your Dongers.
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Club music hurts my ears in more ways than one.
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On July 23 2013 15:42 Narobz wrote:
I've been with the same girl for three years, and on this spring break this past spring i went to a club in Ireland, I got black out drunk and came to with two attractive women dancing on my leg. I decided it was time for me to leave at that point, Clubbing is good in general for exposure for single people, but for people in a relationship it is a terrible, terrible, relationship threatening time. Case in point: I don't like clubbing, will not do it again. Raise your Dongers.
I'd say it's more the combination of alcohol and the way women dress at clubs than the clubs themselves. If you can actually have the self-restraint to A) not get drunk and B) not "dance" with women or men, then I don't really a club being an issue. Also helps when you have only about average looks so you don't really have to worry about being hit on.
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On July 23 2013 15:56 NEOtheONE wrote:Show nested quote +On July 23 2013 15:42 Narobz wrote:
I've been with the same girl for three years, and on this spring break this past spring i went to a club in Ireland, I got black out drunk and came to with two attractive women dancing on my leg. I decided it was time for me to leave at that point, Clubbing is good in general for exposure for single people, but for people in a relationship it is a terrible, terrible, relationship threatening time. Case in point: I don't like clubbing, will not do it again. Raise your Dongers. I'd say it's more the combination of alcohol and the way women dress at clubs than the clubs themselves. If you can actually have the self-restraint to A) not get drunk and B) not "dance" with women or men, then I don't really a club being an issue. Also helps when you have only about average looks so you don't really have to worry about being hit on.
Well, sure... but if you're not planning to get drunk, aren't going to dance and are actively avoiding the girls... how many reasons are left to go clubbing?
I guess if you're following friends, but then you just end up being Mr Sober.
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I went through a major clubbing phase a couple years ago and it was an absolute blast. I don't enjoy it as much anymore, but for a while going out with the guys and picking up chicks on a fairly regular basis was a really positive experience and seemed to be a positive experience for everyone involved.
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Inference and conclusion: People who do not like going to clubs have few to no interests in its associating factors i.e. music genre, alcohol, attraction, dance etc. This may be due to their personality or gene, making them avoid the above interests and people associated with such interests. Or, they may simply not have had the opportunity or chance to mingle with such groups (which would make sense because many clubbers are really social and friendly, so no reason to avoid them when approached, really). People who have grown to like clubbing over time have been having growing interest in its associative factors, or have had friends as such and have been slowly or quickly integrated in clubbing community. People who fall in love with clubbing the first time they go are just born that way and are directly comfortable with enjoying its music, atmosphere, people, and related activities.
First off, I agree with your thoughts on dance. People who do not like going to clubs likely have little interest in dancing to that kind of music. However, I can't see your other activities as being logical conclusions to your premise of people liking or not liking clubbing from nature/nurture.
- Alcohol. Clubbing is generally expensive with regards to alcohol. It is not true that people who don't go clubbing will have little interest in alcohol. There are a myriad of other ways to have alcohol. This include with friends at a laid back bar and at a sports bar. This also includes the cheap option of buying a 12pack/24pack/30pack or multiple 6 packs and chilling with friends at the evening at the house, possibly with a barbecue, likely with TV or video games. Your conclusion does not logically follow.
- Music Genre. If you like dance music, there's an iPod and even more likely a PC or laptop that will play it in higher quality than any club. Its just the music genre and propensity to dance to it that suggests a clubbing atmosphere.
- Opportunity to try it out. The reverse is also true: some try it out and find the drinks too expensive, the music too loud, and the place too crowded. Even if clubbers around are often social and friendly, not even club scene is the same in an area. So it's definitely there to try it and never fall in love. It does favor the extroverts, I'll hand you that.
- Attraction. I don't think I'll need to elaborate when I say the people that go to clubs are looking to attract a certain type of girl. If that isn't your cup of tea, attraction has nothing to do with your choice to club or not club, it's the type you're attracted to.
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I'm freaking shy... but I love clubbing... Its too loud to talk anyhow. And yeah alcohol is totally a driving force in the club. Honestly without alcohol must of those girls wouldn't be dressing sluttily and/or grinding with you and you probably wouldn't be dancing like an idiot.
Rando/Embarasssing Question which I feel is rather important to this post. If I get an erection during......................during, like...........ummm.......some girl grinding her back end on my dick..............uhhhh....keep grinding or terminate????
Party on from Wisconsin!
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if you go to a club, thats clubbing?
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Clubbing for me ins't about the alchohol, the women or the music. It's about the atmosphere, and those three factors only add to it. What makes it so great is that your putting tons of people, my age (if you pick the right club, im 22), in a dark room where no one can judge too well what you look like, and the idea is to have fun. There are very few places where the frame for everyone is "have fun or go away". This is what creates the awesome atmosphere, everyone wants to enjoy themselves and that's what they are there for. It's the one place serious conversations are rarely welcome, and thats a good thing, because they are always welcome in other times of life, it's nice to go somewhere where the frame is to be fun, impulsive and carefree.
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Austria24422 Posts
Single, attractive and slutty girls. If you're into that kinda thing then yeah, clubbing's pretty cool. Especially if you look decent and have the courage to talk to people.
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Germany1309 Posts
Have you ever met someone who misses clubbing after being in a (working/satisfying) relationship? I don't. The exception is that if two people met in a club they keep going together like to prove to each other they were not only going to meet someone. But even this stops rather quickly.
Looking back I was hardcore about clubbing and festivals and it was out of question that this was the thing to do and the place to be. But now, turning 32 and getting married later this year, I have to admit that even in those years i somehow knew - but still did not allow me to realize - that you go clubbing only for two reasons: First, to meet that someone, and second, to distract you as good as you can while you do the first.
I think its rather funny that clubs/bars are considered the best or only choice to find girls/guys. Why? They are like the worst environment to actually make contact and talk to people. Its super loud, dark and people tend to create "closed groups" facing inwards and being even harder to approach. There is also that urban legend about meeting on the dancefloor.. Does not happen, and if, one or maybe even both are so drunk they ussually don't even enjoy (or remember the next day) getting lucky, but therefor end up with .. well, you know what I'm talking about if you are in this thread.
Well, considering i went clubbing from 17 to 25 I don't want to sound to harsh, I had great nights and wonderful memories from this time. But that simply does not change the fact that in this time I was just trying to find someone and I did so in the worst possible place. Even if I would have never ever admitted that back in the days. I would have responded like some of the replies i read here :-)
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On July 23 2013 13:14 spkim1 wrote:Show nested quote +On July 23 2013 12:41 Jisall wrote:
I love clubbing, I used to hit bars or clubs 7 days a week.
People assume it is just to pick up chicks, but if you go out and enjoy yourself you end up having alot of fun.
You make friends with the security, bartenders, waitresses, dudes and gals both.
It is all about being social. Humans are social animals, as evident by the existence of this forum. Going clubbing, barhopping is like hitting the ladder on starcraft in the social venue. You go out and meet strangers just like you go out and play against strangers; bounce idea's off each other (build orders), etc. You hear peoples life stories, and you grow found of people, and it helps you see the brighter side of life.
I got some sick stories from Barhopping and clubbing both PM me if you want to exchange stories or have a case study on your thesis.
Personally I think the relationship with clubbing is directly related to how positive your mindset is, and how much you like to go out and socialize. This. I find this is a fantastic imagery of clubbing. Starcraft has certain rules, and non-talk-communication is a rule in the game of clubbing. If you can ride the wave of the atmosphere of people and music, you get to learn to use your body to express yourself to a person of interest in the room. People who complain about not being able to talk in clubs means that speech is their strong point i.e. they're good at talking, and that is one of their main tools in socializing. But I think that if you can enjoy the music genre enough, as well as the people, you may find it easier to learn the physical skills needed in clubs i.e. dancing while having fun and sharing this fun mood with strangers around the floor. Edit: And also about the ladder part. In the beginning, you're uncomfortable having to play strangers, with a fear of failing/losing. So you're all anxious and awkward while playing, constantly worrying what the other person is doing and thinking. You're being ranked by your win/loss ratio, so the match actually has more hanging in the balance. You're out of your comfort zone. I think clubbing is exactly the same. You're out of your comfort zone, with strangers, and with unspoken social rules. It's your job to learn the skills, and learn to enjoy the thrill, just like a SC ladder game.
Adding to this, too often people think of what the club gives them. Totally wrong approach to clubbing, that is why you won't approach hot chicks, go dancing like an idiot, or socialize with people. Instead ask yourself what you can give the club. Can you give that hot chick the experience of a lifetime by meeting an incredable dude, can you bust a move from the soul and end up making peoples nights and encouraging others to follow suit, can you go up to people and make their night better because you have so much love to share, that you have to get it out or you will burst.
That is the mentality you have to go in with, really in anything you do. #yolo.
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On July 23 2013 16:57 Chosi wrote:
Have you ever met someone who misses clubbing after being in a (working/satisfying) relationship? I don't. The exception is that if two people met in a club they keep going together like to prove to each other they were not only going to meet someone. But even this stops rather quickly.
Looking back I was hardcore about clubbing and festivals and it was out of question that this was the thing to do and the place to be. But now, turning 32 and getting married later this year, I have to admit that even in those years i somehow knew - but still did not allow me to realize - that you go clubbing only for two reasons: First, to meet that someone, and second, to distract you as good as you can while you do the first.
I think its rather funny that clubs/bars are considered the best or only choice to find girls/guys. Why? They are like the worst environment to actually make contact and talk to people. Its super loud, dark and people tend to create "closed groups" facing inwards and being even harder to approach. There is also that urban legend about meeting on the dancefloor.. Does not happen, and if, one or maybe even both are so drunk they ussually don't even enjoy (or remember the next day) getting lucky, but therefor end up with .. well, you know what I'm talking about if you are in this thread.
Well, considering i went clubbing from 17 to 25 I don't want to sound to harsh, I had great nights and wonderful memories from this time. But that simply does not change the fact that in this time I was just trying to find someone and I did so in the worst possible place. Even if I would have never ever admitted that back in the days. I would have responded like some of the replies i read here :-)
I actually know a couple of people who miss clubs (mostly girls) even if they're in a working relationship. I think it's inherent in them seeing as clubs are the places in which fashion matters the most and its result can be seen directly by guys' reactions to them, and seeing how girls are crazed about fashions, well .. you make the connection.
Clubs are optimal for dancing, enjoying the feel of electro/house bass drops blasting our of those ginormous speakers music, and sharing this experience with strangers of the opposite gender. You're right in that you're not supposed to go looking for your significant other. The word 'significant' does not apply, although it MAY happen (nothing is impossible in life).
""closed groups" facing inward" - you've clearly been going to the wrong clubs. This is what we mean by "the wrong people" in clubs. Urban legend ? It's no legend, to go clubbing, hooking up with a girl, and having a one-night-stand. It may be for you, but those of us who've experienced it know otherwise.
32 is by no means an age where you're out of the clubbing environment. I know a DJ working at Boeing, who is 29, and is having the time of his life DJing at clubs and enjoying the atmosphere. I myself am 23 now, turning 24 in September, and I saw a guy my age post up there that his clubbing experience steamed out. It's all about the mindset. Think young, live young. You have the freedom to like what you want, and live as you want. If you are into clubs and related activities, I think you should keep at it regardless of your age. Hell, I even know people in their early 40's who go to high-class nightclubs, and they're fit, dress appropriately to the environment, and look and act young. So no, age is not an excuse.
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Clubbing?! I love clubbing!
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Well, i do like a room filled with the music i love, but there are like 3 clubs in germany who play it.
For girls stuff, i prefer bars and stuff where i can actually talk.
Im not at all into sneaking up to random people and try to dance with them.
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I think it really depends on what you enjoy. I love partying and drinking with my friends, but I dislike clubs and tend to steer parties away from clubbing. I prefer either going to someones home and drinking together there, or go out to bars/restaurants and drink there. My main problem with clubbing is that
A) The music is too loud, what's the point of being social when you can't talk.
B) I dislike dancing. It's fun for a few minutes to go crazy if it's a song you like, but some of my friends can literally stand around on a dance floor for hours... so hot and boring.
C) It can be quite expensive.
Some people agree with me but make the case that clubbing is a good way to meet new people. I disagree, I've never met anyone at a club who became anything even like an aquantiance. Sure, you can talk a bit to some unknown people at the... smoking spot? (don't know if there's a better english term) But you certainly can't "get to know" someone inside a club when the music is pumping.
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On July 23 2013 17:17 lost_artz wrote:
Clubbing?! I love clubbing!
[snip] Not cool 
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