EPTin high school it was cars. in adulthood its personal wealth. same shit different phase of life.
i have plenty of female friends who will not go out with a guy who does not own a car.
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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
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JimmyJRaynor
Canada17708 Posts
in high school it was cars. in adulthood its personal wealth. same shit different phase of life. i have plenty of female friends who will not go out with a guy who does not own a car. | ||
CosmicSpiral
United States15275 Posts
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farvacola
United States18866 Posts
For everyone else, if you've come to the conclusion that a lack of money is why you don't have a girlfriend, you need to do some more self-reflection. | ||
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Artisreal
Germany9235 Posts
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LegalLord
United States13779 Posts
On November 30 2016 04:54 Artisreal wrote: What are Randians? Followers of Ayn Rand philosophical school of thought. | ||
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Impervious
Canada4222 Posts
On November 30 2016 00:11 bloodwhore~ wrote: Where the fuck do you live? Shit like that would never fly on any respectable school. Sounds reasonable for Canada, believe it or not. You say that it wouldn't fly in any respectable school, but the regulations for high schools in Canada are very much in the favor of the student, the guy pretty much has to intentionally set the school on fire to get expelled..... I know people like that as well. | ||
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spacecoke
Sweden112 Posts
On November 30 2016 04:04 JimmyJRaynor wrote: going from no car at all to a Toyota Tercel and then to a modified Camaro Z28 made a big difference in the girls i could get as i progressed through high school. in high school it was cars. in adulthood its personal wealth. same shit different phase of life. i have plenty of female friends who will not go out with a guy who does not own a car. I think you and I are living in two different universes. I have slept with many good looking women in my days and I don't even have a driver's licence. :D | ||
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Keniji
Netherlands2569 Posts
On November 30 2016 23:00 spacecoke wrote: I think you and I are living in two different universes. I have slept with many good looking women in my days and I don't even have a driver's licence. :D Well, you live in Europe. I had beautiful, well-educated women have no trouble riding on the back of my bike after a date. And that was in my mid-twenties. (but I live in the Netherlands so...) | ||
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LegalLord
United States13779 Posts
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WarSame
Canada1950 Posts
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solidbebe
Netherlands4921 Posts
The idea of needing a car to get around is so strange to me. In fact, almost no young people have a car here because they are so expensive and so unnecessary. So yeah in terms of dating I don't think any dutch girl would think less of you for not having a car. | ||
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LegalLord
United States13779 Posts
We have more land and therefore much less densely populated cities. On the plus side, it becomes easier to live in a house instead of an apartment, which does make it worth it. But yes, life without a car is troublesome. Some of the denser cities in the country (New York, Los Angeles, San Francisco) are quite similar to the European ones in that cars are a luxury and useful, but hard to afford. But for me, it's a necessity. | ||
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LemOn
United Kingdom8629 Posts
It's just a symbol of status in some families | ||
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B.I.G.
3251 Posts
Sure it can help but just as with good looks or extraordinary talent the main reason is that it makes you more confident. | ||
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Dark_Chill
Canada3353 Posts
On December 01 2016 20:13 B.I.G. wrote: I agree with the assessment that if you think money is the reason you ain't getting any you are wrong. It happened more than once that I would succeed with a girl whom my much more successful (financially) and sometimes even more handsome friends failed with. Sure it can help but just as with good looks or extraordinary talent the main reason is that it makes you more confident. The main reason is certainly not confidence. Just look at dating websites and apps. A good picture tells you way more about looks than confidence or whatever. People really need to stop being scared that some factors in dating are only slightly controlled by them. Money helps because you can buy status, and in some ways buy looks. You can buy more expensive hobbies and experiences, and the more unique these are the more interesting to others they might be. Money is never the only reason, nor is it the main reason for success or failure. Ignoring it, however, and calling the other side "gold diggers" helps no one. | ||
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Artisreal
Germany9235 Posts
Accidentally opened the "6th" door that was posted yesterday and already arrived in the mail. I suppose the unknown package at the post office should be the rest. Excited!  | ||
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JimmyJRaynor
Canada17708 Posts
On November 30 2016 04:27 farvacola wrote: It should come as no surprise that Randians have trouble conceiving of relationships outside the context of abject materialism. Thanks for being that guy, JJR. For everyone else, if you've come to the conclusion that a lack of money is why you don't have a girlfriend, you need to do some more self-reflection. On November 30 2016 05:36 LegalLord wrote: Followers of Ayn Rand philosophical school of thought. Actually, i'm a Devers//Nathaniel Brandenian. Miss Rand stated her diametric opposition to them. is some of what Rand say true? yes. is every word she ever uttered 100% gospel truth? no. Dr. Branden wrote about 20 books. For a good insight into his perspective i recommend "Taking Responsibility: Self Reliance and the Accountable Life". Chapter 8 about creating a culture of accountability is particularly close to my viewpoint. I'm much more a Brandenian than a Randian. Even with Dr. Branden I do not agree with every word he wrote. Dr. Branden primarily concerns himself with spiritual pursuits rather than material pursuits. | ||
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Talula
United States19 Posts
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Rocket-Bear
3070 Posts
On December 04 2016 00:42 Talula wrote: Speaking from a women's perspective, I won't go out with a guy who doesn't own a car. I'm not materialistic, but a car is a necessity. Do you have a car yourself? | ||
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Talula
United States19 Posts
I do! I have a car, my own place, a dog, a job. It just feels weird to have to pick up a guy. What else will I have to "pick up" ? | ||
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