EPTOn July 19 2013 20:46 Broetchenholer wrote:
At least you did not puke on her. This can be fixed still!
At least you did not puke on her. This can be fixed still!
Yes, it's easy to puke; just read this thread a bit and you'll be set!
Dating: How's your luck? - Page 221
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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
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neptunusfisk
2286 Posts
Yes, it's easy to puke; just read this thread a bit and you'll be set! | ||
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boon2537
United States905 Posts
Well, picking up girls is going to be interesting... Seriously, this shit's learning curve is way too steep (even more than SC or Dota lol). Epic failures and self improvement await !!! | ||
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Orcasgt24
Canada3238 Posts
On July 20 2013 00:36 boon2537 wrote: So I'm back to Thailand for the summer and will be leaving in a few weeks, but my mutually-agreed-over-Skype-that-we-kinda-like-each-other-female-friend is too busy with school to even come hang out with me. Really, you can not make any time at all ? I recently confront her about it and it seems she does not even have time to hang out with her friends as well. Well, fuck Thai education system and an un-synced summer break. Whatever, I will give her a benefit of doubt and we just redefine our relationship to an open relationship. Good enough, I guess; I still have her as a contact back at home and can pick up other girls without feeling that I am cheating on someone. Well, picking up girls is going to be interesting... Seriously, this shit's learning curve is way too steep (even more than SC or Dota lol). Epic failures and self improvement await !!! First off, your in Thailand. Everything I have heard suggests that getting women their is as easy as it gets. Could be wrong though, never been. The school reason for being too busy is legit(and annoying). Just don't fade away. Stay in contact, do skype calls and text and talk whenever you can. Their will be a long weekend eventually where you will be able to see each other, even if its just for one day. Since she is putting her education as a very high priority in my opinion that makes her worth the wait. | ||
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QuanticHawk
United States32027 Posts
On July 19 2013 17:29 Baumbart wrote: The next date we've had, there was a nice moment and I told her, that I kinda fell a bit in love with her, as I really enjoyed the last couple weeks with her. go ask 10 of your friends, guy or girl, how theyd react if their date said i love you after a few weeks | ||
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krndandaman
Mozambique16569 Posts
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boon2537
United States905 Posts
On July 20 2013 00:44 Orcasgt24 wrote: First off, your in Thailand. Everything I have heard suggests that getting women their is as easy as it gets. Could be wrong though, never been. The school reason for being too busy is legit(and annoying). Just don't fade away. Stay in contact, do skype calls and text and talk whenever you can. Their will be a long weekend eventually where you will be able to see each other, even if its just for one day. Since she is putting her education as a very high priority in my opinion that makes her worth the wait. I've heard that too, but I think that mostly applies to foreigners, haha. And I would rather spend time with my family (and marathoning anime) than picking up native girls  . She is actually my childhood friend. I noticed some indication of interest on my visit last year. Since she was still in high school back then, she had more time to hang out and I really enjoyed spending time with her. I decided not to act on it and just stay as friends. Then my fucking brain starts developing feelings for her. It seems I find determined, independent women, who decides to like me for some reason, attractive. But those traits also cause great frustration when the male wants some romance, sigh. | ||
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chadissilent
Canada1187 Posts
On July 20 2013 00:36 boon2537 wrote: So I'm back to Thailand for the summer and will be leaving in a few weeks, but my mutually-agreed-over-Skype-that-we-kinda-like-each-other-female-friend is too busy with school to even come hang out with me. Really, you can not make any time at all ? I recently confront her about it and it seems she does not even have time to hang out with her friends as well. Well, fuck Thai education system and an un-synced summer break. Whatever, I will give her a benefit of doubt and we just redefine our relationship to an open relationship. Good enough, I guess; I still have her as a contact back at home and can pick up other girls without feeling that I am cheating on someone. Well, picking up girls is going to be interesting... Seriously, this shit's learning curve is way too steep (even more than SC or Dota lol). Epic failures and self improvement await !!! To hell with this girl, you'll get laid every night you go out in Thailand. That place is an absolute gongshow in a good way. Swedes, Brits, Aussies galore -- and they all party like animals on vacation. If you really want to pick up girls there, get really familiar with house music and genuinely start to enjoy it. If you're dancing and having fun, girls will just swarm to you -- to the point where you're pushing them away and turning away girls you'd think were out of your league. I've been twice now, that place has changed me. | ||
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MarcusQuintus
United States10 Posts
Sorry for the wall of text, but I was hoping for an opinion, as I really don't know what do do. | ||
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IgnE
United States7681 Posts
On July 20 2013 01:12 boon2537 wrote: I've heard that too, but I think that mostly applies to foreigners, haha. And I would rather spend time with my family (and marathoning anime) than picking up native girls . She is actually my childhood friend. I noticed some indication of interest on my visit last year. Since she was still in high school back then, she had more time to hang out and I really enjoyed spending time with her. I decided not to act on it and just stay as friends. Then my fucking brain starts developing feelings for her. It seems I find determined, independent women, who decides to like me for some reason, attractive. But those traits also cause great frustration when the male wants some romance, sigh.If you can't see how desperate that sounds then you probably don't even know how desperate you come off. She probably likes you more than you know because you afford her attention without being sexually threatening. You pretty much have no chance with this girl and the faster you accept this and move on the better it will be for you. | ||
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IgnE
United States7681 Posts
On July 20 2013 02:51 MarcusQuintus wrote: I am at an impasse. I've been dating a great girl since April. In the beginning it was constant communication of a text every twenty minutes or so and Skype every night. Then she had bad family issues and was forced to leave the State, so now there's a State dividing us. Her phone died and she didn't have an internet connection, and was really embarrassed by what happened, so she didn't say anything about it or anything else to me for a month. After that month, she said she was really sorry and explained what happened. She got a new phone, so I thought our relationship would resume as it had, just be long distance. However, when before it would be constant, She now stops responding after a few texts and doesn't say anything for days, when I text her again. She says things are still weird and she is confused, but I don't know what I should do, since I feel wrong about pursuing other women, since we're technically together but hardly talking to each other. She has given no indication that she doesn't want to be together any more and has hinted at missing me. Sorry for the wall of text, but I was hoping for an opinion, as I really don't know what do do. Ask her what the deal is. Seriously. Most girls who are genuinely interested in a man will go to them for support during a crisis. The two possibilities are 1) that you hadn't been dating long enough for her to form a real attachment to you and so when this shit came up, she cut you off because you are associated with the past and she's trying to move on or 2) she was never really that into you and is just holding on to you in case she needs a security blanket of affirmation when things get really sour. My pick is 2. | ||
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QuanticHawk
United States32027 Posts
On July 20 2013 02:51 MarcusQuintus wrote: I am at an impasse. I've been dating a great girl since April. In the beginning it was constant communication of a text every twenty minutes or so and Skype every night. Then she had bad family issues and was forced to leave the State, so now there's a State dividing us. Her phone died and she didn't have an internet connection, and was really embarrassed by what happened, so she didn't say anything about it or anything else to me for a month. After that month, she said she was really sorry and explained what happened. She got a new phone, so I thought our relationship would resume as it had, just be long distance. However, when before it would be constant, She now stops responding after a few texts and doesn't say anything for days, when I text her again. She says things are still weird and she is confused, but I don't know what I should do, since I feel wrong about pursuing other women, since we're technically together but hardly talking to each other. She has given no indication that she doesn't want to be together any more and has hinted at missing me. Sorry for the wall of text, but I was hoping for an opinion, as I really don't know what do do. unless you are willfully avoiding communication, there isn't anywhere in the states that you would be able to not find internet for a month. regretfully, i must inform you that you were dating a child who failed to tell you that you got dumped. dont even bother reaching out or answering her texts. that's some middle school level stuff. you dont need losers like that in your life, nor do you need to entertain them i recommend a night of drunk, regretful rebound sex with a less than desirable female, and a bottle of whiskey | ||
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farvacola
United States18818 Posts
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Resent
Australia938 Posts
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farvacola
United States18818 Posts
On July 20 2013 03:23 Resent wrote: So I've been chatting to someone a bit recently on the internets and asked her on a date for next week, she said yes(yay!) and I told her i'd think of something awesome to do, and she said she was excited. However having not been on a 'real' date as an adult...I have no idea what to do haha, any help? -.- Meet up with her at an informal locale like a cafe, bakery, or book store, have a conversation, if its going well you can move on to a bar, restaurant, or something bigger. | ||
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Kleinmuuhg
Vanuatu4091 Posts
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TheFish7
United States2824 Posts
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StateAlchemist
France1946 Posts
Dont go tree climbing if she scared of heights tho ! You can chill at a café afterwards. | ||
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aTnClouD
Italy2428 Posts
On July 20 2013 03:23 Resent wrote: So I've been chatting to someone a bit recently on the internets and asked her on a date for next week, she said yes(yay!) and I told her i'd think of something awesome to do, and she said she was excited. However having not been on a 'real' date as an adult...I have no idea what to do haha, any help? -.- Anywhere is fine as long as you do not use the word date again and it's not a formal dinner with the bill paid by you. I like more dating in the afternoon the first time because it conveys a less serious atmosphere and you don't have to be stuck with the person all night if anything goes awkward. | ||
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Shiori
3815 Posts
On July 20 2013 03:23 Resent wrote: So I've been chatting to someone a bit recently on the internets and asked her on a date for next week, she said yes(yay!) and I told her i'd think of something awesome to do, and she said she was excited. However having not been on a 'real' date as an adult...I have no idea what to do haha, any help? -.- Do anything fun that you think the both of you would enjoy. Something low-key is probably best, assuming you don't know her super well. | ||
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QuanticHawk
United States32027 Posts
On July 20 2013 03:09 farvacola wrote: And if she happens to have a court ordered breathalyzer in her car, take that as a sign that you are on the right path. bonus bro points if she's drunk enough to confuse your wang for the breathing aparatus | ||
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