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On August 28 2013 00:42 ComaDose wrote:Show nested quote +On August 28 2013 00:37 AmOkk000 wrote:On August 28 2013 00:35 QuanticHawk wrote:
find a new fb girl to stalk, duh if u cant say anything useful, please dont say anything. You must see things from out perspective and how its difficult not to treat you as a troll. 17yo fb gf zelda is like the bread and butter for fake girl blogs. irregardless my best advice is to look to the future and get better people skills / confidence. your barely a fifth of the way through your life and by 2 fifth id be surprised if you could remember her name. literally thousands of women like zelda and are not prejudice against video games.
i met her twice, she is not an fb gf lol. she would've come to my city this week even.
funny thing about the name: her name is 'edit'. yeah thats a name in hungarian. so i will see her name whenever i edit something. hehe
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On August 28 2013 00:34 AmOkk000 wrote:
Okay, not gonna contact her. How can i forget her? She was an anime/korea/japan lover and they always remind me of her. I play legend of zelda? Fuck, she loved that. I listen to my favourite music/band? Fuck, she loved that. I watch a horror movie? Fuck, those were her favourites. I eat my favourite food (cherry pie)? Fuck, that was her favourite as well.
Those things existed before you met her, and they will exist after. In the short term, you might want to avoid them, but you can still enjoy them even though you both "liked" them.
I had a gf that we used to watch family guy all the time with. Can I not watch family guy now that we are broken up? Of course I can, because I'm not retarded. I'm really into roman history, and one of my other ex-gf's was too. Do I have to forget about roman history now? No, that would be stupid. That is my interest too, so fuck her.
You can come back to all those things and enjoy them for their own sake, just give it a few weeks in your case.
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On August 28 2013 00:37 AmOkk000 wrote:if u cant say anything useful, please dont say anything.
That's the most useful advice you've gotten. You knew her for two days, dude. Time to move on to the next one
+ Show Spoiler +
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On August 28 2013 01:08 TheFish7 wrote:Show nested quote +On August 28 2013 00:37 AmOkk000 wrote:On August 28 2013 00:35 QuanticHawk wrote:
find a new fb girl to stalk, duh if u cant say anything useful, please dont say anything. That's the most useful advice you've gotten. You knew her for two days, dude. Time to move on to the next one + Show Spoiler +http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pvdus_a-poI
2 months dude.
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On August 28 2013 01:10 AmOkk000 wrote:Show nested quote +On August 28 2013 01:08 TheFish7 wrote:On August 28 2013 00:37 AmOkk000 wrote:On August 28 2013 00:35 QuanticHawk wrote:
find a new fb girl to stalk, duh if u cant say anything useful, please dont say anything. That's the most useful advice you've gotten. You knew her for two days, dude. Time to move on to the next one + Show Spoiler +http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pvdus_a-poI 2 months dude.
You met her twice and talked to her on facebook. I have no idea why you are so attached at all. Take the hint that you were being clingy and immature. It's not that hard dude.
Why would you even stalk her to watch her like statuses and shit anyways? ANd even log on to your brothers FB to see if she really deleted it? I did that shit with my ex who I dated for 3 1/2 years. not the girl I took our for 2 dates and told me she wasn't interested.
Get some perspective, you weren't in a serious relationship, you were being clingy and/or creepy, she wasn't interested. That's it. And the fact you want to just lay there and think about all you did together makes it so much worse.
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well she answered and explained stuff. i got fuckin friendzoned. she said when we'd met she was in love with a boy. but ofc she didnt tell me this, we held hands and whatever. now she realizes that we live far and i shouldnt travel there, she cant come to my city either. and she sees me as a friend. why didnt she fuckin tell me this in the first place? we talk the other day then she ignores me for a day, then she tells me this.
WHAT THE HELL IS THIS FUCKING GENDER?
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On August 28 2013 02:39 AmOkk000 wrote:
well she answered and explained stuff. i got fuckin friendzoned. she said when we'd met she was in love with a boy. but ofc she didnt tell me this, we held hands and whatever. now she realizes that we live far and i shouldnt travel there, she cant come to my city either. and she sees me as a friend. why didnt she fuckin tell me this in the first place? we talk the other day then she ignores me for a day, then she tells me this.
WHAT THE HELL IS THIS FUCKING GENDER?
I'm sorry this happened to you.
But please, don't write off all of us women like that in one big brush. I'm a straight girl and I've had stuff like this happen, too -- in the sense that I'd hang out with some guy and he was leading me on while he still was pining for some other girl and he was keeping me as an option. I've probably done similar stuff to guys, I won't lie -- point is, this stuff happens, because dating is a fucking nightmare for everyone and everyone's getting their heart broken at least once.
This girl just sounds like she's really young and doesn't yet know what she wants. If she didn't tell you right off the bat that she liked this other boy, then more than likely she did like you or saw some possibility and strung you along as a second option. Most girls in my experience (from my girlfriends and etc), if they really aren't interested in a guy that way they tell him right away, and if they don't they're stringing him along while figuring stuff out. Maybe you just got too real too fast for her, too.
You're still young. Plenty of girls love Zelda and other games. I hope you feel better soon.
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On August 28 2013 02:39 AmOkk000 wrote:
well she answered and explained stuff. i got fuckin friendzoned. she said when we'd met she was in love with a boy. but ofc she didnt tell me this, we held hands and whatever. now she realizes that we live far and i shouldnt travel there, she cant come to my city either. and she sees me as a friend. why didnt she fuckin tell me this in the first place? we talk the other day then she ignores me for a day, then she tells me this.
WHAT THE HELL IS THIS FUCKING GENDER?
thank you for all the comedy over the past couple days.
blaming half the population for your problems is the funniest yet.
EDIT: coming out and saying I don't like you that way let's be friends. friendzone? hmm i guess depending on your definition. bad thing? of course not. probation is 3 months anyway.
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On August 28 2013 02:48 Sawajiri wrote:Show nested quote +On August 28 2013 02:39 AmOkk000 wrote:
well she answered and explained stuff. i got fuckin friendzoned. she said when we'd met she was in love with a boy. but ofc she didnt tell me this, we held hands and whatever. now she realizes that we live far and i shouldnt travel there, she cant come to my city either. and she sees me as a friend. why didnt she fuckin tell me this in the first place? we talk the other day then she ignores me for a day, then she tells me this.
WHAT THE HELL IS THIS FUCKING GENDER? I'm sorry this happened to you. But please, don't write off all of us women like that in one big brush. I'm a straight girl and I've had stuff like this happen, too -- in the sense that I'd hang out with some guy and he was leading me on while he still was pining for some other girl and he was keeping me as an option. I've probably done similar stuff to guys, I won't lie -- point is, this stuff happens, because dating is a fucking nightmare for everyone and everyone's getting their heart broken at least once. This girl just sounds like she's really young and doesn't yet know what she wants. If she didn't tell you right off the bat that she liked this other boy, then more than likely she did like you or saw some possibility and strung you along as a second option. Most girls in my experience (from my girlfriends and etc), if they really aren't interested in a guy that way they tell him right away, and if they don't they're stringing him along while figuring stuff out. Maybe you just got too real too fast for her, too. You're still young. Plenty of girls love Zelda and other games. I hope you feel better soon.
sorry i didnt really mean it. the thing is i would even be happy with friends. someone to talk to, someone who understands me. she was this girl.
ComaDose: emotions, do you have it? like you've never seen anyone raging after a loss or something.
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On August 28 2013 02:53 AmOkk000 wrote:Show nested quote +On August 28 2013 02:48 Sawajiri wrote:On August 28 2013 02:39 AmOkk000 wrote:
well she answered and explained stuff. i got fuckin friendzoned. she said when we'd met she was in love with a boy. but ofc she didnt tell me this, we held hands and whatever. now she realizes that we live far and i shouldnt travel there, she cant come to my city either. and she sees me as a friend. why didnt she fuckin tell me this in the first place? we talk the other day then she ignores me for a day, then she tells me this.
WHAT THE HELL IS THIS FUCKING GENDER? I'm sorry this happened to you. But please, don't write off all of us women like that in one big brush. I'm a straight girl and I've had stuff like this happen, too -- in the sense that I'd hang out with some guy and he was leading me on while he still was pining for some other girl and he was keeping me as an option. I've probably done similar stuff to guys, I won't lie -- point is, this stuff happens, because dating is a fucking nightmare for everyone and everyone's getting their heart broken at least once. This girl just sounds like she's really young and doesn't yet know what she wants. If she didn't tell you right off the bat that she liked this other boy, then more than likely she did like you or saw some possibility and strung you along as a second option. Most girls in my experience (from my girlfriends and etc), if they really aren't interested in a guy that way they tell him right away, and if they don't they're stringing him along while figuring stuff out. Maybe you just got too real too fast for her, too. You're still young. Plenty of girls love Zelda and other games. I hope you feel better soon. sorry i didnt really mean it. the thing is i would even be happy with friends. someone to talk to, someone who understands me. she was this girl. ComaDose: emotions, do you have it? like you've never seen anyone raging after a loss or something.
edit: ofc she will never ever contact me. she says the friendzone talk but we never talk again. thats why i said "i would even be happy with friends"
edit02: pressed the wrong button. sorry.
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On August 28 2013 02:53 AmOkk000 wrote:Show nested quote +On August 28 2013 02:48 Sawajiri wrote:On August 28 2013 02:39 AmOkk000 wrote:
well she answered and explained stuff. i got fuckin friendzoned. she said when we'd met she was in love with a boy. but ofc she didnt tell me this, we held hands and whatever. now she realizes that we live far and i shouldnt travel there, she cant come to my city either. and she sees me as a friend. why didnt she fuckin tell me this in the first place? we talk the other day then she ignores me for a day, then she tells me this.
WHAT THE HELL IS THIS FUCKING GENDER? I'm sorry this happened to you. But please, don't write off all of us women like that in one big brush. I'm a straight girl and I've had stuff like this happen, too -- in the sense that I'd hang out with some guy and he was leading me on while he still was pining for some other girl and he was keeping me as an option. I've probably done similar stuff to guys, I won't lie -- point is, this stuff happens, because dating is a fucking nightmare for everyone and everyone's getting their heart broken at least once. This girl just sounds like she's really young and doesn't yet know what she wants. If she didn't tell you right off the bat that she liked this other boy, then more than likely she did like you or saw some possibility and strung you along as a second option. Most girls in my experience (from my girlfriends and etc), if they really aren't interested in a guy that way they tell him right away, and if they don't they're stringing him along while figuring stuff out. Maybe you just got too real too fast for her, too. You're still young. Plenty of girls love Zelda and other games. I hope you feel better soon. sorry i didnt really mean it. the thing is i would even be happy with friends. someone to talk to, someone who understands me. she was this girl. ComaDose: emotions, do you have it? like you've never seen anyone raging after a loss or something.
You'll find more of these people, I promise. I'm 25 now and I remember when I was 16-19 and constantly in the ups-and-downs with this guy and that other one, everything seems so meaningful and you constantly think that you'll never ever find a person like that one ever again because they understand you so much. I think basically everyone feels that way about most people they date at this age. Someone else has probably felt about you this way, too! You just don't tell other people that because it makes you look weak and vulnerable, but you never know really what you leave behind in others.
I think as you get older and grow as your own person, what you expect in others changes as well, and you constantly meet people you connect with. Very few people make it to adulthood without having their hearts broken at least once or living through severe disappointment. This girl may be just who 'got' you at this point in your life, but in three years you'll be someone else, and in five years yet someone else again, and people will be coming and going.
It will get better.
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On August 28 2013 02:53 AmOkk000 wrote:Show nested quote +On August 28 2013 02:48 Sawajiri wrote:On August 28 2013 02:39 AmOkk000 wrote:
well she answered and explained stuff. i got fuckin friendzoned. she said when we'd met she was in love with a boy. but ofc she didnt tell me this, we held hands and whatever. now she realizes that we live far and i shouldnt travel there, she cant come to my city either. and she sees me as a friend. why didnt she fuckin tell me this in the first place? we talk the other day then she ignores me for a day, then she tells me this.
WHAT THE HELL IS THIS FUCKING GENDER? I'm sorry this happened to you. But please, don't write off all of us women like that in one big brush. I'm a straight girl and I've had stuff like this happen, too -- in the sense that I'd hang out with some guy and he was leading me on while he still was pining for some other girl and he was keeping me as an option. I've probably done similar stuff to guys, I won't lie -- point is, this stuff happens, because dating is a fucking nightmare for everyone and everyone's getting their heart broken at least once. This girl just sounds like she's really young and doesn't yet know what she wants. If she didn't tell you right off the bat that she liked this other boy, then more than likely she did like you or saw some possibility and strung you along as a second option. Most girls in my experience (from my girlfriends and etc), if they really aren't interested in a guy that way they tell him right away, and if they don't they're stringing him along while figuring stuff out. Maybe you just got too real too fast for her, too. You're still young. Plenty of girls love Zelda and other games. I hope you feel better soon. sorry i didnt really mean it. the thing is i would even be happy with friends. someone to talk to, someone who understands me. she was this girl. ComaDose: emotions, do you have it? like you've never seen anyone raging after a loss or something.
Dude, go chill honestly. Yes, you are disappointed things didn't work out. Maybe you're even sad. Whatever the case, you have had your chance to vent through the last few pages. Now take the hint that multiple people are saying and drop it.
And really, you have been given a lot of serious, honest advice in this thread. You're just way too flustered to even consider it. And while everyone hasn't been friendly to you in this thread, it's not without reason. The fact is, according to how you say you have behaved, you have been creepy and clingy, and it is a big turnoff. Now heed the advice, reflect on it and cool off.
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She doesn't wanna really be friends because you've revealed yourself to her--and now us--as a weird, obsessive, misogynistic dude. You're only 17 though, so it's not too late to save yourself!
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On August 28 2013 02:53 AmOkk000 wrote:Show nested quote +On August 28 2013 02:48 Sawajiri wrote:On August 28 2013 02:39 AmOkk000 wrote:
well she answered and explained stuff. i got fuckin friendzoned. she said when we'd met she was in love with a boy. but ofc she didnt tell me this, we held hands and whatever. now she realizes that we live far and i shouldnt travel there, she cant come to my city either. and she sees me as a friend. why didnt she fuckin tell me this in the first place? we talk the other day then she ignores me for a day, then she tells me this.
WHAT THE HELL IS THIS FUCKING GENDER? I'm sorry this happened to you. But please, don't write off all of us women like that in one big brush. I'm a straight girl and I've had stuff like this happen, too -- in the sense that I'd hang out with some guy and he was leading me on while he still was pining for some other girl and he was keeping me as an option. I've probably done similar stuff to guys, I won't lie -- point is, this stuff happens, because dating is a fucking nightmare for everyone and everyone's getting their heart broken at least once. This girl just sounds like she's really young and doesn't yet know what she wants. If she didn't tell you right off the bat that she liked this other boy, then more than likely she did like you or saw some possibility and strung you along as a second option. Most girls in my experience (from my girlfriends and etc), if they really aren't interested in a guy that way they tell him right away, and if they don't they're stringing him along while figuring stuff out. Maybe you just got too real too fast for her, too. You're still young. Plenty of girls love Zelda and other games. I hope you feel better soon. sorry i didnt really mean it. the thing is i would even be happy with friends. someone to talk to, someone who understands me. she was this girl. ComaDose: emotions, do you have it? like you've never seen anyone raging after a loss or something.
Your problem is insignificant. You liked a girl who didnt like you back. Boo hoo. Not a single man who has ever lived has not had that experience.
You're just gonna have to do what the rest of us do; Man up and move on, and ffs, leave your house once in a while.
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On August 28 2013 02:53 AmOkk000 wrote:
ComaDose: emotions, do you have it? like you've never seen anyone raging after a loss or something.
I find it hard to empathize with someone whom generalizes genders negatively. I mean i feel bad for you but realistically its not that big of a deal. like i said i would be impressed if you remembered her name by the end of your dating life stage.
I hope you find friends that you can talk to about your interests. With the internet communities surrounding this I don't think you should have much trouble meeting a skype buddy that plays the same game as you. No gaming club at highschool? I could tell you to look forward to going to university/college because there is a plethora of gamers and girls and girls who are gamers.
Please believe me when i tell you you were way to invested in her and the qualities you listed as making her "the one" are very commonplace. Put yourself in more social situations more often and meet more people to improve your social skills.
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thank you guys for the support and everything. i think this way (she told me the truth) it will be easier for me to move on.
i apologize to everyone that you had to read my miserable writings.
edit: and i sorry to everyone who i have offended with that sentence. again, i didnt mean it.
edit2: Killscreen : You liked a girl who didnt like you back. that would be okay if she hadnt played with me for two months and had me chasing false hopes.
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On August 28 2013 03:06 AmOkk000 wrote:
thank you guys for the support and everything. i think this way (she told me the truth) it will be easier for me to move on.
i apologize to everyone that you had to read my miserable writings.
I'm pretty sure miserable writings are what this thread was made for.
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On August 28 2013 03:06 AmOkk000 wrote:
thank you guys for the support and everything. i think this way (she told me the truth) it will be easier for me to move on.
i apologize to everyone that you had to read my miserable writings.
edit: and i sorry to everyone who i have offended with that sentence. again, i didnt mean it.
edit2: Killscreen : You liked a girl who didnt like you back. that would be okay if she hadnt played with me for two months and had me chasing false hopes.
Your own fault for allowing yourself to be played with. Just the phrasing of that sentence tells me that she had all the power in that relationship, and you were submissive to her. Women hate that. She didn't intentionally lead you on for two months. At some point she was probably attracted to you, and at some point you probably fucked it up. Thems the breaks..
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first she was your gf, now she's a girl who didn't like you back
stop being a weirdo about this
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