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On August 21 2013 01:03 NotSorry wrote:Show nested quote +On August 21 2013 00:55 Recognizable wrote:
Yeah, I prefer that as well. However, when asking someone out to a movie or dinner it's odd to do that. Hey i'm going to the movies, alone, which nobody every does, you should come! Might as well be straight up. Dinner and/or Movie are terrible first dates tho, hell I wouldn't do either til like 3rd-4th and I've hit it a few times. They can both be so awkward til you two are really comfortable with each other to keep a conversation going during long dinner waits or 2 hours of near silence at a theater.
Meh. I can carry conversations well in general. And we know each other really well, we have plenty to talk about. We are basically friends. It's just that she is now single and she seems to be showing an interest in me. But what else would you recommend for a first date. Coffee?
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On August 21 2013 00:32 Broetchenholer wrote:
^ You have her number? Call her?
This thread turned into the QuanticAuthority vs Cloudscreen shitstorm pretty fast. Get popcorn or pick a side or a pitchfork. Who needs funny dating stories or people asking advice when you can watch nerds throw shit at each other.
My biggest problem right now is, that i managed to lock myself out of my appartment but don't want to ask my new girlfriend whether i can stay at her place for the night, because that might be understood as a move. I can still ask mom!
hahahahahha
what good is your gf if she's gonna sit there and think you needing a place to crash is a move to get in bed with her. that's pretty silly
agreed, i dont care for dinner/movie until ive decided whether or not i find the person interesting. coffee, bar, bar food, etc much more casual, easy for either of you to bail if it is boring than realizing when youre waiting for your entree that your date is boring as hell
coma's idea is good too. anything like that is usually solid because it forces you to interact. and plus if it ends up going anywhere, you can establish an early precedent that you show no goddamn mercy when it comes to competitive things against your gf.
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glow in the dark mini-put best date imo
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On August 21 2013 01:17 ComaDose wrote:
glow in the dark mini-put best date imo
Haha I was actually thinking of doing this since there's a place near me I've never been to that I wanted to since I was younger.
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That seems actually quite cool. Anyway, just asked if she is going out and she will be going out this thursday as well! I will tell her I like her then and there 
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On August 21 2013 01:17 ComaDose wrote:
glow in the dark mini-put best date imo
Yep, especially after a couple drinks. I've done pub then putt putt a few times and its always an awesome time.
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On August 21 2013 01:17 ComaDose wrote:
glow in the dark mini-put best date imo
We have that here too, it's fucking awesome and girls seem to love it.
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I think movie is alright. It induces a state of hypnosis in whoever is watching and if the movie is decent it's easier to talk and open up afterwards. Obviously you have to be comfortable and interesting before and during the movie aswell.
But a great first date can't help the fact that if you are awkward and uninteresting you will be perceived as awkward. Somebody comfortable at speaking can do the magic everywhere. Some places are better than others because they make you comfortable and fun to be around, but if you can put yourself in that state of mind whenever you want even going at the grocery store together can become a fun date/meeting.
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On August 21 2013 02:58 Chemist391 wrote:
I just found out that there's a super fantastic chocolate factory near where I live that gives tours. Yes, you get lots of free chocolate during said tour. I have a feeling I'm about to have a lot of excellent dates...
Yup, chocolate releases endorphines, top #1 date usa
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On August 20 2013 22:57 NotSorry wrote:
I feel "shit test" is getting massively over used for any time of negative reaction rather than it's intended purpose of a pick up qualification. Once you've already picked up a woman that kind of behavior is her just being a bitch or whore. Pick ups are a numbers game, you can't change every hot girl into your long term girl because odds are you wouldn't want anything to do with at least half of them outside of sex. So why waste time on manipulative tactics when you can just move on to the next girl that isn't a bitch/whore?
Hopping on this because people keep getting it wrong left right and center.
First of all, someone "shit testing" someone else doesn't turn anyone into a bitch, whore or manipulative brat. What's defined as a shit test in the PUA community is, on a larger scale, nothing more than one person trying to verify if the frame the other person presents is real or fake.
In practice that means that everyone shit tests everyone all the time until the point at which you accepted the frames you've been presented with. Random guy shows up at a party and is talking about how he was just street car racing in Hong Kong? Any comment that even remotely pokes at whether the persona that story represents (e.g. "World travelling race car freak") actually exists can be considered a shit test. It's prettys much *poke poke* "Are you for real?"
In the realm of dating all that happened was that someone thought "Hey, she's asking: 'Is he gonna take my shit?' so let's call it a shit-test hurpdurp" and it went downhill from there. In reality it's more about frame dominance than anything else, that's why people usually don't shit test their doctors.
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On August 21 2013 02:58 Chemist391 wrote:
I just found out that there's a super fantastic chocolate factory near where I live that gives tours. Yes, you get lots of free chocolate during said tour. I have a feeling I'm about to have a lot of excellent dates...
:o I've never been on a normal "first date," and I don't think I would mind the standard dinner/movie date or anything, but this is way more awesome. Nice idea. I wish there was one in my town :<
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On August 21 2013 02:58 Chemist391 wrote:
I just found out that there's a super fantastic chocolate factory near where I live that gives tours. Yes, you get lots of free chocolate during said tour. I have a feeling I'm about to have a lot of excellent dates...
One of my female friends today posted on facebook: "I would sell my soul for a piece of chocolate right now."
I have a feeling you're right... I wish there were a chocolate factory near where I live.
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On August 20 2013 21:55 Killscreen wrote:Show nested quote +On August 20 2013 06:14 VayneAuthority wrote:
I don't even know why you'd want to touch any girl that tries to "shit test" you or any of that other stupid shit, but I guess I have to thank the class acts that go out there and trudge through the street rat trash so I don't have to. And this, gentlemen, is the kind of resentful misogynistic asshole you can become if you refuse to come to terms with female sexuality and let your ego run wild. You wanna know why women test men? So they don't end up with guys like you.
bad internet troll
On August 20 2013 21:58 aTnClouD wrote:Show nested quote +On August 20 2013 21:55 Killscreen wrote:On August 20 2013 06:14 VayneAuthority wrote:
I don't even know why you'd want to touch any girl that tries to "shit test" you or any of that other stupid shit, but I guess I have to thank the class acts that go out there and trudge through the street rat trash so I don't have to. And this, gentlemen, is the kind of resentful misogynistic asshole you can become if you refuse to come to terms with female sexuality and let your ego run wild. You wanna know why women test men? So they don't end up with guys like you. I think it gets worse for him. He won't understand what's happening and end up being manipulated over and over until he hates most women. Ooops, already happened  .
kiddy fucker
I'd say I'm already eons ahead of you guys.
(cant believe you morons are still talking about me btw rofl)
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On August 21 2013 10:11 jrkirby wrote:Show nested quote +On August 21 2013 02:58 Chemist391 wrote:
I just found out that there's a super fantastic chocolate factory near where I live that gives tours. Yes, you get lots of free chocolate during said tour. I have a feeling I'm about to have a lot of excellent dates... One of my female friends today posted on facebook: "I would sell my soul for a piece of chocolate right now." I have a feeling you're right... I wish there were a chocolate factory near where I live.
I used to work in a chocolate factory; I hope the one you're taking the girl to is more exciting than mine was. Although we did make chocolate thongs there, which was... interesting...
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Almost every girl I meet, I don't want to date.
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On August 21 2013 12:39 AndySCWilson wrote:
Almost every girl I meet, I don't want to date.
I am like this too. Except after a long time of being like that, I finally found someone I like. She lives like 2 doors down from me, and we have met 1 time on a drunk night after midterms. I am just patiently waiting for the opportunity that fate will me a chance to say hi and talk to her... Q_Q. I don't even know how to have a relationship, and I am sooo swamped with school, but I do want to get to know her better. Things we have in common are we are from the same city, from same country, thousands of miles away and now are 2 doors away from each other. WTF
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On August 21 2013 12:50 biology]major wrote:Show nested quote +On August 21 2013 12:39 AndySCWilson wrote:
Almost every girl I meet, I don't want to date. I am like this too. Except after a long time of being like that, I finally found someone I like. She lives like 2 doors down from me, and we have met 1 time on a drunk night after midterms. I am just patiently waiting for the opportunity that fate will me a chance to say hi and talk to her... Q_Q. I don't even know how to have a relationship, and I am sooo swamped with school, but I do want to get to know her better. Things we have in common are we are from the same city, from same country, thousands of miles away and now are 2 doors away from each other. WTF
Errr. Just go up to her and say hi.
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On August 21 2013 12:50 biology]major wrote:Show nested quote +On August 21 2013 12:39 AndySCWilson wrote:
Almost every girl I meet, I don't want to date. I am like this too. Except after a long time of being like that, I finally found someone I like. She lives like 2 doors down from me, and we have met 1 time on a drunk night after midterms. I am just patiently waiting for the opportunity that fate will me a chance to say hi and talk to her... Q_Q. I don't even know how to have a relationship, and I am sooo swamped with school, but I do want to get to know her better. Things we have in common are we are from the same city, from same country, thousands of miles away and now are 2 doors away from each other. WTF
I have to say that I have no idea how american college/dorm life works, but all I can think of if you want an excuse to meet her is to bring to her place something to eat together like a cake and tell her that since you met her you don't know why but you want to know her better, then cut off the (possible) awkward silence right away, invite yourself in and do what you have to do.
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