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On July 01 2014 00:24 SUINELLA wrote:
You are wrong, actually sex is the prerequisite of every good relationship.
If you're in a bad relationship, dump her and then have sex with other people. It's much more respectable than cheating on her and then saying "Meh, I didn't like what we had".
It also sounds like you weren't going to even bother saying anything if you hadn't gotten caught, and now you're sad you did. What did you expect?
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Its very simple, when his "girlfriend" confronts him about the cheating he can have the same argument with her that is being held here now and he will see what her opinion is. Tho I think anyone with a brain can already tell what the outcome will be.
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Plasma, people are just being a dick for the sake of being a dick.
He talks about "how much they love each other" which implies a relationship which, unless otherwise specified, implies a closed relationship which implies that trying to fuck other women is cheating. It's really that simple. "Sex being a foundation for a solid relationship" has nothing to do with this.
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On July 01 2014 00:48 r.Evo wrote:
Plasma, people are just being a dick for the sake of being a dick.
He talks about "how much they love each other" which implies a relationship which, unless otherwise specified, implies a closed relationship which implies that trying to fuck other women is cheating. It's really that simple. "Sex being a foundation for a solid relationship" has nothing to do with this.
I figured as much.
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On June 30 2014 21:59 urboss wrote:I guess most dating advice boils down to this: ![[image loading]](http://i.imgur.com/AsDZ9xV.png) User was warned for this post
Is there reason for the warning other than "your image sucks"?
As a lawful citizen, I don't wanna make the same mistake again after all.
I thought that it is quite an accurate summary of the advice in this thread.
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On July 01 2014 01:45 urboss wrote:Show nested quote +On June 30 2014 21:59 urboss wrote:I guess most dating advice boils down to this: User was warned for this post Is there reason for the warning other than "your image sucks"? As a lawful citizen, I don't wanna make the same mistake again after all. I thought that it is quite an accurate summary of the advice in this thread.
Who's the middle guy?
I'm also guessing it's because you didn't also write an explanation- just a picture.
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One of the characters in the movie Dumb and Dumber. I'll let you extrapolate how good he is with women.
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On July 01 2014 01:59 Blitzkrieg0 wrote:
One of the characters in the movie Dumb and Dumber. I'll let you extrapolate how good he is with women.
i dont get the picture at all tbh.
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On July 01 2014 01:45 urboss wrote:Show nested quote +On June 30 2014 21:59 urboss wrote:I guess most dating advice boils down to this: User was warned for this post Is there reason for the warning other than "your image sucks"? As a lawful citizen, I don't wanna make the same mistake again after all. I thought that it is quite an accurate summary of the advice in this thread.
Ask the moderator who warned you, but typically image posts are frowned upon on TL
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On July 01 2014 01:59 Blitzkrieg0 wrote:
One of the characters in the movie Dumb and Dumber. I'll let you extrapolate how good he is with women.
Hm well he's not Jeff Daniels or Jim Carrey, and honestly I'm not interested enough to look him up. But thanks 
On July 01 2014 02:25 arb wrote:Show nested quote +On July 01 2014 01:59 Blitzkrieg0 wrote:
One of the characters in the movie Dumb and Dumber. I'll let you extrapolate how good he is with women. i dont get the picture at all tbh.
Either all guys are murderous coke addicts, desperate guys with weird smiles, or George Clooney.
That's my guess.
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On July 01 2014 03:07 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:Show nested quote +On July 01 2014 01:59 Blitzkrieg0 wrote:
One of the characters in the movie Dumb and Dumber. I'll let you extrapolate how good he is with women. Hm well he's not Jeff Daniels or Jim Carrey, and honestly I'm not interested enough to look him up. But thanks Show nested quote +On July 01 2014 02:25 arb wrote:On July 01 2014 01:59 Blitzkrieg0 wrote:
One of the characters in the movie Dumb and Dumber. I'll let you extrapolate how good he is with women. i dont get the picture at all tbh. Either all guys are murderous coke addicts, desperate guys with weird smiles, or George Clooney. That's my guess.
Looks like Jim Carry to me.
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wtf am i reading here. people are trying to argue that its not cheating if they aren't having sex with their main partner? wow. some people don't want to have sex right away, doesn't make the relationship any less real. they might want to slowly test the waters with first and second base for a while before going to third. it might take a while for that home run, but yes, it is cheating if you're sexing someone else in the meantime. here's a simple litmus test. if you tell your partner and they are pissed off that you're sleeping with someone else, then yes, yes it is cheating.
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On July 01 2014 03:37 Blitzkrieg0 wrote:Show nested quote +On July 01 2014 03:07 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:On July 01 2014 01:59 Blitzkrieg0 wrote:
One of the characters in the movie Dumb and Dumber. I'll let you extrapolate how good he is with women. Hm well he's not Jeff Daniels or Jim Carrey, and honestly I'm not interested enough to look him up. But thanks On July 01 2014 02:25 arb wrote:On July 01 2014 01:59 Blitzkrieg0 wrote:
One of the characters in the movie Dumb and Dumber. I'll let you extrapolate how good he is with women. i dont get the picture at all tbh. Either all guys are murderous coke addicts, desperate guys with weird smiles, or George Clooney. That's my guess. Looks like Jim Carry to me.
100% not Jim Carrey:
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On July 01 2014 03:38 fishjie wrote:
wtf am i reading here. people are trying to argue that its not cheating if they aren't having sex with their main partner? wow. some people don't want to have sex right away, doesn't make the relationship any less real. they might want to slowly test the waters with first and second base for a while before going to third. it might take a while for that home run, but yes, it is cheating if you're sexing someone else in the meantime. here's a simple litmus test. if you tell your partner and they are pissed off that you're sleeping with someone else, then yes, yes it is cheating.
I think it's just 2 or 3 people living in their own world
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On July 01 2014 02:25 arb wrote:Show nested quote +On July 01 2014 01:59 Blitzkrieg0 wrote:
One of the characters in the movie Dumb and Dumber. I'll let you extrapolate how good he is with women. i dont get the picture at all tbh.
Well, the picture basically says that whenever you are in a difficult situation you can ask yourself:
How would Tony Montana handle this?
How would the average nice guy handle this?
How would George Clooney handle this?
All three choices have their advantages and disadvantages, both short-term and long-term.
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On July 01 2014 04:18 urboss wrote:Show nested quote +On July 01 2014 02:25 arb wrote:On July 01 2014 01:59 Blitzkrieg0 wrote:
One of the characters in the movie Dumb and Dumber. I'll let you extrapolate how good he is with women. i dont get the picture at all tbh. Well, the picture basically says that whenever you are in a difficult situation you can ask yourself: How would Tony Montana handle this? How would the average nice guy handle this? How would George Clooney handle this? All three choices have their advantages and disadvantages, both short-term and long-term.
elaborate more
the choice of characters is random as fuck to me.
All I can piece together about cheating is when Tony Montana kills Gina+His friend(cant spell his name not gonna try :<) because of his thing with Gina
the other two i am lost on :<
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On July 01 2014 04:27 arb wrote:Show nested quote +On July 01 2014 04:18 urboss wrote:On July 01 2014 02:25 arb wrote:On July 01 2014 01:59 Blitzkrieg0 wrote:
One of the characters in the movie Dumb and Dumber. I'll let you extrapolate how good he is with women. i dont get the picture at all tbh. Well, the picture basically says that whenever you are in a difficult situation you can ask yourself: How would Tony Montana handle this? How would the average nice guy handle this? How would George Clooney handle this? All three choices have their advantages and disadvantages, both short-term and long-term. elaborate more the choice of characters is random as fuck to me. All I can piece together about cheating is when Tony Montana kills Gina+His friend(cant spell his name not gonna try :<) because of his thing with Gina the other two i am lost on :<
Tony Montana is the iconic badass, George Clooney is the iconic womanizer and the third is the iconic no-name wimp.
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On July 01 2014 04:38 urboss wrote:Show nested quote +On July 01 2014 04:27 arb wrote:On July 01 2014 04:18 urboss wrote:On July 01 2014 02:25 arb wrote:On July 01 2014 01:59 Blitzkrieg0 wrote:
One of the characters in the movie Dumb and Dumber. I'll let you extrapolate how good he is with women. i dont get the picture at all tbh. Well, the picture basically says that whenever you are in a difficult situation you can ask yourself: How would Tony Montana handle this? How would the average nice guy handle this? How would George Clooney handle this? All three choices have their advantages and disadvantages, both short-term and long-term. elaborate more the choice of characters is random as fuck to me. All I can piece together about cheating is when Tony Montana kills Gina+His friend(cant spell his name not gonna try :<) because of his thing with Gina the other two i am lost on :< Tony Montana is the iconic badass, George Clooney is the iconic womanizer and the third is the iconic no-name wimp.
i probably woulda put sean connery as the womanizer tbh.
but i understand now
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Honestly I've never had much luck with dating in the traditional sense. Asking a girl out, going on a date etc. I do pretty well with friends of friends that I meet at social gatherings / events, whatever. The difference is the former forces you out of your comfort zone, while the latter puts you in it. It takes a lot of... courage... to ask a stranger out on a date after a few minutes of talking to them. That's not something that comes easily. But the worst they can say is no, and then you're right back where you started.
So lately I've been going super YOLO mode and I asked out this girl that I met randomly once and then ran into on the subway again. And she said yes.
I have no idea where it will go from here but I'm going to try and keep up the #YOLO. Literally just asked her out on a 2nd date, after spending all morning trying to build up the courage. We'll see.
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On July 01 2014 04:44 DinoMight wrote:
Honestly I've never had much luck with dating in the traditional sense. Asking a girl out, going on a date etc. I do pretty well with friends of friends that I meet at social gatherings / events, whatever. The difference is the former forces you out of your comfort zone, while the latter puts you in it. It takes a lot of... courage... to ask a stranger out on a date after a few minutes of talking to them. That's not something that comes easily. But the worst they can say is no, and then you're right back where you started.
So lately I've been going super YOLO mode and I asked out this girl that I met randomly once and then ran into on the subway again. And she said yes.
I have no idea where it will go from here but I'm going to try and keep up the #YOLO. Literally just asked her out on a 2nd date, after spending all morning trying to build up the courage. We'll see.
Now that's quality dating thread posting !
Good job and keep us updated !
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