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Oh sun all reasonable comments directed at me, but I'm attached and with a mini-wombat with my partner so it's not really something that I'm pursuing atm 
Salazarz, some people just have nothing to say, and there are more productive ways to spend your time than to talk to people with the personality of a blank canvas. Equally there can be great experiences had with new people who are great fun to be around, the issue is more, you can't differentiate based purely on looks if somebody you're approaching will be your potential new best buddy or the most boring person in the planet.
At least approaching people solely for their hotness is something you can gauge with your eyeballs
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Leave for college in a few months and have been spending a lot of time with a girl who lives literally down the street from me who's also going to college. We've known each other on and off since 1st grade but didn't really become good friends until junior year in HS.
Anyways, I've spent a lot of time with her since school got out, basically 11pm-2am or so every day. Watched movies alone at her house (or with a few other friends on occasion, taken nice night walks and such.
It sucks that she has a "thing" with another guy I know, because I've finally realized how fun it is to spend time with her. Their fling thing isn't serious and won't continue after the summer, but it's just so weird because I spend more time with her than he does and they have basically NOTHING in common.
I don't believe I've been friend zoned because I generally make her laugh a lot/ I just don't get that vibe. She's a pretty flirtatious person though so I don't tend to over analyze interaction with her.
Obviously since we're both going off to college in different areas in a few months, neither one of us is looking for anything serious. I'd just like to continue spending time with her and perhaps elevate my status to cuddle buddy (we're virgins and I'm not scheming for sex lol).
It's made my summer really fun so far; I'm a very social kid inside of school but don't really hang with people outside of school so it's nice to finally have someone I can spend time with just down the street. I feel bad because I've blown off hanging with her in the past, but it's definitely fun hanging out with her!
Ah well, we shall see what the future brings ;D
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On June 19 2013 07:31 darthfoley wrote:
Leave for college in a few months and have been spending a lot of time with a girl who lives literally down the street from me who's also going to college. We've known each other on and off since 1st grade but didn't really become good friends until junior year in HS.
Anyways, I've spent a lot of time with her since school got out, basically 11pm-2am or so every day. Watched movies alone at her house (or with a few other friends on occasion, taken nice night walks and such.
It sucks that she has a "thing" with another guy I know, because I've finally realized how fun it is to spend time with her. Their fling thing isn't serious and won't continue after the summer, but it's just so weird because I spend more time with her than he does and they have basically NOTHING in common.
I don't believe I've been friend zoned because I generally make her laugh a lot/ I just don't get that vibe. She's a pretty flirtatious person though so I don't tend to over analyze interaction with her.
Obviously since we're both going off to college in different areas in a few months, neither one of us is looking for anything serious. I'd just like to continue spending time with her and perhaps elevate my status to cuddle buddy (we're virgins and I'm not scheming for sex lol).
It's made my summer really fun so far; I'm a very social kid inside of school but don't really hang with people outside of school so it's nice to finally have someone I can spend time with just down the street. I feel bad because I've blown off hanging with her in the past, but it's definitely fun hanging out with her!
Ah well, we shall see what the future brings ;D
You just needa get her to come watch a movie, then slowly make moves into stuff dawg. All the while talking immense amounts of shit to pull her in
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cop yourselves a qt3.14 azn girlfriend who would rather watch anime than go clubbing
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Ok, you got some to offer? Cause i had 2 and now i ran out of them.
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On June 19 2013 18:00 Pulselol wrote:
cop yourselves a qt3.14 azn girlfriend who would rather watch anime than go clubbing
im rather interested in the "qt3.14 azn girlfriend" what does it mean?
so qt=cutie tho why the 3.14 O_o something to do with pi?? (well she is asian-maths connection) than maybe qt3 is cutie u know 3 being an e, and that shes 14 years old tho thats kinda weird going for cute 14 year olds lol.
hmmm im intrigued ^_^
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On June 19 2013 21:12 Shock710 wrote:Show nested quote +On June 19 2013 18:00 Pulselol wrote:
cop yourselves a qt3.14 azn girlfriend who would rather watch anime than go clubbing im rather interested in the "qt3.14 azn girlfriend" what does it mean? so qt=cutie tho why the 3.14 O_o something to do with pi?? (well she is asian-maths connection) than maybe qt3 is cutie u know 3 being an e, and that shes 14 years old tho thats kinda weird going for cute 14 year olds lol. hmmm im intrigued ^_^
i think he means "cutie pie"
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....cutiepie asien girlfriend?
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On June 19 2013 21:20 B.I.G. wrote:Show nested quote +On June 19 2013 21:12 Shock710 wrote:On June 19 2013 18:00 Pulselol wrote:
cop yourselves a qt3.14 azn girlfriend who would rather watch anime than go clubbing im rather interested in the "qt3.14 azn girlfriend" what does it mean? so qt=cutie tho why the 3.14 O_o something to do with pi?? (well she is asian-maths connection) than maybe qt3 is cutie u know 3 being an e, and that shes 14 years old tho thats kinda weird going for cute 14 year olds lol. hmmm im intrigued ^_^ i think he means "cutie pie"
oh well i'm an idiot lol hahaha i get it now ^_^ thanks
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On June 19 2013 21:51 Shock710 wrote:Show nested quote +On June 19 2013 21:20 B.I.G. wrote:On June 19 2013 21:12 Shock710 wrote:On June 19 2013 18:00 Pulselol wrote:
cop yourselves a qt3.14 azn girlfriend who would rather watch anime than go clubbing im rather interested in the "qt3.14 azn girlfriend" what does it mean? so qt=cutie tho why the 3.14 O_o something to do with pi?? (well she is asian-maths connection) than maybe qt3 is cutie u know 3 being an e, and that shes 14 years old tho thats kinda weird going for cute 14 year olds lol. hmmm im intrigued ^_^ i think he means "cutie pie" oh well i'm an idiot lol hahaha i get it now ^_^ thanks
If it makes you feel any better, I didn't get it either.
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About that shyness stuff from a few pages ago.
Guys, never assume that it is part of your personality. I'm not saying it can't be, but unless you are introverted, there's a good chance that something can be done about it. And it's worth doing.
Credential : I used to be mad shy (like ending in a psy hospital for not being able to talk to a crush) and even believed myself to be introverted, and that it was who I were and nothing could be done about it. Now after years of working on myself (and not with the purpose of overcoming shyness, as I believed I was introverted), I discovered that I was far from the truth. I can engage conversation easily and make complete strangers laugh. It's not quite set yet, and I have still some work to do about it, but still.
TL:DR : work on your fucking self. Just makes your life better, and you might discover the baller you are under what you hold as true right now.
How's my dating luck ? Don't know, just starting. Wasn't that interested so far actually, and contrary to popular belief, I think it's fine. I'm 25 by the way.
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Being introverted isn't a diagnosis, it's a tendency at best. On the other hand things like doing well in social situations is a skillset.
It doesn't matter if you initially enjoy it or not, doing well in social situations is something you can learn and improve at. By calling yourself "shy" or "introverted" and using it as a reasoning to not wanting to do well in social situations you're confusing the two above and limiting yourself with that belief.
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On June 19 2013 22:58 r.Evo wrote:
Being introverted isn't a diagnosis, it's a tendency at best. On the other hand things like doing well in social situations is a skillset.
It doesn't matter if you initially enjoy it or not, doing well in social situations is something you can learn and improve at. By calling yourself "shy" or "introverted" and using it as a reasoning to not wanting to do well in social situations you're confusing the two above and limiting yourself with that belief.
I agree, guess I used the term as I used to believe it worked. And you said everything else much better than I did ^^
"limiting yourself with that belief" That is so key for much more things than shyness.
Edit : guess what I meant to say and can understand better now is where I actually was on the intro/extro scale. Not that it matters, in the end it's all about doing what I feel like doing and not overthinking stuff now.
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On June 19 2013 22:58 r.Evo wrote:
Being introverted isn't a diagnosis, it's a tendency at best. On the other hand things like doing well in social situations is a skillset.
It doesn't matter if you initially enjoy it or not, doing well in social situations is something you can learn and improve at. By calling yourself "shy" or "introverted" and using it as a reasoning to not wanting to do well in social situations you're confusing the two above and limiting yourself with that belief.
Introversion just means that being around people drains energy while extraversion gives you energy.
Shyness is nkt being able to talk to each other and an introverted can be just as outgoing in situations as an extrovert while an extrovert can be very shy as well.
Like you said socialising is a skill and being introverted a bad excuse.
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The stuff about giving/draining energy isn't as clear cut as you seem to imply. Or at least I don't feel it that way.
Some people will leave me energetic while some leave me tired. I tried to link it with them being introvert or extrovert but it doesn't compute.
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Met a chemist on OkCupid. We hit it off after the third date (I don't give up after a couple dates if there is no chemistry right off, cuz sometimes it develops). She is awesome, we are good together, and I just moved in a couple weeks ago. Life is good.
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On June 19 2013 21:54 marvellosity wrote:Show nested quote +On June 19 2013 21:51 Shock710 wrote:On June 19 2013 21:20 B.I.G. wrote:On June 19 2013 21:12 Shock710 wrote:On June 19 2013 18:00 Pulselol wrote:
cop yourselves a qt3.14 azn girlfriend who would rather watch anime than go clubbing im rather interested in the "qt3.14 azn girlfriend" what does it mean? so qt=cutie tho why the 3.14 O_o something to do with pi?? (well she is asian-maths connection) than maybe qt3 is cutie u know 3 being an e, and that shes 14 years old tho thats kinda weird going for cute 14 year olds lol. hmmm im intrigued ^_^ i think he means "cutie pie" oh well i'm an idiot lol hahaha i get it now ^_^ thanks If it makes you feel any better, I didn't get it either.
hahaha oh man you learn something new every day... that post made my day, being 10:00 am im going to sleep, haev a nice day!
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On June 19 2013 21:54 marvellosity wrote:Show nested quote +On June 19 2013 21:51 Shock710 wrote:On June 19 2013 21:20 B.I.G. wrote:On June 19 2013 21:12 Shock710 wrote:On June 19 2013 18:00 Pulselol wrote:
cop yourselves a qt3.14 azn girlfriend who would rather watch anime than go clubbing im rather interested in the "qt3.14 azn girlfriend" what does it mean? so qt=cutie tho why the 3.14 O_o something to do with pi?? (well she is asian-maths connection) than maybe qt3 is cutie u know 3 being an e, and that shes 14 years old tho thats kinda weird going for cute 14 year olds lol. hmmm im intrigued ^_^ i think he means "cutie pie" oh well i'm an idiot lol hahaha i get it now ^_^ thanks If it makes you feel any better, I didn't get it either.
And I'm just an idiot that was curious enough to Google it :D
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On June 20 2013 00:15 B.I.G. wrote:Show nested quote +On June 19 2013 21:54 marvellosity wrote:On June 19 2013 21:51 Shock710 wrote:On June 19 2013 21:20 B.I.G. wrote:On June 19 2013 21:12 Shock710 wrote:On June 19 2013 18:00 Pulselol wrote:
cop yourselves a qt3.14 azn girlfriend who would rather watch anime than go clubbing im rather interested in the "qt3.14 azn girlfriend" what does it mean? so qt=cutie tho why the 3.14 O_o something to do with pi?? (well she is asian-maths connection) than maybe qt3 is cutie u know 3 being an e, and that shes 14 years old tho thats kinda weird going for cute 14 year olds lol. hmmm im intrigued ^_^ i think he means "cutie pie" oh well i'm an idiot lol hahaha i get it now ^_^ thanks If it makes you feel any better, I didn't get it either. And I'm just an idiot that was curious enough to Google it :D
I was stuck somewhere thinking they were referring to a QuickTime 3.14 girlfriend. I was worried I'd gone back in time. I'm glad someone cleared that up for me.
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